u/No-Car6037

Very early on my journey. Still download instagram every day and only view my inbox for a few minutes max, but i’m trying to replace the scrolling with going out places to meet people and just have something to do by myself if anything.

The only problem is i don’t really know where to go, especially by myself and i get self conscious when i go out without a set reason to.

So far i’ve enjoyed going to the beach a lot and i’d like to visit as many parks as i can that are nearby.

Where else do you like going when you leave the house and what do you do?

Does anyone know why some people have the urge to dissapear? I’ve always had an issue with being distant or quiet and i have periods of being social or taking initiative with the people around me but this time seems different.

I’m just over the social media or even having a presence in friend groups for now, it’s like a switch that just flipped off and now i’m almost disgusted at being portrayed by anyone i know period, i want nothing to do with anyone except people i have to work with when necessary. I just want to explore and live a life no one knows about for a while.

Is this a result of needing to learn more about myself, needing new friends or something different lingering that i don’t even know about yet? I don’t think this is a reflection of the people around me or a form of self-hatred i don’t want them to change; it’s more of an urge to exile myself for an indefinite amount of time away from others while i experience things completely alone, and eventually coming back potentially a different person with new experiences and knowledge about myself.

Hi all, I’m a 22M that has struggled with making geniuine connections with people my entire life. It’s really hitting like a train now because i’ve had great achievements in other aspects of my life (fitness, work, money) but i still feel an empty void in me.

I feel like a shell of myself or only part of the person i should be right now, i have no hobbies to speak of though i used to love to draw and play video games when i was younger, but work has taken over and now i feel like a robot just surviving and doing the minimum.

I have a handful of people i can call friends and have good times with but i dont feel truly close to any of them, i want to be able to text people about random thoughts i have throughout the day or just hangout and enjoy each others company, but something about me feels “fake” or not geniuine, i feel like a weirdo with nothing to talk about and i think i have a lot of resentment for some people my right mind wishes i could let go of.

I think with more friends my life would be complete, i love my job, living situation, building my style and being in good shape, i dont mind partaking in drinking / smoking especially socially and i dont truly “hate” myself, i just have no one to share my life with and it’s bumming me the hell out.

I just want to escape this burnout/scrolling, become a more authentic version of myself, get hobbies and be able to connect with people anywhere i go. Where / how do i start?

Hi, i’m looking for anyone to chat with about life, hobbies, work, anything thats on our minds that moment!

A bit about myself i’m in the US, my hobbies include drawing, working out and occasional gaming along with some other activities i like to partake in, I also surprisingly LOVE my job to a point i could consider that another hobby but i’ll leave that for later or i’ll get carried away here 😂

Some things im currently trying to get into are journaling, volunteering and reading more

My mission is to build a sense of community in my life irl but also online, i think this side of life can show us people to learn from / about that we otherwise wouldnt have if we werent here!

Location, sense of humor, occupation, stage in life, mental space regardless i want to learn and talk about anything with everyone that is interested in doing the same. Random shower thoughts you have pop up in the middle of the day or night are always welcome over here 24/7, hmu!

👻-free 😁

Early 20s m, i have two small friend groups that i enjoy talking to and seeing on a fairly regular basis, however i can’t help but feel like theres more to be desired out of the social aspect of my life. I want more versatility in my social circle(s) but meeting new people seems harder now that im out of school and have a fulltime job.

Im at a point in life where im ready to spend money time and effort on experiences, i have a car, my own place and a job i enjoy, it just seems like i have no one to share this with

If anyone’s improved on this front how did you go about it?

Me and a friend of mine agreed to split 2 tickets totalling $30 for an event. We went to multiple other places afterwards and i payed for parking on all of the other places which i 100% will not ask for. All other drinks / entrances we each payed separately though.

However if we agreed to splitting those tickets specifically and they havent followed through should i send them a quick reminder if its the next day, or should i let it slide since its just shy of $15 and everything else was payed for by ourselves?

They also asked me how much another friend of ours bought their tickets for, so im not sure if my friend helped pay for the third friends or if they were just curious. If they helped pay for the third friend i would definitely want the $15 since we spoke about it beforehand.

