u/Ornery_Art7418

I know it's always better to discuss concerns with professors in person, but I just couldn't find the courage to get up and approach mine. I've dealt with debilitating social anxiety for almost 4 years now, and any time there's a presentation, I'd do everything in my power to avoid it, it's like I'm too stubbornly anxious. I don't normally reach out to professors since I always feel too embarrassed to, like I'm going to sound like an idiot at this level of education.

So, how have you dealt with students like me? Is it inappropriate to ask about opting out of presentations or to do an alternative because of anxiety? How soon would you want to hear from that student? Is it weird? Is it an easy ask? I already have a draft email written up, but I'm terrified to submit it, what if I just sound dumb?

I feel so useless. I had all of class time to ask my professor in person about deciding to opt out of presenting or to at least present just to him during office hours. But everyone already reserved their time and I felt too anxious and honestly a bit nauseous to bring it up. He even came up to me as a check-in but I just couldn't say anything. Would it still be appropriate to ask now? The presentation is 5 minutes long which I am aware is not bad at ALL, but I haven't done presentations in literally years and I'm terrified. I've done my best to just try and avoid them even if it costed my grade. If I don't do this one, I'd pass with a C, that's if the final isn't some requirement to pass the entire class and if my other assignments my professor still has to grade are perfect scores (which so far, I'm doing great with a 97%). But I'm so scared to even type up an email to ask, especially when he was always so open to questions and concerns in-class. I feel stupid for so many reason right now, it's so overwhelming and I feel ridiculous... My friends were even trying to hype me up to ask but I genuinely couldn't.

Advice?

I'm a high school dual enrollment student in a college class that requires us to do a short 5 minute presentation for our final. But I'm terrified. I haven't done a presentation since middle school because since then, I've done everything in my power to avoid them even if it costed me my entire grade. I want to get over my social anxiety, but I'm so scared. Would it be appropriate to ask my professor if I could at least present to just him during office hours? I really can't do this. I practiced once for a minute or so and got extremely nervous in the comfort of my own room. I really can't do this, but would it also be embarrassing to step out like this and fail? My professor seems to be a very understanding person, but is also very strict on class policies and the plan he has set for us in this course. I don't know how I'd face him if he says no and would still have to do it, I fear I'd go back to my old habits of just avoiding the class all together and taking the failing grade. Advice?

I'm an incoming dual enrollment transfer (2 years left of college, senior in high school) and my university is only a 15-minute drive, maybe 30 with horrible traffic. One of the reasons why I chose this university is because of how close it is, I could just drive or take the bus instead of spending thousands on a dorm.

But my parents, especially my mother, have become extremely repulsed by my lifestyle for 4 years now, as I am a very openly queer individual. I'm also really stubborn, so I've argued a lot with my mother since she loathes the way I live my life and how I present myself. It's gotten to the point where she's stolen my stuff she doesn't like and when I would ask her about it, she would blame me for "being so careless of my things" and never give my things back. And recently, she tried hiding my Amazon packages from me while I was still in school, for what reason? Who knows, but I confronted her, she gave them back and we argued about her taking my things. In that argument, she made it clear that she does not care whether or not it's my money or my things; "I don't care, I can do whatever I want," she said. Her insults and nasty comments about me during arguments or in casual conversations I can handle, it's the stealing I can't because now I'm wasting my money on my own things that she might just end up stealing. And I can't really move out right now. I'm 18 but unemployed, the money I have was from some volunteer work I did, birthday money I never spent, and small, very rare deposits/donations from my father for my own personal spending. (Note: my father has the same beliefs as my mother, he just doesn't bully me about it like she does.)

So my question is, is it worth housing in this case? I hate my mother, but I also hate the idea of wasting money on a college that's drivable when I could be saving money. My tuition is 100% covered, but I would have to pay around 3k out of pocket each semester for food and housing. Fortunately, my parents don't seem to be afraid of paying this for me, but I don't want them to spend all that money when they don't have to. Advice?

