u/Professional-Key5552

F33, 156cm / 5'1. 85kg / 187lbs

I have been struggling with my weight since I can think. I have checked so many things, calculated, wrote every day in my diary to count calories. Usually I followed the "Don't go under 1200" rule. So I usually ate between 1200-1500kcal. This made my weight stable tho. I didn't lose, I didn't gain.

Now I eat a lot less because of medical reasons (I have kidney pain and unfortunately the doctors still dont look into it, even if I call and/or go every day to them), so now I can't even eat more. All of a sudden, I lose the weight that I should have lost ages ago and which should be normal for a 1200-1500kcal diet imo.

It's really annoying, because 1200kcal is already quite little and I am afraid, if I feel better again, that I will eat again up the lost weight. And I hate that I can only lose weight with 800kcal apparently. I wonder, how do other women, who are my height (and my weight), lose weight usually?

I did check a few times with a doctor if my thyroid is fine, if I have pmos and if I would be insulin resistence, because no matter what I did, nothing helped. But the tests came back all fine, so nothing wrong with those.

I know, this is not really motivational, but someone else notices this?
Especially my facial hair. I struggle with this since my puberty started (idiopathic hirstutism), now I am in my 30s. Always shaving. 3 years ago, my facial hair was around my throat. But now, now its getting to the cheeks as well and even under my lip and some also on my nose. Like wtf. I wish I would just have enough money to get electrolysis, but I'll never be that rich 😭

This is about the check up for people who have some illnesses and to check in which area they can work. Has anyone gone through this? Apparently the same test is used when going to the military of what I have heard.

There is a blood test and I got today the letter with so many questions to fill out about different things: Diabetes, personal information, IBD, and other stuff. Problem is, all of that is in Finnish. Even when I called there, they said, they cannot speak English, so I was kinda able to make an appointment with my broken Finnish and that they will organise a translator for this. I have now tried to translate the papers with AI, but many of those questions don't make sense if I translate them and I do know how google translate can be wacky with this.

But how do I do this? Is there somewhere the same form in English for this? It's called Terveydenhoitajan tekemään työttömän terveystarkastukseen.
Also anyone an idea on how much this costs?

Before someone makes some assumption of: There has to be some drama about this or something bad has happened, no it hasn't. And I will be still active here in the sub as well. But overall, I have to focus a lot more on my health and my life. I also try to be less active overall on Reddit anyways for the same reasons. This month so far, I haven't really managed to do any moderation in every subreddit and server I am in. But also because Reddit has become, as a platform, more and more negative unfortunately in my opinion.

I love that there are so many people who joined the subreddit and when me and Mihayu created it, I was surprised that so many people actually joined and that it blew up like that. And now, after more than a year, we have hundreds of members. But that also means a huge responsibility which I nowadays cannot take on me anymore.

On a side note: I know that multiple people have tried to reach me over other platforms like Discord and Instagram as well, because of a FictoHideout problem, since my Reddit DMs are off. But modmails are here for a reason in subreddits, so if you have questions, use that function or write to another mod who has the DM function open, if it is really important and urgent.

For me personally, it has become impossible to track down everything, even when I tried very hard. I sure put a lot of work in here and unfortunately mods do not get any money for doing all the work. On the other side, I also feel more and more, that Ficto places have become something completely different as they were originally and I miss that a lot overall.

Today is a good example. I walked about 12000 steps which should be about 550kcal. (33F, 88kg / 190lbs, 156cm / 5'1). My breakfast was 700kcal and my dinner was about 1000kcal. So in total, I ate 1700kcal so far.

My question is, am I now still losing weight with that or not? Or should I still be between 1300-1500 kcal a day, even with sports and not counting the calories that I burnt in a day? Because if I count those, then I would be at 1150kcal, which would be a deficit. But if it doesn't get counted, then I would be over the limit.

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Today is a good example. I walked about 12000 steps which should be about 550kcal. (33F, 88kg / 190lbs, 156cm / 5'1). My breakfast was 700kcal and my dinner was about 1000kcal. So in total, I ate 1700kcal so far.

My question is, am I now still losing weight with that or not? Or should I still be between 1300-1500 kcal a day, even with sports and not counting the calories that I burnt in a day? Because if I count those, then I would be at 1150kcal, which would be a deficit. But if it doesn't get counted, then I would be over the limit.

Especially those who also have SPF in it:

- How do you remove it? With normal make up pads and water? Or do you use other make up removers? Micellar water?

- Do you use a make up brush or sponge or just fingers? Do you tap the creme on your skin or do you just apply it on and smear it over the cheeks?

I tried it out today, it works, kind of. For people who don't know the creme - It's like a make up to hide Rosacea, plus has SPF.
So when I used it today, I noticed that it hides my Rosacea pretty well, I would say to 90%, but it also makes my skin look 10 years older for some reason when I have it on. Anyone else having the problem? Any ideas on what I can do? It looks more like that my skin would have more bumps than it actually has? Or is more dry than it actually is?

A few days ago I have written a fanfic. I haven't written one since ages. Now I know that not many people are interested in reading fanfics, especially not if it's a "x reader" or anything like this and it's in 1st pov as well. But since it is creative art, I was thinking of sharing it anyways.

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I was sitting on his chair, deep in thoughts, meanwhile Dante was looking through his music choices on his jukebox, which magically still worked after so many years. All I wanted was to make him happy, yet I knew that the money situation was bad, like always. So I called out to him, "Dante". He turned around and waited that I would say more. "I was thinking, we could go to the amusement park together". It wouldn't be the first time I would have asked him this.

