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I have an interview at my local KFC tomorrow and i’m quite stressed, I have a nose piercing which i can easily take out but i just got my eyebrow done 2 months ago and cannot take it out because it will heal up. I’m not sure what to do as it says no jewellery allowed - i’ve worn a plaster over it to bed before but i’d look like a bit of an idiot with it on for an interview.

edit: I live in the UK

I broke my phone swimming, it won’t turn on and i logged into my icloud on my old phone (temporary until i get a new one) and realised only 1/5 of my photos have been saved to the cloud as my icloud storage was full. If i buy more storage will my old photos sync back to my new phone? I’m just upset i’ve lost a lot of concert videos and photos with my friends.

I love you and I’m sorry but I don’t believe I could ever continue being your friend. I care about you a lot, too much to the point it would just hurt being friends. For my own mental health I don’t think I can do it because all I wanted was more than you gave me. I get you don’t like me back, for some reason you can give love to somebody else but treated me horribly - it’s a big slap in the face. I don’t know why i’m so unlovable and I can’t make you feel something you most likely don’t. I don’t know why you can’t just leave me alone if you don’t feel the same way I do because for some reason every time I try get over you, you message and it all comes back. I really love you and i’m so so so sorry - I do miss how we used to be a lot but I can only ever see myself talking to you again in a romantic context and i know i can never have that. I hope you come to accept yourself and your sexuality i really do, please change and grow if not for me but for yourself. I don’t want to be a burden on you, I love you.

The other day me and my friends decided to go for a walk and hang out near my house, this was fine until my little brother (3 years younger) and his friend showed up. His friend has severe ADHD as does my brother though he lies a lot, he can be a lot to be around so I get why she was upset. I couldn’t do much to get them to leave so after a while I suggested we go back to my place and told my brother to go back out with his friend. When we got to my place she ignored me, sat on her phone and when i asked if she was okay multiple times she just blanked me. She didn’t even tell me her dad was on the way to pick her up when my mum was happy driving them home. Our other friend looked very awkward and uncomfortable and got a lift home with her. After this, she hasn’t really messaged me and got annoyed that I can’t hang out on this specific day when our other friend has tried to arrange stuff. Don’t believe it’s my fault I have a family bbq. When I talk in the groupchat just about my day I’ve been ignored by both my friends and it’s left me really upset. I don’t even know if we’re hanging out on the day we decided because nobody has told me shit. I think it’s really petty personally. The friend who currently seems annoyed with me always gets annoyed at me for the smallest things when I don’t believe i’ve done anything wrong. I got lectured the other day for literally just saying I found something I liked on vinted. Apparently i’m evil and i’m supporting child trafficking for using vinted now to earn money. Additionally, I was sexually assaulted a few weeks ago and asked her if she would hang out with me at a college taster day. She refused because ‘the other person she’s going with doesn’t like you’ even though I’ve told her i’m scared to even be alone at the moment. I don’t even know if I want to be her friend anymore because she just is on my back about EVERYTHING instead of just talking to me about what’s bothering her. She blocked me once over this shit. I’m honestly just done with it but I don’t want to cause problems for the other friend.

Me and this guy had been friends for a while, ended up friends with benefits - this ended when he ran away and decided to block me, scared of people finding out he liked guys. I ended up accidentally leaking a screenshot of one of our messages, it was meant to be sent to close friends to get an opinion and then eventually got sent around everywhere. We were both humiliated however him the most since it was only his message, not my response which was equally as bad. We were on and off talking for a while, friends again then deciding to part ways after he would fuck me over again and again. He forgave me, acknowledged i’ve changed and i’m truly sorry for what i did yet still can’t leave me alone for some weird reason when i tell him i don’t want to talk. He ends up messaging me when he’s drunk or i’ll message him when i stupidly miss him and he’ll tell me how sorry he is, how he cares about me and he’s sorry that he never showed it and how he never meant to upset me and wants me to be happy. It sucks because along the way i fell in love with him but he apparently doesn’t feel the same yet why won’t he leave me be every time i ask to be left alone?

