Perspective

Today I carried a couple of gallon containers of water up a flight of stairs, and it was a bit of an effort. A gallon of water weighs a little over 8 pounds.

Then I realized that before I lost my weight (130 pounds), I was carrying the equivalent of 15 gallons of water 24/7!

Another analogy: last winter I struggled to lift a 40 pound bag of bird seed into the back of my SUV. I used to be “wearing” three of them!

No wonder I used to dread physical activity. What a joy basic mobility has turned out to be.

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u/Poutiest_Penguin — 12 hours ago

Cover photos have dark band at the bottom - help!

Edit: u/MonsteraDeliciosa explained the reason for the dark band in a comment, which I would pin if I could.

Thanks!!

I’ve tried several times to send a support request to Poshmark through the app, but I keep getting an error message (“try again later”) when I attempt to submit it. Below is the text of the message; photos are attached. I added a couple of extra photos here that I was unable to include in the support request. I haven’t seen this happen in any other closets. If I remove the cover shot that has the background removed (I use Photoroom to remove the backgrounds and color code them by gender/non-clothing items) it still happens.

Any suggestions as to what is causing this or how to fix it? Thanks in advance!

Unsubmittable support request:
The cover photos for active items in my closet have a band of dark discoloration at the bottom (photo 1). It also appears when viewed from a browser rather than the app (photo 2). It does not appear if you open the listing (photo 3). It does not appear in “not for sale” or “sold” items, only active items (photo 4). It does not appear on the photos in the “bulk share to followers” view (photo 5). It has made at least one buyer concerned that my item was stained. See the comment on the Lands End pink teddy coat in my closet, as I am limited to 5 photos. It appears whether I use the cover photo with the background removed as shown in the examples provided, or if I use an unedited photo.

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 3 days ago

Apple Watch for Dummies? (Looking for video recs)

I bought Apple Watches for myself and my elderly mother, mainly because I wanted the fall alert function for her protection. Can someone point me to a good YouTube creator (or other source) to give me a thorough demo on basic operation and other functionality? I was (am) completely new to the device, and I barely know how to do anything. I’m actually embarrassed. I’ve had the watch for a year and I struggle to do anything beyond looking at the time. I think it’s a Series 10, but I don’t even know how to find that info on the watch. 🤦‍♀️ Please be kind; I’m not technologically challenged in other areas. I just haven’t had the time (I know — it’s been a year) to figure this thing out.

I know there’s an actual book …”for Dummies” but I’d do better with a video. Since there are probably a thousand videos out there, if anyone has any specific recommendations, I’d appreciate it!

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u/Poutiest_Penguin — 8 days ago
▲ 23 r/pothos

Something is “afoot”

And it’s the newsest leaf on this golden pothos! It’s over a foot long. The jade is almost there.

Banana for scale. 😁

These were rooted cuttings that I put directly on poles in early December of 2025. I’m so excited by how well they’ve done.

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 9 days ago
▲ 30 r/pothos

Chop & extend for short poles?

I need to extend these moss poles (and several others 😬). The plants are sizing up nicely, but I’d like to keep them short, around 30” if possible.

Is that feasible? Can I just continually chop and extend and still maintain the large leaves? The poles are two segments, so it would essentially be removing the bottom segment and extending it every time the plant reaches the top.

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 14 days ago

Like vs bundle

If someone likes an item, and also adds it to a bundle with nothing else, is it better to send them an offer through the like or through the bundle?

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u/Poutiest_Penguin — 19 days ago
▲ 132 r/pothos

My moss pole jungle 🪴

About a year ago, I got this idea to make my finished basement into a moss pole jungle, with as many pothos varieties as I could find. I blame a friend of mine who used to work at one of the big box stores and had a huge collection that he shared with me as cuttings. 💚 You can accomplish a lot with just a couple of nodes!

It turns out my basement is too cold to support tropical plants during a New England winter, so I had to bring them upstairs and get creative.

