u/PreviousSystem2142

Hello ladies,

I’ll give you all a bit of context, I’m an arab woman (22) with an olive to tan skin tone. My features are dark but I come across as cute rather than hot.

For a while, I feel like I really struggle with my confidence when I’m around other women, but on my own I feel drop dead gorgeous.

I tend to compare myself to woman with softer or lighter features which is unrealistic unless I magically change overnight. I also feel as though my confidence completely drops when I am mistreated by others or ignored by someone in a conversation. To be honest, at the back of mind I usually think "if I was pretty enough, they wouldn’t have talked to me that way"

I’m also up in my head most of the time like I’m so self aware it’s exhausting. I know this is reddit, not a therapy session, but I just need some practical advice. Something that can help me start now with a change

This might sound like I’m compliment phishing but I promise you I’m not. So, I’ll explain it all from the very start. I’ve always been okay with my height and all and it never truly mattered to me at all. As in, it was never something I was insecure about.

But recently I’ve developed this sort of crush on this guy. Not that I’m saying he’s the one that made me feel this way but sort of noticing the kind of girls he hangs out the most made me kind of pay attention to my height.

I’m 156 cm tall, which I don’t think is too short but all the girls he’s around are around his height or taller. I look like a joke when I’m around them.

But I feel like also over the years, I just feel really disregarded in a group setting and it’s a bit harder for me to kind of pitch in. But also one comment he kind of made about his friend’s girlfriend kind of caught me off guard “his girl is like a midget it’s embarrassing” that made me feel uneasy about it all

Like I wish I was taller but it’s not like I can grow a new pair of legs, but I was also thinking about he might like taller girls cause they hold fat a bit differently so he might be attracted to their body type. Shorter girls tend to hold fat on the hips, butt, and thighs, taller girls fat kind of spread evenly, which I also somewhat envy I suppose

So? I just feel super insecure about my height and like I was thinking about how it’s hard I guess to show me off when I do actually date someone. I don’t know I feel like I’m being a bit irrational but I’m just experiencing so many emotions I don’t even understand

Me and my partner have been dating for 4 months now. She’s really cute, but she’s also very shy. Like extremely shy. I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing, I find it cute, but it forces me to be the one to initiate anything intimate and she usually goes with the flow and sort of comes out of her shell.

I was at her place one day, we had dinner then we had sex. She was a lot more assertive and guided my hand to where she wanted my hands to go. She even started talking dirty, telling me how much she wants me in her and so on which was not something I would have ever imagined. It really turned me on and I wanted to reward her I suppose, so I started fingering her. I started slow and wherever she started moaning was when I figured I should go a bit faster. At some point she gripped my hand and her thighs locked my hands in between her legs and she shouted stop. I did but then she started peeing on my hand.

Is it weird to say I seriously didn’t find it disgusting at all. I like her so whatever she does is just perfect I guess, I don’t know I felt a bit perverted for thinking that way. Anyway, she apologised and said she was really embarrassed and her eyes started watering. I told her it was fine and she said she wanted to go to the bathroom for a bit. I could hear her crying in the bathroom, so when she came back I didn’t say or do anything. I wanted it to be her call. She stepped outside and wouldn’t make eye contact with me at all. She said that we should do this some other time. Again, I told her it was completely fine.

Next day, she avoided me like the plague. I really don’t care that she peed on me and I really don’t want her to go back to being shy especially because she was so good that night prior to the whole incident. I mean the way she was holding my hand while I was fingering her and her boobs brushing against my arm and she would breathe on my arm and I could feel it she looked perfect. I really want her to still do her around me like that again? I like seeing her feel good? So, how do I reassure her and actually convince her?

