u/Lone-Voyager

I’m trying to plan a 2-week workcation and would love some practical advice from people who have done this before.

How do you usually find decent, affordable places for a longer stay where you can actually work? Hotels, homestays, hostels with private rooms, local contacts, WhatsApp groups, Airbnb/Booking, or reaching the place first and checking rooms in person?

I’m mostly looking for:

• Private room
• Reliable Wi-Fi for calls
• Clean attached bathroom
• Basic table/chair setup
• Hot water
• Not too isolated
• Budget-friendly for 10-15 days

I’m currently considering Bir, Himachal Pradesh, around late August to early September. If anyone knows affordable hotels, homestays, or hostels there with good private rooms for remote work, please share leads.

Also open to general tips on negotiating longer stays or avoiding bad workcation stays.

it’s morning as i’m writing this, and i’m still somewhere between sleepiness and overthinking. the world feels a little quieter before the day fully begins, and maybe that’s why my mind wandered to you. before i know your name, before i know what your laugh sounds like, before i know whether you also look at the sky and feel something inside you go quiet.

i’m 27M, INFJ, and the kind of person whose heart and brain keep holding meetings about existence. my curiosity wanders from psychology to philosophy, from society to space, from “why do people become who they become?” to “how is consciousness even real?” i don’t think life has some grand cosmic meaning waiting to be unlocked, but i do think it’s worth exploring. maybe that’s enough. maybe we’re just here for a brief, strange moment, gathering little pieces of the universe through each other.

i’ve never been good at casual attraction. my heart doesn’t really wake up for surface-level things. i’m demisexual and sapiosexual, which is a very clinical way of saying: please talk to me like there’s a whole world inside you. tell me what shaped you, what scares you, what you secretly hope for, what book or film or song rearranged something in your chest. i want the slow kind of wanting, the kind that grows out of trust, softness, curiosity, and feeling genuinely seen.

sometimes i imagine us on a quiet walk after rain, when the air feels cooler and the world seems a little less harsh. maybe we stop somewhere for coffee or tea, browse a bookstore for longer than planned, or sit under the open sky talking about everything from childhood memories to alien civilizations. maybe we watch people pass by and invent tiny lives for them, then somehow end up discussing whether humanity is tragic, beautiful, or just very confused.

i should warn you, my idea of romance is not very flashy. it’s watching The Lord of the Rings, Inception, Interstellar, Attack on Titan, or some horror movie and pausing every now and then because one of us has a theory. it’s reading Dostoevsky, Kafka, or Orwell and sending you a paragraph that made me stare at the wall. it’s gaming together, travelling somewhere quiet, getting lost in conversations, and standing under stars feeling tiny in a way that somehow makes everything softer.

i care a lot about kindness. not the performative kind, but the everyday kind. the kind where you don’t enjoy hurting people. the kind where fairness matters. the kind where softness is not treated like weakness. i’m atheist, liberal, emotionally sincere, and very much not interested in pretending values don’t matter in love. i don’t need us to agree on everything, but i do need empathy, curiosity, and a mind that can question what it inherited.

i also have an embarrassingly large amount of affection for animals. i can’t eat meat because my brain immediately imagines the suffering behind it, which is inconvenient but very true. so if you’re the kind of person who stops mid-walk because an animal exists nearby and obviously needs to be admired, we’ll probably get along.

i don’t know where you are right now. maybe you’re in another city, another country, another life stage, also tired of trying to make yourself understood in rooms that don’t really listen. maybe you’re curled up with a book, rewatching a comfort show, playing a game, or looking at the sky and wondering why being human has to be this strange.

if we find each other, i hope we don’t rush past the beginning. i hope we start with messages that feel easy and real. i hope curiosity does what attraction alone never could. i hope we build something quiet, warm, thoughtful, and a little absurd, because existence itself is absurd and i’d rather laugh at it with someone kind.

until then, you can find me somewhere between morning overthinking and a very sincere desire to be held. probably looking at the sky. probably wondering too much. probably still hoping.

your local INFJ absurdist

27M | INFJ | India / Online

Quick version of who I am: introspective, a bit soft, more interested in sincerity than trying to impress anyone.

I connect best through ideas and actual emotional honesty. Like - sit under a quiet sky and talk about life, psychology, weird questions about existence, favourite films, whatever is actually on your mind. The performative dating stuff just never made sense to me.

Interests that tend to stick: sci-fi / fantasy / thriller movies and anime, books (more Dostoevsky-Kafka-Orwell than self-help fluff, though I read around), gaming when I feel like it, animals, solo trips and trekking. Nighttime atmospheres > loud crowds.

Also demisexual. Attraction for me shows up after there's some kind of real connection, not before. So if you're looking for something casual, we probably won't match - and that's fine.

Looking for someone gentle, emotionally real, maybe a little nerdy about how people work. Open to most types; I usually click with NFs and the quieter thoughtful NTs.

Message if any of this lands. Drop your type and one thing you've been curious about lately.

Is it the same for you guys? All of a sudden I am seeing stuff like kashmiri pandit exodus, the classic hindu-muslim divide playbook. Have they already started flooding such content on Instagram?? Or did I just mess up my algorithm?

