u/MaroMakesStuff

Im an incoming nursing student who just moved from the states. I am not used to having functional public transportation, dont know my way around at all, and dont really know anyone here. I still gotta find out where my classes are relative to me, get my student card, and struggling a bit with navigating uozone. Hoping to join the intramural hockey team and looking for literally any and all advice, restraunts/cool places to check out, and resources so i dont have to pester the one guy i know here with all of my questions. Thanks!

Planning on throwing some ribbit pendants and some other glitch gear in later this year but was gonna pass on this sale because of the long wait for delivery, but that being said am i wasting my time by expecting like a holiday sale around december or so? should i just snag what i can now or is it reasonable to wait a bit?

Yes TADC is getting more merch than other shows bc it's the most popular show. i don't love the entire drop don't get me wrong. i don't like the ribbit/jax plush or ribbit hoodie, and don't like half of the ribbit pendants. i only like the default, noir, and kaufmo ones tbh, but the glonk queen plush, npc figures, ribbit figure, pin, and keychain (plus the kaufmo pin and keychain), are ALL solid merch items. i also don't love more blind boxes but like it or not they're clearly here to stay. people saying it's rushed are being dramatic, and obviously i think it's a little odd that ribbit got so much stuff before a character like caine or ragatha but i think this community needs to accept that at the very least gangle and zooble are side characters compared to the main cast. they MIGHT get their own boxes in the future but i think that caine and ragatha will come way before them and that they unfortunately won't get that much 🤷. i think it's fine to voice your complaints but keep in mind that even with glitch getting bigger THEY ARE STILL INDIE ANIMATION AND MOST OF THEIR REVENUE IS FROM MERCH!!! THEY WANT TO SELL WHAT WILL MAKE THEM MONEY!! ribbit is easily a more marketable character up there with jax and pomni in terms of marketability (i would say caine is too so my guess is he is next) but people are being a little over dramatic calling this drop "rushed" just because its more TADC with their most marketable characters.

I'm 23 and starting to get a better feel and understanding of my fluidity after a very VERY long time of questioning and confusion. while i have my moments of doubt every now and then i'm getting better at recognizing that it is just fluidity doing its thing and have been taking note of what i can take control of to reduce dysphoria (mostly building muscle, hair, and clothing). now most people in my life assumed i was queer from a young age which made me really defensive and self conscious about looking visibly queer and has stopped me from experimenting with things like my hair since i was like 8. I really want to get a drastic hair cut, kinda like tom holland in the new spider-man movie if you know what i'm talking about (kinda fluffier on the top, short on the sides for those who haven't seen it). i've gotten better at mixing up my style but i am terrified of changing my hair and getting a "karen" cut or a pixie cut or just generally something i hate. a lot of my fear also stems from short hair being seen as a "lesbian" hair style which just scares me for the reasons i mentioned previously. having my queerness weaponized against me as a kid made me terrified to this day of being visibly what people used to hurt me, and in a way feels like validating the people who used it to hurt me if that makes sense. now i know that's not true, and that i would almost indefinitely be happier with hair that feels right to me (so long as my family doesn't do more of what they said to me growing up). my issue is how do i get over that initial fear? to other people who have had this kind of drastic hair cut, what did you do to ensure they didn't fuck your shit up?

So i'm reading through the gender dysphoria bible in full for the first time and having a lot of moments of clarity. now it's entirely possible this is fluidity fucking with me but i have been approaching my questioning kinda differently lately.

admittedly i felt really seen in the new spider-man movie as corny as it may be, and have been on a marathon of some of the older ones as a result. i cried at homecoming because i never got to be the guy taking a girl to homecoming, ive been getting jealous of younger guys at my rink who get to play hockey when i never could as a kid, etc so this isn't a new experience for me, just realizing i may be more transmasc than i've been LETTING myself be. i think ive been attached to my identity as a woman because i like my life now in theory. coming out would complicate every aspect of my life, it's scary, i wont be sure, so it's convenient. that being said i dont really know if i WANT to be a woman as much as its what im used to.

similarly i was reminded of a moment in my childhood when i was watching avatar the last airbender (also because i saw that movie recently). i grew up as a "tomboy" so i related quite a bit to characters like toph, and remember being upset at an episode where she is happy in makeup that katara did for her because little me projected on her (even though as an adult i really like the episodes commentary on gender and presentation being that masc women can enjoy feminine things is a good thing).

i am still feeling confused and maybe this will pass but things like T and top surgery get increasingly appealing to me, even tho i am scared to present differently (i already present fairly masc so next step for me would likely be hair and pronouns). not really sure what to do next, just trying to consider all my options since the suffering through life hasn't been working out too great for me 😅. sorry this is pretty poorly written, just wanted to get it out of my mind and on some paper lol

I've been questioning my gender for over a decade and i've been using any pronouns online for a bit now/being generally out as genderfluid online but i'm still really struggling. looking for gender therapy or trans friendly therapy (preferably if charges don't show up as explicitly ab LGBT resource on a card charge, despite being an adult my parents still check my credit card spending since they pay my rent etc and i am very much not out to them.) can be online or in person, just very tired of feeling confused all the time and looking for resources to finally get my shit together

Starting this with i am ok, i will continue to be ok at the end of the day. this is just gonna be a vent tho

i am just so tired of feeling confused all the time. i dont know if going on T will complicate my life more and just make me miserable or if it will drastically improve my life. i'm pretty damn sure i want top surgery but idk how to tell my family, they will be confused and i wont know what to tell them. i just dont know, im not strong enough to be ambiguous with it, thats just not how my brain works unfortunately. i wish i could just choose one thing. i cant tell if im in denial and actually binary ftm or if this is just my gender changing again, i cant tell if my dysphoria is just fluctuating or if my gender is changing. ive been questioning for years, never felt satisfied by the genderfluid label even tho its most likely what i am and most accurately describes what i experience. idk what to do. i just want to cry, i just want to know for sure what i am, i just want to commit to something, i want to stop being confused yet im too scared to experiment and talk to people. i can't take the dysphoria but T changes a lot faster than E, it would be a serious decision and i would need to be prepared to potentially be seen as a man all the time. i'm terrified that i'll have some kinda of reverse dysphoria if i go on T, but idk how else i can treat my dysphoria. im just so lost, looking for support is all and needed to get this out of my system. not sure if this even makes sense i just wish hrt could help me...

