u/Lunalunetta

Odio l’estate.
Odio il caldo.
Ma soprattutto odio il fatto che tutti partono per le ferie ma io non posso. Non ho soldi per farlo. A malapena riesco a pagare l’affitto e spesa varie ma c’è la gente ogni giorno in montagna o al mare o in qualche posto esotico mentre io sono a casa. Odio cucinare perché non ho il lusso di aria condizionata nella cucina. Odio entrare sui social e vedere tutti che si divertono, chi sul gommone, chi sulla barca vela, chi semplicemente al mare grazie alle loro palate di soldi. Anche se mio marito poteva prendersi tempo libero dal lavoro (ciò che non può fare perché sennò letteralmente non mangiamo) dove stracazzo andiamo? Non c’è nulla alla portata ahimè di noi poveri. Uno dice vabbè fatti solo la giornata al mare/lago/montagna! Eh si ma la benzina? I caselli?? Boh la vita è diventata troppo cara e mi sento che gli altri si divertono mentre io no. Per carità amo la mia vita sono contenta con la mia piccola realtà so che devo essere grata per quello che ho perché ci sono tante persone nel mondo che non hanno quello che ho io, ma boh a volte ho questi pensieri magari anche superficiali che credo che tanti di voi capirete e magari condividerete essendo che non posso essere l’unica in 2026 che per via dei aumenti di tutto non riesce a fare le ferie.

Ok so let me explain, we have a 2 month old baby my parents will come visit in a month. He knows my parents and met them last time they visited roughly 1 year ago. They aren’t the best people but they are helping us a lot economically ngl. His family has been very abusive to him; he has 2 older brothers that treat him like a slave like worse than dirt and his parents gave him up put him on a boat shipped him away to another country and he grew up in an orphanage and he hasn’t seen them since he was 11. He’s now 25. He has told me about many instances of very severe abuse that to him doesn’t even seem like a big deal and idk he has a weird relationship with them he goes no contact then goes back and defends them and speaks with them then no contact again it’s a huge cycle. Anyway, I hate his brothers. They worked all 3 in a buisness together and would often refuse to pay him or pay him very little when he works the most hours out of all 3. This makes me very upset so I suggested he break off and we start our own buisness which we did and now his family accuses me of starting hate between everyone! Wallahi it isn’t that way. I just want everyone to get along and keeping buisness and family separate in this case is the best imo because the 3 brothers would constantly argue. I lent his brother 5k in march as their buisness was doing bad and they were in dire need and he said he’d pay back 1k every month. I now have zero money for rent or groceries I am constantly begging just for a portion even of this money and I now his brother has it. His brother even posted videos flaunting stacks of cash on social media while I am here with an infant and fear of loosing everything due to zero money. I’ve been upset over the past few days and insulted my husbands brother when speaking to my husbands (in front of them I am fake nice) because I hate this dishonesty and the situation it’s put me in. My husband became so angry he said fine have nothing to do with my family ever and I will do the same I won’t even say hello to your parents when they come visit and I will stay elsewhere. I begged him to not do this and begged for a solution, I explained I’d begin speaking with his parents if he wanted me to. He said I it’s too late you have to live like this because it’s me and my family and you and yours and that’s it. How do I fix this??? I’m actually so worried my heart is so heavy idk what to say or do. Many people have told me his parents are very very bad people. To be fair even his relatives were involved him human trafficking and they put him on a boat with human traffickers when he was a child!!!! I’m not sure I’m making myself clear about how bad these people are. Idk. I didn’t know any of this before we had our baby.

So we took forever and deliberated a lot over our new born baby girls name, Diana. She is almost 2 months old and we call her drumroll please BARGHOOT.

Yep

Barghoot

Why? Uhh well we initially started with cutcoot (small baby chicken in Arabic) and somehow started rhyming and ended up with Barghoot (flea) and kept joking saying Diana Barghoot to now just directly Barghoot, lmao.

What are you guys stories??

Ok so I know yazid, muawiya, and shimr are disliked names for obvious reasons but recently I heard Marwan also. Is this true?

My husband works a lot when he gets home he wants to immediately leave and see his friends until late to the point he just eats (only sometimes) and sleeps without even showering or brushing his teeth. When he is home, he is on the balcony smoking and looking at Facebook or tik tok. I have no family or friends where I live or in general and idk I just feel super alone. Alhamdullilah I love my baby but my husband is getting annoying with this behavior. He doesn’t want to feel “chained up” but like bro pass some quality time with us. Often I feel the only time he spends with me is when he wants to be intimate. What do I do?