Idk why but I feel that insta will be like Facebook in just next few months.

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This movement wasn't just about politics.

For a brief moment, we saw something many of us thought was impossible. People rose above caste, religion, language and state to stand beside strangers because they believed something was worth fighting for.

And to every woman who marched, volunteered, held the front lines, looked after injured protesters, protected others during the chaos, or simply refused to stay silent, thank you.

You didn't just participate. You changed what this movement looked like. You reminded a lot of people that courage has nothing to do with gender. It's shown by those who step forward when it would have been easier to stay home.

I hope you know that your presence inspired thousands, including many young girls who were watching all of this unfold.

Whatever history writes about this movement, it should remember that women weren't standing behind it.

They were helping lead it.

Thank you. I'm proud that we stood together.

P.S. This isn't meant to start a gender debate. Everyone played their part, and I'm grateful to all of them. I simply wanted to take a moment to appreciate the women who helped make this movement what it became.

Anybody else feeling tired and hopeless of what all is going on? You ever wonder why the world is so cruel? And you just wish to live a slow and peaceful life sometimes?

There is a reason I usually try to stay away from politics as it takes a toll on my mental health when I see injustice and brutality. I can't stop my tears when I see someone being wronged and crying while I am sitting comfortably in my AC room. Had I been born in their place, I too would have been suffering like them. Last few days have been too stimulating and hectic due to politics tensions in my country which I am following a bit too closely.

Now I am just tired fr. I never really had any friends honestly as I like to stay by myself since I don't get along with people usually. Anyone else feeling the same? Wanna talk?

The kind where you lose track of time talking about something neither of you planned to bring up.

I'm into philosophy, psychology, big-picture questions about where the world is going, and also completely random topics depending on the week. I think a lot about what a good life looks like, not in a self-help way, just genuinely curious about it.

Attractive to me: people with opinions they've actually thought through, who can be warm without being performative, and who find the world interesting rather than overwhelming.

Not rushing anything. If something here sounds like you, send a DM and tell me something you've been thinking about lately. Better opener than "hey" anyway.

Not small talk, not venting. Just good conversation about things that matter.

Some things I think about: where society is headed, the tension between individual and collective, what makes a life feel worthwhile, how much the world is changing and whether that's good. Also happy to go down random rabbit holes.

I like people who have thought about things and have actual perspectives, even if they're still evolving. Curiosity > certainty.

Comment or DM if any of this sounds like your kind of conversation. Always up for meeting people who are genuinely engaged with the world.

I’m an INFJ, and one thing I’ve noticed about myself is that I don’t make close friendships very easily. I can talk to people fine, but that deeper sense of ease, understanding, and natural connection is pretty rare for me.

Over time I’ve heard a lot of people say that INFJs and ENFPs tend to get along especially well, and I’ve always been a little curious about whether that’s actually true outside of MBTI stereotypes. So I thought I’d ask here and maybe also get to know some of you in the process.

A little about me: I’m pretty introspective, quiet at first, and much more drawn to meaningful conversation than small talk. I naturally gravitate toward topics like psychology, existence, society, politics, the universe, and how people make sense of themselves. I also like movies, anime, books, gaming, animals, solo travelling, trekking, and genres like sci-fi, fantasy, thriller, and horror.

I tend to connect best with people who are emotionally real, open-minded, and a little curious about life beneath the surface. I value sincerity, empathy, and conversations that feel alive rather than forced. Politically I’m liberal/left-leaning too, so I usually feel more at ease with people who broadly see the world that way.

I guess I’m partly asking out of curiosity and partly because I’d genuinely like to know whether any ENFPs here feel that easy INFJ-ENFP spark people always talk about. If any of this feels relatable, I’d be happy to talk.

I’m an INFJ, and one thing I’ve struggled with for a long time is that I don’t easily click with people in a deeper friendship sense. I can talk to people fine, but feeling naturally understood or emotionally at ease with someone is much rarer for me.

I’ve heard a lot over time that INFJs and ENFJs tend to connect really well, and I’ve always been a little curious about whether that’s actually true in practice. So, I thought I’d ask here and maybe use that as a way to get to know some of you too.

A little about me: I’m introspective, pretty depth-oriented, and usually more drawn to meaningful conversation than surface-level chatter. I like talking about psychology, existence, society, politics, the universe, and the inner worlds people carry around. I’m also into movies, anime, books, gaming, animals, solo travelling, trekking, and genres like sci-fi, fantasy, thriller, and horror.

I’m usually a bit reserved at first, but I care a lot about sincerity, emotional honesty, empathy, and real connection. I also lean liberal/left politically, so I tend to connect more easily with people who see the world in a similar way.

Mostly I’m just curious whether ENFJs here do tend to get along with INFJs the way people say, and if anyone feels like we might get along, I’d be happy to chat.

Hi everyone, I wanted to write this in a way that actually sounds like me, not like a checklist of traits.

