u/Ok_Assumption_3866

This is my most embarrassing secret, but it’s genuinely so funny I need to share it.

I grew up not having a dad around at all. I had a single mom and she was so incredible I truly never felt like I needed a dad or wanted any relationship with him. I only asked to see what he looked like a couple times, only enough to have a general picture. My mom had this one Polaroid of her, him, and their friend at some party. Now I don’t know why I thought this, as I am pale as snow, but I always assumed the guy in the photo who was black was my dad. My mom never pointed to what one was my dad but she didn’t think she had to given the fact that I am not black. I never even looked him up on social media or anything which I SHOULD HAVE. I told all my friends I was mixed and would talk about being black in China where there is a lot of racism. I cringe remembering it genuinely what was wrong with me. I found out the truth when I was talking to my mom about slavery ( we were learning about it in school at the time ) and I told her how sad it made me feel to think that my ancestors were probably slaves. She looked at me like I was an idiot. She said our ancestors were probably not involved with slavery in America because we’re Chinese. I was like wtf?? No. I’m half black so my ancestors were slaves. I said this thinking she somehow forgot I was mixed, and she just laughed in my face. She asked me why the hell I think I’m black and I told her that my dad is black so I’m mixed. After she stop genuinely howling in laughter she searches him Facebook and shows me a man who is most certainly NOT BLACK. I am devastated. My entire identity gone, taken from me, even though it was genuinely NEVER EVEN MINE. It messed me up for a while after and I had to tell all my friends I was JUST Chinese and they thought I lied about being mixed for attention. I am so glad nobody In my life knows this but i genuinely think it’s so funny

I am OG from China, from the wuyuan region! My name is 江桂英 (Jiāng Guìyīng), but when I moved to America when I was 11 I was given the name Victoria (Tori) after my mom suggested it from some celebrity. I thought it’s a fairly common name since a celebrity had it so I thought it wouldn’t incite the (how do you even pronounce that?) questions, but I’ve never met someone with it! And still have to have a conversation everytime on how to spell it <\3… Is it more uncommon than I assumed it was?

Does anyone else feel that when Todd rage baited that one girl while working for JD Salinger, it was very out of character for him? Sure she was kind of a jerk (with reason bc Todd was basically a nepo baby there), but he knew that pen was important to her and then tricked her to get it. That felt like a bojack thing to me. He does say something similar during the chicken4 days episode where he tries to get Dianne to get him an iPad using the same tactic, but it’s different when he’s trying to get something the other one really wanted and worked hard for.

I don’t kill the cockroaches in my house because honestly I find it annoying when the villagers come visit and don’t leave, so I can’t do anything in my own house. If you have roaches the villager comes in and immediately leaves. They are my little companions.
Does anyone else do this?

I posted about Rick and Morty yesterday and even in casual conversation with people my comments just get downvoted with no response, is it just people simply saying they disagree or?

So I have always had the dream of working with the environment, in absolutely any capacity. Whether it be with animal or the earth itself, I have always had the incredible and strong drive to work in this field. The problem comes from me not having access to a higher education because of personal finances, I’ve tried to attend a 2 year school but couldn’t afford to keep going and there’s no possible way I can get financial aid or anything. I’ve been having trouble accepting it recently because I have such a devotion to environmental work. I want to know if I would be able to still work somewhere in the field without a degree. I don’t want to accept that I need to work somewhere random for my entire life and not persue my biggest dream just because I wasn’t blessed with a rich family or scholarships. I am very well spoken, educated in my own time, and more than anything I truly care about what I’m doing. Does anyone know what kind of jobs, if any, I would be able to find with no experience or degree? I am located in the Pennsylvania area and I’m aware there probably isn’t many opportunities for me outside of working in a park or something of the sort. Ideally I could get a solid starting point and work my way up from there, but is that even a possibility for me? If anyone has any information or personal experiences with this I would be greatly appreciative 🙏

So before I start YES I know it is bad to waste doctors time a resources. However, I do have a chronic illness.

