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I'm curious what others think about this. Of course, it is not a big deal and we have far bigger issues to worry about! But I gotta say, it irks the hell out of me. Especially if said white person also has dreads and/or wears waist beads... you know the type.

Anyway, I am mixed race and I tend to use both 👍🏽 and 👍🏾, depending on the time of year 😂 Probably I'm usually somewhere in between.

I've seen white people using 👍🏽 too, and I guess, by my above logic, they could also feel they're matching their suntan or whatever too. But for some reason, I am just automatically kissing my teeth and wrinkling my nose over here 😂

Recently, I saw a white person use 👍🏼, and I was like, Wow, I didn't even realise there was another option between my lightest choice and white. Is that meant to be for a dark white or a light brown?! (😅 can you tell i'm procrastinating from work rn?)

Anyway, please tell me about your own irrational feelings (or rational ones, I guess) around skin colour emojis... or if you simply do not give a duck 😂, which is probably healthy!

I had a date with a new person a few weeks ago. We matched on a dating app a while ago but hadn't spoken that much before meeting.

In typical wlw fashion, the date lasten 24 hours.

This is something I told myself I wouldn't do again as it tends to end up with me feeling like I'm in a relationship before I actually decided to be.. And that's kinda happening again.

We have seen each other twice more since. It has been nice and she is sweet and I like her but I'm really not sure how much or if we're compatible yet.

She is very keen. She messages a lot. And it's not like we're both hooked in a deep conversation.. It's more like "what have you been doing today, here's what I've been doing" like almost every day.

I'm realising it takes me a while to build up and be ready for that kind of life sharing and intimacy. Somehow feels more​​​​​​​ intimate than physical intimacy to me?

I am aware I have trust issues and am in therapy. I am also dealing with a lot atm, end of MA, close relative with terminal cancer, health conditions etc etc... And just generally I need a lot of alone time and solo processing etc. Or it takes a while before I'm comfortable with processing with someone or like helping each other with life chores or whatever. ​

Basically I feel like I need to descalate things a​ little and I'm not sure how to do it. I'm going away next week for a week or so and don't think I'll have time to see her before but feel this needs to be said ASAP, so might be via voicenote.. Or maybe phone (though I'm not always good on the phone.. Audhd)

I also need to get clear on her expectations and needs. She does have a longterm partner who she lives with. I'm single but am crushing on someone and getting to know them slowly.

I'd be up for some more physical intimacy, but I can't deal with daily contact or any meshing of lives yet... And I don't want to give the impression I am up for that. I'm worried that if we eg spend a night together, she might get that impression.

Rar this is a bit of a ramble 🫣 ​may delete later... But grateful for any advice!!

Hi

Someone I work with has recently changed their website domain and wants to change their email address to match.

Currently, it is a .com address, and we are changing to .org. (I'll call our org "bb" for now)

I've created a simple step by step (she's neurodivergent so simplicity is key). Can someone tell me if I've missed any steps? Or if there's any better ND friendly help pages/videos I could link to instead of the Google ones?

1. Add bb.org to Google Workspace as a secondary domain Google: Add a domain
2. Verify it and activate Gmail.
3. Make bb.org the primary domain. Google: Change your primary domain
4. Rename the existing bb.com user to bb.org. Change a user's email address  |  User management  |  Google Workspace Help
5. Keep the old domain/address as an alias so old emails still arrive.
6. Test both addresses.

When she's done this, I will:

1. Change public-facing stuff
2. Add an update note to our email signatures

I already have the password for the bb.com email address... will she need to give me another one for the bb.org?
Will the emails automatically be redirected?

As you can probably tell, it is kinda the blind leading the blind here... so any help is greatly appreciated!

My cat and I have recently moved into a shared house after 2.5 years in a campervan. There are cats nextdoor and mine doesn't like them but they all keep out of each others way. My cat was a rescue and came from somewhere with "too many cats" and she's very small so I guess she probably had a hard time.

