u/NoTrainer6840

There was mention of a Discord a while back, and I apologize that it wasn't being worked on. It's almost completed, and you can help us make it what we want it to be.

Join in, make suggestions, have conversations with other sub members, and let's make the community even closer.

Feedback and participation are appreciated but not required.

I've been trying to pick up crochet, but I don't think I can get it from Youtube videos.

I recently met someone who, after he left I was warned about his messy divorce and how his life was a mess.

I Immediately found out, he’s never married, life’s together just disinterested in drama.

So what lies has a homophobic or just rough family told about you?

I’m an Astroglide gel man.

This is a reminder that this is a home for Black gay men. If you are not a Black gay man, you are a guest in our home and should behave as such. If you objectify Black men, your behavior will be corrected, and you will probably be banned. If you disrespect Black men, you will absolutely be banned. If you try to speak over Black men, you will be corrected, and you will probably be banned.

If you come into our home and bring nothing to offer and try to make the space about you, you'll be banned. If your question is obviously offensive, you will be banned. The patience and grace offered to our brothers is not offered to everyone, and if you exhaust our patience or our grace, you will be removed.

To my brothers, my apologies for my absence. I did not think the infiltration would be this bad.

We will not allow our space to decay when cutting out the rot is a painless two seconds.

Some Asian men are horrendously rude about this to the point where I don’t even want to speak with Asian men anymore and this hurts me so much Cus WE ARE HOT..

But bigotry is not sexy.

casual or upfront anti black racism is just widely accepted and often (in my particular space) nobody calls this out or worse they tell me I’m sensitive (yet will also be complaining about guys saying no Asians)

Unfortunately I will not share the comments I receive because simply quoting them probably would get me banned.

I didn’t want to post this and I waited an entire year just to see how common it was.. needless to say it happened a lot more then I think is reasonable.

Also “I only want the Asian” or “Asian+” makes me not into you maybe that’s an unpopular opinion but I think less of guys who aren’t open minded.

Anyone else in an interracial relationship and have noticed mistreatment of one or both of you?

It's been mostly civil the last few weeks. The lion's share of the removed posts has all been >!BBC!< posts. In the same energy, most of the bans have been individuals who infiltrated the space and were instantly removed. Two of them, I believe, on their first comment in the sub.

We've run into a problem where people are being nasty to each other. If you jump onto someone's post just to be negative, it's likely your comment will be removed under rule 3 Respect and Empathy. It's not your place to tell people to go somewhere else or that no one wants to talk about X or Y. We have 4K visitors to this sub, and 5 of you are deciding for everyone. It won't continue; that will be rule 8 with a warning.

The theater performance I'm in closes this week, but then I've got graduation stuff to do with friends; hopefully, I can work on the Discord server soon.

Thanks everyone!