u/Low_Bodybuilder3065

How to stop be afraid of falling in love?

I have known this guy since high school and we have been talking for two months now. I finally communicated yesterday that sometimes things feel one sided and he will be super lovey dovey one day then different the next and he is afraid of getting hurt and I get annoyed when he posts on social media but doesn't reply to my text for hours.

He was super sweet about it and it makes me paranoid because he used to reply crazy fast and the past couple days he's been taking hours. I hate that I get so paranoid and I feel like I have more interest since sometimes I check to see if he texted and I love talking to him.

Last night we went out for dinner, was affectionate the whole night and he took me to the military base where he worked out and we spent hours with each other and he was telling me all of these stories. How do I stop getting paranoid and assume he lost interest? We talk all day every day but I get confused when I know he sees my messages and I see he is on social media and he would text quicker.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 1 day ago

How do I stop making this person such a high priority?

I have known this guy since high school and we have been talking for two months now. I finally communicated yesterday that sometimes things feel one sided and he will be super lovey dovey one day then different the next and he is afraid of getting hurt and I get annoyed when he posts on social media but doesn't reply to my text for hours.

He was super sweet about it and it makes me paranoid because he used to reply crazy fast and the past couple days he's been taking hours. I hate that I get so paranoid and I feel like I have more interest since sometimes I check to see if he texted and I love talking to him.

Last night we went out for dinner, was affectionate the whole night and he took me to the military base where he worked out and we spent hours with each other and he was telling me all of these stories. How do I stop getting paranoid and assume he lost interest? We talk all day every day

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 1 day ago

How do you make Shaken espresso less watery?

I replaced my old nespresso verteo thinking something was wrong with it and the espresso still tastes like water. I used Scuro and chiaro too. I just brew ice in a mug, pour ice and syrup in a shaker then pour the coffee and shake 10 times.

I am so bummed cuz it tastes so bad and I even have new verteo deluxe machine

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 2 days ago

Is there a way to make a Shaken espresso less watered down?

I had to replace my old nespresso machine but I am still noticing the flavor is like drinking water! I have tried chiaro and all the other pods and for some reason it doesn't taste like anything.

I brew the coffee in a mug, put syrup and ice in a shaker then pour the coffee. Shake 10 times and pour in a seperate cup. What am I doing wrong? I use two double nespresso pods

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 2 days ago

Very watered down espresso any suggestions?

I always make Shaken espressos and I also just got a Verteo Plus Deluxe. I ended up getting it because it started tasting water down from the from the previous machine I had. It barely texted tastes like coffee and I used to not have that issue with my previous machine when I first got it. I have used Scuro, Chiaro and the Starbucks blonde espresso.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 3 days ago

Espresso tastes very watery, what could be the issue?

I always make Shaken espressos and I also just got a Verteo Plus Deluxe. I ended up getting it because it started tasting water down from the from the previous machine I had. It barely texted tastes like coffee and I used to not have that issue with my previous machine when I first got it. I have used Scuro, Chiaro and the Starbucks blonde espresso.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 4 days ago

Should I start to distance myself or am I over thinking?

I only see this person once a week and I feel like he just isn't as into me as I am compared to before? He does text me good morning and we talk all day. We also did hangout till 5 am last weekend but I am trying not to get my hopes up. Idk if I'm over reacting. The energy just doesn't feel the same but I'm basing it through text and I do make sure to reciprocate my interest.

We had to post pone our plans to stay in another city since he has military training and he said he would make it up to me but I have a feeling he won't ask to hangout with me for a while. He hangs out with friends a lot and last weekend he had no plans and didn't even ask to hangout and his excuse was he didn't see anyone because he didn't have much money since he had to pay rent. That is when we ended up hanging out till almost 5 am. We have been talking for two months but I didn't confess to him until a month ago because before I told him I wasn't in a rush to date.

Idk if he just isn't as into me as before because just last week he used to tell me he misses me and I haven't heard it from him this week and yes I did tell him that and he said he "glazed" over it. he made it so obvious he was into me from the start and has been trying to get at me for YEARS. We did have sex that weekend we were out late and that's when I noticed he stopped saying he missed me although we talk all day still.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 7 days ago

How to tell whether I am over reacting or not?

