u/Outrageous-Owl1776

Hello! As a new girl working in tech, what advice would you give me to stay up to date on what goes on with AI? I feel like there’s a new app or update every single day 😭 How do I prioritize what to learn?

Hello! I will be staying in Da Nang for a month. I looking for a gym just to do some cardio. Is there a gym with a stairmaster? Preferably one with AC or opened 24/7?

I'm an Asian Australian who has been living all over Asia for the last decade currently based in Hong Kong.

I've met so many asian Australians, Americans, Canadians, Brits, and a little bit of the diaspora from other western countries in the last few years. I'm always confused about why they seem to be so progressive about issues in the west yet the country they choose to live in goes against the very values they advocate for?

Examples:

- advocates for LGBT rights but lives in countries where gay marriage is banned, and the culture looks down on the LGBTQ community

-advocates for better working conditions/pro unions/higher pay with more time off but praises how fast things get done (people had to be overworked to make it happen)

-advocates for mental health yet praises asian countries with the highest suicide rates in the world and sees people with mental health issues as lazy or unproductive

-advocates for abortion yet chose to move to a country where abortions are illegal?

-stands up for anti-asian racism in the west yet defends racist asians in asia who discriminate against expats/migrants from other countries

-advocates for #girlboss yet praises "womens rights" in countries with low female participation rates (due to extremely patriarchal values), significantly less female representation in business, politics, or any other leadership roles

-advocates for DEI and gender inclusive in the west but shuts down any critique of sexism or racism in the asian country they live in and "its just part of the culture"

-people who advocate for "defund the police" in the west yet choose to praise huge surveillance and police presence in asia (fyi the police and politicians here are always accused of rape/sexual assult/denying lawyers/police brutality even worse than most cases in the west, and doing other things against the law against the people they arrest too; they just censor the news)

There's so many examples I could give.

I'm genuinely curious why they would choose to live in places that go against their own values. Before somebody comes up with the "but they want to live somewhere where people look like them", most of these people barely speak the language, don't assimilate well into the local culture, and don't hang out with locals aside from international school kids or kids who spent time abroad in the west. I would always ask them this question , and they reply with some version "oh well that's just how it is here".

What’s the most niche place you met a person of Asian descent from?
I’m not talking about Chinese Peruvians or Japanese Brazilians because there’s quite a lot of them.

I’ll start first: I met a Chinese Bolivian who grew up in Argentina on holiday in nyc.

Follow up question: how often do people correctly guessed your ethnicity + nationality?

I used an HSBC (HK) debit card to withdraw cash last week at the HSBC ATM. I was able to successfully get cash last week. I tried again on three separate occasions in the last few days but it kept saying my daily limit was reached and today it straight up said invalid card. I set the withdrawal limit to 15,000 HKD or around $1911 USD so I’m not sure what the problem is? The lady in the front counter said to call HSBC back home but HSBC in HK said there’s nothing wrong with my card. It must be a problem with the system in Vietnam. I was only trying to withdraw around $100 USD. Has anybody else experienced this problem?

I always got taught ignoring people if they’re mean to me or if people spread rumors or anything again me. Why do I always have to be the person to put up with it? I’m an expat in Hong Kong right now. I put up a post on their largest forum saying a group of local girls sitting across of us were mocking every phrase my friend and I were saying. We have never met these girls in our lives and yet they were just sitting there giggling and shitting on everything we said or did for no reason. Grown ass women telling me staring right inside my eyes and body shaming us and telling us we’re dark and ugly as we’re trying to eat. They even mocked us and repeated every phrase in a sarcastic tone for us because we’re foreigners. 80% of the advice on that post was just ignore though and achieve inner peace. Why do I have to put up with other people because they enjoy making other peoples lives miserable? Why do we always have to be the bigger person? The remaining 20% is just people going no that never happened because they’re “too well mannered” for that and victim blaming.

I have always been a super positive and outgoing person until I moved to Hong Kong. It’s exhausting living in a place where it feels like people make it their live’s mission to bring you down everyday. I need help achieving inner peace. How do you deal with constant criticism from strangers? Everyday

I was born in Australia but I spent my childhood across Vancouver, Shanghai, Hong Kong, NYC, and Sydney. I have been an expat in east asia for 8 years and I hate it here. It has been horrific for my mental health. I felt less safe here because of my "more developed" body than in the West. I experienced more sexual harassment (men stalking me/taking pictures of me/catcalling/groping), colorism (I'm tan), racism from other asians, ageism, fatphobia, ableism (I'm neurodivergent), classism (own my own company but apparently I don't dress like it) , and so on compared to living in the west. I can't even dress how I want. I feel like a robot every day on the verge of attempted s****** but my husband's company is based here. We finally can leave and want to try new cities.

