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I'm getting tired of being single but like being alone

Ive lived alone for 7 years. In that time I've gotten a career, two cats, halfway restored a ranchero, got a motorcycle, got in shape, picked up guitar, and got in tune with myself, just to name a few.

Ive been single for 4 of that with no intimacy in over 2.5. I dont have contact with my family because of how the majority of them treated me. I know being alone isnt a bad thing, but at a certain point am I just too busted to be desired?

Things like a drivetrain swap, painting my car, and learning a new song on guitar all feel hollow with no partner to share them with. They feel good because Im aware they aren't easy tasks, but when i spend 6 hours figuring out why my motor isnt working, I would kill to have a partner to go "I did it! Check this out, this is what I did!"

I dont have the best luck with dating. I tend to admit that I like the person and for whatever reason thats not what people like to hear. My last relationship cheated on me with her ex, the one prior used me to move to a different state, and I haven't had the best luck since then. I miss getting to know another person without a catch. The last woman I talked to said she cared about me, then the next day ghosted me for another man. I found out by seeing them in person holding hands. She still hasn't apologized and I dont expect her to. Ive since blocked her.

I've done everything a man "is supposed to do" shy of buying a house, and while i dont feel lost, I'm exhausted.

People say "28 isn't that old, you have plenty of time to meet someone!" But I'm not sure i feel that's true anymore. I'm grateful ive remained sober in all of this, having not drank or smoked anything in 1y 7m, but man is it tempting due to the accessibility.

That said, I enjoy my space. The solace of silence is hard to overlook. Its been mine and mine alone for a long time and I haven't had a roommate since I was 19. I got to decorate my space as I wanted, and I think I could have done worse.

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 10 hours ago

I think it might be time for a resole

They're 5 years old, I cant be too mad about this only being my second resole

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 1 day ago

Custom turn signals on my 87 yamaha xv535

Next up, graphics. Going for a ww1/2 wla bf1 bike

Regardless of the angle of the cans, people where going to complain about it. I like it, im leaving it that way :)

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 3 days ago

Painted my 87 xv535

Was originally red but I got it rattle canned black. Currently making it my own. Planning on getting some stencils in ww2 army font too

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 9 days ago

Got a free saxophone today, how'd I do?

Its a Buescher from what I think is pre selmer. Needs a receiver soldered on, a new mouthpiece and a screw retrieved and replaced from the back.

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 10 days ago
▲ 5 r/cbr

Help for a friend? 2021 CBR 300r

So this girl I started talking to has one of these bikes, I know nothing about motorcycles but want to be involved in her hobby. She did a fender eliminator on the thing today but she isnt particularly pleased with the outcome. What other options are there for these bikes?

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 2 months ago

The itching is getting unbearable

I wake up in the middle of the night clawing it. I dont know what to do. I'm not sure what this is but I feel like i have tiny ants burning my inner legs, back of calves and behind my arms. Is this just my life now? Its spreading and I feel gross

I haven't had sex in over 3 years so I have extreme doubts that its scabies but no otc creams are helping

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 2 months ago

Both legs are like this and now the back of my arm and calves are too. I went to a dermatologist a couple months ago and they gave me a steroid cream that worked very briefly but now it's back full swing

I change my sheets weekly, rotate through multiple work pants and shirts a week, use a different wash cloth daily, don't wear underwear twice and am overall fairly hygienic. I haven't dated in a long time but I can't imagine this is attractive to any women out there and it's a big hit my in self confidence. I'm not really sure what to do and I feel gross

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 2 months ago

Lived alone 7 years, no gf, very few friends, weird work schedule. Just me, my cats, my car and the path to bodybuilding. Almost been in the gym a year as of May 14th

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 2 months ago
▲ 7 r/Salary

2010 - Present

25/week paper route local paper/12 y/o

8.15/hr sub shop 16 y/o fired bc manager hated me

10.50/hr fro yo 17 y/o fired bc manager wanted to bring friends in

11.75/hr different fro yo 17 y/o, place closed

12.50/hr leather jacket store 17 y/o, left for other job

13.50/hr pharm tech trainee 17 y/o, dont remember what happened

14/hr dishwasher, 19 y/o quit for warehouse job

15/hr furniture warehouse stock guy, 19 y/o, helped friend get job, got me fired

14/hr dishwasher 19 y/o, cat got out, got fired for calling off for first time

15/hr wing shop 19 y/o, left for reasons I'll leave off reddit

20 h/r shipment fulfillment worker, 20 y/o manager hated me, I outperformed her, she fired me

22/hr weld tester trainee, 20 y/o, didnt have car or license, couldn't continue

13.50/hr day care cook, 21 y/o, LOVED this job, just didnt pay enough, got into trades. Sometimes miss it dearly