Am I really short guy and the shirt I bought was way too long. Call me weird or stupid, but I used some stationary clips I had laying around to shorten it myself just to see how it'd look. Was a bit odd looking without the sewing visible, but it looked way better than before

Obviously these clips were chunky and colorful, so is there any other pins or stuff I could use that would actually work decently? I was thinking bobby pins or something similar. If anyone has any ideas and quick tutorials on how to do it well I'd love to here them! I don't have a sewing machine nor do I know how to use them. I have some needles and thread laying around, but I don't trust myself to potentially ruin my shirt. Advice?

Small edit: I can't afford a tailor at the moment, which is why I'm looking for alternatives.

I'm an 18 year old closeted trans male but to everyone I'm not out to, including my family, I'm a very masculine lesbian lol. I started presenting masc almost four years ago and my mother has only gotten more and more angry with me. She calls me ridiculous, ugly, that I look gang associated, and in our most recent argument just a few days ago, she finally said that how I look and act isn't normal. She's taken away both pairs of scissors I had to cut my own hair (it's a very short DIY wolfcut) straight out of my school backpack. I thought she was crazy for doing that and for some reason didn't think she's do that again, but she did. SHE bought me my first bottle of cologne around a month or two ago and I decided to keep it in my bag so my mother wouldn't take it while I'm school. Well, apparently she still has the gawl to take it while I'm at home, because it's gone now.

I need advice. I made an Amazon purchase for more men's body spray and a button up for my graduation because I literally need these items, but I'm scared she'll take it too. I'm running out of hiding places in my room, because now I wouldn't be surprised if she searched through every nook and cranny just to throw away my stuff. (This had also happened another time when I was much younger. She let me buy a pride self-help type of book for creatives and one day, it was gone from my room).

I can't move out right now. Advice?

I'm a first-generation student who's an incoming transfer. I believe I have a little over 60 units but will be graduating with an AA degree soon. I have no idea on how college works and just chose one since I heard it's good for psychology majors, my chosen major. Before you say it, I am an idiot for not doing my proper research first. Because now that I'm looking at it, my major is one of the most affected and I got in as undeclared. I chose this uni over my second choice since it's father from my home and I want to have some more freedom, but now I'm thinking I should've just swallowed my pride and chosen that one. They promised me a full ride, and even if they didn't it's cheaper than my current uni. They're giving me until the 15th to officially choose their school so I fortunately still have a chance to choose it, should I?

I feel to panicked honestly. The psychology department at my uni may not even accept me and put me on a hold because I still have some prerequisites I need to do if I still want a chance at declaring my major. I could declare something else while I complete it, but they have a strict graduation policy and in taking all of these extra classes just to finish my prerequisites without a hold might put me in a strained position.

I sent them a quick message along the lines of "I didn't get in as my declared major, would I have a chance at changing it at orientation?" They responded with a short yes, but I'm still freaking out. I'm regretting everything. I know I'm an idiot for not looking into this before accepting their offer, but I never expected to even make it to college in the first place.

Advice? Should I accept my second option over this one? (And my second option DID let me in as a psychology major). Typing this now I know the obvious choice might be the second one, but maybe I'm also panicking over nothing and my first choice is fine.

I'm an incoming college junior (transfer) and I'm interested in working in the field of corrections/criminal justice. I googled certain positions, and I can see there are many that only require a bachelor's of psychology. But I want to think realistically, so can anyone give me advice? Would I actually be able to get into positions such as working with youth services, drug prevention, etc. with a bachelor's of psychology? I've also considered social work, so would it be best to just go with SW instead for more entry-level opportunities or is psychology okay? I'm not exactly sure what I want and I was never really sure on what career path to take other than HR. The workload for social work seems extremely intimidating, even though I know it may open more doors for me. I feel so lost and don't have much time to officially declare my major at my uni.

All advice is appreciated.

I keep hearing how psychology is more research based and social work is more hands on. As someone who is terrible at math and just find the research aspect of psychology intimidating, would I be better off doing my bachelor's in social work? Either way, I was intending to do my master's in social work, as becoming a therapist isn't something I'm too interested in. I also hear that a social work degree is more "flexible" but how exactly?

