u/Ok-Conclusion5205

I cant spell

Shit at grammar

So sick of being mocked for it

Is there is silent competition

Its never enough, attracts bums and leeches.

People get jealous

What have I got myself into

Like lost his mind at me...

Shouting swearing....I told you what a waste of money you stupid bloody woman.

What's up with that

Looking at my married and unmarried friends and the jealousy's between them.

Singles envy the support and it seems married envy autonomy but won't admit it

There is a real bitterness now. Before it was look how happy and wealthy I am.

Now its he has been awful to me for years. Not sure if they hid the abuse then and lied to me, (whic happens) or are they interpreting it differently now and finally seeing it for what it is or perhaps twisting the narrative?

Money really brings out the ugly in people. The entitlement, greed and envy its unleashed it insane.

I feel like I dont know these people anymore.

A lot of hate is directed at me because I have my own home, no partner, so I have ( at least currently) no risk of losing half.

I dont understand what's going on and am confused by the anger and hatred directed at me when all of the ladies involved will still be way richer than I will ever be.

Has a taste of money changed them or were they gold diggers and I didn't notice?

They also never told me how much of a slave they have to be to their partners, telling me its equal and their partners helps. Now its switched to resentment that they run about being his mummy and now will be left with a lower standard of living because they no longer want to do this.

I get i have a different life experience and outlook which Is why I am asking for other peoples perspective

I have tried so hard to love myself.

I have come a long way and I think this is as good as it gets.

I love myself but its shaky.

Old scars never fully heal. But I am ok , I am happy but I am told noone will ever love me until I really love myself

What do you guys think?

Tend to have a little different taste and to the norm shall we say, and often get drawn into these debates with friends, neighbours even acquaintances ...

Silly things like choice of car, holiday ,pet etc...

They, as we all do, offer their opinion. I accept and stick with my preference and then this causes upset.

Any further explanation makes it worse and I am argumentative, this person's trying to help, save me money, prevent a mistake etc.

I still see it as my choice though, now and informed one but if I still feel I want the car, pet , job , whatever and it goes wrong that's on me.

Am I the argumentative asshole for not always changing my preferences when others think I should?

Are the 2 above awnsers directly related?

Lastly your age

Mini survey 😂

In our 30's been mates since school.

Very different lives..she married had kids i never did.

I have a good job n always worked...she was lucky to be financially supported.

Then the split up comes and half of the old lifestyle is not enough.

Suddenly I am getting the brunt.

I cant say anything positive or she's angry and rages at me because she won't be able to afford anything now.

If i talk negatively and mention i am broke I get raged at too because I am not as hard up as her.

I mention other people and shes awful about what other people have too.

The level or anger and envy is hard to deal with and there is no talking to her about it.

Shes so hateful and has clearly compared herself to and competed with me for years. Feeling above me while I was oblivious but not its obvious. Worst thing is she is actually still lots better off than me and always will be. But now its not enough

This isn't a real friend is it

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My mates all got married or cohabitation and I did not.

For years I watched them enjoy a higher standard of living than me because that's just life with one income.

Any frustrations I expressed were dismissed as I was made to feel I have nothing to complain about.

Now everyone is separating my standard of living is 'shit' and not good enough for them. But none of them have a good salary so no way can they keep their current lifestyles.

If I make any comparisons my head is bitten off.

I am used to it , its ok for me, I dont need as much as them etc

I was happy before this as I dont compare myself to others but this is dragging me down. The venom I am getting for just having my own 'shit' income is scary.

Ugly and entitled

They all have more money than me and are complaining they have to live in shit houses and pay bills (like I do)but its ok for me because I am used to it and its enough for me.

They look down on me dont they ?