I only see this person once a week and I feel like he just isn't as into me as I am? He does text me good morning and we talk all day. We also did hangout till 5 am last weekend but I am trying not to get my hopes up. Idk if I'm over reacting. He doesn't reply as fast and I feel like he was way more into me before..

We had to post pone our plans to stay in another city since he has military training and he said he would make it up to me but I have a feeling he won't ask to hangout with me for a while. He hangs out with friends a lot and last weekend he had no plans and didn't even ask to hangout. That is when we ended up hanging out till almost 5 am. We have been talking for two months but I didn't confess to him until a month ago because before I told him I wasn't in a rush to date.

We have been seeing each other about once a week. Idk if he just isn't as into me as before because just last week he used to tell me he misses me and I haven't heard it from him this week. I do tell him I miss too and reciprocate, from the start he made it so obvious he was into me. We did have sex that weekend we were out late and yesterday he did say he is more protective with other men.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 7 days ago

How to stop over analyzing small patterns when dating?

I feel every small little pattern tends to set me off like if they take longer to reply than usual of if I rarely here him say I miss you. I do my best to not reply fast because I don't want to be overly dependent.

We had sex after two months of talking on Saturday and now I'm very attached and terrified. After that we still talk all day but he takes longer to reply, doesn't say he misses me anymore, and he didn't mention anything about the sex either, overall less affection and it's becoming a red flag but idk if I'm over thinking. He does still tend to get jealous with other men since I brought up something the other day but he doesn't seem as in to me. Over the weekend we hungout until 5 am and we were driving around places talking about our childhood and before that broke in to our old elementary school. Yet I still have doubts he might switch up since he's been different since then

Our first date we went to the movies, held hands in public, would kiss my hands while driving, then as a surprise took me to this cute boat ride and he kissed me first too.

How do I stop overreacting? On our first date ever after I finally told him how I felt he was automatically affectionate at the movies and I loved it. But our hang outs after that he seemed kind of distant and wasn't as affectionate in the beginning but built up to it. I hate having emotions it's so annoying and I'm so terrified of getting hurt since I have known him since we were kids (we barely talked back then so we are getting to know each other. Any advice? I'm really struggling because I like him so much and I get kinda bummed.

And yes I do put just as much effort as showing him how I feel. When we started talking I can tell he was obsessed with me in a cute way even when I told him I wasn't ready to date and I slowly developed feelings over time. I'm nervous that more time will pass and he won't want to be serious with me

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 9 days ago

How do you manage having strong feelings for someone?

I feel every small little pattern tends to set me off like if they take longer to reply than usual of if I rarely here him say I miss you. I do my best to not reply fast because I don't want to be overly dependent. We had sex after two months of talking and now I'm very attached and terrified. He seemed a lot more interested in me before I confessed my feelings to him.

How do I stop overreacting? On our first date ever after I finally told him how I felt he was automatically affectionate at the movies and I loved it. But our hang outs after that he seemed kind of distant and wasn't as affectionate. I hate having emotions it's so annoying and I'm so terrified of getting hurt since I have known him since we were kids. Any advice? I'm really struggling because I like him so much and I get kinda bummed. Like literally every small thing sets me off and I'm exhausted.

I was recently talking to someone that seemed very interested then ghosted me and it affected me a lot since I knew him for years too and now I feel like I can't trust anyone

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 9 days ago

Should I be concerned about this?

I have been talking to this person for almost a month now and we have known each other since we were kids. He has been trying to hit on me for the longest time and now we are finally dating. On Saturday we ended up hanging out until 5 am, and we were just walking around different places. Anytime we see each other it's a balance of emotional and physical effect ion. Our first date he took me to the movies and he held my hand right away, then he took me to LA to this swan ride thingy and we ended up having our first kiss there.

