u/Poethegardencrow

Can someone honestly explain to me how this is okay?

Because I really don't get it. What gets me the most is when a moment is or was clearly a moment where that kid felt proud of himself / herself for being clever. They thought they pulled one over on their parents. And instead of just getting caught or whatever the situation was, they got filmed and put in front of millions of people. That has to mess with how the child sees himself/herself

What bothers me even more is how many interactions between parents and kids now happen through a phone screen. The parent isn't even fully present in the moment. They're framing it for an audience. So the kid learns that their feelings aren't really the point. The content is the point. That's a huge shift and I don't think people are paying enough attention to it.

Kids already go through that phase where they think everyone is watching them. But when it's actually true because their parents broadcast their lowest moments to the world, that anxiety stops being imaginary and becomes real. That has to have some negative effects on their behaviour and how they view life and their parents.

On today very hot day, my friend asked to come over to my house with a pool to escape her stuffy flat. I said yes. My husband is home recovering from a vasectomy, which he got so I would not have to take hormones or for us to use condoms( we both hate them) and the condoms always give me burns.
I chose to garden that morning while he rested inside with an ice pack and gamed. He brought us drinks and suggested I stop because of the heat, but I wanted to finish before the rain, (there is a storm later and I want to have a nice garden so we can hang out there tomorrow) anyways so he went back in.

My friend immediately started attacking him, calling him useless and horrible, saying I should leave him because I earn more money, that I have internalised misogyny, and that I am being abused and cannot see it. I calmly explained that I chose to garden, he just had a procedure, and he is a supportive partner(he really is), but she dismissed everything and went inside to say the same cruel things directly to him.

I asked her to leave and she did, but now my husband is doubting himself, wondering if he should have worked in the garden and if he really is a bad person. I told him she has her own issues and we are fine, but she keeps texting me feminist quotes and telling me to break up with him. I am ignoring her for now.

I need advice on how to shut her down for good and how to reassure my husband, because I know I have a great partner and I am happy in my relationship. I am also a feminist and so is , my husband , and yes I earn more because of his support , the amount of mental and emotional and actual support he creates in my life is why I’m very comfortable.
I got sick end of 2023 that man took care of everything, me and my family and all our pets ❤️ not once did he complain or appear frustrated , also i wouldnt know I was unconscious most of the time all I know is whenever I woke up he was there and when I went home everything was done for me.
With my friend whenever I said these things she kept saying I’m just self convening and I’m defending him because of my own internalised self hate.. I am like girl what! Thats not it Whats happening …

It is truly getting to me! I am applying for jobs and I have a rented property… so I answer calls because I am thinking , it could either be an HR of some company i applied for or one of my tenants… I know it’s fine because you just pick up and hang up fair but HOW DID THEY GET MY NUMBER? I don’t have any social media, (apart from Reddit) I don’t fill out random questionnaires or add my data to some website… I don’t have an Amazon account the only online shopping I do is for my pets from Zooplus and sometimes I buy random things from kaufland.. I don’t add my data for any discount or any newsletter so how did this happen 😭it’s truly frustrating! How do I get my number off of this shit!