I’m continuing to collect them, and they’re coming back from their winter damage. I did lose one, my OG Golden from 2019, but I managed to prop some wet sticks and it will make a comeback in the future.

These 21 poles are ~20 different varieties (I have two standard neons, because one had some interesting dark variegation I wanted to try and maintain, but failed). There are several more that aren’t on poles yet.

Going from left to right in each photo…

Photo 1: Pearls & Jade, Harlequin Manjula*, N‘joy, Glacier, Jessenia, Neon, Champs Elysees

*This was sold to me as a Harlequin, but it’s really no different than the standard one. 🤷‍♀️

Photo 2: Neon, Variegated Neon, Albo, Global Green, Shangri-La, Manjula

Photo 3: Baltic Blue, Lemon Meringue, Himiko, Marble Queen, *Reverted* Global Green (does that make it a Japanese Global?)

Photo 4: Fernando’s Fire (not very fiery!), Jade (these both have 10” leaves with tiny pinhole fenestrations)

Photo 5: Greenjula (the fastest grower in the bunch)

Some have grown super fast, and some have been painfully slow. If anyone thinks any of these have been misidentified, let me know! I’ve been assuming sellers know what they’re selling, but there’s always a chance they’re wrong.

Varieties I have in my collection that aren’t yet on poles: Cebu Blue, Fanfare, Carnival (sport), Skeleton Key, Mini Mint, and that OG Golden. I also have an amplissimum, but I don’t know if that will be going on a pole.

Excuse the gross looking algae on the watering inserts. As soon as I clean them, it comes right back. 🤮

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 19 days ago

Tired of crappy sellers

I bought a dress at the asking price, which was reasonable. It wasn’t an actual reposh, but in the description, the seller stated they were reposhing it. I usually avoid reposhed items, because you don’t know what the current condition is, but I thought maybe they had made a new listing and they had taken updated photos. I figured I could always dispute it if the condition was not as described.

It never shipped, and after 6 days I asked the seller to cancel and release my funds. I’ve had it happen before, and it’s disappointing but not a huge deal. But then I thought to check their sold items, and they actually had truly reposhed the dress previously (but for a different price). The listing I bought was a duplicate, with the same photos and the name of the same original seller.

This seller knew she sold me an item that wasn’t in her possession, and then sat on my funds for the full period of time until I was able to cancel. She has a small closet, was active on the app during this time, and ignored my request to cancel. To me that’s fraud, so I opened a case with Poshmark asking them to suspend her or deactivate her account. I know nothing will come of it, because PM sucks, but I want to see what their AI will do with a fraud complaint. It’s “under investigation“ but the response date they gave me has already passed, and the status is now “delayed.”

PM seems to want to penalize good sellers for small infractions, yet they let this crap slide.

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u/Poutiest_Penguin — 20 days ago

ISO plunge bra with a high wings/sides

I’m looking for a bra to wear with a sleeveless dress that has a deep vee neck. I have a bit of sagginess in my upper arms and armpit area due to age and major weight loss, so I’d like something with a high side band (wings?) and a low center gore. Convertible straps would be a nice bonus, but I can survive without them.

It needs to be nude (preferably) or white. I’m still trying to figure out my proper size (I’ve been wearing Feelingirl everyday wireless bras in medium, but I’m thinking about going down to a small). Estimating I’m roughly a 34C.

Thanks!

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u/Poutiest_Penguin — 23 days ago
▲ 29 r/pothos

Not thrips! 😉

I have a lot of pothos on moss poles, and only my two pinnatum varieties had developed fenestrations.

Today I repotted my jade and golden (it’s actually a Fernando’s Fire, but it isn’t particularly fiery) and extended their poles. They’ve been doing really well, and they’ve both given me leaves over 10” long. While I was working on them, I noticed some white specks on the leaves of both plants, and my heart sank, thinking it was thrips. But on closer examination, I realized it’s actually tiny little fenestrations! They couldn’t be much smaller, lol.