He used to reply a lot quicker but now I'm starting to get anxious because I will see he is online on Instagram and that he liked posts but hasn't answered my texts and he has a day off today. He will say he misses me and occasionally double texts if I don't reply but yesterday felt a bit off. It was mother's day so he was probably busy. Should I distance myself if I see he takes longer to reply? What are some signs I should look out for? Personally when I like someone I will text them cuz I know he obviously sees my texts. Just to add that he didn't reply to my message last night and I texted him good morning and I saw him on insta about an hour ago so now I feel like he used me.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 11 days ago

Am I overreacting about this and should I distance myself?

I have been talking to this person for almost a month now and we have known each other since we were kids. He has been trying to hit on me for the longest time and now we are finally dating. On Saturday we ended up hanging out until 5 am, and we were just walking around different places. Anytime we see each other it's a balance of emotional and physical effect ion. Our first date he took me to the movies and he held my hand right away, then he took me to LA to this swan ride thingy and we ended up having our first kiss there.

He used to reply a lot quicker but now I'm starting to get anxious because I will see he is online on Instagram and that he liked posts but hasn't answered my texts and he has a day off today. He will say he misses me and occasionally double texts if I don't reply but yesterday felt a bit off. It was mother's day so he was probably busy. Should I distance myself if I see he takes longer to reply? What are some signs I should look out for? Personally when I like someone I will text them cuz I know he obviously sees my texts. Just to add that he didn't reply to my message last night and I texted him good morning and I saw him on insta about an hour ago so now I feel like he used me.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 11 days ago

Am I overreacting about this and how to manage the anxiety?

I have been talking to this person for almost a month now and we have known each other since we were kids. He has been trying to hit on me for the longest time and now we are finally dating. On Saturday we ended up hanging out until 5 am, and we were just walking around different places. Anytime we see each other it's a balance of emotional and physical effection.

He used to reply a lot quicker but now I'm starting to get anxious because I will see he is online on Instagram and that he liked posts but hasn't answered my texts and he has a day off today. He will say he misses me and occasionally double texts if I don't reply but yesterday felt a bit off. It was mother's day so he was probably busy. Should I distance myself if I see he takes longer to reply? What are some signs I should look out for? Personally when I like someone I will text them cuz I know he obviously sees my texts.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 11 days ago

Any suggestions on where to begin as an adult and what was your journey like?

I'm 25 F and I work 8-5 Monday thru Friday so finding ice time has been very difficult. The only weekday sessions are Wednesdays nights in Anaheim. I'm in a learn to play program rn and I'm struggling because right odd the bat they started with stick and puck handling on day one. I've never played sports in my life so I feel a bit discouraged although I had the most fun that I've had in years.

Where to even begin working this kind of schedule and how to practice puck handling?

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 11 days ago

Why is making friends so difficult?

25 F and I am told I'm bubbly and have a great personality although I have no friends. At work a lot of people come up to talk to me and I still have no one lol. Couldn't make friends in college and most of the jobs I've had throughout the years there was no one my age.

I don't drink or smoke and idk where to meet anyone since I've taken dance classes and take ice skating lessons rn. I'll meet someone cool, they ask for my number sometimes and then I never hear from them again. Even when I do reach out they cut the conversation short. I wish people cared about me and I feel like a loser that things never workout.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 13 days ago

How do you move on from someone that was once so loving and was so consistent?

None of it makes sense. He said I did nothing wrong. Any advice would be great since I don't have any friends and I'm going through a hard time.

I am so deeply hurt by all of this since I've known him since we were kids. He even admitted he tried getting at me for years. I developed feelings a bit later on and I knew he liked me a lot from the start. Finally confessed my feelings and we ended up almost acting like a couple with him sending morning texts with hearts, holding hands in public and took me on a boat ride and kissed me. We were going all out and it felt amazing.

He initiated physical affection first and after our date things started slowly changing since he was in the process of moving. Vibes were off the second time we hungout and days after he would just treat me like a friend and that nothing happened. We have had talks where I told him if he feels differently then I would like him to tell me. He continued to deny it and became less effectionate. He said the move really affected him mentally and that he isolates himself but I don't understand how it makes someone less affectionate?

