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Sorry in advance for the length - I hope you'll read the whole post, since the context is vital, but there'll be a TL;DR at the end.

Ever since my (29NB) son was born three months ago, my mother (57F) has made several remarks about the ways in my partner (27F) and I him may "confuse" him in the future because of how we intend to parent him, and it's been a real point of contention between the three of us.

For example, I use they/them pronouns. Shortly after the birth, before I'd decided what my son will call me, my mum asked me whether it's worth dropping my pronouns and just sticking with he/him because having to use they/them for me may "confuse" him growing up. My partner and I pointed out that it won't be confusing for him, because he'll grow up understanding that they/them pronouns are normal and common, we'll teach him how to use the singular "they" correctly as he starts to develop speech, and he'll know what non-binary people are (as well as how to refer to us respectfully) from the very start.

Early on, I also called my son "bro" a few times - for instance, my mum heard me jokingly say "calm down bro, you're getting food soon" when he was fussing for milk when my partner was already preparing him a bottle - and told me I shouldn't call him "bro" because it'll confuse him. I guess she was implying that if I do that, he'll grow up thinking we're siblings instead of parent and child, but I said it won't confuse him because he'll know I'm his parent, understand that "bro" isn't always literal, and generally probably not be a massive idiot.

Another example is that, early on, I made a few jokes about raising him to specifically be gay. I would never dream of actually doing this, which I made clear to her - in fact, I stopped doing it entirely once he was far along in his cognitive development to internalise language and babble back at us, and told my mum repeatedly that they were just jokes and not at all reflective of our actual parenting style - but she also makes frequent allusions to him definitely turning out straight, like talking about what it'll be like when he "starts bringing girls home," what it'll be like when he has girlfriends specifically once he's older, and telling us we'll understand her own experience once he gives us grandkids with his future wife. I pointed out that we intend to raise him with no "default" orientation whatsoever, and that he'll understand as early as possible that he's free to like anyone he chooses, or no one at all. I stated that contrary to what she believes about the jokes I made early on (but, again, quickly stopped making), the thing that may ACTUALLY confuse him is the expectation SHE seems to be placing on him to only like girls - I pointed out that if he's raised from birth to understand all sexualities as equally valid and respectable, including understanding that there won't be any judgement from us whatever no matter the gender of his future crushes or partners, then the only confusion he's likely to experience will come from his grandmother pushing him to be straight and implying that it's shameful or unacceptable to develop an attraction to boys.

Now to the real issue: I've been out as trans and using they/them pronouns since 2014, but only came out to my immediate family (mum, dad, stepmum, brother) in December 2021, just over 4.5 years ago. My mum is the only one who struggles to respect my pronouns - everyone else either uses them without issue or apologises and corrects themselves when they slip up. I learned early on that correcting my mum on my pronouns was fruitless, since she would become defensive and sometimes confrontational (just the usual stuff about it being hard because she knew me as a man for so long, that she struggles not to view me as a man, etc.) so I stopped bothering. For almost the entire 4.5 years, she's almost never used my correct pronouns, and while it continues to bother me and make me feel disrespected, I haven't really had the emotional energy to bother bringing it up.

This changed after the birth of my son. Not only did she continue to misgender me, she also referred to me directly as a man on several occasions, and even called me the baby's father/dad/daddy at multiple points, in front of my son, even though I've never used any of those terms for myself.

After lots of encouragement from my partner, I brought it up with her - I waited until she made a comment (she saw my son smiling at me and said "you love your dad, don't you?"), and said I would prefer for her to refer to me using the Bengali parental title I chose or as his "parent" instead of his dad, at least when she's speaking to/about me in front of, or to, my son. She said the comment came a bit out of left field because I've never seemed to care before, and I told her that I've actually cared about it the entire time but she's always made me feel uncomfortable approaching the topic with her, that I feel I have to bring it up now that there's a baby in the mix, and that the conversation was a long time coming. She said she would find it very difficult to start changing her language now, and I said that was fine - as I said, it's okay for her to get it wrong as long as she corrects herself - but also pointed out that she's known for over 4 years and it's not my fault that she's never bothered to try.

