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My spouse is a surgeon in private practice and on top of that has 5+ other streams of incomes we live pretty comfortably, kids are in private school (they are 8 year old twins), nice house, nice vacations, the whole thing I want my kid to have a good life, but I've seen how some high income households produce genuinely entitled kids, and I really don't want that.

For those who grew up with money/able to get whatever you want (or are raising kids that way) and turned out okay what actually worked? I'm already thinking about having our kids get a part time job at age 16 so they can learn the value of money.

My spouse is a surgeon in private practice and on top of that has 5+ other streams of incomes we live pretty comfortably, kids are in private school (they are 8 year old twins), nice house, nice vacations, the whole thing. I want my kid to have a good life, but I’ve seen how some high income households produce genuinely entitled kids, and I really don’t want that.

For those who grew up with money/able to get whatever you want (or are raising kids that way) and turned out okay what actually worked? I’m already thinking about having our kids get a part time job at age 16 so they can learn the value of money.

My spouse is a surgeon in private practice and on top of that has 5+ other streams of incomes we live pretty comfortably, kids are in private school (they are 8 year old twins), nice house, nice vacations, the whole thing. I want my kid to have a good life, but I’ve seen how some high income households produce genuinely entitled kids, and I really don’t want that.

For those who grew up with money/able to get whatever you want (or are raising kids that way) and turned out okay what actually worked? I’m already thinking about having our kids get a part time job at age 16 so they can learn the value of money.

I started working a full time volunteer position for the summer after not working for 8 years. It’s been enjoyable but at the same time I miss my days of freedom.

I’m in my early 30s. My life looks like exactly the kind of thing people post about and I’ve chosen to document none of it publicly. No TikTok, no Instagram. When I sat with why I actually wanted to post, I realized I didn’t want an audience not even a private account with just close friends and family. I wanted a beautiful documented life. Those are completely different things. Posting gives people an impression of me that has nothing to do with who I actually am and I can’t control that narrative once it’s out there. So I don’t put it out there. So my life lives in my camera roll, in group chats with people I love, and real life interactions where my only impression is the real one. I take photos constantly I have beautiful albums organized exactly how I like them. I send pictures of my life directly to the people who matter. That feels infinitely more meaningful than broadcasting to an audience anyway. The satisfaction I was looking for was never about being seen. It was about having a life worth capturing. Turns out you can have that completely privately. Also posting on social media gives me anxiety and makes me overthink so much lol.

Anyone else made this choice deliberately? Do you regret it?

I have twin boys ages 7 and I haven't had a nanny since they were newborns to age 4, this summer I have full time plans for myself where I will be busy and need a nanny for them to keep them busy, active and drive them to day camps, etc. we are thinking of paying between $35-$40/ hour (W2). The nanny has to be able and comfortable driving my kids around and we will cover the costs of that. The schedule and hours will be 8am-4pm Monday through Friday. The twins are very easy going, and active so we need a younger nanny that can keep up and be involved like riding bikes together and doing different activities.

A young women aged 19 reached out to us offering her services she said she would want to live in which my family does have the private space if needed. Her rate is 18.75/hour so that's $150/day and $750/week. This is way below what my family is willing to pay we were looking at paying our potential nanny $35-$40. She has minimal experience but seems very responsible, it seems like she may be a great fit not sure if I should give her a chance? She only has babysat and never done nannying

My families job posting

🌞Now Hiring: Full-Time Summer Nanny (Twin Boys, Age 7)
Location: Texas
Start date: July 1
We are looking for a responsible, energetic, and fun nanny to care for our twin boys (7 years old) during the summer. After several years without a nanny, we're excited to find someone who can keep them active, engaged, and safe while both parents have full-time commitments.

Schedule
Monday – Friday 8:00 AM – 4:00 PM Full-time summer position (with possible extension depending on fit)

💰 Compensation
• $35–$40/hour (W2 employment)
• All driving-related expenses covered (gas, mileage, etc.)
•Benefits

🚗 Important Requirement
• Must be a confident, reliable driver with a valid license
• Comfortable transporting children to and from camps, activities, and outings

About the Kids
Our twin boys are 7 years old
They are easygoing, active, and love being outdoors. They enjoy:
🚴‍♂️ biking
⚽ sports & games
🌳 park adventures
🎨creative activities
We’re looking for someone who can match their energy and make the summer fun, structured, and memorable.

🧩 Responsibilities
• Plan and lead daily activities (outdoor play, crafts, sports, etc.)
• Drive children to camps and scheduled activities
• Encourage outdoor play and active time
• Prepare simple snacks/meals as needed
• Keep children’s spaces and belongings organized
• Maintain a safe, positive, and engaging environment

🌟 Ideal Candidate
• Energetic, active, and playful personality
• Enjoys outdoor activities and keeping up with kids
• Previous childcare or nanny experience preferred
• Responsible, reliable, and proactive
• Patient, kind, and engaging
• CPR/First Aid certified

✨ What We Offer
• Competitive hourly pay
• Covered driving expenses
• Warm, respectful family environment
• Consistent weekday schedule (no weekends or evenings)

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I’m in the early stages of planning an initiative focused on supporting mothers and families with practical, everyday needs. My goal is to help make things like short term childcare relief, household help (cleaning) access to mental health and wellness resources, and limited financial assistance more accessible especially for families who fall into that difficult gap of earning too much for traditional aid but not enough to feel stable. I feel very fortunate to be in a position where I have the flexibility to start building this, and I’m currently exploring what it could look like and how it could eventually involve both volunteers and families who need support.

