u/Rainbird2003

CW: Discussions of neglect and brief mention of abuse.

This is just something I came up with.

It’s like being sick. If direct abuse (physical or emotional) is like physical injury - being hit and kicked, being left with cuts and bruises that scab over and scar so they hurt over again when pressed - then neglect is like walking around your whole life with a low-grade fever that doesn’t go away. Physically or emotionally. All you’d need is some rest and for someone to bring you soup and sit with you, and help care for you until it’s better. But they don’t, so you still have a fever. You have to keep going through life feeling hot and itchy and bone-deep tired to the point where every normal task becomes monumental and difficult. Because you have a fever. And although there is never any direct attempt at harm, the lack of support feels like its own sort of violence because it hurts you.

My sister and I are visiting Melbourne this week from Adelaide. We’re having a lot of fun looking around, there are so many shops to go to here. I was wondering if anyone had recommendations for places to find leather-bound journals. I’ve been looking for a nice one for a while, and if anywhere will have it Melbourne would. One that’s hand-made or comes from a locally owned shop would be better. That’s it really. If there are any other general recommendations that’d be cool too. Thanks :)

Hello! I’m reposting this on a number of subreddits, so please forgive anything I say that doesn’t directly relate to this sub.

This is a very on-a-whim, just dipping my toes into the idea but I thought asking people with real experience would be helpful. I am an autistic adult and I find I have a lot of perspective and passion on how autistic brains work and how to help young people who struggle the same way I did, that I am interested in pursuing, if I can.

What paths exist to work with autistic children? Or to help autistic people in general? The main one I would be interested in is something to do with a Cert III course in disability support and a casual job doing support work for the NDIS. Please don’t think me stupid I understand it is a very serious responsibility, that I will need high quality qualifications, and that the NDIS is tightening regulations around who can and cannot just up and start supporting people with disabilities so I may not be able to pursue this in exactly the way I was thinking.

I’m only looking for advice into how this stuff works, other peoples’ experiences, things to look out for, etc. Thank you for your help :)

Hello! I’m reposting this on a number of subreddits, so please forgive anything I say that doesn’t directly relate to this sub. (Please let me know if the flair should be changed.)

This is a very on-a-whim, just dipping my toes into the idea but I thought asking people with real experience would be helpful. I am an autistic adult and I find I have a lot of perspective and passion on how autistic brains work and how to help young people who struggle the same way I did, that I am interested in pursuing, if I can.

What paths exist to work with autistic children? Or to help autistic people in general? The main one I would be interested in is something to do with a Cert III course in disability support and a casual job doing support work for the NDIS. Please don’t think me stupid I understand it is a very serious responsibility, that I will need high quality qualifications, and that the NDIS is tightening regulations around who can and cannot just up and start supporting people with disabilities so I may not be able to pursue this in exactly the way I was thinking.

I’m only looking for advice into how this stuff works, other peoples’ experiences, things to look out for, etc. Thank you for your help :)

Hello! I’m reposting this on a number of subreddits, so please forgive anything I say that doesn’t directly relate to this sub.

This is a very on-a-whim, just dipping my toes into the idea but I thought asking people with real experience would be helpful. I am an autistic adult and I find I have a lot of perspective and passion on how autistic brains work and how to help young people who struggle the same way I did, that I am interested in pursuing, if I can.

What paths exist to work with autistic children? Or to help autistic people in general? The main one I would be interested in is something to do with a Cert III course in disability support and a casual job doing support work for the NDIS. Please don’t think me stupid I understand it is a very serious responsibility, that I will need high quality qualifications, and that the NDIS is tightening regulations around who can and cannot just up and start supporting people with disabilities so I may not be able to pursue this in exactly the way I was thinking.

I’m only looking for advice into how this stuff works, other peoples’ experiences, things to look out for, etc. Thank you for your help :)

Hello! I’m reposting this on a number of subreddits, so please forgive anything I say that doesn’t directly relate to this sub.

This is a very on-a-whim, just dipping my toes into the idea but I thought asking people with real experience would be helpful. I am an autistic adult and I find I have a lot of perspective and passion on how autistic brains work and how to help young people who struggle the same way I did, that I am interested in pursuing, if I can.

What paths exist to work with autistic children? Or to help autistic people in general? The main one I would be interested in is something to do with a Cert III course in disability support and a casual job doing support work for the NDIS. Please don’t think me stupid I understand it is a very serious responsibility, that I will need high quality qualifications, and that the NDIS is tightening regulations around who can and cannot just up and start supporting people with disabilities so I may not be able to pursue this in exactly the way I was thinking.

I’m only looking for advice into how this stuff works, other peoples’ experiences, things to look out for, etc. Thank you for your help :)

Hello! I’m reposting this on a number of subreddits, so please forgive anything I say that doesn’t directly relate to this sub.

This is a very on-a-whim, just dipping my toes into the idea but I thought asking people with real experience would be helpful. I am an autistic adult and I find I have a lot of perspective and passion on how autistic brains work and how to help young people who struggle the same way I did, that I am interested in pursuing, if I can.