Now he’s dating someone else and it breaks me, i’m pissed off because he messaged me drunk about how he missed my ass, how he missed how ‘wet i was’ and my thighs apparently yet then the day later confessed he was in a relationship. I’m so angry because that’s so disrespectful to me and the new person he’s apparently dating in which he won’t tell me who it is. I feel like some object he only can use for sexual pleasure and it pisses me off. He KNOWS i love him yet chooses to care for someone else and show them love and not me. He still insists he ‘cares’ about me apparently. It sucks.

I told him to try change as a person, stop fucking me over like he has done time and time again and contact me when he’s got his shit together and knows he won’t hurt me again, he agreed. It’s odd - the way he speaks to me shows he cares but it feels more than that i don’t know how to explain it. I don’t even know what this change would entail but i don’t think i could speak to him while he’s dating someone else, I don’t think i could ever be his friend again - i only want him in a romantic context. It hurts how he only sees me sexually but can love someone else, knowing i was ready to give him that love BEFORE any of this shit went down.

I feel like he doesn’t even know his own feelings, he clearly isn’t loyal or particularly cares about who he’s dating if he’s saying all this sexual stuff to me right? He said himself that i don’t deserve him because he’s ’such a bad person’ - so why does the person you’re dating deserve that too? I’m pretty annoyed he won’t tell me who it is or even their gender because i feel like they have a right to know he’s doing this behind their back. I feel awful that someone is probably blind to this.

We haven’t messaged in a week and i don’t know what to do, i’m probably going to leave it until he gets his shit together but i’d want to let him know i only would ever want him romantically and not as a friend. I don’t even know what he wants - he says he doesn’t like me in that way then acts in a certain way that made me believe he did. I may be delusional but i’m going insane over him, i just want him to reassure me and we can be like how we were before, just with labels and actual feelings we could explore but the heart wants what the heart wants you know?

This is the first guy i’ve ever properly felt something for as i’m bisexual and have more of a preference for women. I really want this to be something but i’m unsure where we stand and what to do. I just need some advice, this has all happened in the span of 5 months.

I’ve been upset about a guy for a few months now, i’ve confided in my friends about it and honestly spoke about him a lot, probably a lot more than i should have. They understandably got mad so i tried to stop. When i was pretty much almost over it id began to start making (honestly pretty funny) jokes about the situation and even then apparently that was annoying? I honesty don’t know how to cope because it feels like nobody cares anymore. Last night after months of not talking we messaged again and i ended up shouting at him because he’s dating someone else while he was saying sexual stuff to me. I was mad i was being treated like some sort of object. I tried to confide in my friends about how upset i was and i just got ignored in the group chat. I feel so alone and like nobody cares about my feelings anymore. I get they’re mad i wouldn’t stop talking about him - now i only do if i’m really in a bad place but nobody gives a fuck. Yet when my friends vent everyone else listens. It sucks and it’s like i have nobody on my side.

You’ve really upset me that you’re dating someone else other than me. I wanted so badly for it to be you but you just used me for sex all them months ago. I’m pissed off you were messaging me sexual things practically yesterday while hiding the fact you’re in a relationship. How could you even do that to the person you’re with? I feel bad for them and disgusted i entertained you thinking we could be maybe more. The fact you can care so much for someone else yet treat me like crap pisses me off, you say you care about me yet all you do is hurt me again and again. I get you never reciprocated my feelings but i don’t deserve this treatment. You say you want to see me happy, want to change but you can’t change. All i wanted was to be friends again but you couldn’t even give me that.

I can’t see you with someone else and i can’t talk to you knowing you’ll never love me the way i love you. I don’t even know why i love you when all you do is ignore my feelings. Please change for me. It hurts that i’ll have a future without you in it but i can’t see a future with you as a friend, i’ve always wanted it to be more than that and i probably always will.

Take care.

I know it’s for the best, you’re a bad person but i couldn’t help falling in love with you. I’ve never felt this way before and you made me feel happy for a time even if you didn’t feel the same. Please take care - i can’t keep you unblocked knowing i’ll be fighting every urge to message you. The thought that you hate me and don’t want to talk to me hurts me more.