I’m willing to die for this woman so pee isn’t really concerning at all to me. How do we recover from this given that she’s shy and would probably try to avoid the convo if I bring it up

Update: thank you everyone who replied to this. I hadn’t known that squirting was a real thing. I genuinely thought it was fabricated in porn. I got a few good messages and I think I have just the perfect plan to approach her. So far, we’ve both been super busy and she’s been super quiet about it all. She still kisses me before I go to work and after I come home she’s just a bit cold about it. I’m not trying to touch her out of the fear of making her uncomfortable. I’d rather we talk first before doing anything. I’ll update you guys when I’ve done it and see how that goes…

My partner is a bit cold. I like him, especially when he shows a bit of emotion. I'm the complete opposite, I'm all about emotions and expressing them. I'm always super keen on having sex and I usually initiate.
I like to put my hand under his shirt and tickle his chest hair, or sometimes I kiss his neck, or rub myself on his legs, but he never looks excited or shows a proper reaction to it all, so I usually don't do it for too long. When we do the deed, he usually kisses me then starts taking my clothes off, he's really gently, and I feel like he's scared of hurting me to be honest, even when he's on top he's not too quick and hard but slow and easy, when we switch I usually go a bit harder, he grunts but no proper moaning. I want him to say something, feel something. I tried it all, I kiss him, I lick him (everywhere) yet nothing. I do every bit I can I want him to MOAN my name or at least say fuck while we do it, he's so quiet while I huff and puff

So what do I do!! I really like this guy and I'm scared I'm just not good at turning him on, I really want to be cause he's perfect

My partner and I have been together for quite sometime. He’s cute and adorable and I love him so much. Prior to meeting him I had no experience with sex (other than what I’ve seen in corn). I wanted to initiate, so when he got home from work, he sat on the sofa, and I sat on his lap facing him, I started kissing him all over, then I went downstairs and started kissing him there, then I started humping him, and I thought all this was going okay but he quickly told me to stop and RAN to the bathroom, he came back, kissed me and said maybe we should do it some other time. I was so horny already and I wanted him so bad but I was a bit afraid that I hurt him? Was he peeing? Or??? I don’t want to embarrass him by asking (he doesn’t have reddit)

My partner is a bit cold. I like him, especially when he shows a bit of emotion. I’m the complete opposite, I’m all about emotions and expressing them. I’m always super keen on having sex and I usually initiate. I like to put my hand under his shirt and tickle his chest hair, or sometimes I kiss his neck, or rub myself on his legs, but he never looks excited or shows a proper reaction to it all, so I usually don’t do it for too long. When we do the deed, he usually kisses me then starts taking my clothes off, he’s really gently, and I feel like he’s scared of hurting me to be honest, even when he’s on top he’s not too quick and hard but slow and easy, when we switch I usually go a bit harder, he grunts but no proper moaning. I want him to say something, feel something. I tried it all, I kiss him, I lick him (everywhere) yet nothing. I do every bit I can I want him to MOAN my name or at least say fuck while we do it, he’s so quiet while I huff and puff

So what do I do!! I really like this guy and I’m scared I’m just not good at turning him on, I really want to be cause he’s perfect

Hello ladies,
I’m 22, and I started masturbating young on and off and sometimes going months with no masturbation, but I soon discovered that my kitty is an outie, but not a butterfly outie a one side outie, like one of my flaps is outside entirely, not too much tho, unless I fully spread my legs, and the color isn’t pink, it’s like my skin color just a little darker almost like my nipple color, but then I discovered corn and welp I started seeing the prettiest kitties that looked perfect and started to feel insecure about what I’ve got, like I always look at other girls and think wow if she has an innie she must be perfect

And it’s not about guys I don’t care what guys think but I just want to have a pretty one

fyi I mentioned masturbation because I thought that was why I got an outie like gods way of punishing me I cried about it a lot

I’m 22, and I’ve developed jealousy and bitterness toward an older woman, probably in her late 30s or early 40s. I can’t fully understand why. I’m younger and thinner, yet I still see her as incredibly beautiful, confident, and attractive. She has a great body, and it’s obvious that her husband genuinely loves and values her. These feelings have started affecting my self-esteem. I find myself comparing myself to her and questioning my own attractiveness, even though I never used to. I don’t want to feel resentful or bitter, and I’d like to understand why this woman affects me so much. Has anyone experienced something similar, and how did you overcome it?