I’m a quiet, introspective person with a very active inner world. I value emotional honesty, softness, empathy, and sincerity a lot. I don’t connect well with performative energy or relationships built on image, status, or surface-level chemistry. What stays with me is depth, the feeling that someone is genuinely present, self-aware, and real.

A lot of my mind naturally goes toward deeper things. I spend time thinking about psychology, existence, society, consciousness, the universe, and how people carry their inner worlds. I like conversations that slowly open up, especially in quiet settings where neither person has to perform. The kind of connection where you can talk about life, fears, meaning, or even just sit in comfortable silence and still feel close.

My interests are a mix of comfort and curiosity: movies, anime, books, gaming, animals, solo travelling, trekking, and anything that feels like exploration. I’m especially drawn to sci-fi, fantasy, thriller, and horror. Nighttime, stars, and low-pressure atmospheres feel especially like me. Honestly, sitting under the sky and talking about life sounds more romantic to me than most conventionally romantic things.

I’m not looking to force something intense right away. I’d much rather start as friends first, build trust naturally, and see where it grows. That matters to me a lot. I want something that has space to breathe, where closeness can develop without pressure or performance.

What I’m hoping for is someone kind, thoughtful, emotionally mature, and curious. Someone who values depth, but also gentleness. Someone who wants a relationship where both people can be close without losing themselves. Where care feels mutual, silence feels safe, and kindness is seen as a strength, not a weakness.

I can seem reserved at first, but underneath that I feel things deeply. I notice tone, emotional texture, contradictions, and the things people mean but don’t always say directly. So, if you’re someone who wants to start with genuine friendship and see if it slowly turns into something meaningful, I’d love to hear from you.

Hi everyone, I wanted to write this in a way that actually sounds like me, not like a checklist of traits.

I’m a quiet, introspective person with a very active inner world. I value emotional honesty, softness, empathy, and sincerity a lot. I don’t connect well with performative energy or relationships built on image, status, or surface-level chemistry. What stays with me is depth, the feeling that someone is genuinely present, self-aware, and real.

A lot of my mind naturally goes toward deeper things. I spend time thinking about psychology, existence, society, consciousness, the universe, and how people carry their inner worlds. I like conversations that slowly open up, especially in quiet settings where neither person has to perform. The kind of connection where you can talk about life, fears, meaning, or even just sit in comfortable silence and still feel close.

My interests are a mix of comfort and curiosity: movies, anime, books, gaming, animals, solo travelling, trekking, and anything that feels like exploration. I’m especially drawn to sci-fi, fantasy, thriller, and horror. Nighttime, stars, and low-pressure atmospheres feel especially like me. Honestly, sitting under the sky and talking about life sounds more romantic to me than most conventionally romantic things.

I’m not looking to force something intense right away. I’d much rather start as friends first, build trust naturally, and see where it grows. That matters to me a lot. I want something that has space to breathe, where closeness can develop without pressure or performance.

What I’m hoping for is someone kind, thoughtful, emotionally mature, and curious. Someone who values depth, but also gentleness. Someone who wants a relationship where both people can be close without losing themselves. Where care feels mutual, silence feels safe, and kindness is seen as a strength, not a weakness.

I can seem reserved at first, but underneath that I feel things deeply. I notice tone, emotional texture, contradictions, and the things people mean but don’t always say directly. So, if you’re someone who wants to start with genuine friendship and see if it slowly turns into something meaningful, I’d love to hear from you.

Hey, I’m 27, and I’m someone who feels things deeply. I’m kind, open-minded, emotionally aware, and the type of person who pays attention to the little things. I care a lot about people, I value sincerity, and I try to move through life with empathy and softness.

I’m hoping to find something real. not rushed, not surface-level, and not the kind of connection where people hide how they feel to seem less vulnerable. I want something warm and intentional. something where two people slowly get to know each other, share their inner world, send random thoughts during the day, and build something that feels safe, natural, and meaningful.

i’m a pretty introspective person, and I’m drawn to conversations that have depth to them. I love thinking about psychology, existence, society, space, and the universe. I read, I reflect a lot, and lately I’ve been leaning into absurdism a bit, learning how to hold the strangeness of life with both honesty and a sense of wonder. I’m very open-minded, and I love those conversations where you can just be fully yourself and explore ideas together without judgment.

I also have a very cozy side. I love movies, anime, and series, especially sci-fi, fantasy, thriller, and horror. I’m into gaming, books, animals, sleeping more than i probably should, and solo traveling and trekking. being in new places, walking through quiet landscapes, and taking in the world around me always does something good for my soul.

my ideal connection feels soft and simple in the best way. sitting together somewhere quiet at night under a sky full of stars, stargazing and talking about life. sharing a film. laughing at something silly. exchanging little updates during the day. having deep conversations when the night gets quiet and also being able to enjoy silence together without it feeling empty.

I think I’d connect best with someone kind, emotionally honest, affectionate, and thoughtful. someone curious, gentle, and open-hearted. someone who values vulnerability, empathy, and mutual effort. I have a lot of love to give, and I think the right connection would feel less like a performance and more like coming home a little.

If you message me, tell me your age, where you’re from, and what your ideal quiet night looks like.