I live in England, today i was out with my friends and decided to go to popeyes to get a drink since it was hot and i wanted to change my shirt into a new one i had bought. I go to the toilets (unisex) to change my shirt and a man had left the bathroom and stood there waiting for me to walk past him, i walk past and i notice he’s followed me. I didn’t think anything of it and assumed maybe he had left something or actually worked there and was cleaning bathrooms i don’t know. I’m looking for which bathroom is free and he points to one and i thank him. I walked into the bathroom and that’s when i feel him touch my ass and stick a finger up where my hole would be over my clothes. I instantly pushed him off and began screaming to get off me and for someone to help, he ran and i chased him out of the bathrooms and up the stairs. I feel sick to my stomach, i’m a guy and shocked he would even try that on me. I’m only 16 and don’t look any older, many say i even look younger than 16 since i have a baby face and i’m transgender which doesn’t help though i do pass well.

The woman at the front desk was lovely and called the police for me and everyone in popeyes was so sympathetic. The police spoke to me with their cameras but still need a statement from me with an adult present since i’m under 18. They said they have CCTV footage of him running out and probably more to find him but i’m scared. Will the police actually do anything about this? There’s obviously no proof he touched me since it was in a bathroom and i’m not sure if they have cameras there. I hope the bastard gets arrested but what would even happen to him?

I live in Leeds but the incident happened in Manchester which makes it awkward since the police officers i spoke to know i don’t live in the city. I’m just hoping something gets done because i feel so disgusting.

I miss the way you held me even if we weren’t anything, i miss how you took care of me and made me not feel disgusted in myself for once. As much as we never dated you still cared. It sucks you don’t care anymore.

Every night I stare at my wall and rethink our time together, I wish we had more time.. i miss being your friend or whatever we were. I’m sorry for what i did and i know you’re sorry for what you did. I wish we could reconcile but it would hurt not having you love me, you never did.

Every night you’re on my mind, i can’t stop thinking about you once the clock hits 11pm. I feel lonely without you. Come back to me i promise we can fix things just give our friendship another chance.

I hate you so much. Fuck off and leave me alone i’m done with your shit. I don’t want you back in my life because it was so much better before you were in it. You made me hate myself so much, made me feel like some whore and put the blame on me instead of maybe stepping back and taking a look at your own selfish actions. I felt SO guilty for what i did, i deleted every screenshot and would cry myself to sleep every night because i felt so horrible. I don’t know why i even fucking missed you. You put so much blame on me to the point you completely destroyed my mental health so fuck you. What i did was an accident out of immaturity - i never intended to hurt you or cause any harm while you put yourself before me and made a series of conscious decisions where you disregarded how i felt and decided to hide away from the consequences of your actions. You didn’t care one bit about me and it shows, you’re a selfish asshole and i don’t know why i didn’t see it sooner. EVERYONE told me you were an asshole and a creep, even people i thought liked you. That should have been my sign to end whatever we had going. I’m glad you never liked me back because i’d never let your disgusting hands touch me ever again, i feel sick at the thought i let such a horrid person see me like that. I can assure you i now feel no romantic attraction towards you - i just feel disgust and anger. It upsets me to now realise you probably only messaged me because you wanted sex while i really valued you. I honestly now could not give a fuck if you think i was evil for what i did, it was a pure accident and i apologised profusely yet when i told you to leave me alone you constantly started more and more arguments where i felt the need to back my corner. Stop making yourself a victim. You’ve made me cry god knows how many times but i hope you’re happy. Does it make you feel powerful and boost your ego to see me this way? It’s sickening. Do you not feel any shame? I’m honestly confused, you know you’re a bad person yet you make no effort to change your ways? I’ve continuously made an effort to make up for what I had done while all you did was say a bunch of empty sorry’s. Apologies mean nothing if you don’t put in the actions.

You blame me for everything yet you can’t even notice how much of a shitty person your own best friend is. I’ve been told he’s continuously told so many people your business to the point i’m pretty sure my friends knew about some things before i even had told them. Since practically December you’ve had the nickname _____ in my friend group (not my idea i didn’t gaf) because HE went around telling people? Yet i’m the bad one? You’re a fucking hypocrite and i’m sick of it.