So I’m not sure why exactly, but I have a huge phobia of anything medical. From needles to even an exam, I get scared by all of it. But for some reason I also kind of enjoy it? I’m half scared and feel half comforted by feeling cared for. I like the feeling of people caring about me, checking in on me, touching me, and overall seeming like they just care about how I feel. I’m not sure if it’s a loneliness thing or something, but it’s an odd feeling. I found myself wanting to go to the urgent care even if I feel “fine” just so I can feel like I’m being taken care of. They’ll give me IV fluids, check on me often, and give me warm blankets and water. I know it’s bad to be using up a bed that someone else may need, but I can’t stop. I only do it like once every 5 months or so, but I don’t get why I like it so much. I enjoy how sympathetic the nurses are, and how sweet they can be. I like when they come in and put the blanket on me or comfort me while I’m getting the IV put in. Part of me feels as though it’s just loneliness, but I’ve been this way ever since I was a kid. Like I just want people to feel bad for me or pity me and want to take care of me. But at the same time I am genuinely petrified of everything they are doing, so I feel conflicted as to what is even going on. I even get the feeling at the gynecologist or the orthodontist, literally any kind of medical doctor I want them to baby me and comfort me.

Is it bad I lie to go to the doctor just so I can feel cared for?

EDIT: I mentioned having a chronic illness and forgot to elaborate. I have POTS and often feel pretty shit, but sometimes I kind of exaggerate my symptoms to them. I KNOW IM AWFUL I KNOW.

Edit 2: the ER is never filled or busy when I go. It’s normally practically vacant with maybe one or two flu patients in the waiting room and the wait is never more than 30 minutes where I am. I wouldn’t go if I knew there was people who were like life or death waiting.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating a little over a year, but I haven’t met any one of his friends. He’s met mine, and he hangs out with his friends pretty often but I’ve never once been invited. Even his best friends who he has known his whole life. He will talk about them to me often and I’m pretty sure they know about me. I don’t want to bring it up because then I know that if he ever invited me it was only because I said something. Is this something that’s normal with some people or is it a red flag I should pay attention to.

I have a baby corn snake I’ve had for about a month now, and I noticed he prefers to stay burrowed and alone. He’s never once struck at me and will tolerate being picked up and seems to enjoy sitting inside my shirt with me while I sit and do my work, but I don’t do this very often. Maybe once a week, if he seems up for it. This is my first snake so I don’t know if im meant to be handling him daily or if it’s okay if I let him be and only take him out occasionally, or will this make him aggressive in the future? I handle him for a few hours before feeding and then after I feed him he slinks away to burrow and I leave him be for a few days until he comes out again. Should I be trying to take him out more?

Edit - I am used to having and working with cats as well as multiple small rodents and the case for them is usually Don’t handle enough = aggression and fear of handling in the future. I’m basing my knowledge off of that but I know reptiles are a lot different

Sometimes I wonder if you were to constantly tug on one piece of hair if it would grow quicker… am I crazy or would this work

I’ve heard people sleep with braids and it’s made their hair grow quicker (not sure if it’s true or a placebo) but in theory I don’t get why it wouldn’t work…

This all happened back in highschool and not to dwell on past experiences, but I always wonder if I should have snitched in this situation.

So back in highschool I was loosely involved in a friend group I didn’t realize wanted nothing to do with me. I was only really included in the group because I was dating the “main guy” of the group. I had zero friends for a majority of my life and was shocked that a popular guy even wanted to date me, so I repeatedly tried to include myself but was time and time again left out. I did have what I thought was two best friends in the group who sometimes spoke to me but often hung out without me. I made the mistake of confiding in one of them about how I was being mistreated by my boyfriend, and I was growing very unhappy with how horribly he was to me. She pretended to listen and even consoled me while I cried. That weekend we had the prom and a beach house trip I was looking foreword to because i have never been included in on something before. I ended up not being able to go because I was at a funeral for a family friend. That weekend, the friend I had confided in decided to lose her virginity to my boyfriend and then tell me about it over Snapchat. But she didn’t tell me right away, she stayed on pretending to be my close friend helping me through the breakup as the guy decided to dump me over snap that same day. After i found out they all dumped me and left me completely and utterly alone. I was in a pretty rough spot mentally and was so upset that after everything and how much I just wanted to be liked and have friends, they all got off looking at me like I was some loser. They started talking badly about me and my boyfriend shared some pretty fucked up personal traumas of mine as a joke to the group. After all of this I nearly had snitched on them to the principal about doing illegal substances at the school which I had proof of. They warned me that reporting them would make them unable to walk the stage at graduation and everything inside me wanted to get revenge and tell. But I didn’t. I often wonder how different things would have been if I had ended up doing it. Now, would I have been the asshole for snitching? Or sometimes is revenge deserved? I’ve found out recently that they have done the same thing to multiple other people and it kind of reawakens my disdain for those people. Sometimes bad people unfortunately get to live the best lives.