What paths exist to work with autistic children? Or to help autistic people in general? The main one I would be interested in is something to do with a Cert III course in disability support and a casual job doing support work for the NDIS. Please don’t think me stupid I understand it is a very serious responsibility, that I will need high quality qualifications, and that the NDIS is tightening regulations around who can and cannot just up and start supporting people with disabilities so I may not be able to pursue this in exactly the way I was thinking.

I’m only looking for advice into how this stuff works, other peoples’ experiences, things to look out for, etc. Thank you for your help :)

I’m worried about my sister (20 AFAB, around 5’8 & 115kg). She recently got test results back from the doctor saying she was on the edge of testing positive for diabetes. She also has had this sickly sweet smell about her for months and months that I’ve just heard is sometimes a sign of these kinds of problems.

Is there anything that’s been proven to absolutely prevent the onset if someone is on the cusp like this? Something we might be able to discuss with the doctor? (they’re the least proactive people on the planet)

She does not eat very unhealthy, or in huge amounts. She goes to the gym semi-regularly. She has PCOS (and likely other undiagnosed issues as well) that are likely to have caused this in the first place, so the solution will need to be more than just “eat a banana! Exercise!” Though I acknowledge they do help and maybe she can find something that works for her. I’m very wary of placing the blame for this on her, though, by telling her (and letting the doctors tell her) that all she has to do is exercise as if it’s her fault that this happened in the first place and she should feel ashamed. I’m looking for more intense, serious solutions like medication, supplements or some complete elimination diet. If those exist.

Thank you.

This is gonna be a nothing post. I’m just pissed off that no matter how clear I try to write to NTs there is always something I’ve expected people to read between the lines about because I think it’s obvious, but they don’t get it. It makes me feel stupid.

It must be something about written things on a screen creating an environment where there is no shared sense of commonality or trust between people, that would usually help everyone take things in good faith, and understand where others are coming from. Though as I say that, I know if I explained any examples of times when I said something - expecting it to be understood implicitly but it wasn’t - no one else would understand me either.

Like a post I just made on another sub; I put a link to a bike sale to ask if it seemed legal (Australia has really annoying e-bike laws), then said ‘this is just an example btw, I’m probably not going to get something sporty, or something that needs to go off-road. I just want a powerful enough battery.” - thinking that because the bike from the link was sporty and off-road they’d get that I was mostly talking about the battery. But I got like five comments telling me I don’t want that bike, because it’s very sporty and off-road. This also happens with university emails all the time. Pisses me off so much.

I gotta find a balance between understanding when my communication isn’t clear and also realising that sometimes people just can’t read lmao.

Hi, not to be someone jumping on an internet trend but lately I’ve seen a few videos online of people creating these ‘cyber decks’ from recycled or cheap electronic parts. They seem like such a great idea, and I absolutely love the amount of customisation these people are putting into them; I saw one person set a screen and keyboard into a briefcase with a glass jar containing a tiny terrarium. Unfortunately, I don’t know enough about electronics to do something like this straightaway, but I was wondering if this kind of frankenstein tech could work as a dumb phone? As in, creating your own electronic device that also functions as a ‘phone’ in that it can connect to wifi, has a slot for a SIM card (I’m thinking like an iPad), etc. It seems like a great way to engage with creativity, learning AND also recycling old junk to battle the planned obsolescence that apple and the like program into modern phones.

… though saying all that the easier route is still buying a cheap 2005 dumb phone.

It’s a new low posting here because I do not enjoy calling myself gifted. I don’t want to think that I’m better than everyone. But I’m starting to see I’m genuinely much more mature than everyone else in my life. I can understand things that other people can’t, to the point where I’ve actually experienced people becoming angry with me for saying something that ‘makes no sense.’ Even though it does make sense, I know what I’ve observed is true, but even after explaining I’m still frustrating because they think I’m wildly assuming something or jumping to conclusions. I used to do that sometimes as a kid but I’m getting much better at grounding myself in reality. I genuinely believe I’m very very perceptive. How the hell do I stop myself looking down on other people when I find them so disappointing?

Also do not fear I’m not having a mental health episode. I’m lucid

Hello, I am very new to bikes so please forgive any obvious questions. I’m looking to save up for an ebike for commuting, or deliveries in my local area. For commuting it would need to go about 35km total distance in a day. It would also need to go up fairly steep hills near my house.

With all that, I’m finding it hard to understand all the specifications and what they mean in practice. There are strangely few resources online I can find. I know wattage because the Australian government caps all ebikes at 250w for safety. I have also heard ‘nm,’ which is torque I believe? But I’m not sure about the others (or even how many there are). Is there somewhere that lays them all out in clear English? Or could someone here explain?

Also if someone could give an idea of what these look like in practice that would be amazing. How do I ensure the bike is powerful enough to go up hills, for example? Or make sure the battery life lasts long enough to do a full commute?

Thank you very much. Have a good day.