When she pushed me further on it - saying that it's basically MY fault for not disguising my gender identity/going back in the closet to avoid "confusing" my son like she originally suggested - I reiterated that if she's so concerned about him being confused, she should try harder to gender me correctly, and that SHE'S the one likely to confuse him. I told her that if everyone else in my life (including my partner, father, stepmum, brother, SIL, in-laws, and all my friends) are gendering and referring to me correctly and she's the only one misgendering me and calling me his father, it's not unlikely that sometime in the future, he may ask me why only Grandma calls me a man, uses dad/father for me, and refers to me using the wrong pronouns. I told her that if this conversation comes up with my son once he's older, I'll explain that Grandma doesn't respect my gender or my pronouns, and that she insists on referring to me incorrectly and disrespectfully even though she has had it explained to her several times and claims to understand it.

My mum told me I was being unfair, because I was making her sound transphobic. I explained that her actions and words over the past 4 years HAVE been transphobic - at least, that they feel that way to me - and that if my son interprets her behaviour as transphobic in the future, I won't correct him, and that she's choosing to risk her grandson having a negative impression of her by being stubborn. I told her it's completely avoidable if she just makes an effort to gender me correctly, and that if she doesn't, the consequences will have been brought on by herself and no one else.

She's been very withdrawn since we had that conversation, barely speaking to me or my partner at all and ignoring us as much as possible by speaking directly to our son but not to us, which has made things extremely awkward.

So, AITJ?

TL;DR:

My mum refuses to gender me correctly or use my pronouns, and I told her that I'd like her to make more of an effort when speaking to/around my son in order to avoid confusing him. She's become defensive and withdrawn and is basically ignoring me now, and thinks I'm making her out to be a transphobe, even though I think she's the one making herself appear that way.

EDIT: removed a chunk of context that was ultimately irrelevant and making the post even more unnecessarily bloated.

My partner (27F) and I (29NB) have a 12-week-old son. We currently live with my mother (57F).

When we first moved in with my mum in March, she mentioned that her parents (83M, 81F) will be driving down to visit during the summer, but that they didn't know the specific dates of the visit yet. She said they're very excited to meet the baby, obviously, and to see me and my partner.

When our son had his 8-week vaccinations last month, our pediatrician advised us to be careful when changing his dirty nappies for a couple of weeks, due to the risk of us contracting Rotavirus from his waste. That was the only real thing she warned us about, so my partner and I were the only people to hold him for two days afterwards until his legs stopped hurting from his other jabs, then continued to allow my mum to hold and interact with him as usual.

Two weeks ago, she said their visit will now be from Sunday, June 28 to Friday, June 3. We let her know that his 12-week vaccines would be administered today (June 26) and that we may have to limit how much they hold him in the couple of days following them. She said that was fine, as long as we "make sure" they can hold him once his legs stop hurting, as we did with her, so they can get photos with him. We said that would be fine.

However, after a different pediatrician administered his vaccinations this morning, she said: "And like last time, be careful of his dirty nappies for 14 days, avoid kissing his mouth, wash your hands if you come into contact with his saliva, and limit contact to just you two." I asked her to clarify, because that wasn't the advice we received last time. She told us that it's recommended not to let anyone (besides the parents) hold or touch him for 14 days, where avoidable. I mentioned that we let my mum hold him two days after his previous vaccinations, and she asked whether anyone had contracted Rotavirus. I said no, and she said that was very lucky, but that we should have been told to wait 14 days before allowing anyone else to touch him. I mentioned that it would make my mum very sad because the baby's great-grandparents are coming down to meet him for the first time in two days, and she said that especially in the case of much older people with weakened immune systems (which both of my grandparents do have as their health is very bad), we should be very wary of letting them touch him, and avoid it entirely if we can.

When we returned home from the clinic, I mentioned this to my mum, explained that it means they won't be able to hold him during their visit (and that she also won't be allowed for the next 14 days), and said that if we'd been given the proper advice during his 8-week vaccinations, we wouldn't have let her hold him for 14 days then, either, and that my partner and I also would have been much more careful and cautious when interacting with him for those two weeks.

She became upset right away and asked if we're "sure." I said yes, and she said: "You need to make an exception for them, though. They're very excited to hold him, he's their first great-grandchild, and this may be the only chance they get." I said that I'm unwilling to risk my son OR my grandparents contracting a highly contagious disease just because they really want to touch him, and that I still want to take photos of them with the baby, but that the photos will include me or my partner and that we'll be holding him. She said they'll be heartbroken if she tells them they can't hold the baby, and I said they should be understanding once she explains that we're following medical advice and that we're doing it for the sake of both the baby's health and their own. She said they "won't understand" - which I don't even think is true, by the way, as they've both always been extremely understanding people - and I said they don't have to understand to respect our wishes as his parents. She said they "deserve" to hold him, and I pointed out that no one is automatically entitled to physical access to a baby that isn't theirs, and that if we say they can't hold him, it's a concrete no. She said she's very disappointed, and I said that we're disappointed too - we were also excited for them to hold him! - but that, again, we're going to follow the advice of our pediatrician.