EDIT: yes I am aware I should speak to him but any advice on how to politely and respectfully approach the topic? I don’t want to be offensive or rude

Salam everyone,
I just had a baby alhamdullilah she’s wonderful but my husband’s phone broke and he left it at home while he was at work and I was trying to repair it. Keep in mind in the past I have gone through his phone and it has been an issue and I didn’t want to, but I did see an app that didn’t recognize so I clicked on the app and when I clicked on it, I found numerous chats spanning over the last 10 days at all hours of the day and night chatting with random women in a very explicit way doing video calls even if they were just short video calls and speaking of very sexual explicit ways and the women had even sent some photos. He had not sent any photos from what I had seen, but I did notice that he would constantly initiate the video calls and I’m sure he’s going to say that it was a friend of his that used his phone to do this however, in the chat, I noticed some spelling mistakes that I know for a fact he makes and I’m not sure if his friend makes the same ones, but I would find it pretty unlikely and I don’t want to argue. I really don’t want to. I don’t have the mental energy for that right now. I just want to get along because like we’ve been getting along really well, and I understand that we cannot be fully intimate at the moment because I’m still healing however, I have still been doing things for him that would have met his needs and would not have pushed him to this point. I don’t understand why this is happening I try to take good care of myself as much as I can. I try to look nice smell nice be beautiful. I don’t understand and I’m really upset because I didn’t expect this of him especially as a Muslim. I feel like he is messing with his rizq. And I’m really upset just in general because I feel like I lost respect for him as a man and I hope you can just be honest with me and like if it was him just own up to it I’m not really sure what to do in the situation please give me any advice. I’m very confused. I don’t want to hate him but he is making me very very very upset. He doesn’t know that I know. Three other times it happened that there was questionable material on his phone yet it was explained that his phone was being used by other people and it was actually true, but I just am wondering am I stupid for accepting this? I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to handle this situation. I feel so lost.

Salam everyone,
I just had a baby alhamdullilah she’s wonderful but my husband’s phone broke and he left it at home while he was at work and I was trying to repair it. Keep in mind in the past I have gone through his phone and it has been an issue and I didn’t want to, but I did see an app that didn’t recognize so I clicked on the app and when I clicked on it, I found numerous chats spanning over the last 10 days at all hours of the day and night chatting with random women in a very explicit way doing video calls even if they were just short video calls and speaking of very sexual explicit ways and the women had even sent some photos. He had not sent any photos from what I had seen, but I did notice that he would constantly initiate the video calls and I’m sure he’s going to say that it was a friend of his that used his phone to do this however, in the chat, I noticed some spelling mistakes that I know for a fact he makes and I’m not sure if his friend makes the same ones, but I would find it pretty unlikely and I don’t want to argue. I really don’t want to. I don’t have the mental energy for that right now. I just want to get along because like we’ve been getting along really well, and I understand that we cannot be fully intimate at the moment because I’m still healing however, I have still been doing things for him that would have met his needs and would not have pushed him to this point. I don’t understand why this is happening I try to take good care of myself as much as I can. I try to look nice smell nice be beautiful. I don’t understand and I’m really upset because I didn’t expect this of him especially as a Muslim. I feel like he is messing with his rizq. And I’m really upset just in general because I feel like I lost respect for him as a man and I hope you can just be honest with me and like if it was him just own up to it I’m not really sure what to do in the situation please give me any advice. I’m very confused. I don’t want to hate him but he is making me very very very upset. He doesn’t know that I know. Three other times it happened that there was questionable material on his phone yet it was explained that his phone was being used by other people and it was actually true, but I just am wondering am I stupid for accepting this? I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to handle this situation. I feel so lost.

Salam girls, I gave birth 20 days ago alhamdullilah! I’ve been very much struggling with maintaing salah, as my baby is wonderful yet 100% a Velcro baby like MashAllah so cute but often I cannot even shower, eat, or use the restroom unless my husband is watching her and in that case I have a very restricted window to do all of that, almost always interrupted as well because she is hungry. Sometimes she even eats every 30 minutes. Literally i settle her down from one feed and she is ready to eat again, MashAllah. I know I can pray when she sleeps but I literally crash like even during breastfeeding I often fall asleep because I cannot stay awake no matter how hard I fight it. I have no outside help other than my husband who works a lot and needs rest also and I’m looking for any advice I feel stupid for having this issue but genuinely I feel bad and lost and confused.

