u/Original-Height-1646

I came across a similar question on another men's subreddit and found many of the replies funny and wholesome so I thought I'd ask here as well.

What are some harmless things you do that intentionally annoy your wife (or partner), whether it's a running joke, a silly habit, or something that always gets a predictable reaction?

I'm a parentified daughter 🫠 and I mostly hear about daughters being parentified so I'm curious whether there are any parentified sons here.

If you are what was your experience like? How did it affect your childhood ?or your relationship with your parents?

I’ve been spending some time looking at different online spaces lately and I just wanted to share this observation because it’s been on my mind.

It feels like there is this constant pecking order where everyone is trying to rank themselves and put others down based on their choices.

​First, there are the people who argue over wanting to have kids vs. those who don’t, calling each other names and calling each other selfish.

But even within the groups who do have kids, it doesn't stop:

The "One and Done" vs. Big Families: Even within motherhood, I see moms with multiple kids shaming "one and done" parents saying they are selfish for not giving their child a sibling to grow up with.

​Working Moms vs. Stay-at-Home Moms: This one is always loud. I see working mothers being told they aren't prioritizing their kids, while Stay-at-Home Moms get told they have an "easy life" and are living life on "easy mode."

​SAHMs vs. Traditional Wives: I’ve even noticed a split here. Some SAHMs put down "traditional wives" for having extreme gender roles, while those tradwives put down SAHMs for not instilling enough "traditional values" in the home.

​The Religious Divide: And then you have the religious vs. non-religious groups in these sections constantly fighting over whose "lifestyle" is more morally correct.

It’s like this weird ladder where every group thinks they are doing it "the right way" and everyone else is wrong. It’s constant shaming from every angle.

​I don’t know exactly what to call this but it just seems like a never ending hierarchy of people putting each other down.

I’ve been spending some time looking at different online spaces lately and I just wanted to share this observation because it’s been on my mind.

It feels like there is this constant pecking order where everyone is trying to rank themselves and put others down based on their parenting and lifestyle choices.

​First, there are the people who argue over wanting to have kids vs. those who don’t, calling each other names and calling each other selfish.

But even within the groups who do have kids, it doesn't stop:

​​The "One and Done" vs. Big Families: Even within the parenting world, I see people with multiple kids shaming "one and done" parents, saying they are selfish for not giving their child a sibling to grow up with.

​Working Parents vs. Stay-at-Home Parents: This one is always loud. I see working parents being told they aren't "present" enough while Stay-at-Home Moms/Dads get told they have an "easy life" and are living on "easy mode."

​SAHMs vs. Traditional Wives: I’ve even noticed a split here. Some Stay-at-Home parents put down "traditional" families for having extreme gender roles, while those traditional groups put down others for not instilling enough "values" in the home.

​The Religious Divide: Then you have the religious vs. non-religious groups in these sections constantly fighting over whose lifestyle is more morally correct.

It’s like this weird ladder where every group thinks they are doing it "the right way" and everyone else is wrong. It’s constant shaming from every angle.

​I don’t know exactly what to call this but it just seems like a never-ending hierarchy of people putting each other down.

Okay this is just an observation though. I have been spending some time looking at different online spaces basically and I just wanted to share this because it’s been on my mind. It feels like there is this constant pecking order where everyone is trying to rank themselves and put others down.

​First, there are the people who argue over wanting to have kids vs. those who don’t, calling each other names and calling each other selfish.

But even within the groups who do have kids, it doesn't stop:

​One and Done vs. Big Families: I see people with big families shaming "one and done" parents, calling them selfish for not giving their child a sibling.

​Stay-at-Home Moms vs. Working Moms: Now, this is not to say it's the moms in this subreddit, but I've seen some SAHMs in real life and on other social media shaming working mothers. But then working mothers also shame SAHMs, saying they have an "easy life" and are living life on "easy mode."

​SAHMs vs. Traditional Wives: Then there are SAHMs who put down "traditional wives" for living with extreme gender roles. Meanwhile, the tradwives put down the SAHMs, saying they aren't instilling any traditional values in their kids.

​The Religious Split: Then you have the religious ones and the non-religious ones, especially with tradwives fighting over the religious aspects of their lifestyle.

It’s like this weird ladder where every group thinks they are doing it "the right way" and everyone else is wrong. It’s constant shaming from every angle.

​I don’t know exactly what to call this but it just seems like a never-ending hierarchy of people putting each other down.

I’ve been noticing this a lot lately in different online sections and I just wanted to share this observation and get your thoughts.

It feels like there is this constant fight or hierarchy going on where everyone is putting each other down based on their life choices.

​For example, I’ve seen women arguing back and forth like those who want to have kids vs. those who don’t. They’re calling each other names and calling each other "selfish."

​And then even among people with kids, it doesn't stop:

​The "One and Done" vs. Big Families: I see women with two or more kids shaming the "one and done" moms, calling them selfish for not "giving their child a sibling."

​Working Moms vs. Stay-at-Home Moms (SAHM): The SAHMs shame the working mothers, asking why they even had kids if they’re just going to prioritize a career and not be home. But then the working moms put the SAHMs down, saying they just sit at home doing nothing and living an "easy life."

​SAHMs vs. Traditional Wives: This one is interesting.I’ve seen SAHMs put down "traditional wives" (who follow more rigorous gender roles), saying it’s not fair or good. But then the traditional wives put down the SAHMs, saying they aren't instilling "traditional values" in their kids.

​Religious vs. Non-Religious: Even between religious and non-religious stay-at-home groups, they are constantly putting each other down.

​It’s like this weird ladder where every group thinks they are doing it "the right way" and everyone else is wrong. It’s constant shaming from every angle.

​I don’t know exactly what to call this, but it just seems like a never ending hierarchy of people putting each other down.