She became very withdrawn, disappeared upstairs to phone her parents to explain, then went out shopping shortly after. Since coming home, she hasn't spoken to us and has isolated herself to her bedroom. When we heard the front door open, we greeted her, and she totally ignored us both to go upstairs and close her door. My partner thinks I should go up to knock on her door and speak to her more about it - she said it might be worth apologising for coming across stubborn and not being more apologetic during our initial conversation earlier - but I genuinely don't see the point. I highly doubt it'll make a difference, and I don't feel I should have to apologise for her trying to disrespect our boundaries and ignore medical advice.

So AITJ

TL;DR I told my mum that her parents can't hold my son during their visit because he's just been vaccinated and our pediatrician directly told us to avoid contact with anyone except the two of us. She tried to insist we make an exception and I said no. Now she's ignoring us.

Hi all, looking for genuine unbiased advice because I'm a bit split on this one.

My fiancée (27F) and I (29NB) are regulars at a local coffee shop. We go 3-4 days a week, and are very friendly with the staff, who especially love that we bring in our 11-week-old son, ask how he's doing, comment on how much he's growing, etc. One member of staff even recommended that my fiancée apply for a job there once her maternity leave ends at her current place of employment.

We have a very calm baby, and we're very good at reading his cues. By the time he's fussing for food, we've almost always prepared a bottle already, and the longest he's ever cried for is 2-3 minutes. If he gets agitated, which is rare, I'll either stand up and walk around with him as this usually calms him fairly quickly, or, failing that, I'll take him outside until he's quiet, which I consider common courtesy. The staff and other regulars have remarked on how pleased they are that he's mostly quiet, smiley, and well-behaved.

The café is dog-friendly, which we don't mind at all. Most of the dogs we see there are very calm and well-behaved, almost always leashed, and owned by other regulars so we greet and engage with them often.

Today, we were chatting with another young couple (40s M and F) who we see there often, talking about the baby, life in our new town, etc. We were the only patrons in the café at the time. An older lady (probably in her 60s) entered with a chihuahua, placed her order, and took a seat at a table across from us.

When the barista (20s F) brought the customer's coffee and cake to the table, she asked if she could say hi to the dog. The customer said yes, and when the barista knelt to pet it, it became very excitable and started yapping loudly. This agitated my sleeping son, who woke up in my arms and started crying immediately.

The barista turned to apologise to me, and I told her it was no problem at all and not her fault. The customer gave me a quick "sorry" too but made absolutely no effort to move from her seat or try to calm the dog, much less take it outside.

I did the usual - stood up with my son over my shoulder and paced a bit, patted his back, shushed and whispered to him - and I was ready to walk to the door to calm him outside the shop, when the customer with the dog, who was still just sitting enjoying her coffee while her dog continued yapping, said, "it's VERY rude not to take a crying baby outside."

I'll admit I got pretty defensive, and I pointed out that he was only upset because of her dog. She said it wasn't her fault the dog was being loud - she said it was the barista's fault for "bothering" it - and I told her it's not the barista's fault that her dog is poorly trained. I asked why she wasn't even trying to get it to calm down, and she said, "well you know what dogs are like!" I ignored her, turned to leave the café, and changed my mind. I stayed inside and continued calming him down.

After a few minutes, the dog calmed down on its own, but my son was still crying, although nowhere near as loud as before. The customer told me AGAIN that I should take him outside, and I asked why. She said he was disturbing her while she tried to read her book, and I said, "you know what babies are like. He'll stop eventually." She told me I was being inconsiderate and I ignored her.

She flagged down a barista and instructed her to tell me I had to take the baby outside. The barista replied that my son is usually extremely calm and that his response to her yapping dog is the only time she's ever seen him so upset. The customer said I should remove him "for the sake of the other customers too" and one of the other regulars, who was still sat at the table next to my fiancée, said he and his wife weren't bothered by the crying at all. The customer said that either way, it was ruining HER experience, and the barista said that if it was bothering her that much, she could pour the rest of her coffee into a takeaway cup to take with her. The customer begrudgingly accepted and left without saying another word to either me or the staff.