But there's another cat, I don't know where it lives, which keeps coming after my cat. My cat is very small and this cat is big. It's chased my cat inside before and then when I've shut the door at night it keeps coming up and jumping up at the glass and it and my cat are growling at each other like crazy. My cat is crouching low on the ground but really growling and making all sorts of sounds. And the big cat is either standing over or jumping up at the glass, also making growls and sounds.
It only goes if I go out and chase it off but it comes back a few times.

Anything I can do?

Any ideas for a takeaway place (preferably that does delivery) that has a few dishes that are both gluten-free & vegan?

Thanks in advance!

Anyone know a good myofascial release practitioner in Swansea?
I have fibromyalgia and find it soooo beneficial.
I know a great person up near Llandysul, but I'm living in Swansea for a few months and wondered who's good around here?

Hi,

Somebody I work with is trying to amalgamate all her calendars to make organisation easier. These are mostly Google Cals and we have done that bit fine. But she also has a work calendar which is Microsoft Outlook and aligned with her .gov.uk email address. Is there any way to sync this with her Google Cal?

She did something from that side and we've received a "You're invited to share this calendar" email at the gmail address, which includes attachments ('noname' and 'sharing_metadata.xml')... but when I try to import into Google Cal it fails and says "Imported 0 out of 114 events. Could not upload your events because you do not have sufficient..."

Grateful for any suggestions :)

Hi,

Somebody I work with is trying to amalgamate all her calendars to make organisation easier. These are mostly Google Cals and we have done that bit fine. But she also has a work calendar which is Microsoft Outlook and aligned with her .gov.uk email address. Is there any way to sync this with her Google Cal?

She did something from that side and we've received a "You're invited to share this calendar" email at the gmail address, which includes attachments ('noname' and 'sharing_metadata.xml')... but I'm not sure what to do with them!

Grateful for any suggestions :)

Greetings!

I'm wondering if anyone can recommend any books that could give me an idea of what life was like in Jamaica from the 1930s to the 1970s (ish)

I'm a half-Jamaican author and I'm writing a book that is set between UK and JA. I've been to JA in recent years and will hopefully be doing another research trip later this year/beginning of next. But some of the Jamaica sections will be set in the past... it will only be snippets probably, but I want to be accurate.

I'm particularly interested in how it was for dark-skinned women in the 1940s/50s. Would they have been pressured to marry? Pressured to have children? How did marriages tend to come about? Were the family involved? Were people heavily encouraged to go to England?

I'm also interested in how people who were 'different' were treated. I'm talking about the kind of people who nowadays might be diagnoses with a mental health condition and/or neurodivergence.

If anyone can point me in the direction of any books/films etc that might help my research... or if you know a generous elder who might be willing to chat with me... please get in touch!

Big thanks 🙏🏾

I've recently moved to Swansea and am wondering if anything is happening for Summer solstice this weekend?

Greetings 🌞

Anyone in Swansea, Wales? I've recently moved here, and I'm a freelance writer (also work remotely in admin and access support - in the arts/wellbeing sectors). I'm currently finishing my MA in Creative Writing where I am writing a novel.. and I have a lot of words to write before October 1st!

As much as I like staying at home in my PJs with my cat, I thought it might be a healthy idea to try to set up some regular co-working slots and mix up my location a bit.

Does anyone know of any groups? Or interested in starting one?

Thanks in advance! 🙏🏾✨

Greetings Swansea 🌞

I've recently moved here, and I'm a freelance writer (also work remotely in admin and access support - in the arts/wellbeing sectors). I'm currently finishing my MA in Creative Writing where I am writing a novel.. and I have a lot of words to write before October 1st!

As much as I like staying at home in my PJs with my cat, I thought it might be a healthy idea to try to set up some regular co-working slots and mix up my location a bit.

Does anyone know of any groups? Or interested in starting one?

Thanks in advance! 🙏🏾✨

I'm gluten intolerant and am moving into a house with a vegan kitchen (temporarily).