I’m pretty excited. I’ve never seen a fenestrated jade, and I can’t wait for the next leaves to emerge. 🕺

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 23 days ago
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Peduncle fail - what happened?

I am fairly new to hoyas, and I’ve had my collection for maybe 10 months. All were bought as small plants, but they’ve been growing really well.

I was so excited to see a peduncle on my little fitchii, but today I went to (gently) examine it, and the flowers all dropped off, and I don’t think I even touched them. What might I have done wrong?

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u/Poutiest_Penguin — 24 days ago

Objectivity

I’m at the end of my weight loss journey, and I’ve been successful beyond my wildest dreams. The first photo is where I started two years ago, and the second photo is what I look like today, after losing more than half of my body weight and following a lower body lift six weeks ago.

I find myself now having to defend myself against concerns that I’ve lost too much weight. I know it comes from a caring place, from people who love me, but I have no objectivity, and frankly, neither do they.

So I come to you, the wonderfully supportive people in this sub, to seek your opinions. I’m not going to divulge my weight, my BMI, or my clothing size. I will say that I’m 60 years old (hence the saggy limbs), and I have low muscle mass due to decades of sedentary lifestyle from osteoarthritis and illness. I’m working on improving that situation.

I don’t think I’m too thin, and my goal is to maintain, not lose more weight. I just feel like when people close to you have only known you as fat, they have trouble seeing you as normal. I’ve been warned that I am developing an eating disorder.

So, kind people of Reddit, have I gone too far? I feel fantastic and my quality of life is so much better in so many ways.

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 24 days ago

“Impressed!”

Retail Brand: Kiss Impress Fallin’

I just discovered press-ons, and I’m thrilled with how they disguise my age/menopause/weight loss/crafting/plantkeeping nail damage! I’m only doing nails with tabs, no glue.

To remove them, I’ve been using a Goo Gone pen. It’s working for me so far!🤷‍♀️

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 27 days ago

Gender reveal party outfits

I’m going to a close friend’s gender reveal party this afternoon. It’s at a community yacht club in a New England coastal town. Dress code is “wear whatever you want.”

I recently went from a size 22 to a size 4, and my new wardrobe is somewhat small, so I’ve put together all the outfits that I think are appropriate, and hopefully flattering.

I’m looking for advice on what to wear today, and also general feedback on the outfits as I try to identify what works for me.

  1. ⁠LOFT skirt and off-white tee

  2. ⁠Quince linen dress - I feel like an oversized bowl of oatmeal in this dress, and I think I’m going to sell it because it’s too big. It’s an XS — come on Quince, really?

  3. ⁠Quince linen shirt dress

  4. ⁠Market & Spruce olive green dress and off white tee (I could change the tee to white or light pink). I’d love to wear it without a shirt, but the arm holes are cut too deep and it shows too much bra, plus my upper arms don’t look great.

  5. ⁠Vineyard Vines corduroy skirt and white tee. I’m wearing it with two different Jack Rogers sandals. The white is leather and more comfortable, but I think the navy crocheted one looks better.

  6. ⁠Lilly Pulitzer lobster skirt and white tee. I’m thinking this is more casual than I’d like for this particular event, and it needs a red tee. Thoughts?

  7. ⁠Jeffrey & Dana vintage maxi dress and black tee. I keep this dress because I was wearing it the night I met my husband, 28 years ago yesterday 🩷, but it’s too big (the back is laced up as much as possible, and I’m afraid it’s too much — see photo). Tee shirt because again, exposed bra and saggy arm skin.

Thanks!

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 1 month ago
▲ 69 r/fashion

Gender reveal party - no dress code

I’m going to a close friend’s gender reveal party this afternoon. It’s at a community yacht club in a New England coastal town. Dress code is “wear whatever you want.”

I lost more than half my body weight and my new wardrobe is somewhat small, so I’ve put together all the outfits that I think are appropriate, and hopefully flattering.

