u/Nearby-Warning5033

A couple weeks ago I posted in here about my first dating experience and how a guy rejected me in a messed up way so he could pursue someone else. I was honestly pretty sad because it was my first time ever having feelings for someone. He reached out recently and said some things that completely erased any bit of sadness I had. I feel bad for his girlfriend and I cannot believe I wanted to be in her place at one point. Looking back to how sad I was when I made that post compared to how I feel now is crazy. Rejection truly is protection sometimes.

i guess i keep trying to make myself feel better by thinking that if i got treated that poorly by a fuckboy/player then he will eventually do that to the new girl, right? or is it just me and the fact that he just didn’t like me? it hurts to think that i was treated that way and she wont be. it’s hard to not take it personally. :/

i’m new to dating, i went on my first date ever with a guy and we continued going on dates after that. i also lost my virginity to him (not right away). i really liked him, he pursued me first, he was super nice to me and made me feel good about myself, always complimenting me, etc.

a week after our fourth date he told me he met someone so good for him and wants to see how things unfold so he has to put things “on hold for a bit” with me. then he followed up saying he wants to see me if things don’t work out with her.

i looked into it and found out that he’s actually been seeing this girl for months and they went on a trip together earlier this year. he told me she was a friend. two hours after he told me he chose her he continued to text me like nothing happened. he likes and replies to my instagram stories still. nothing like this has ever happened to me before and it honestly hurt more than i expected. i’m sensitive and i find it hard to not be sad about it lol. is this normal with dating? am i likely going to experience this again?

it’s been three weeks since we’ve talked. this was my first time “dating” someone. my first kiss, lost my virginity to him, he took me on my first date ever. i think that’s why it’s taking so long for me to get over it. after multiple dates, sleepover, etc he told me he has to “put things on hold for a bit” because he met someone so good for him and wants to see how things unfold with her. then he continued to text me a couple hours later…and the next day too.

the last time he talked to me he replied to my ig story. i found out this girl he claims he just met he’s been seeing her for months and they went on vacation together five months ago. i never even had a chance because she was his priority even when he pursued me. he knew this was my first dating experience and he still did this to me. it hurts.

i’m new to dating, i went on my first date ever with a guy and we continued going on dates after that. i also lost my virginity to him. i really liked him, he was super nice to me and made me feel good about myself. a week after our fourth date he told me he met someone so good for him and wants to see how things unfold so he has to put things “on hold for a bit” with me. then he followed up saying he wants to see me if things don’t work out with her.

i found out that he’s actually been seeing this girl for months and they went on a trip together back in february. he told me she was a friend. two hours after he told me he chose her he continued to text me like nothing happened. he likes and replies to my instagram stories still. nothing like this has ever happened to me before and it honestly hurt. is this normal with dating? am i going to experience this again?

he told me he met someone so good for him and wants to see how things unfold so he has to put things “on hold for a bit” with me. then he followed up saying he wants to see me if things don’t work out with her. but i found out that he’s actually been seeing this girl for months and they went on a trip together back in february. he told me she was a friend. two hours after he told me he chose someone else over me he continued to text me like nothing happened. he replies to my instagram stories still too. nothing like this has ever happened to me before and it hurts.

for me it’s before the last chorus of would? where layne’s voice starts off quiet and gets louder. also towards the end of bleed the freak when layne screams “BLEEED FOR MEEEEEEEEEEEEE” ugh i love

A guy I was dating started acting weird so I sent a message to see if he’d tell me what was going on. He replied “I’m interested in you but I met someone so good for me and I want to see how things unfold. I’m going to have to put this on hold for a bit but I’d like to see you again if things don’t work out :)” This was my first time opening myself up to dating, he pursued me first and took me on my first date ever. I don’t have much dating experience so is it normal for men to have backup options like this? That message was kinda upsetting

Edit: Thank you guys for your kind words! I’ve been pretty sad about it lately so reading these comments is nice :)

A guy ghosted me recently and I sent one final message more so for myself not him. I honestly wasn’t expecting a response but I did it so I could feel better. He ended up replying and said “I’m interested in you but I met someone and I want to see how that goes. It sucks but I’m going to have to put this on hold for a bit. I’d like to see you again if things don’t work out”. I assumed already that I was being ghosted because he found someone else he liked more but wanted to keep the door open just in case it doesn’t work out. I was right lol

i honestly expected it to happen but i got ghosted again, for the third time. i just started dating last year and have only talked to/dated three men and they all ghosted me eventually. the most recent one actually put in effort though and took me on four dates so i thought he was interested. i’m really sad about this one because it genuinely felt like it was going somewhere. it’s so hard to not take it personally. one thing i’ve noticed about all three of them is that they all pursued me first. it makes me never want to answer another message from a man ever again if this is what’s going to happen lol. just a waste of time. am i doing something wrong? i’m so hurt :(