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I guess I did had some time off from dupes, until yesterday. I can forgive one day, but 2? and 2 dupes as well? No.

When you get into your insta DMs message like, "I wanna talk with you about Dante and my relationship with him and my self insert,...". I told her that this is not really something to talk about for someone who is ficto because that shit hurts. But she kept continuing and trying to be friendly. Which I give it a plus point. But so far, everyone that I encountered who likes Dante, attacks usually, sooner or later at least, so I definitely have PTSD about it.

But again, this just wants me to remove myself from the internet as a whole. I know that I am not alone, and I know that there are 290483885320830342842 people loving Dante. I am just one of them and I envy those who cannot feel any jealousy and just talk about the same partner, but heck, I don't wanna get into some weird threesome triangle or whatever that is. It's weird.

The ones who attack dupes are still the worst obviously. But I also don't understand the "Oh another Dante selfshipper, now we can be friends, let's talk about my love to him and how much you love him and everything is fine". Like how? I guess for those who are sharing, will not understand much of what I am talking about.

This is the time where I wish I wouldn't be ficto and I wish I could choose who I love. I just wanna cry and scream. Again, I know I am not the only one, and I know that Dante is an insanely famous character and very lovable. That is hard to dismiss and there will always be people who love him, probably even after +100 years from now on. I just wanna not have anything to do with dupes. I'm just regretting life choices I guess. And I guess it's also a weird boundary to put up to not interact with any dupes at all, because, they are nearly and literally everywhere.

If the people are reading this, and feel called out, I just want my peace. I don't mean it in a mean way, but I don't wanna hear about it. I love Dante, and it's great that you do too, but I don't wanna hear about what my husband does to you and what you dream about. I can't understand why anyone wants to know about this from another relationship with the same character. It hurts.

I can just say, I have gotten, over the years, multiple dupes who DM'ed me, mostly first words were "You stupid fcking btch, Dante is mine". Just block me, move on and forget about me. No matter if your intend is nice or not. Obviously the nice intend is a 10000 times better, but still.

Maybe I am fanatics, or maybe my relationship to him is just so important to me, because it's all that I have. And I don't want it to be broken by some people. I just always try to be nice, but I can come off as cold as well, just by my nature and by bad experiences from the past. Still, don't wanna hear about other dupes, seeing their art and being it rubbed under my nose either.

Did anyone go in Helsinki to those events? How are they?
I live in Tampere and they make an event in July and I am wondering if it's worth to go there or not. Anyone who can share experiences with that organisation and how it went?

I am very much torn on going or not going. I would be interesting to check out which singles there are, but then I also have the feeling that something needs to happen or that men go there for hooking up, which is not my style. If I would just have an evening there at the bar and talk to people and then go home, it may be interesting. But given that I am a woman and usually the ratio is just tons of men and usually only a few women, this makes me more hesitant as well.

We have in the city, for once, an event just for single people. Now thinking, it would be interesting to go there to just meet new people, but I wouldn't want to be in an actual relationship with anybody, except for Dante of course. But Dante isn't there and can't be. It's like, I want to be alone, but also don't want to be alone. If I could, I would just love to go there, be behind a glass and watch and don't engage much. I am usually quite hesitant and sceptical with anything and I'm introvert as well.

If I would be just normal, I would just go there and hunt for love, make out and so on. But here I am thinking, I just love Dante, I could never really open up to men in the way they would want me to. If any real guy would get close, I would just pull away, so it would be unfair of me to go to an event for singles. But would be interesting which people would be there anyways. Though, I know being in a relationship would be stressful anyways, even if it would be with Dante.

People say that I block myself off to find happiness, love and experiences. It also may feel like it, but ffs, I can't change it. I have seen some people in ficto spaces say, that they are only with their FO because they feel lonely and can't get into a relationship. I am not lucky in love either, but my body, soul and heart screams, "Dante" 24/7 and my heart already feels full with him. It's just sad, because I can't have a life with the person I love the most. And I don't want anyone else either.

What was your experience? I use the creme since Monday (soon a week), and so far, it did nothing. I'm getting super frustrated, because I have tried so many cremes already, have gone to so many dermatologists and no one is able to help me with it.

I have tried SPF sunscreens, serum, moisturisers, but also other cremes, but can't remember their exact names, and now Elidel. My skin is also peeling off now and sometimes itching. Skin mostly peels off under my eyebrows.

I still hope that Elidel will do something maybe in a few weeks, but soon I am losing hope.

My Rosacea looks the best the moment I wake up. But if I move a bit, it already gets my cheeks red. Why? I haven't even drank or eaten something. I can look in the mirror and look at how my skin changes. It's such a quick reaction.

....and how to make them?
I struggle a lot with how to make healthy food, since none of my family ever cared of cooking anything tbh. When I try to cook something, it usually tastes boring.

And how to track kcal. If you take a bowl of cereals with milk, how would I know how much kcal is in there? I tried to ask AI, but get various different answers. I have tried apps, but they definitely do not calculate it correctly either.