He said he was sorry for doing that and he will prove it to me that he will not isolate himself and that's it's his weakness. He used to text me fast too but now takes hours to reply even when he's on Instagram. It hurts so much. There are a lot of things he doesn't do anymore. I'm so tired of getting played

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 15 days ago

I have known this guy since elementary school and he's been trying to get at me for years. We have been talking for two months and he made it really obvious he was into me and I just recently started having feelings for him and confessed a few week ago. We went to the movies and he right away was affectionate, held my hand in public, took me to LA to do this boat ride and he kissed me first. We ended up going to our old school and kissed then went back to his car and cuddled.

He was in the process of moving so he was exhausted. We hungout that same night he finished moving and the vibe felt kind of off and he was not really affectionate. Days later he became distant and all of his usual patterns stopped. I would reciprocate that same energy back too. He would always send me good morning before work with hearts, send me cute pics of his outfits and always send memes on Instagram and hype me out.

Things completely switched up. He will still text me in the morning but the energy is different. I told him that I felt like the vibe was off and was curious if I did something. He said he was going through it and the move has been hitting him. Still was distant for days. I let him double text and I didn't reply till hours later since I was trying to detach. I told him I didn't wanna feel anything for him anymore and I just don't believe what he says. He feels terrible for hurting me and he said he needs to work on not isolating himself when he is going through it.

Am I overreacting? I feel like his feelings have changed for some reason. Any advice would be great because I'm so hurt and tired of being burned. I even see that he is on Instagram and takes forever to reply to texts too. I told him he needs to be forward with me so I can move on if that's the case

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 16 days ago

I'm 25, single and unfortunately I'm not close with my family either so it's been very hard on me. Right now I'm focusing on working out, ice skating and snowboarding. There are days I feel SO alone especially since I never get any texts and I always have to be the one to hit people up first. It's been discouraging even when I go out of my way to go to meet ups and take classes based off of my interests.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 20 days ago

I have known this person for years and we have been talking for a while now. I didn't have feelings for him at the time we started talking but he definitely did. I confessed to him about two weeks about how I felt and we both are acting like we are exclusive. We both get jealous and say stuff like you're mine, he sends me morning texts before he goes to work, sends hearts.

On our first date after I confessed we went to the movies and right away we held hands, when walking in public we still continued to hold hands. Took me to this boat ride and had our first kiss. He wants me to meet his friends at some point and we have been planning future hangouts.

I have no clue why but I get very sensitive to small shifts like slower replies and the other day when we hungout he seemed a bit distant at first and took a bit to warm up which confused me. We both are trying to take things slow.

Like for example if we hungout and didn't hold hands or are affectionate it would throw me off since he was affectionate our first date. I'm trying not to get too attached because I'm afraid of getting hurt. Any advice? I just got burned a couple months ago and I'm very guarded. We text each other good morning everyday, always likes my Instagram stories, we even send each other cute pics on snap. As soon as it started becoming less I have been Mental because I assume he doesn't like me lmao how do I stop going crazy?

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 20 days ago

I have known this person for years and we have been talking for a while now. I didn't have feelings for him at the time we started talking but he definitely did. I confessed to him about two weeks about how I felt and we both are acting like we are exclusive. We both get jealous and say stuff like you're mine, he sends me morning texts before he goes to work, sends hearts.

On our first date after I confessed we went to the movies and right away we held hands, when walking in public we still continued to hold hands. Took me to this boat ride and had our first kiss. He wants me to meet his friends at some point and we have been planning future hangouts.

I have no clue why but I get very sensitive to small shifts like slower replies and the other day when we hungout he seemed a bit distant at first and took a bit to warm up which confused me. We both are trying to take things slow.

Like for example if we hungout and didn't hold hands or are affectionate it would throw me off since he was affectionate our first date. I'm trying not to get too attached because I'm afraid of getting hurt. Any advice? I just got burned a couple months ago and I'm very guarded.

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u/Low_Bodybuilder3065 — 20 days ago