I’m not hurting about the money, more so the principle and the fact that we talked about it beforehand, but at the same time $15 might seem trivial in the grand scheme of things.

Does anyone have a fear of reaching out to friends to hang out? It has not done me any favors in my 20 years of life and i dont know why i continue this pattern of fear to reach out.

All of my friendships / groups have worked themselves to becoming a dynamic where the others always reach out to me with plans, however i cant help but think evey single one of my relationships now are a ticking timebomb because of this.

What if they stop reaching out first or get the wrong impression that i dont like them? The truth is that since theyre always making plans and jnitiating, i assume that when they arent, theyre busy or dont want to initiate with me at that particular moment.

Should i start reaching out for plans or will it seem “weird” now since ive never done it usually?

Lately in life ive felt lost in certain aspects. Career and money wise id say im ahead of a lot of people my age, but i want to meet more people to learn from and be able to have some sort of guidance in life that can have input on certain situations and aspects i have going on.

I live alone currently and just navigating my life aimlessly by myself. I have a few friends and loving parents but i dont feel like i can open up to any of them about life when im feeling lost. I just want to meet someone or a group of people in real life i can learn from that have more experience than me in dating, working, and carrying ones self.

Does anyone share this sentiment of longing for a guiding force during your journey? Someone that you want to be exactly like and look up to that can offer specialized and specific Social and monetary input about ones self? Where would one even find a mentorship like that in real life apart from family father figures?

TLDR at the bottom

Ive known a friend for the last few years but we stopped talking last year after lack of communication. Before not talking we would hang out occasionally and had some flirty conversations but nothing further than that. They had unfollowed me on social media and there was no contact for the majority of 2025.

At the beginning of this year they reached out to me again and we met for drinks to catch up. We met up a few more times and the third time i asked them to hangout she metioned they had something going on with a group of people later that day, but did eventually let me know they were free after to hangout.

I went to go pick her up and they mentioned they wanted to bring someone along from the group, to which i said was fine, however the overwhelming majority of the night they only spoke to the other person they wanted to bring along, quite literally ignoring me and giving me blank stares when i tried to pitch in conversations and activities we were doing. Telling me to get drinks for them and showing clear favor to the other person. We went a few other places, me and my “friend” went in my car and the other person went in their own.
I kinda asked them if they liked the other person but my friend was acting like they werent clearly ignoring me and putting me off to the side in favor of this other person.

The rest of the night we were all a bit intoxicated and just kinda went our own ways speaking to a bunch of different people before we all went home.

It was the shittiest night i’ve had in recent memory and i should have set a boundary, i just feel like if she didnt want me to tag along she could have just said that, but actively brought this other person which they clearly seemed to enjoy their company way more and just brushed me off to the side for a large part of the night.

Now i feel like an idiot because we’ve kept talking and hanging out a few months after that shit night, the rest of the times we met afterwards have been decent, a few times they showed interest in my hobbies, showing physical affection and overall attentiveness to making the friendship grow as had i. However recently theyve been cold on me again, not initiating contact and being dry in conversations i try to start and the last time we hung out was very souless, they even said we should go separate places during our meet up and we barely even talked the brief time we were in each others presence.

Tonight was the reason im making this post though, earlier this year i had suggested we meet up at a certain place but they suggested we go elsewhere because they had heard bad things happen at the place i propsed to which i was unaware of, which was fine by me, we just went elsewhere tha night. But just tonight i was invited by a mutual friend of ours to the exact same place i had suggested in a group hangout and mentioned that she was there?? I’ve just been asking myself all night why they would go with other people but not me, its like they make exceptions for other people that they wouldnt do for me, and further proves that this person didnt even think of inviting me when they usually do in group settings like this.

Im not gonna lie im scared of losing this person and after typing all of this out i dont know why or how i am afraid of losing them.

TLDR: Friend initiated contact with me again this year after not talking at all last year, but has been hot and cold on me and shown that they clearly dont hold me to the same importance as other people, even though they had consistently showed affection and enjoyment of our friendship earlier this year.