We would love a recommendation for somewhere to live.

- loved Lima (Peru), NYC, Paris, and Lisbon

-4 citizenships and speak 6 languages.

-super extroverted so would love to talk to locals , don't want to mask too much (willing to learn another language)

- I rather deal with racism than the other issues I listed above, as long as it's not every day

I met a lot of abcs who moved back to the motherland and then returned back to the west in a few years. I
didn’t have a great childhood myself like many of you on here but I l wanted to say if you were traumatized by your parents, you would hate living in most of East Asia. The racism against other asians, sexism, misogyny, lookism, ageism, and whatever other “isms” is 10x worse here. It’s filled with people trying to bring you down every day and even strangers critical of anything and everything you do. I lived across different major cities for the last 8 years. My husband’s company is based in HK.
I’m currently an expat in east Asia. My parents were from Macau but I’m not there right now. I speak Korean, Japanese, mandarin, and Cantonese so I understand what people are saying. I’m open to any questions

Edit: Asian guys seem to have it much better (as long as you have money ofc) after all they are extremely patriarchial societies

I'm an Asian-Australian expat in Hong Kong, but I spent part of my childhood here, so I have a lot of local friends. My friends and I went to a cafe yesterday, and there was a group of local girls who started making fun of us for no reason. They said phrases like "of course people from the mainland are so dark and so low" and it was quite uncomfortable. They kept looking while at us while whispering and bursting out laughing. I asked my friends why they didn't confront them, and they said it happened to them quite often. They claimed," the girls here are like that". They started attacking our physical appearance, everything from the bag that we were wearing to the colour of our nails. The girls were around their early 20s. For reference, my friends' families have been here for generations. They also grew up in local schools and have never studied or lived abroad.

Is it because we don't dress like what the typical so called "fashion" is here? I have experienced discrimination myself multiple times in the years I lived in HK because people thought I was from the mainland. Some of my abc expat friends have also confirmed this but I'm curious if this has happened to other hkers?

Edit: I’m genuinely flabbergasted at some of the comments here. I understand the declining literacy rates worldwide now. Thank you for helping me boost this post with every hate comment!

30s Couple-planning on moving within the next 5 years
Native New Yorker (South Brooklyn) & HK immigrant

-looking for decent Asian population
-major city or suburb
-cleaner
-budget around $2000 not including housing every month
-not planning on having kids so don’t need to consider childcare/schools

Think bay ridge, close enough to Chinese and Italian food bc of neighboring Bensonhurst and Dyker heights, access to decent parks, clean and safe streets, and plenty of express buses to get directly to the city but still great for driving

we’re not interested in moving back to HK haha

Five police officers randomly showed up at my door yesterday and asked to check my passport, visa, and entry stamp. I've been to Vietnam multiple times and have never had this happen to me before. Does this seem like a routine check, or should I be worried they're looking for somebody in my apartment building?

They took a photo of my passport, visa, and stamp.

I’m a child of immigrants from an East Asian country and I grew up in a diverse neighborhood with a lot of other immigrant households. I notice that a lot of us are patriotic and love our country while others hate it. I’m in a major city in the US but I noticed this living abroad in other countries too. Why am I patriotic? My parents had to take out a loan from other family members in their early 20s to emigrate to the US. Long story short, they retired in their late 40s and I had a great life growing up. (Private school, vacation home, multiple study abroad opportunities etc) A lot of my neighbors came as poor immigrants too and managed to own a home and end moving up into the upper middle/lower upper class. The country my parents came from is “developed” now but my parents don’t regret leaving home bc even the people there say the chances of social mobility there like what we achieved is slim. What causes the split in difference of opinions? I understand the whole immigrants who fled certain countries are grateful because they can’t go home but what about the ones who do move up in society? Why are some children of poor immigrants who didn’t make it but made it themselves not patriotic? They seem to love a country they have never been to before more than they love the one they chose to live in