Salam everyone, I have a 10 day old baby alhamdullilah I am going through postpartum alone as both my husband and I have no family nearby or willing to help. It is very difficult and we are also going through financial hardship. Monday we will find out if we are able get the life saving opportunity for a job for him. Please make duaa for us we are on the brink of a divorce if things don’t work out financially not from my part but from his as I see him to stressed and I feel him hating us (me and the baby) I am also very hormonal post partum. Please make dua for us in this holy month of Muharram.

I’m supposed to be induced tmro but I’m really scared to keep doing this I am afraid to keep the baby inside any longer idk why I feel she would be safer outside and I keep trying to induce labor myself but it’s not working and I have horrendous healthcare in my country like actually the worst healthcare and I have no idea what to do or how to calm down plus on this sub I’ve been seeing so many stories of full term loss and it’s making my anxiety go crazy

I’m currently 40 weeks I feel not good I am wondering if I am coming close to labor what did you all feel just before your water broke?

Salam everyone, I have a dilemma/story I’d like advice on. My husbands parents were very abusive to him as a child. Like, jail worthy abusive, and his body is full of scars from their physical abuse the psychological is even worse but anyway they shipped him ALONE on a boat to another country at 12 years old and didn’t even care what happened to him they just wanted him to go work make money and send it….he was taken to an orphanage OBVIOUSLY he couldn’t work (unfathomable for them since he in his origin country was already working at that age) anyway once he was able to work he always sent them money. A lot too. He lived a terrible life here to send money home, even sometimes being HOMELESS and having to sleep in PARKS because they would threaten him and be angry if he didn’t send money. Now, keep in mind he is the youngest of TWO OLDER BROTHERS who also send money. Now, we are about to have a baby like within the next few days ok. Economically we are in a tough spot and having difficulty paying rent and buying groceries so he decided to tell his family I need to take care of my wife and child here right now first but once I get more stable I can send money again yet right now my baby is the priority. They cursed him and said the worst of things to him. Saying he is no longer their son!!! I’ll say admittedly since the beginning of this pregnancy he has been struggling internally because I see him asking himself how his parents could do that when he loves his child so much even if she isn’t even born yet and I see him suffer a lot for it. He urges me to keep ties with them but how can I when I know they hurt him so deeply?!?! Also is it wrong of him to break ties with such evil people, due to Silat Al Rahma??? He refuses to speak ill of them and respects them a lot as parents but tbh I hate them and think they are mean abusive evil people who only used their son. Idk. What do you all think??

Please please please make duaa for me as I am pregnant at full term and alhamdullilah for this kheir but I have had a horrible pregnancy I have suffered so much I just want it to end and to have my baby but medical care in my country is very poor and they won’t induce me and she won’t get out by herself. Please make duaa that she comes out as soon as possible I am in so much pain everywhere in my body, I have vomited for 9 months straight, please I need this suffering to end.

I heard he was against Shias and was Zionist….i hope this isn’t true because he’s been my favorite Quran reciter since I was a teen and listen to his recitations regularly!!!

I always wanted a baby ever since I was a little girl. I finally after a terrible marriage and a terrible divorce found a good man and we got married and I’m now pregnant. It’s been the worst pregnancy like alhamdullilah but I’ve been so horribly sick throughout it all and constantly in the hospital. On loads of medication that makes me feel even more ill. Have had Hyperemisis Gravidarium for 9 months aka vomiting daily for 9 months I’m in so much pain I’m miserable and on top of that we are having some of the worst family drama and worst financial problems ever. I have no idea how I will buy groceries or pay rent in the near future. I am taking things day by day hour by hour but I am crumbling. I am at my breaking point. Like alhamdullilah for everything but I am really hating life right now which sucks because this baby is like a huge answer to my duaas of a life time and stuff but honestly I don’t want anything anymore I just wanna dissapear.

I’ve had HG this whole time throwing up daily despite drugs that just make me tired, I’m in pain everywhere, can’t eat can’t sleep can’t do anything I just want the baby out and in my country they do not induce, how did you all get your baby out quickly??? Give me the most effective ways to do this I can’t take it anymore I’m so done

Ciao ragazzi,
io e mio marito siamo entrambi stranieri extra UE, ma viviamo in Italia da tanti anni. Il nostro sogno è aprire un negozio tutto nostro, però all’inizio avremmo bisogno di un po’ di capitale per partire. Abbiamo visto alcuni bandi regionali, come ad esempio “Io Resto al Sud”, ma per noi stranieri purtroppo tutto diventa molto più complicato. Attualmente viviamo al Nord, ma vorremmo aprire la nostra attività in Sicilia. Per il momento lavoriamo entrambi solo con la partita IVA. Avete qualche idea su come ottenere un prestito/soldi di un bando per iniziare??