u/Ornery_Platypus_4493

היום קיבלתי מכתב זימון לנהיגה מונעת.

הקטע שמאז שעשיתי רישיון לא נהגתי בכלל, כי לא היה לי צורך.

כמובן שאני אלך, פשוט מפחיד אותי לא לעבור ואז להידפק בעתיד.

כמה קשה לעבור? דומה לתיאוריה?

Looking for books where the atmosphere is almost a character in itself.

To be fair I don't actually mean no plot, but books where the atmosphere, mood, and for lack of a better term, "vibes" are the main attraction. The kind of books that you remember for the feeling they gave you rather than the story.

One thing I don't mean is books that mistake atmosphere for endless mundane descriptions like how many squares of toilet paper the protagonist uses (i.e. Murakami).

Some examples for books I loved:

• The Night Circus
• The Library At Mount Char
• I Who Have Never Known Men
• 1984
• The Virgin Suicides
• The Picture Of Dorian Grey
• Circe

Any recommendations?

As well as:

All of Us Strangers

An Education

The Virgin Suicides

A Prayer Before Dawn

Call Me By Your Name

It's not so much the plots I'm after as the feeling they create (though I love the plot of every one of these). I love films that are quiet, intimate, and observational. Many of them also have a dreamlike, memory-like feeling that really sticks with me.

I love when films emphasize everyday sounds like footsteps on wooden floors, creaking doors, buzzing insects, wind through the trees, distant traffic, birds etc.

Some of them have muted, grey-ish color grading that often gets criticized (usually justifiably), but I think it fits the mood perfectly and makes everything feel more immersive.

And while it's not essential, these movies in particular have stellar soundtracks/original scores in my opinion (especially The Virgin Suicides).

I'm looking for more films that capture that same quiet, melancholic, immersive feeling. Any recommendations?

There are a few extremely unbearable people in my college class that talk constantly. It's a small college and my class has about 20 people and there are around 3-6 of them that never stop yapping. It would be one thing if they spoke among themselves because then the lecturer could tell them to stop, but it's not that, it's statements and questions that are generally relevant.

Today we had a lesson in a new subject and I swear maybe every 30 seconds – 3 minutes one of those people asked a question. Yes they were relevant but they were questions that you can obviously tell the lecturer is going to cover immediately. Imagine someone is showing you a picture of a building. They say to you "this is a building and-" then someone asks "what are those clear parts?" (Referring to the windows) before they even finish their sentence.

I understand that some people don't get things at the same speed, and some people want to make sure they understand stuff, but my god have basic manners in a lecture. Raise your hand, wait for a sentence to end, maybe even write things down and wait for the end of the lesson (the lecturers always allow questions and even stay overtime for over an hour).

The questions are not the problem, it’s the disruption of the flow and lack of patience to let the lecturer finish a sentence.

The worst though is when they just explain things we just learned to the lecturer. Imagine the lecturer just said "and this is how we do X", then someone immediately says "oh it’s like doing Y but a little different" or "so that’s how we do X…. You know I thought it was this and this and when I saw that movie with the thing that looks like X I thought….." and so on.

Also important to mention that the exact people who interrupt and stuff, are also chronically late by 1-8 minutes every class and even between brakes.

The thing is, the worst one's from this group are on the spectrum. The very stereotypical anime/star wars/quantum physics/insect obsessed types. The kind of that don't stop referencing their favorite anime memes and can't stop laughing at them most childish stuff that would only make a 14 your old boy laugh. I have tried thinking to myself that their behavior is like a sneeze, something uncontrollable, but it doesn't work. They are unbearable and I feel guilty for wanting to smack them across the face.

This is a long one so I apologize in advance.

There are a few extremely unbearable people in my college class ask questions constantly. It's a small class with about 20 people and there are around 3-6 of them that never stop talking. It would be one thing if they spoke among themselves because then the lecturer could tell them to stop, but it's not that, it's statements and questions that are generally relevant.

Today we had a lesson in a new subject and I swear maybe every 30 seconds – 3 minutes one of those people asked a question. Yes they were relevant but they were questions that you can obviously tell the lecturer is going to cover immediately. Imagine someone is showing you a picture of a building. They say to you "this is a building and-" then someone asks "what are those clear parts?" (Referring to the windows) before they even finish their sentence.

I understand that some people don't get things at the same speed, and some people want to make sure they understand stuff, but my god have basic manners in a lecture. Raise your hand, wait for a sentence to end, maybe even write things down and wait for the end of the lesson (the lecturers always allow questions and even stay overtime for over an hour).