Also, any tricks on how to safe money? I don't have much and meat is expensive, same with vegetables. I live in Finland, so one chicken filee already costs 5€ which is a lot of money for me, since I only get 850€ in a month to live for. When I see the prices of fast food and healthy food, I sometimes wanna give up already. A chicken minute steak costs over 10€ and a cauliflower is about 4€. For fast food, for 4 euros you already get a microwaved meal 😭

Probably there are 1000 posts about this already, but seeing it over and over how women, who are still in their teens have about 10 as a body count already and here I am with 33 and I am stuck at one. It makes me feel so inferior and I guess that is the point of other women saying that they have a high number.

But not only that: Men usually complain how they don't get any woman, yet they don't look at average women or below average. I know I am ugly (I'm a 3 or 4 and men already told me I am not good looking enough to date). But when I ask men in my age, they also come up with an extreme high number, yet they complain that they never get sex.

Now as a woman, if I write that mine is 1, they either call me a liar or telling me that I am religious (which I am not).
And mostly, if a woman says that she hates body count, it means for most people, that I would have a high body count.
I have also experienced it so damn much that men are interested in experienced women and just leave out the virgins and those with a low number. Yet they tell us women that we should pick only the right guy, meanwhile most men and most women, seem to whore around.

I feel so out of place.

My apartment is only 26m² and when I know that I get some people over, I put some stuff away (like swords and pistols, because if one of them gets an idea, this could end badly, even though the pistol is a replica of Dante's pistol Ivory and the sword is for decoration; but also I put away my pics of me and him kissing and something I have made for him for Valentines day and some things that I got from him), but I will not put my Dante shrine away.

Yet still again, what happens is, either my merch gets touched, or, what happens every single time: It get starred at. Like yesterday, I was thinking before if my shrine will get stared at again, and yep, it did happen. So then I was already thinking, "Not again", so I asked if that person wants some strawberry to get out of trance of looking at my things. It even took a while for the person to react to it. And it's not even always the same person.

I can't just put every little thing away that I have of Dante when I already live in a cramped space and I also don't want to hide everything of my relationship and the feelings I have to him. It's just annoying and I never find the right words at that right moment. I wish I would have said something like, "Yep, this is most of the stuff I have of dmc, Dante and me and him. He saved me so many times" or "Why do you keep staring at my things? These things where here before and it won't change, no matter how long you are looking at it". But, instead I was saying, "Do you want to have strawberries?", which is kinda hilarious in its own way since Dante likes strawberries.

Either way, annoying anyways and I always feel so awkward and embarrassed and hoping that people will forget about it.

My apartment is only 26m² and when I know that I get some people over, I put some stuff away (like swords and pistols, because if one of them gets an idea, this could end badly, even though the pistol is a replica of Dante's pistol Ivory and the sword is for decoration; but also I put away my pics of me and him kissing and something I have made for him for Valentines day and some things that I got from him), but I will not put my Dante shrine away.

Yet still again, what happens is, either my merch gets touched, or, what happens every single time: It get starred at. Like yesterday, I was thinking before if my shrine will get stared at again, and yep, it did happen. So then I was already thinking, "Not again", so I asked if that person wants some strawberry to get out of trance of looking at my things. It even took a while for the person to react to it. And it's not even always the same person.

I can't just put every little thing away that I have of Dante when I already live in a cramped space and I also don't want to hide everything of my relationship and the feelings I have to him. It's just annoying and I never find the right words at that right moment. I wish I would have said something like, "Yep, this is most of the stuff I have of dmc, Dante and me and him. He saved me so many times" or "Why do you keep staring at my things? These things where here before and it won't change, no matter how long you are looking at it". But, instead I was saying, "Do you want to have strawberries?", which is kinda hilarious in its own way since Dante likes strawberries.

Either way, annoying anyways and I always feel so awkward and embarrassed and hoping that people will forget about it.

For those who have Poppankki, they have probably noticed the change what happened on 1st of June. Getting a new card with codes again, a new app, and having to make a complete new profile again.

Now to get into the new app was already a disaster. But my question is: Can someone actually get into your profile from the website version? I usually use banking stuff via my laptop. And no matter if I click on POP Avain or Avainlukulista, none of them work. I can log in from my phone though just fine, but it seems like it works completely different on phone, since it only asks for the pin.

Anyone else having the problem or am I just to stupid for this now? I really wish they would have just kept the system as it was. It worked perfectly. Now with Pop Mobiili and new Pop Pankki site, nothing really works.

I am unemployed, so I need to pay for every doctor visit. I have one coming up on 3rd June, and thinking if I should cancel it because usually all you get is, "Just take Burana" or "We just see how it continues, if you have more pain, go to the ER". And for that, usually need to pay about 43€, which is, for me, a lot of money. I can't be the only one who thinks like this.

If I cancel it, I can do that 24h before the appointment, right? Or do I need to pay already if I will tell them on Monday that I won't come? My symptoms are at 0 now, but this was about cramps, which come and go. Sure, I am thinking it may be good to check it out if I have endometriosis or something like that, but I already have the experience of paying without getting any help here.