u/PositiveScore7184

As an anxious attacher I have been in relationships with so many avoidants and narcissists I can’t even imagine anything more than this.. or if it’s even possible. My bf now I am deeply in love but I fear I may have to end the relationship as he’s not meeting my needs but somehow I can’t even imagine anything better, is this normal. I can’t imagine falling in love again if I gotta go. I’m also so exhausted by relationships I’m also put of them.

Is anything better even possible or are men naturally emotionally detached . I don’t know anymore.

Guy I’m with stopped effort really quickly after honeymoon phase. Do avoidants know they do this. And why do they do it.

I’m 26 is waiting longer than a year way too long when it comes to a guy deciding what he wants.

Hello struggle to tell difference between pms moons swings and early pregnancy mood swings. As I can’t tell if I’m pregnant or not or I’m having extreme shifts due to period.

Bf had a minor operation called oroantral communication (OAC) and had an operation for it.

He said he couldn’t see me a week before the operation and I’m not sure why he couldn’t and now he can’t see me directly after cause he’s still recovering -The latter makes sense the first part doesn’t to me. This is making me resentful as I have chronic illness myself and struggle with time apart and I hate myself for not handling the situation better… as I feel guilty for wanting to break up and struggling to give him space.
- He allows his parents around and not me. I am trying to give him space he needs but getting overwhelmed with feeling lonely and unsupported myself and struggling to know how to move forward.

Boyfriend of nearly a year relies on his parents and pushes me away when he’s ill, including before and after surgeries. Bf sometimes will not see me for 2 weeks plus while ill to allow parents to care for him. I feel rejected because I’d want my partner around if I were sick.I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. When he’s ill, he wants his parents around and tends to push me away. He talks about a future together, but I feel rejected because if I were ill I’d want him there. I’m struggling to understand whether this is normal or whether it’s a sign of a deeper issue.he has done this twice with two minor surgeries and he makes up reasons that i would be bored but i know that’s not the real reason.

The issue isn't that his parents are involved. The issue is that I feel completely excluded. It's not a case of him wanting both his parents and me around. When he's ill, he doesn't seem to want me around at all.

That's what hurts and makes me feel rejected.

TL;DR: Boyfriend (32M) of nearly a year relies on his parents and pushes me away when he’s ill, including before and after surgeries. Bf sometimes will not see me for 2 weeks plus while ill to allow parents to care for him. I feel rejected because I’d want my partner around if I were sick. Is this a normal coping mechanism, or a sign of a deeper issue? Is this likely to change over time?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. When he’s ill, he wants his parents around and tends to push me away. He talks about a future together, but I feel rejected because if I were ill I’d want him there. I’m struggling to understand whether this is normal or whether it’s a sign of a deeper issue.he has done this twice with two minor surgeries and he makes up reasons that i would be bored but i know that’s not the real reason.

How do u know when ur being paranoid or your partner genuinely is always checking out others I keep catching him staring at others then he denies it and calls me crazy and paranoid am I actually paranoid or is it likely what I am seeing is actually happening. It’s a real shame cause I really love this man but the more he does this the more it pushes me away and the more he denies it also.it happens constantly in public sometimes I feel the women he looks at are on the younger side the whole thing makes me feel worthless and then he turns around and constantly denies it when confronted. Which makes me feel like I’m going crazy or I created this in my mind but I know exactly what I see. Why would anyone do this and is it deliberate to hurt me or is he doing it accidentally without even realising. Do avoidants personality’s do this on purpose. I am younger than him and relatively attractive not a super model but decent looking so I have no idea why he feels the need to do this he’s not some hunk himself either just an average guy which is fine but what gives him feel it’s okay to disrespect me like this.

Ex watches all my stories within a few mins of posting but told me it’s over forever a few days ago is this behaviour normal or healthy is it time for me to let go and block them or will they likely return and why do people do this.

I’m worried my ex might have been the love of my life, but our relationship ended because of incompatibility, constant arguments, poor communication, and his lack of commitment.

I’m scared that if I move on and date someone else in the future, my feelings won’t be as deep. I don’t want to be unfair to another person or feel like I’m living a lie if I still have lingering feelings for my ex.

I’m also really hurt because it ended and then he went on a dating app 2 -3 days later after an 8-month relationship. We had already broken up and gotten back together four times because he was unsure about the relationship, which left me feeling very insecure.

When I asked him about moving on so quickly, he didn’t give me a proper explanation and just said, “it’s none of your business, I was single” and “ I’m getting older I need to find someone else”. That response has made me question whether the relationship meant as much to him as it did to me, and whether it was real at all or I was replaceable the whole time.

He was always unsure about commitment and refused to work on our issues, even when I suggested couples counselling. Because of that, I feel like he probably didn’t feel the same way about me. But I’m struggling to understand why I’m so devastated while he seems to be moving on so easily.

I don’t know what to do next. Should I stay single until my feelings fade? What if they don’t? Should I wait for him in case he comes back? I don’t want to complicate things by meeting someone new if there’s still a chance with him.

At the same time, I’m 26 and I want to get married and have children, so I don’t want to delay my future for too long. But I also don’t want to bring someone else into my life if I’m not emotionally ready.

The breakup is still very recent, so I know I probably need time, but it feels deeper than that.

I also feel angry that he moved on so quickly, and part of me wants to go on dating apps too, but I know that urge is coming from hurt and probably wouldn’t help me in the long run.

Hey after going through a messy breakup was thinking of the concept that maybe someone was the right person but came into your life when u both weren’t fully healed. Do u believe in right person wrong time or that if they were the right person they would come at the right time. has anyone experienced this.

Bf when he talks about marriage always says “ will marry the right person” but never mentions my name. Is this a red flag or is he just not sure about me .