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I (32F) have been a stay at home wife/mom since having our twins, who are now 7. We have been married for 8 years My husband (42M) is a surgeon and owns a private practice. Lately I’ve been feeling a desire to contribute more professionally (I was a nurse before we had kids) I thought I could do administrative tasks or some sort of organizational work in my husband’s practice. When I asked about it he said no. He said he wants me focus on our family, and avoid the stress that comes with running a medical business. He was very stern on the no. I want a bigger challenge and more responsibility outside my current role. I don’t know if I should discuss this with him again or not. Plus I feel if I did this I’d be closer to him during the day, so when he’s free we can see each other.

Tl;dr: I’m a 32F sahw (former nurse) with 7yr twins. My husband (42M) is a surgeon with a private practice. I want to take on some administrative/organizational work in his practice for more purpose and to be closer to him during the day, but he firmly said no and wants me focused on family and away from business stress. I feel conflicted should I bring it up again or accept his decision. (I’m going to clarify now he did not make me quit nursing I can go back whenever if I want to do I just hated it when i did it.)

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately and trying to be more intentional. As life gets more financially comfortable, I’ve noticed how easy it is for spending to slowly increase without really noticing better groceries, more convenience, more “little upgrades” here and there. It adds up over time. I’m trying to be more mindful about staying disciplined and not just automatically adjusting lifestyle upward every time there’s more flexibility. For people who’ve successfully avoided lifestyle creep, what actually helped you stay grounded long-term? Was it habits, mindset shifts, budgeting systems, or something else?

Edit: We already prioritize saving and investing percentages go to savings, retirement, investments, and real estate first. Bills are covered through a joint account, and I have a separate spending account. I’ve just been surprised at how much monthly spending can add up, even when it’s affordable, and it’s made me question what’s actually necessary. I just don’t like the big number.

Context: I’m a 32F stay at home wife with two kids, married to a 42M in medicine. I’m trying to be intentional about not letting our spending expand just because we can afford more.

I have twin boys (fraternal) and I’ve been thinking a lot about how to support their individuality while also respecting the fact that they’re very close and naturally share a strong bond. I don’t want to overcorrect and force separation, but I also don’t want them to grow up always being seen as a “pair” instead of individuals. For parents of twins (or twins themselves), what actually helped you develop a strong sense of identity outside of being a twin? What made the biggest difference growing up?

I’m genuinely curious how men think about this long term.

If you were earning a 7 figure income, saving and investing consistently, and your household was financially secure would you ever start to lose respect for your wife if she didn’t actively earn money and spent fairly freely within reason?

By “within reason” I mean not reckless or putting the family at risk, but someone who enjoys shopping, spending on the kids, the home, and overall lifestyle.

For context, I’m a sahw, we have two kids and I handle the home side cleaning, cooking, managing the kids, and making sure everything runs smoothly and feels calm at home. We outsource a little as well.

My husband earns a high income (in the medical field) and says he’s completely fine with how we handle our money as long as we’re still saving and investing, and we don’t have conflict about it.

But I still sometimes wonder if this is one of those things that sound’s fine in theory, but could turn into resentment or a loss of respect over time.

Be honest would this bother you eventually, even if you said it wouldn’t at first?

I’m currently a SAHM to two school aged kids and overall I really do enjoy this phase of life. Our routine is stable, the kids are in school, and I have time for hobbies and things I enjoy.

Lately though, I’ve been feeling like I want a bit more structure or something that’s “mine” outside of just being a mom. I’ve been considering going back to work PRN nurse (very minimal hours) around 24 hours a month), the process will take 2-4 months to reactivate & do the nurse refresher program (online & clinical). The reason for me going back is more for that sense of routine and structure than for financial reasons.

For context, my husband has a very demanding schedule, so I’ve taken on most/all of the home and childcare responsibilities over the years.

My hesitation is that before we had kids, I worked full time as a nurse and didn’t enjoy it it affected my mood and overall well being. My husband is supportive of whatever I decide, but he did bring that up as a concern.

There’s also the practical side of figuring out childcare just for occasional shifts, which feels like a lot to coordinate for such limited hours.

I guess I’m trying to figure out if adding a small amount of work would give me that sense of structure I’m missing, or if it’s more likely to disrupt a setup that’s actually working really well.

For anyone who’s been in a similar position, did working a small amount help or did it end up adding more stress than it was worth?

I keep going back and forth on something and I’d love outside perspective.

I’m 32, my husband is 42, and we already have 7 year old twins (I was 25 husband was 35) Life is stable, things are easier than the early parenting years, and we’ve found a rhythm.

But I can’t tell if wanting another baby is coming from a genuine place or just emotion/nostalgia for when the kids were little.

I’m also aware of our ages and wonder if we’re at the point where we should just be content with what we have instead of starting over.

For anyone who decided to have (or not have) another child in a similar situation, did you ever regret your choice?

EDIT: Thanks for all the responses i genuinely did not realize how common it is to have kids “later”. I just don’t like how old me and my husband will be when the kid graduates high school. I also don’t love the possibility of us having twins again.

I’m 32F and my husband M42 is surgeon we have two kids (ages 7) together and have been married for 8 years. My days consist of Volunteering/supporting women & kids in need once a week, Going to the gym or yoga/Pilates classes everyday, Spa, beauty appointments, or wellness treatments, running errands (Target, Whole foods), going shopping, enjoying quiet alone time, reading , meditation, or just relaxing

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