I do generally eat a lot of vegan meals anyway... But I also have IBS and I really struggle to digest a lot of beans and pulses. I also can't really do tofu more than 2-3 times a week. Normally I eat mainly vegan but with eggs, fish and the occasional bit of chicken. But I can't do that these next few months!

So I'm keen to hear about your favourite recipes that also are gluten free and not bean/pulse/tofu heavy - but still included protein!

Particularly keen to hear about alternative to scrambled eggs as that's a favourite comfort food of mine.

But also just lunches and dinners :)

Thanks in advance 😊

I need to move some items (not loads, from a 15m sq storage facility) from Brighton to Swansea, ideally next week.

I'm looking at AnyVan but am a bit nervous about some reviews.

Any other recommendations for companies or individual movers??

Thanks in advance!

I'm an author writing a story. As part of my research, I'm looking for tree species that grow on both the island of Jamaica in the Caribbean and in the county of Cornwall in England.

Any ideas?

Hi

I need to record myself reading an extract of writing - preferably today!

I'm trying to use my Zoom H6 Essential, but getting the same problem I had last time...

Each time I record something, it records 2 files. One filename ends in TrLR.WAV and the other ends in TrMic.WAV. And both are very quiet. Good quality, but quiet.

What am I doing wrong?!

Thanks in advance for any advice!

I've been prescribed Amitriptyline to help with depression. But I also have migraines, PMDD, and fibromyalgia, and GP said it might help all those things.

I feel nervous to start because I'm scared of feeling worse before I get better. I'm feeling really bad right now and don't know how i could cope with feeling worse and still do life. Do i need to book a week off work to get used to it?
The idea was I just take it during luteal phase, but i'm on day 21 now and feeling awful (and had migraine for 2 days).. was gonna take tonight but then got scared reading about feeling so tired when you start. And i'm already super fatigues rn. So maybe i should just start after my period and then cut back to just luteal when i'm used to it? i don't know :(

I've had bad experiences in the past with antidepressants and getting side effects (both physical and mental/emotional), but it's been around 8 years since I last tried one. I've never tried amitriptyline before.

I welcome any advice or reassurance.

A relative of mine was institutionalised in Jamaica in the 1950s, approx 1954/1955 (after returning from 2 years in England, and giving birth to her 6th child who died shortly afterwards).

She was from Hanover but it's thought she may have been institutionalised in Kingston, as I think there was only one mental health hospital on the island at the time.

However, she sent a letter in 1964 that was addressed from 'Jericho PG, Hanover'

Nobody knows what happened to her - if she left the institution, or how and when she died. But surely there must be records of people institutionalised somewhere? But no idea how to find them.

Grateful for any insights or suggestions 🙏🏾

I'm half Jamaican (my Dad was born in Hanover) and I've just started reading A Tall History of Sugar by Curdella Forbes. It's a novel so I'm aware the place names may not all be real, but I am familiar with some of them so far.

It's set in Oracabessa-on-Sea, so I assumed it was set in St Mary... But then it talks about somewhere called Tumela Gut - is this a real place??

It says "To get there you traveled west five miles on foot from Ora-on-Sea, passing through another district named Jericho."

This caught my attention because my family are from Claremont, Hanover which is very close to somewhere called Jericho. But a quick Google told me there are multiple Jerichos in different parishes of Jamaica... Though, not in St Mary?

Then, later the novel says "Tumela is one of five districts that bordered each other. The others were Jericho, that I told you of, Mount Peace, Georgia, and Cascade."

This caught my attention again because there is somewhere called Cascade close to Jericho in Hanover.

So now I'm a bit confused. Is this book set in St Mary, or Hanover, or some fictional version of Jamaica that just uses some real place names?

Does anyone have any helpful insights?

Thanks in advance! 🙏🏾

There is a similar post but it's a couple of years old and looks like some of the places suggested are no longer open.

Any new suggestions?

Somewhere to work from on a laptop. Even better if it has views!