After she left, I took my son outside as I usually do and he calmed down after a while. When we left, the staff thanked us for visiting as usual, apologised again for the incident, and wished us a good and hassle-free rest of our day.

My fiancée agrees I did the right thing, but did later tell me that the other regulars admitted to her during my conversation with the customer that they WERE a bit bothered by the crying but defended me because the customer was being so rude to me. Since she told me that, I've been wondering if it was worth keeping him inside just to be petty and make a point.

AITJ?

TL;DR I planned to take my crying baby outside after he became upset when a dog started yapping in a café I was visiting, but stayed inside to make a point after the dog owner told me it was "rude" to keep him inside while making absolutely no attempt to calm her dog or remove it from the café.

I (29NB) recently moved back to my hometown with my fiancée (27F) and son (11 weeks). We're staying with my mother (57F) indefinitely due to financial difficulty.

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We live in an extremely small, tight-knit town. It's the kind of place where strangers say hi to each other in passing, strike up conversations with you in cafés, all know each other, etc.

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This doesn't cause many problems but we've noticed that strangers feel far too comfortable touching our baby. On at least three occasions, people (usually seniors) who have stopped to tell us that our baby is cute have touched him unprompted, usually on his hands or pinching his cheeks. This makes us extremely uncomfortable, particularly since my partner and I don't let anyone in the family touch his hands, feet, or face, let alone strangers.

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The first couple of times, my partner and I kind of shrugged it off or moved him away without saying anything, but there was an "incident" a couple of weeks ago where my partner had him over her shoulder, and a lady walked up behind her to loudly say hello to him, crowd him, and touch his face. It caused him to cry loudly in a small but busy coffee shop, and I had to take him from my partner and walk him outside to calm him down. Neither of us confronted her out of awkwardness, but we both felt uncomfortable with the encounter.

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Following this incident, during our walk home, my partner said I should be more verbal and direct if people touch our son in the future. I pointed out that I'm pathologically non-confrontational (we both are) but I agreed to say something if it happened again, even if I felt awkward doing so.

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Today I was in one of our regular coffee shops with my partner, mum, and son, and my son had started fussing so I picked him up and walked him over to the open front door, since fresh air calms him down. An old couple walked in and I smiled at them. The wife asked how old he is and what his name is, and as I told her, the husband told me how sweet he looks and reached out to touch one of his feet. I took a small step backwards, and he reached out further to touch my son's foot. I (admittedly quite loudly) said "Why are you touching my son?" which attracted the attention of a member of staff and several patrons, including my partner and mother. The man said "Oh, sorry... he's just a cute baby," to which I replied "He's a child you don't know. Why do you feel like you have to touch him?" He apologised again under his breath and the couple quickly left without making a purchase. The staff member apologised to me and asked if I was okay, and I said I was.

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When I returned to my seat, my mum asked what had happened. I explained that we've been having problems with people feeling too comfortable touching the baby, and mentioned that my partner had asked me to be more vocal and tell people to stop. My mum tried to excuse it at first by saying that's just what old people in small towns are like, and when I said that doesn't mean we have to be comfortable with it or accept it, she said I still didn't have to be so unkind. My partner defended me and said it's the only thing that gets through to some people, but my mother said I didn't need to do it so loudly (which again, I admit I did, although not on purpose), and that it seemed like I was implying he was being a creep, which I wasn't doing deliberately. She told me that loudly saying he's touching a child he doesn't know implies that he's being creepy or predatory, not just invading mine and my son's personal space, and that the couple probably left because they felt "embarrassed and humiliated" by how I behaved.

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I agreed that I could've handled the situation better, but I defend my right to be vocal and even confrontational if a stranger tries to touch my baby, and my partner agrees with me that the couple wouldn't have to risk feeling embarrassed or humiliated if they just didn't go around touching random people's babies.

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AITJ?

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TL;DR A man I don't know touched my infant son without permission and I loudly asked him not to in a public place. My partner and I feel it was justified but my mother thinks I was too harsh.

Some context: I (29NB) am transfem and have a decent relationship with my mother (57F), but she's very Christian and has some unsavoury views on the LGBT community. She holds no sincere prejudice - she has several LGBT friends, including some who attend her church - but still makes comments that my partner (27F) and I find worrying. For example, when I was a teenager, my brother (27M) asked her if she would be upset if I turned out gay or bi. She hesitated for a long time before saying that she would just be disappointed.