Advice? Pros and cons? Personal experiences? Anything is appropriated!

I've even contacted Windows 11 tech support for my Lenovo 7i 2-in-1 and we've tried everything that could've possibly fixed it. But nothing helped, and they told me to contact Lenovo instead, as it is my laptop company's issue. I currently have a warranty and haven't contacted Lenovo tech support yet, but I want to keep trying to figure it out on my own. So far, it's the wifi that may be messing up my Bluetooth, as whenever it's off, nothing glitches. But I already have it at 5GHz, so I do not understand the issue anymore. And now, instead of glitching, it's started to sometimes bring the volume up to 100% out of nowhere. Is this a lost cause? What else can I do? I've been trying to fix this for the past few days now and it's frustrating. I barely got this device not even 5 months ago, and it's already acting up. And before this, I had issues with the digital pen that I had to get replaced under its warranty.

Advice? Assume I've done everything, because I truly have at this point. (And keep in mind, I am not a tech person at all. It's been me, Google and Reddit trying to fix my audio this entire time.)

I feel like I've genuinely tried everything; uninstalling my Bluetooth adapter, restarting my laptop dozens of times, uninstalling my Bluetooth devices, changing to 5GHz on wifi, removing filters on sound settings, turning off anything to do with power saving, etc. etc... I'm truly at a loss, absolutely nothing has worked. The glitching doesn't happen every second, but it happens and I'm fed up. I know close to nothing about technology, just that my system is Windows 11 and I have a Lenovo Yoga 7i with an active warranty.

Advice? And please explain as if I am a child or an old person because I mean it when I say I have no idea how tech works. It was just me, Google, and other Reddit posts looking for help up until now.

I feel like I've genuinely tried everything; uninstalling my Bluetooth adapter, restarting my laptop dozens of times, uninstalling my Bluetooth devices, changing to 5GHz on wifi, removing filters on sound settings, turning off anything to do with power saving, etc. etc... I'm truly at a loss, absolutely nothing has worked. The glitching doesn't happen every second, but it happens and I'm fed up. I know close to nothing about technology, just that my system is Windows 11 and I have a Lenovo Yoga 7i with an active warranty.

Advice? And please explain as if I am a child or an old person because I mean it when I say I have no idea how tech works. It was just me, Google, and other Reddit posts looking for help up until now.

I'm an extremely masculine teen girl. I usually wear baggy jeans, bind my chest lol, wear graphic tees, have a short wolf cut, etc. I started dressing this way for about 3 years now and since then, my mother had always said stuff like "I miss your long hair", "dress nicer", "you look terrible", and so on. It's gotten worse over time, and now my father is joining in saying similar stuff, just less aggressive.

My high school graduation is coming soon. I know what I want to wear: black collared shirt and some black slacks or dress pants. But now both of my parents, especially my mom, are on my ass about my graduation outfit. Today alone my father told me twice, "do it for us. At least on special occasions like this. It's you're day, and we want you to make us happy" which makes absolutely no sense to me it makes me laugh, but it still sucks to hear.

I do not plan on listening to them, I have my own bit of money saved to buy my clothes and friends to hide my outfit for me so my parents don't confiscate it. But I'm scared. My mother will actually lose her mind, she's done it before. Yelled at me, almost didn't let me out of the house... (Not that I wouldn't mind not going to graduation, but my parents would). Advice? I really don't want to "look prettier for them". I'm masc presenting, I'm sorry but that's who I am. But they don't understand that somehow lol.

Fortunately, my financial aid package covered my entire tuition with some left over, so if I dormed, I would have to pay 14k out of pocket (no loans) per year. Should I dorm? At least for one year? Keep in mind, the uni is not extremely far, but there's still a bit of distance between there and where I live (35-ish minutes without traffic). I intended on commuting, but I also don't feel like waking up extremely early in the morning just to find good parking lol.

I very much would love the "college experience", but also, the priority date to apply for housing is May 1, so I have a feeling I'll just be waitlisted if I do it now. If I were to dorm, should I just do it my second year? Any advice is appreciated!