He smirked and answered, "Yeap, as if we would have the money for that. How many times have you asked me? You wanna go that badly?" "I just wanna make you happy", I sighed and then added, "Maybe we can sneak in" "And then? We would need the tickets to ride anything", Dante replied. And he was right. "But, there is the arcade and actually..no one checks that place", I said. Dante seemed to think for just a moment, "You are right. Let's try then" "Now?" "Yes, come on".

I got up and we walked to his motorbike. I was always hesitant to get up this thing. Dante again smiled at me and just put the helmet on me and secured it before putting me onto the bike. He sat in the front and I, as always, clung to him as my life would depend on him. It's fast, I don't like it and still have to live with it. Luckily the ride wasn't that long and Dante tried to drive slower than usual. So when we got there, and I got off the bike, putting the helmet down, we saw this huge line there.

"I'm not going to wait", Dante said and looked around, trying to find a way in faster. I sighed and said, "This may take 15 or 20 minutes, it's not that bad", "Babe, look, even 10 minutes would be too long", he said and I sighed again, because for me, 10 minutes wait wouldn't be too bad. But Dante was impatient as ever. He took my hand, intertwined my fingers with his and pulled me to the side, crawling into the bushes to get to the other side. I guess, that place didn't think that someone would even imagine going through the effort of doing that what Dante was doing. But somehow, he managed and that small fence there which came after the bushes, was like a child's play to him. I could never get over that, but luckily there was Dante to help, so we ended up beside the arcade building and quickly went in there.

"And how do we get the coins now?", Dante asked. I grabbed my wallet and pulled out some cash, "Still have that", "I love you", he said and gave me a kiss on my cheek. Dante took the money out of my hand and went to the cashier to exchange it into play coins. I just watched him doing that and smiled. To some extent, I was already able to make him happy. As he got the coins, he took my hand again and walked around, trying to find a machine that he liked.

First one was a car racing game and second one on the motorbike. I also tried it, but in no way I could be as good as Dante. We also played some pinball games and old retro games and with the last coin, he decided to one more game on the racing machine, but this time, with me on his lap, which was quite difficult to fit in. He looked around and whispered, "Time to make the others jealous", he chuckled dangerously, kissed the right side of my neck, before "speeding" at the game and saying, "We should do this in real life one day" "I doubt that that would be a good idea", I said. Obviously he had to reply with something cheeky like, "Too late, I already got that idea, now you gotta live with it".

Dante tried hard to win that game and get to nr.1 on the list of all the players, but he didn't manage to do that. He groaned, leaned back and asked, "Do we have more money? More coins?". I checked my wallet and replied, "Not really, we should still have something for later and not go completely broke either". I got up from him and stretched, "Oh, I also wanted to see you on the rollercoasters, because I am pretty sure you would like that, but uh...the tickets".

Dante's smile always looked like the kindest there is and he said, "Maybe another time, if I actually get paid enough once. But also, if I want a rollercoaster, I can drive fast myself and if you want, we can drive home fast on my bike", he winked. My eyes widened and I immediately replied with "No". He started to laugh and tried to convince me, "Come on, it will be fun" "Yea maybe for you", I quickly told him. "Nothing to worry about when I am around, remember" "I'm gonna die...from a heart attack" "No you won't" "I wanna come home safely", I complained. "And you will", he persisted. I rolled my eyes and we made our way back to the bike. The way back to the bike was easier than the way into the amusement park.

Dante put the helmet again on me and this time he put me in the front seat and making sure I would grab onto the steering wheel. "Ready?", he said in a suspicious voice and I said "No". "Too bad", Dante started the engine and drove off, a lot faster than he did when we went here to the amusement park. My fingers clung onto the steering wheel and after a few minutes, we were home already and I survived this ride somehow. I hopped down from the bike, took the helmet off, feeling dizzy.

"I hate you", I grumbled and he grabbed me, pulled me closer to him and said, "No, you love me", he kissed my cheek, then my jaw, then my neck, "Yea you are right". "So easy to sway your mind", Dante said meanwhile playing with the keys and then opening the door to the agency. We went in and Dante went to the fridge to grab a strawberry sundae, meanwhile I laid down on the couch, still feeling out from the drive. "I could go a lot faster though", he said. "Yea, I do believe you on that".

I tried it once to get food from there, I highly regret it. I ate some today that I got from there and I am in extreme pain. I can't sleep and have stomach pain. To anyone who thinks of ever going to one of the food banks (I have gone to one in Tampere) I highly doubt that the food they give our there is safe to eat. I had diarrhea before already, but since hours I have stomach pain. I probably won't sleep this night. I feel horrible. I wish I could turn back time and not eat that food.

I got quite the experience today. I went to a food rescue service today. Some guy came up to me, we talked for a bit, but after like maybe 5 minutes, he already asked me if I would want to go to his place after we got our food here. I said "no". After this, he kept asking about if I would want to go with him somewhere, if we could exchange social media, contact details and so on. I always said no and said, I am just here to get the food and that's it. Like I'm okay if we have a normal conversation, not more. He said he feels lonely, which I get, I also feel sometimes lonely. Then he asked me if I could buy him a can of soda. I said, we are all standing here, because we do not have money. He also touched me twice on the shoulder, which was quite uncomfortable. It only took 15 min, but still, I feel so weirded out. But usually I don't get hit on at all, so not used to this as well. Also this guy was in his middle 20s, meanwhile I'm in my mid 30s.

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