She's come a long way since then, but still has a lot of work to do. When I came out to her as trans and bisexual in 2022, she became very quiet and withdrawn and said she wasn't sure how to react. When I tried to comfort her (which I do not feel I should've been required to do) by saying I probably wouldn't significantly change my wardrobe, style, or name because I didn't feel comfortable or safe doing so at the time, she said, "Well, that's good at least." She did replace the frame of a photo of me and my brother in her living room (the old one said "the boys" and she changed it to a textless one), which I did appreciate, but it's been four years since I came out and she still refers to me as her son, never genders me correctly (even when corrected by me, my partner, or my brother), and recently asked my partner if she's planning anything for me for Father's Day.

She's also made comments about my son, who is now 10 weeks old, which my partner and I haven't loved, saying that once he's older, girls are going to love him, that one day we'll get to meet his future girlfriend/wife, that she's glad I get to experience the joy of raising a boy just like she did, and already making comments about him giving us grandkids in the future. In response to her comment about girls loving him, I (very obviously jokingly) said, "That won't matter - I fully intend for him to only like boys!" She responded, "Don't do that to him" in full seriousness, and said it would be "unfair" to push that on him, even when I explicitly said it was a joke.

At first, that was the only joke I made about it, but she slowly started to make passive aggressive remarks about it. For example, we realised his "favourite" colour is pink; he loves to stare at a bright pink wall in my mother's house, only likes the pink side of a pink/green reversible toy we got him, and wouldn't stop staring at a pink bubble tea plush in a store, which we ended up buying for him. When I told my mum his favourite colour is pink, she made a point of saying, "That does NOT mean he's gay," which prompted me to say, "Yeah, it actually does."

During a trip out in town, I pointed out a small girl dressed in a cute princess costume, and my mum made a "joke" about not assuming the child's gender because they could be a little boy. She then felt the need to add, "I do hope it's a girl though" and in response I said I would buy a princess costume for my son since he loves pink, and she pointedly told me not to. In response to her comment about the joy of raising a boy, I joked that I plan to "turn him into a girl."

This all came to a head while we were shopping for baby clothes recently, and he became transfixed by a sleeveless, frilly, pink bodysuit. I asked him if he wanted it; note that he's incapable of answering, and that I made no move to take it off the shelf or anything. My mum immediately told me I "can't" buy it for him, because it'll confuse him. I pointed out that it won't confuse him because he currently has no concept of gender, and once he does, he'll know he's a boy regardless of what clothes he used to wear. She then said I shouldn't buy it because when he looks back at his baby photos later in life, he'll be "upset and uncomfortable" if he's wearing girl clothes in the photos, and I said he won't be upset or uncomfortable because we don't plan to raise him as an idiot or a bigot. She said that if I keep making jokes about him being gay or wearing girl clothes, that he'll think it's "not okay to be straight or a boy," and in response I joked that it's **not** okay to be straight or a boy.

When we got back to her house and could speak in private, said she's sick of me joking that he **has to** be gay or a girl, and I replied that I'll stop ragebaiting her when she stops implying that it's **not okay** for him to hypothetically turn out gay or trans. She told me I'm behaving childishly, and I said I was being childish on purpose because she was being passive aggressive and insensitive. She said she doesn't think it's passive aggressive or offensive to think I shouldn't dress my son in girl clothes or "expect" him to be gay, and I replied, "Well, you dressed me in nothing but boy clothes and I turned out a tr*nny anyway, so." This last remark made her so uncomfortable that she stormed out of the room, and I left without saying goodbye.

For the last few days, she's been texting my partner telling her to make sure I don't buy the baby any girl clothes, and to sit me down for a conversation about my jokes, which my partner hasn't done because she agrees with me firmly. My mother has also been texting my brother, though, and he's siding with her; he even visited yesterday and said it's unfair to keep making our mum uncomfortable on purpose, even after I said I was only doing so because she keeps making us uncomfortable first.

AITJ?

**TL;DR** In response to me joking that I intend to ensure that my 10-week-old son only dates boys in the future, my mother has been making increasingly frequent and passive aggressive remarks about him being straight, and saying it's not okay to keep joking that he may turn out gay or to keep saying that I want to buy him girl clothes. In response, I've been making more jokes.

