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My husband had a mental meltdown last week, and he almost broke his fist, or maybe it is broken, idk. He is so stressed, talks in his sleep, and is trying so hard to make his business take off. I am worried that he will collapse one day, or get really sick and not be able to do anything. I am also worried that... what if it never works out? What will he do? What will happen to us? I try to be positive, but I am not. I am holding my breath, in fear of what might happen. I really hope he finds something for sure. I don't mind if we have to move for it. I am so, so, so stressed about this.

You know that feeling of holding your breath under water. I feel like that. I feel like if I don't keep holding my breath, I will drown. But at the same time, I feel like if I keep holding my breath, I will also die of suffocation.

Please, God, help us. I am so scared!

I got invited for 3 job interviews. Actually 6 in total, because 3 was last week 3 this week. And I am not venting about that, I am actually so grateful. But I have to say goodbye to my company for it. I am used to a certain amount of money.

I actually don’t like to come onsite, and I wished my company would suddenly thrive, and give me my own clients. I wish my etsy store would generate so much sales, that taking that job would be not needed or give me a nice extra income so I can actually stop doing it.

Life is not the way I want it to be. I hate to complain. But I want more for myself way more. I hate it

Today, as I am trying to gather my clothes for a special event this weekend. I slowly get to know, how many people I know/knew would be there. Old friends. But also, my “bestfriend” who didn’t even bother to give me the headsup she would be there too, until I told her that I feel like we are not talking as before.

I just feel like, I wish I had money to buy new clothes that suit my body. All the dresses I had even with a corset, are not flattering. I have never been this heavy. And I have never been this stressed. I am embarassed to meet people. To be critized about my looks. I always used to the pretty girl and skinny. But I eat a lot, and I don’t sleep wel anymore. My husband says I look great. I wish I looked better

I wish we could stop woriying about money. And stop trying to find work. And just spend time together. i wish I could get lipo or something too. I want to pamper myself. I want to enjoy life. I am surviving. I am not living at all

I have one bestseller that gets bought every 2 days, and I’ve also had 1 returning customer. I’ve been selling for 3 weeks and currently have 9 listings. The biggest shops I’ve seen have around 60–90 listings.
I asked Claude if I need to make more listings, and the answer was no lol… The response was
something like, “Etsy will shadowban you.” 😅

I remember reading here that people recommend creating more listings, but I don’t know if that’s still the case.

Every time I try to create a new listing (like a variation of my bestseller), it gets 0 traffic. I should mention that my bestseller is running ads (with a $1 daily budget).

Could this play a role? I’m curious to hear what some top sellers think. If anyone has experience with this, I’d really appreciate some insight!

Sorry for venting but I will. I don’t believe in freelancing anymore. So I am looking for an employment job, but my brain can’t fathom… I get so upset with the cheapskate, the stupid rules. At the same time it is time for me to have income.

How can a company ask you to do all kinds of stuff, to eventually tell you “yes your salary has to be this low, because we want you to grow”. F off! I’ve been working with and for clients for 6 years now, and my hourly rate wasn’t low.

Also, you want me to do a role of 2-3 person. Now I am upset because I have to smile and wave, and now wait for them to reply. Like it is a freaking gift to work that. I’ve been on such low energy during those initial interviews. I don’t even reconize myself

is anyone relating with this?

I have extensive experience across various fields as a freelance executive assistant. Later, I have been trying to find an employment position because I don't believe in freelancing anymore.

Now I face companies that want you to do all kinds of stuff, for PEANUTS! Can you run the whole business, actually + the finances + marketing + making sure the office is well arranged + be my right-hand + make sure our business is structured? For what? coins! I don't have to explain to anyone here how valuable this position is. The impact a good assistant can make.

While they have multiple locations. Money is flowing. And they have all kinds of excuses. Today I went to another interview, and I will have to pay for parking in the centrum(!), and she already said, 'you will have to grow in this position.' Hell, no I don't! I have been running things for years, because as a freelancer, that is what they expect from you, and that is what I loved. Ownership, I think 10 steps ahead, I really make changes. But this is so unmotivating. And I am so upset by it.

Maybe this is not the sub for it; I am sorry. But does anyone have a solution for this?

I live in the Netherlands, btw.

I have extensive experience across various fields as a freelance executive assistant. Later, I have been trying to find an employment position because I don't believe in freelancing anymore.

Now I face companies that want you to do all kinds of stuff, for PEANUTS! Can you run the whole business, actually + the finances + marketing + making sure the office is well arranged + be my right-hand + make sure our business is structured? For what? coins! I don't have to explain to anyone here how valuable this position is. The impact a good assistant can make.

While they have multiple locations. Money is flowing. And they have all kinds of excuses. Today I went to another interview, and I will have to pay for parking in the centrum(!), and she already said, 'you will have to grow in this position.' Hell, no I don't! I have been running things for years, because as a freelancer, that is what they expect from you, and that is what I loved. Ownership, I think 10 steps ahead, I really make changes. But this is so unmotivating. And I am so upset by it.

Maybe this is not the sub for it; I am sorry. But does anyone have a solution for this?

I live in the Netherlands, btw.

After I got married (F29), I tried to stay in contact with all my bridesmaids (six girls). Because I know that once married, things change and most of the people leave their day 1's, because yeah... priorities shift, etc.

Well, I promised them I would stay in contact, and I tried to keep my word. By calling and messaging them often. One of them, let's call her Brice (not real name!), was starting to be more distant with me. We had a downfall, where I was not completely there for her. And I regret that so much, because that is not my character at all! I am there for people. So not being there for her made her not want to be friends with me back then (which is valid), and I was so shocked by myself!