Maybe you deserved what happened to you, leave me alone and go make out with him or some shit because i guarantee when any person gets to know you they’ll run. You can’t even admit you like men it’s weird, you fucked me therefore like guys to some degree - it’s common logic. Literally 99% of the porn you consume are men. I don’t know what the hell you have going on but i hope you heal from it. I somehow hate you but still naively care. I hope you know how much you screwed me up, i may be sensitive but anyone with a heart would feel this upset. Speak when you actually give a shit about me or fuck off.

I was stupid for loving you.

I was never meant to love you, the odds were stacked against us.
You never loved me, you were afraid of the consequences, you loved somebody else.
It hurt.
I wanted you to look at me the way you looked at others, I loved your smile and the way you lit up at the smallest things.
I missed how you’d tell me i was handsome - how you wanted to do all this stuff with me.
It seemed you only cared about sex yet you made me feel so special.
I miss the old you i loved.
It’s been 2 weeks since we last spoke.
Come back to me please, I don’t care if you treated me badly, i don’t care if you’re still mad at me.
I love you.

Leave me alone i’m done with you. Don’t ever fucking speak to me ever again I don’t want to associate myself with someone as horrid with such a high ego as you. I didn’t deserve how you treated me and i’m not letting you back into my life just to mistreat me again and again and make me hate myself more than I already do. I cared a lot about you and you didn’t give one fuck about my feelings. I don’t know what happened to make you that way but I do hope you heal from it. I genuinely wish you learn from your mistakes but that’s probably just wishful thinking. You’re a horrible person and you should be ashamed of what you did to me. I don’t care if what i did was bad. I know it was, i feel regret for it and feel guilty every day. I told so many people i was weird too just to try make things right when i knew there was nothing i could really do because i cared. Part of me knows you deserved it even if it was accidental, I should have listened to my friends and blocked you way earlier instead of holding out and wishing you’d just be my friend. What i did was a pure accident and out of immaturity while what you did was selfish and cruel. You care about nobody but yourself. I only ever had the purest intentions with you and i knew i could have loved you well but you clearly don’t want that. You missed out on a great person. Fix your ego and go fuck yourself because id never let your disgusting hands touch me ever again. I feel sick even thinking about it and to think i cared? Thanks for taking my virginity when you didn’t give one shit about me, real kind. The fact you called ME shallow is insane, you disgust me and I regret being nice to you.

Don’t ever contact me again until you learn to give a shit about other’s feelings. I deserve better than someone like you who can’t even admit he’s into guys. I’m done making excuses for the way you treated me.

[This is what i should have sent him that day we stopped talking, sort of wish he’d message me just to ruin his day]

I know we said not to talk again and it was my decision but i just wanted to say one last thing that i’m truly sorry for what’s happened, I didn’t want any of it to go like this because i care about you a lot in a non homo way. Yes i sent screenshots to people and i feel so so bad about what i did - i know it doesn’t fix things but please know id never do it out of malice to hurt you because i’d never want to see you sad. As much as you hurt me i don’t believe in revenge and i think it’s stupid and petty, i’m not a hateful person and would never hate you and i hope you feel the same. If you want you can tell people i was involved and fine with it but if you don’t want to that’s chill. I just honestly don’t really care about what people think about me and it’s obvious you do so i just thought it would be a good solution. I know i’m not the best of people either for sending that shit to others as it was an invasion of your privacy and honestly just stupid. I only sent that stuff because i was struggling to cope with it all and needed to talk to someone which isn’t an excuse but the truth.

I really don’t want you to get made fun of so if there’s anything i can do please let me know, i know you want me to leave it but i care too much and feel like it’s all my fault. Please know i really do miss being friends and haven’t stopped talking out of anger but just for my own sanity. I hope maybe one day we can talk like before all this shit again. Idk if you feel the same.

(I don’t know if i put this in lovers or friends because i wish you would have been the one)