18.50/hr union brick apprentice y1 21 y/o

17.50/hr line cook 21 y/o, temporary job, left when c0vid ended

16.50/hr security guard 21 y/o, did this job for 3.5 years, quit bc the booth had a stinky old chick that brought bed bugs in several times

21.50/hr union brick y2 22 y/o

26.50/hr union brick y3 23 y/o

And then c0vid happened. Union ran out of work and I ran out of money. I left the apprenticeship 6 months away from being done because the world paused for over a year

18.50/hr window/deck/door installer, 24 y/I got fired for being a bit unprofessional, didnt plan on staying there anyway so fuckem

19.50/hr open shop plumbing apprentice 24 y/o, guy expected me there at 630 unpaid but didnt start until 7, fired for showing up at 645, got picked up by another plumbing company same day

19/hr larger open plumbing shop, 24 y/o, left for wage dispute. I made them 30k a week and wanted 22 h/r, they wouldn't pay up. Other people started after me making 21.50/hr

22.50/hr diesel tech trainee, 24 y/o, trainer didnt want to give up any hours so he hazed me until the company moved me to oil pit

19/hr oil pit, 24 y/o, 85 hour weeks for 600 bucks aint it, got fired for dragging my feet

Got accepted in plumbers union

19.49/hr, comm. Plumbers apprentice t1 25 y/o

23.50/hr union comm plumbers apprentice t2 26 y/o

31.10/hr union comm plumbers apprentice t3 27 y/o

37.73/hr union comm plumbers apprentice t4 28 y/o

Two years in program remaining, no interest in changing jobs ever again

The path to the top is not a straight line. If you have kids that struggle to hold employment, it doesnt make them helpless. When I think back to what was, I almost cry. I went from stealing food out of a garbage can at my one dishwasher job so I didnt starve to finally being able to breathe.

Obviously it doesnt apply in every state due to varying strength of membership per area, but if you're interested in the trades or are pushing someone into them, I strongly recommend union. I have 44k in an annuity I didnt have to put a penny into (contractors put 7/hr in), I have health insurance, a 1.25 credit a year pension, dental, vision, and a brotherhood of men and women all dedicated to bettering the trade as a whole. Yeah its not perfect, but ive never felt such job stability and I genuinely enjoy the craft as a whole. I think my total package is around 75/hr.

Some of these are probably wrong by a dollar or two given its been so long between some of them and now but theyre close enough

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u/MarzipanTop4165 — 2 months ago
▲ 45 r/prius

My 22 prius xle has been a decent car since I got it to replace my f150 back in August. I haven't had to put a single dollar into mechanical repairs and its been cheaper overall than almost every vehicle ive owned other than my paid off 2000 celica. (Ex convinced me to scrap it, still upset about it) purchased at 83k miles, currently at 101k

My biggest issue w the car is a lack of a spare wheel and tire. Im aware that the car is heavy, and they wanted to save cost but ive blown out two tires and been late to work twice over it. I fixed that today. Went on tire rack, got the cheapest wheel/tire combo i could, and now im at least prepared. It hopefully will never need used. I'm a plumber so getting where I need to is very important. I go on a lot of gravel and pothole ridden areas and may ditch the 17s altogether in favor of 15s

The other car is my toy/truck. It's a 74 ranchero w a 4v 351c and a built c6, aces efi, blue thunder intake, painted it myself a couple weeks ago

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 2 months ago

I have an aces efi ks2 on a 351c. It ran great until yesterday. I killed the battery, jumped it, drove it home, parked it, went inside. Tried driving it an hour later and now it wont work. One light stays on w key and its been inactive otherwise. I watched one light dim out and never turn back on.

Says connect time out. I tried jumping wires and getting reads for various systems and can get things like the fuel pump to fire but it isnt working naturally.

If the pdm is receiving signal, and the screen still fires up, but the rest isnt working, does that mean theres an issue with my ecu?

I dont need a "rip that thing off and put a carb on". This thing was working fantastic until that happened but I'm at a loss

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 2 months ago

I have an aces efi ks2 on a 351c. It ran great until yesterday. I killed the battery, jumped it, drove it home, parked it, went inside. Tried driving it an hour later and now it wont work.

Says connect time out. I tried jumping wires and getting reads for various systems and can get things like the fuel pump to fire but it isnt working naturally.

If the pdm is receiving signal, and the screen still fires up, but the rest isnt working, does that mean theres an issue with my ecu?

I dont need a "rip that thing off and put a carb on". This thing was working fantastic until that happened but I'm at a loss

u/MarzipanTop4165 — 2 months ago