I haven't changed my hair since i was in like 8, always been ponytail and now i've been adding a hat bc the ponytail isn't enough anymore. still very much closeted and figuring out if im genderfluid or more binary and in denial but i haven't cut my hair yet. i'm 23 and tired of the offhand comments from family of them guessing my sexuality or backhanded supportiveness when i haven't told them anything, it comes off as intrusive and uncomfortable (especially since im ace, regardless of who im into romantically). realized they are gonna think im a lesbian regardless of my hair but i still am having a hard time working up the courage for it. worried they're gonna give me a terrible pixie cut or it's gonna make me more feminine looking then im never gonna want short hair again after lol. how do i avoid that? i know it's kinda corny but ive got have/curly ish hair and would ideally just want like a fluffier top holland kinda hair style but know that is definitely not what i would get. i cannot pull of the short on the sides long on the top kinda look so idk what to ask for 😭 please help a guy out

23 Afab, and have been posting here for a while as i'm figuring myself and haven't really felt super comfortable with the gender fluid label even tho it is the most accurate to how i feel for the most part. This is gonna sound a little ridiculous but i felt an stupid amount of jealously while i was doing a spiderman movie marathon today. i got to the point in homecoming where peter gets all dress up in a suit for his date and felt so much sadness that i will never experience that. i will never get to just be the straight cis guy that got to go on a date with a girl and had his parental figure help me get all cleaned up. no judgement, just the expectation of being a guy in a suit with a girl...i will always feel like an odd one out, and i know there is no changing it so why can't i just accept it?? i feel like i keep ending up in the same spot and i cant tell if im actually just binary and in denial with a lot of shit to work out or if genderfluidity really is the right label for me. is my dysphoria just fluctuating between 0-100 or is my gender actually changing? in theory i would want to go on testosterone but admittedly i am terrified of hating it where as i am just used to how i look now. if i hate it then ive just made the issues ive been struggling with worse for me. hell i've been too scared to even cut my hair short despite being a whole adult and being afraid of what family and strangers will think and assume about me (even if their assumptions would be correct...) idk just feeling stuck, i want to accept myself, fluid or not, but i am so tired of looking for answers.

would love any words of advice or general support, just feeling tired :/

So i'm 23 AFAB, and pretty sure i'm genderfluid with the occasional "no i'm cis/trans and confused actually" every now and then. with that in mind i can't help but mourn the life i could've had if i were born AMAB or if i were fully cis. (this is related i promise) I see younger kids, usually boys but not always playing hockey at my rink, something i always wanted to do but my parents never let me, although im sure if i were amab i would've. I've taken the hockey part into my own hands and hope to start playing soon, but i mourn the life where i get to be one of those boys on a team, experience boyhood in a way i wouldn't be able to even if i one day medically transition to appear more male passing. i feel this with girlhood somewhat as well, i was never really feminine and was often left out because of that. i got homophobic comments when i was too young to know what they even meant so i can't help but wish i was "normal" and just had a life where i wouldn't be "the gay one" or "the trans one" in the family... i know that's a bad mindset to have and im hoping that moving soon and finding a therapist will help me change that mindset, but seeing kids live i life i wish i could've had causes me pain and it's embarrassing, any advice on how to get out of this headspace?

I have been prepping for a move recently and found many of my old childhood webkinz! some of them are pretty old (not quite falling apart or anything but def a little more fragile than they used to be). the one that is the most worn is my old alley cat plush, who also should definitely get washed but i was curious if yall recommend handwashing, or is just delicates with a tide pod and some clothes pretty reasonable? obviously air drying lol.

Abstragedy and funnybunny are like the only ones i never hear alternate versions of their ship names. I particularly want to know if its Bellhop or Pomribbit? Is it Ragapom or Jesterdoll? What other ship names have multiple options that im forgetting and what is the more common name?

Since im moving i have to postpone working on sewing and gluing my suit until after i move but i wont be able to take more fur than what i need, so i have to pattern and cut out the fur for my neck before i leave. Im not really sure how to go about it without a mannequin tho, any advice welcomed :3

Was having a conversation with my family tonight and my family isn't exactly transphobic but they're heavy on stereotypes. They don't get anything that isn't a binary trans person who cleanly fits into the binary, it's made me feel a lot of shame for looking even a little queer even tho i'm not even out to them, they make it clear that they know :/ which makes me uncomfortable and repressive. even if they add a little footnote that they don't care as long as i'm happy it feels awful and invasive. I can't see myself ever telling them about being fluid and just makes me so hopeless in terms of doing what i need for myself if i choose to medically transition in some way in the future. They don't understand me as a person, they don't understand my hobbies, the discomfort that comes from them talking about what they think my sexuality is, and their misunderstanding of trans topics as a whole... i don't have the time or energy to educate them.

In addition to that i'm 23, and can't help but feel like i'm faking it one way or the other at times. the classic "i'm not actually gender fluid, i'm just cis and confused" and then another day the same thing but "im just confused and a trans guy" every now and then too. i'm tired and wish i could choose so badly, to be one or the other so at least i have a clear path, i know what pronouns to tell people every day and one day not be so uncomfortable with myself.