Hey guys, I haven’t gotten to the dentist in around four years because I have a severe phobia. I know it’s really childish and I am genuinely not scared of anything else in my life, but when I was a kid I was held down and screamed at by my dentist multiple times. One of my dentists even filled a cavity (drilling and all) without numbing me because she was annoyed at me telling her I was nervous. (That tooth now needs a root canal - go figure) I was wondering if there was any way to find a kind of dentist who is well equipped to deal with anxieties and phobias like what key words to search for. Or if there is anything I could do. I have a cracked tooth and multiple cavities so I need to go, but I’ve lost ten pounds in the last week over stressing about going 😭 has anyone else dealt with this before? Don’t even get me started about my wisdom teeth…

So I watch smosh but really only the Reddit stories but I am familiar with the cast and most of their characters. But, I haven’t heard about Arashas lies until a recent episode where they mentioned it. Can anyone tell me all of them? I know about the marriage one but in a recent games video she said she lied about leaving for a new job too 😭😭

So I have a question or kind of a general wondering that I’ve considered whenever her character is shown saying very offensive things. In her early adulthood, she seems to be quite liberal in comparison to her father. It’s shown during their conversation about how he sent her to college to get a husband but instead she came back with “ideas”. She also was a heavy reader and seemed to be fairly feminist for the time and rejected the ideas of a woman’s expectations for her time. Considering this, why was she so conservative later in life? Could it be just maturing and growing bitter or is there something I’m missing that could pinpoint her change? Unless I’m perceiving her younger self as a lot more left leaning than she really was. But also, bojack (hate him most of the time) was fairly liberal. He wasn’t homophobic or racist or any of that (that I can recall) and even said he let Todd live there because he thought he was a runaway gay teenager and never judged that (or when he came out as ace). So I wonder if Beatrice raised him to be this way and then eventually grew bitter over time.

Am I the only one who didn’t think Bojack was entirely in the wrong over Todd’s rock opera? honestly, the only thing he did was plant the video game where Todd would see it. He repeatedly told Todd not to play the game and not to even buy it, and to work on his opera, but Todd didn’t listen and played it all night anyway. Bojack may have sucked but he didn’t really sabotage the opera like Todd thought he did. From an outside perspective, Bojack encouraged Todd to the very best of his abilities.

Kind of unpopular opinion but hear me out. I think bojack should have died at the end. I recently rewatched for the 1000000 time and everytime I feel as though his life would have been happier if he had died. Because now he will get out of jail and he has nobody left of the people who were his support system. Sure, you could argue that maybe he needs the change or that it could be a fresh start but we’ve seen how he acts when he feels alone. The wedding episode wrecks me when he realizes all of the people who he has needed in his life are basically moved on and distanced from him. Maybe it’s my own fear of being alone talking, but I feel like him ending up basically all by himself is the worst outcome for him. Although he probably deserves it because he was awful, but the show does such a good job at making you feel empathy for him. I can’t help but feel bad for him. I guess he has Todd but not really like before. I’ve always wondered how things would have gone if it had ended like that.

I think bojack horseman is one of the greatest shows ever written. I usually never watch beyond season 4 because it leaves such a melancholic feeling but I finished the whole show tonight and I haven’t seen the last episodes in YEARS and it genuinely had me in tears. I feel such an emotional connection to the show and want to get a tattoo for it, and wanted to know if anyone else had tattoos for the show. I feel like I haven’t seen very many but there could be so many good options.