u/Own-Homework-9331

I read this pretty interesting paragraph in a book called "Tantra Illuminated" :

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Both “good” and “evil” are conceptual structures that people overlay onto reality; they are not inherent in reality itself. But why do these concepts arise, and to what aspect of reality do they relate? “Good” is a label that we give to human beings or human institutions that perform actions that, in our estimation, benefit others or in some way make life more wonderful for people.

Conversely, “evil” is a label we give to those whose actions, in our estimation, are detrimental or make life more painful for others. But both of these oversimplifying, reductionist labels alienate us from the real humanity of those that we are labeling by sanctifying or demonizing people who are, in actuality, doing exactly the same thing that you are doing every day of your life: that is, trying to find some happiness and freedom in the best way they know how

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I think this teaches a pretty important concept to not put people in boxes. They are not an "asshole", he wasn't "less of man", narcissist, attention seeker e.t.c These labels are there as a shortcut for our minds to not have to understand other people on a deeper level.

People are much more nuanced than that, and nobody wakes thinking they wanna be "bad"

Peace! ✌️🕊️

or spiritual energy through other online means? cuz me practicing alone for quite some time is getting me confused, and not "kindling" my energy.

I would appreciate if a guru could talk me through on a video call.

Thanks! ✌️

I read about this in an interesting book:

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the Latin ‘mederi’ meaning ‘to cure’ (the root of the modern ‘medicine’) is based on a root meaning ‘to measure’. This reflects the view that physical health is to be regarded as the outcome of a state of right inward measure in all parts and processes of the body.

Similarly, the word ‘moderation’, which describes one of the prime ancient notions of virtue, is based on the same root, and this shows that such virtue was regarded as the outcome of a right inner measure underlying man’s social actions and behaviors.

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This is kind of interesting in a way, that the Greeks emphasized balance as a way to have a virtuous life. And you could be literally considered sick, or suffering, if you didn't apply that.

I think it's an important reminder to not forget certain areas of life, and keep yourself healthy and balanced! ✌️

Cuz like, not only does it seem we have evolved to have more logical thinking, but also emotional depth too. So when I compare us to animals, I feel like we have had a general expansion in many areas of mental faculty. What my little experience with psychedelics tell me, is that that they tend to *force* that.

or maybe there are other ways to look at it?

Any insights are appreciated! ✌️

I've heard it's beautiful 💙

If you've visited it, then: how is it? could it be so good, that I'll feel like moving there? 🤔

Thanks! ✌️

While reading the comments something else popped up in my mind how do you think women who are mothers or sisters or wives or daughters can create a sense of safety ?

I have this thread going on about getting to know men.their emotions and about SA of young boys.

While reading the comments something else popped up in my mind and that was how do you think women who are mothers or sisters or wives or daughters can create a sense of safety ? If it's the right word ?for you guys.

Or what do you think future mothers should instill in their children to become a safe space for boys.

So many of you struggle to express their needs and wants because you have been taught to toughen up.

Or your experience wasn't good and you decided to shut down entirely.

Or your parents weren't good at responding and talked negative things about you in your childhood.

So what do you need from the community that will help you or your children in future when we are gone but maybe something you tell us might be learned by someone else and become a source of ease for someone.

If men struggle what do you need ?

That's my fav question that I have asked you people so far...

So I would love to know.

Enjoy it. Spend some time in it. The heavens have decided to bless us 🤗

Personally, I looovvveeee fruit chaat. Especially the cream chaat...............

Also KFC wings 😋

I'll feel glad that you were......

Or are we just a statistic?

Another number, another customer, consumer, potential lead, or "traffic" ?

I don't know how it works really. But since we are all on Reddit, we might share some similar interests or vibe.

Let me know! ✌️

(p.s. another guy made a similar post, but he didn't follow up. So i made this...)

You have money in the bank. So why does your body feel unsafe?

Not "unhappy" or stressed, just unsafe.

Like it is bracing for a hit that hasn't come yet.

If this happens to you, it's not about money.

It's about something much older and much bigger.

Let me explain.

Most people think money equals safety.

Makes sense on paper ...

Cause more money > more cushion > more options.

But for a lot of people ...

their body never got that memo.

Their body learned a different rule ...

way earlier in life.

The rule was:

"You only get to exist if you earn it."

Not "you get to relax when you earn it."

Exist.

Be allowed to take up space ....

to rest ...

to just... be here, without proving anything first.

If that rule got planted in you as a kid ...

it doesn't stay in one corner of your life.

It runs everything.

Cause it's not just about money.

It's about how you feel when someone compliments you ...

Or how you feel resting on a Sunday.

It's also about how you feel ...

taking up space in a room, in a conversation, in your own life.

So this took me ages to understand:

Safety is something your actual body has to be able to hold.

If your body has been tense and braced for years ...

it's like trying to pour water into a cup that's already clenched shut.

The money comes in …

and your body doesn't know what to do with it except get rid of the pressure.

The right to exist?

You already have it.

Just because you're here.

You don't have to "achieve" something for it.

Money will only ever feel like real safety ...

once your body believes that too.

Not your bank account.

That's the actual work:

learning that you were always allowed to have it.

I find his sermons rather riveting, ignoring the religious aspects...

Can feel somewhat similar to the vibe of Alan Watts, or Terrence McKenna at the same time...

then please..... do not hesitate to visit a psychiatrist. I know, it can sound pretty anxiety inducing, but you don't need to do a lot:

call the nearest clinic and hospital near you, go there when they sit, pay the counter, then go in their room. It's as simple as that....

It's cuz feeling slightly stable, is better than constantly spiraling. 🥺

Especially in this age of hyper-stimulation....

Take care ✌️💙

NOTE: DO NOT self-medicate

then please do not hesitate to visit a psychiatrist. I know, it can sound pretty anxiety inducing, but you don't need to do a lot:

call the nearest clinic and hospital near you, go there when they sit, pay the counter, then go in their room. It's as simple as that....

It's cuz feeling slightly stable, is better than constantly spiraling. 🥺

Especially in this age of hyper-stimulation....

Take care ✌️💙

NOTE: DO NOT self-medicate

if you have nothing inside you that actively loves yourself..

that can be a long road to reach for some...

but without it, you have a recipe for "limerence":

>limerence - an involuntary state of intense romantic obsession and fixation on another person, driven by the deep desire for reciprocation, rather than a balanced, mutual connection.

Take care 💙

extra read: Jung's works