The questions are not the problem, it’s the disruption of the flow and lack of patience to let the lecturer finish a sentence.

The worst though is when they just explain things we just learned to the lecturer. Imagine the lecturer just said "and this is how we do X", then someone immediately says "oh it’s like doing Y but a little different" or "so that’s how we do X…. You know I thought it was this and this and when I saw that movie with the thing that looks like X I thought….." and so on.

Also important to mention that the exact people who interrupt and stuff, are also chronically late by 1-8 minutes every class and even between brakes.

Since it's ruining the flow of every single class no matter the lecturer I'm thinking of emailing the administration. I would ask if they could tell the lecturers to give less leeway for these questions, rather than asking them to scold specific students, as that would be a mean move.

Has anyone ever sent an email like that to administration? What did you write? Did it actually work, or did it get ignored? I’m just wondering if I should even try or if It’s pointless and I just need to shut up and suck it up.

Hi, I'm a 3D animation student and I've been thinking of switching to linux from Windows but I honestly don't really know where to start.

The main programs I use are: Autodesk Maya, Blender, Substance Painter and Gimp. I also play games on Steam occasionally.

I have an Intel Core Ultra 7 and an RTX 5070.

I plan on trying a bunch of distros on a VM to test the feel of them before actually switching. Any recommendations? Things I should look out for?

בין אם זה וולט, משלוחה, יאנגו דלי, כל חברה שיש לה נציגי שירות בצ'אט, למישהו יש ניסיון? טיפים לראיון? איך העבודה עצמה?

Hi! I(22F) have been thinking about this issue for a little while, and the more I think about it, the more dread I feel. This is a long rant so I apologize.

So I've never actually had friends. As in, people I feel comfortable sharing personal things with or hanging out with for more than 2 hours. I have always had what I call “friends of circumstance”, meaning these are people I'm stuck with and see on a regular basis, therefore I get along with them, make jokes with them and I'm generally very friendly to them, but I couldn't care less about their interests or personal lives. I don't want to hang out with them outside of our shared schedule. Right now, in my college class, there is no one I feel a connection with. I will say that my current “friend group” is made up of me and three other women I met at a previous job, and we do keep in touch through our group chat. I do think they are a little different than the other “friends” I've always had, but it's not like we hang out often, it's mostly below 10 minute conversations of catching up, promising to hang out, then not talk for three weeks, then repeat. We've met twice in the past year.

I always tell myself that one day I will meet the right people, the kind of people that would make me want to get out of the house to be with them, but I haven’t so far. I know I am young, and maybe in the future I’ll meet someone with whom I’d want to share every single second with, I can’t predict anything after all, and I’m sure I won’t be the same person in ten years, this is just what I'm feeling now.

Physical touch is also a big problem. It really depends on the context, but even then, I noticed I have very hard limits. For example, I am fine with being hugged by my parents, but I can't stand when they, or anyone touches my arms, hands, legs, anything beyond a high five or shoulder tap really. I literally flinch when people other than my parents and maybe two of my friends even come close to me. And even with the people I'm "extremely comfortable with", I don't go out of my way to touch or be touched. I simply accept hugs, never give them.

I have also (shockingly) never been in a relationship. I can think of five men who seriously wanted to date me (they either made it obvious or blatantly asked), but I only agreed once. The one I agreed to was the most recent one and I decided to go out with him on a date because I thought I should try. This guy was very sweet, but wanted to hold hands on the first date, and on the second one, put his arms around me and basically bear hugged me. He called me an angel on the second date and texted me a lot. He was really into me, while I just thought of him as a cool guy and I felt overwhelmed. So I rejected him in the end, thankfully he took it well.

To be honest I think I just never liked anyone back. Ironic that I would like to try a relationship and have sex but I've never had a crush or felt so attracted to someone that I wanted to sleep with them. Hell how can I want sex when I flinch when people touch me?

With all that said, I can't help but fear that my solitude may be a choice now, but in the future it might stop being a choice and more like a default. The mere thought of that terrifies me. I don’t know what I want, I don’t think I’m mature enough for a relationship, but I don’t want to die alone. I know I’m being dramatic, but I feel like I should start figuring things out, but I’m not, and it’s completely my fault. I don’t initiate, I don’t go out outside of mandatory occasions, I don't try and I don't want to because of how it makes me feel.