the "bop" epidemic

it's scary that this is even a thing and it's normalised...

for the uninitiated, it's basically young-looking/teenage girls who post themselves dancing/taking pics/lipsyncing to songs on tiktok and instagram, which older predatory men call "bops" and "bopettes". usually these girls have a child-like innocent look about them and are flat, petite and short - often wearing braces, glasses, pigtails, or certain items of clothing like shorts or tighter two-piece sets which these men refer to as 'triggers' (things that turn them on)

and it's quite literally everywhere, it seems like. tiktok and twitter in particular are the worst for it. they have hundreds of accounts dedicated to posting these (often underage) girls dancing and labelling them as bops/bopettes/"goonfuel", the more popular accounts having HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF FOLLOWERS!!! and of course, reporting it does absolutely nothing.

with the constant predatory societal need for women and girls to be palatable and sexually attractive to be considered human beings, when does it eventually become enough? when do we finally put a stop to this garbage? why does it feel like nobody cares??

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u/No_Candidate2195 — 7 days ago

hot take: NFR is not her best album or her magnum opus.

after listening to the whole thing from start to end, i don't understand why so many lana fans consider it her best, and i would love it if y'all would tell me why they think it is. if you want to, tell me what your favourite album is.

(disclaimer: i'm not saying NFR is an awful album. this is meant to be a post for casual discussions, please don't get nasty)
(edit 2: like i said this isn't a post of me trying to be rude or say that NFR is a bad album - some of you in these replies clearly don't understand/can't read the disclaimer. if you're actually offended by this post i'm a little worried for you ngl...)

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u/No_Candidate2195 — 12 days ago
▲ 4.6k r/short+1 crossposts

I hope this helps some of you.

I’ve wanted to write this post for a while, and I talked with my ex beforehand and she was totally okay with me sharing this and posting some SFW photos of us together.

I’m 3’7”. She’s 5’6” and 18 years younger than me.

We met on Tinder, and honestly, we had an amazing relationship. We were together for three years. We eventually grew apart, and that’s okay. Relationships sometimes end. That doesn’t erase the fact that they were real, meaningful, and beautiful while they lasted.

The reason I wanted to post this is because I see so many guys in here believing height automatically disqualifies them from love, attraction, dating, relationships, or being desired. I promise you it does not.

When I met her, I was in my early 40s and around 35 pounds overweight. I wasn’t rich. I wasn’t some male model. I wasn’t trying to be “alpha.” I was just fully myself.

At one point I asked her, “Why did you pick me?” Especially because she had dated professional athletes, model type guys, tall guys, all of that.

Her answer stuck with me.

She said it was my confidence and the fact that my photos looked like I actually lived life.

My dating profile wasn’t me standing in front of a mirror trying to look tough. It was photos of me hiking, gold panning, flying RC helicopters, traveling, laughing, building things, exploring, being passionate about life. It showed curiosity, energy, and that I actually enjoyed being alive.

That matters way more than most guys think.

A lot of attraction is emotional experience. It’s how someone feels around you. It’s your energy, confidence, humor, passion, purpose, and ability to make someone feel safe, excited, seen, and alive.

And yeah, some people are going to say, “But you’re not still together.”

Correct. Relationships end sometimes. That’s life. This was my fourth serious relationship. Before that, I was married for 17 years. None of that changes the fact that I’ve been deeply loved multiple times in my life as a very short man.

So I just wanted to post this for the younger guys in here, or honestly any person struggling with confidence:

You do not need to be tall to be desired.

You do not need to become someone else.

You do not need to give up on dating because of your height.

Build a life that feels exciting to YOU. Become someone engaged with the world. Learn how to connect with people. Develop confidence through action, not fantasy.

People are attracted to people who are alive inside.

I hope this helps some of you.

u/No_Candidate2195 — 1 month ago
▲ 175 r/ugly

the halo effect strikes again!

post is completely unrelated to her looks. she was picking a few times at her acne, and the comments were basically roasting her for how she looks. don't worry about the ethical standards of shein temu and amazon - or anything at all really - if you're ugly apparently!

i've seen attractive and average ppl post similar things on this topic and get people agreeing with them and expressing their shock. most of the comments looked exactly like the screenshots. people proceeded to then go to her other posts and attack her for her looks which is insane but unsurprising...

u/No_Candidate2195 — 2 months ago

i know that water isn't a meal, but it's all i had near me because i've been crying all day and don't want to get out of bed to go eat. i'm going to die alone.

my life is miserable. everyday i wake up wishing i could've died in my sleep and it never happens. 20 years of neverending suffering, torture and embarrassments.

u/No_Candidate2195 — 2 months ago
▲ 53 r/ugly

the video was basically her showing the before and after of her putting on a slimming filter and the comments were crazy

u/No_Candidate2195 — 2 months ago
▲ 120 r/unlovablecirclejerk+1 crossposts

Also women my age (25):

"I'm too busy to talk to you lol"

(Ghosts me even though they're online)

(Actual a rude piece of-... she literally logged on all her accounts to block me even dead ones)

(Has kids)

I could be delusional but I think women younger or equal to 23 show me 1% better respect:

u/Fluffy_Lunchfast — 2 months ago
▲ 23 r/ugly

i wish i was atleast normal looking bro my reflection makes me suicidal and wanna rip my skin off!!!! life is such a gift right guys???

the fact a good amount of my ugly features arent saveable with surgery lol its so over for Me boi

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u/No_Candidate2195 — 2 months ago