I’m looking for advice on what to wear today, and also general feedback on the outfits as I try to identify what works for me.

  1. LOFT skirt and off-white tee

  2. Quince linen dress - I feel like an oversized bowl of oatmeal in this dress, and I think I’m going to sell it because it’s too big. It’s an XS — come on Quince, really?

  3. Quince linen shirt dress

  4. Market & Spruce olive green dress and off white tee (I could change the tee to white or light pink). I’d love to wear it without a shirt, but the arm holes are cut too deep and it shows too much bra, plus my upper arms don’t look great after the weight loss.

  5. Vineyard Vines corduroy skirt and white tee. I’m wearing it with two different Jack Rogers sandals. The white is leather and more comfortable, but I think the navy crocheted one looks better.

  6. Lilly Pulitzer lobster skirt and white tee. I’m thinking this is more casual than I’d like for this particular event, and it needs a red tee. Thoughts?

  7. Jeffrey & Dana vintage maxi dress and black tee. I keep this dress because I was wearing it the night I met my husband, 28 years ago yesterday 🩷, but it’s too big (the back is laced up as much as possible, and I’m afraid it’s too much — see photo). Tee shirt because again, exposed bra and saggy arm skin.

Thanks in advance!

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 1 month ago
▲ 7 r/pothos

Glacier giving yellow variegation

I have this glacier pothos I bought as a small, two-stem plant last fall. I put both stems on a moss pole (second photo was taken today) but one started to fail shortly after, so I took it off, cut it into single nodes, and left it in sphagnum moss for several months to recover. I potted those props several weeks ago. Now I’ve noticed the variegation is distinctly yellow on the newer leaves. It gets the same light as its moss pole sibling (they sit about 10” apart with a grow light) but the pole plant is still creamy white.

It’s possible the vendor sold me something other than a glacier, but the plant on the pole looks like one to me. Correct me if I’m mistaken! In any case, I’m in love with this foliage, with the different shades of green, the silver, and the beautiful yellow. It’s brighter yellow than my lemon meringue!

Has anyone ever seen this happen before?

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 1 month ago

Propapalooza

I can’t control myself! I want to grow all the plants!

First pic is my mixed sphagnum moss prop box. I’m an aroid fan — we have multiple philodendrons, scindapsus, a rhaphidospora tetrasperma, a monstera peru, a few skeleton key pothos nodes, and also a couple of tradescantias and hoyas.

Second pic are all pothos, mostly different varieties. I’m a little bit pothos-obsessed. I currently have about two dozen different varieties, and the goal is to put them all on moss poles (so far close to 20 are on poles).

I’ve never met a node that I won’t try to prop.

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 1 month ago
▲ 7 r/hoyas

Chouke leaves yellowing

My chouke, which has been thriving since I brought it home last fall, has started to get some yellow leaves. Could this be an overwatering issue, or is there something else I should be looking at? I don’t think I overwater, but 🤷‍♀️ …

It’s under Barrina T5s for 12 hours a day. It gets GT Flower Focus, SuperThrive and silica (all diluted) with every watering. It’s in a greenhouse cabinet, but I generally leave the door open for airflow. (It’s more decorative than functional.) There are 12 other hoyas in the cabinet, and none of the others are doing this.

Any insights? Thanks!

u/Poutiest_Penguin — 1 month ago

Recipes with fresh dill

I have a beautiful bunch of fresh dill. Other than pickles*, what dish(es) would you suggest? I love dill, and I know that it’s great with salmon, eggs, chicken, etc. I’m looking for a recipe that will use a lot of it.

* If someone has a recipe for a half sour pickle that tastes exactly like it came from a Jewish delicatessen, bring it on! I’d have to use store-bought (or hopefully farmers market) cucumbers, but I have all of the spices/whole seeds I would need, and I have Ball Pickle Crisp granules.

Thanks!

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u/Poutiest_Penguin — 2 months ago