Fast forward, we worked that out. She even was there when I was a hot mess during a break-up; she really did her best to be there for me. But she always was the type of friend, when you ask her How are you?. She would right away say, "Good, and you? What happened to xyz". So you end up answering, and then you talk the whole time about xyz, but you never end up talking about her. I started to notice that, so I would really try to ask her more about herself. But i am not going to lie, I thought it was difficult. And I wish I had opened up back then about it to her...

Well, last press forward again, after my wedding etc etc. I noticed she became distant, and honestly, my life has turned out so shitty. There is so much stress and stuff; I couldn't keep my word about calling and interacting. I only had things to complain about. But I noticed she was short; when I saw her, she didn't even want to be around me. And I think it is because... yes, I talked too much about myself. Until I found out, not even from her, but because there was a GoFundMe raised, that her mother has pancreatic cancer and she is dying.

Damn, I felt so bad. I sent money right away and tried to arrange something. Because I felt like, how could I do that? How could I not be there for my best friend? She was my bridesmaid. How did this happen?

Well, my life just became more shitty. And I couldn't even see her mother. Because I live too far, and I was broke at one point, car issues, just dealing with a lot of things at home. So last week I sent a card. A card to at least let them know I am thinking about them.

No reply. I got sad. But I told myself, well, I hope it is not too late. Because that would be awkward. Imagine, I send a card and her mother is not even there anymore. That is hurtfull. I should've just come. What is the point? What kind of friend am I?

And yes, of course. I found out again, not from her or her sister, but from her whatsapp status that her mother died 3 days after my card was received. I feel so sad. I wasn't there at all. I couldn't return the favor. She probably thinks I am a fake friend. She must not even consider me a friend at all.

And the worst is: I said I would focus more on myself. Stop making other people my problem. I didn't want to be selfish. My husband doesn't see the problem. But I do. I am a bad person. I sent her a message 1 day later, asking about the funeral. And even that I can't attend. I don't even know what I am bothering about? Why do I even ask, if I can only log in online? She lives too far; I have a job interview that day. Or should I cancel that one? Will I get bad karma? Will nobody come to my mother's funeral if she happens to die (God forbid) because I did this to my friend? I am so upset and disappointed in myself.

What should I do in this situation? anyone experienced this before?
sorry that it is long :(

I am in need of clients for my agency. So I’ve let a tool generate my icp according to my website, put the API in co-work and now I am sending e-mails to them by bulk. Does this work? I am just burning my coins? I am so desperate atm

Last sunday someone orderd something from my store. This needs to be printed. But before they need to use the template to share with me what exactly they want to be printed. This person, wrote in german, that she recieved nothing. It was a help request. I hate that I always have to be on my phone to answer right away after a order… but yeah..

So back to this person lol, I answer her. And even send a couple reminders yesterday and today, but nothing! What can I do? Will she just leave a review saying she recieved nothing? I am worried, annoyed.

Last sunday someone orderd something from my store. This needs to be printed. But before they need to use the template to share with me what exactly they want to be printed. This person, wrote in german, that she recieved nothing. It was a help request. I hate that I always have to be on my phone to answer right away after a order… but yeah..

So back to this person lol, I answer her. And even send a couple reminders yesterday and today, but nothing! What can I do? Will she just leave a review saying she recieved nothing? I am worried, annoyed.

My first order (print on demand) is from a person from the UK. My shop is not connected to my print supplier. I saw the note on Etsy about writing something on the parcel for the import cost… but when I orderd the prints, I couldn’t put anything…now I am worried that the customer will have to pay extra to recieve the package and so give a bad review. What should I do? Help!

Hi everyone!

I was wondering if anyone is using Youtube shorts to get trafic to their shop or listings? If you are using it succesfully, might sharing your experience and your way around it? If it is a no-go, please share to!

For me, I started posting on shorts today. I have put my link in the bio. Idk.. if that helps? 🥲

My shop is 4 years old, and its now I have put items on it (has been 1 week). My first sale was 3 days ago.

Thankyou! X Lilly (

Hi fellow Walkinies!

I started my 10k everyday, closing my first month next week. And the first thing I notice is that I sleep so much better and deeper now. my full 8 hours everytime! anyone feeling the same thing?

anyone tips on how to make the walk more fun? i have seen my whole neighborhood by by now🤣

I know substack is not wattpad. Yet, I am curious if there are people who use it for their fiction stories? like releasing every time a new chapter, with succes.

I am curious of you guys opinion on this. also, I intend to write in another language. Which is in Dutch.

thankyou!

i love to write, and I think my mind is carring a bestseller. But I don’t think books in other languages are getting any reads, right?

i love being an EA, but to run or start a business is not sustainable, if you are just being seen as the one that does the ‘tasks they don’t want to be bothered with’ how to deal with this or have a better offer?

vind het jammer dat ik dit moet plaatsen, maar ik heb gewoon te weinig mensen in mijn omgeving waar ik echt mijn verhaal bij kwijt kan - iets kan delen zonder veroordeeld te voelen. Ik ben altijd het luisterend oor, en ik luister graag! Maar ik zou graag iemand willen vinden die net zoals ik ervan houd om te helpen. Zodat we een gezonde penvriendin (vriendschap) (ik ben F28) kunnen opbouwen; elkaar kunnen aanmoedigen, adviseren, check-ups.

ik zat een keer in een internationale groepchat. was ook leuk. Maar 1-1 is prima. je uiterlijk afkomst is niet belangrijk, want gaat om je brein. mijn idee is om een anonieme vriendschap op te bouwen met iemand.

als dit je wat lijkt… dan reageer/stuur een bericht dan kunnnen we kennismaken als in; hoe ben je, hoe ziet je leven eruit en kijken of we het leuk en behulpzaam vinden om met elkaar te praten.

update: ik ben niet op zoek naar penvriend(en), tenzij het in groepsverband is. ❤️