I (20F) was hanging out with a friend (19M). We’ve been in a platonic friendship for 7 years, which is why I initially thought it wouldn’t be a big deal. Although, I can admit it could’ve been said wrong. It was my first time being put in that position. He had never smelled bad before.

So basically we were hanging out one night in my room. It was cold outside, so inside was as well. I cut the heat on and started scrolling on my phone. Several minutes go by, and I started to get a whiff of something funky. I continue to try and ignore it, I had my window open so I thought maybe there was a skunk or a smelly trash can blowing in the wind. I closed my window and sat at the top of my bed. He was lying at the bottom, under the comforter. We spark up a conversation and some more time goes by. The warmer it became, the smell worsened. It was unbearable..to the point where not only was it giving me a headache, I felt as if I could taste it. It smelled like hot stinky socks, ass, cheese, musk, and stale cigarettes all combined into one.

I finally spoke up after building enough evidence that it was in fact him. Trying to keep light of the situation, I said with a smile “I’m not gonna lie, you stink.” He thought I was joking and said “ I don’t smell anything.” I laughed, still thinking it wouldn’t be a big deal. I said “Well I do. It’s making my head hurt, damn.” He immediately looked embarrassed. I tried to reassure him it wasn’t a big deal but he started ignoring me. We had just got there, I still wanted to hangout.I sprayed febreze and started to look for clothing I had that he could wear to offer taking a shower. Before I could do so, apparently he had called a lyft. He got up to leave and I asked “You’re leaving?” he didn’t answer me and kept walking. I followed behind him saying goodbye and he left without saying a word. We haven’t spoken since, he has ignored my texts and it’s been months.

Did I go about this the wrong way? Let me know.

My (29NB) parents (A, 57F and J, 58M) have been divorced since 2004. J has been remarried since 2010, and A has never remarried or dated anyone else. They remain on good terms, and A even stayed over at J and his wife's house once to break up a long drive, but A remains bitter about the divorce and continues to make remarks about him 'abandoning' us (a sentiment I do not share), wishing he'd given her a second chance, etc.

On 27 March 2026, my fiancée (Y, 27F) and I moved in with A for financial reasons as we were expecting a baby. Before the baby arrived, I texted everyone in the immediate family including A and J to set some boundaries regarding them holding the baby, which included nobody being allowed to touch his hands/face or kiss him. There was some pushback from both A and J, but I resolved this by explaining that it's for health reasons and will only last until he's received his vaccinations. Ultimately everyone agreed to our conditions. Our son (N) was born on March 31.

Yesterday, Y said that on several occasions, she'd noticed A touching N's hands and face, including poking his nose. I hadn't noticed this, although it had apparently occurred while I was present, and she asked me to speak to A privately about it. When I did so, A was apologetic, but made a lot of excuses. She said it's 'difficult not to' because it's an impulse when holding a baby, and that she thought it was okay because neither of us said anything when she did it. I explained that I hadn't noticed, and that Y didn't say anything because Y and A aren't that close and she felt awkward confronting her. A said she would 'try' not to touch his hands and face going forward, and when I said that it's not a matter of trying - that her holding N is conditional on her respecting our boundaries and that we'll restrict physical contact if she continues not to - she repeated that she just finds it very difficult to suppress the urge.

This is where I seemingly stepped out of line. I told her that it's actually an easy boundary to respect and that we're not asking a lot of her, especially since the two times J has visited to see the baby, he's had no difficulty with it at all, including asking for permission to touch N's hands only when they're covered by mitts/his sleeves, and actively moving his hands away when N has tried to grab his fingers.

A said it was incredibly disrespectful and hurtful to 'compare' her to J, commented that I've obviously always preferred him to her and that I've always considered him my favourite parent (which is incorrect), and has since become incredibly withdrawn and moody. She's only held him once today, and even then she asked me if I was worried about her 'holding him wrong' and at one point, when I walked through the room they were in, she asked me if I was 'monitoring' her.

TL;DR My mother said it's 'difficult' to respect our boundaries when holding our son, and I responded by pointing out that my father has no trouble respecting them.

AITA?

I wonder about this every time I watch the show. When the doc is first announced, it says it'll air over 9 days. In the finale, Pam mentions that she only watched a few episodes. Assuming that the doc airs exactly as we, the audience, experience it, are we being told that the doc airs an entire season (typically around 11 hours) PER DAY? Would this ever actually happen?