u/Reasonable_Act_526

I have endo, and no matter the painkiller it didn’t make a dent in my pain. I’d lie in bed for days in pure agony, I get insanely tired from the pain.

It took me YEARS to realise it was hypertensive pelvic floor. Confirmed now by a urologist and a PT. The only thing that’s ever given me any sort of relief baclofen. But I’m being treated like a drug addict if I say I want to take a low dose everyday. I’m scared to ask for a refill.

Has anything else helped you guys?

Then I got high, and I truly don’t even have an appetite for anything else than a glass of water.

Wegovy had me absolutely wiped me out and I had constant nausea. Sure, I ate less but the fatigue reduced my activity levels down to nothing.

Reta felt like a placebo. Maybe I didn’t go high enough but nothing ever happened.

Decided to try Tirz before throwing in the needle. In the beginning I felt no different but kept upping the dose.

Turns out 12mg is when it hit for me. It’s not just less (none) appetite, I’m taking active steps of adding walks, cutting out bread and sugar. And it’s no big deal.

I’ve been on Wegovy for 6 months, and I’ve lost 12 lbs in total. I didn’t put two and two together until
recently, but Wegovy has wiped me energy levels down to almost nothing. Anything under 1mg doesn’t do anything to lower appetite, but everything above 0,5mg makes me exhausted. I even get intense cravings for sugar since I think my brain is just desperate for some energy, then if I cave in I just feel horrible.
Upping water intake, electrolytes, protein doesn’t work. I recently went on vacation and forgot to inject before so I was a little over a week late, I had energy to walk a lot more than usual and I didn’t notice I had a bigger appetite, I just chose lighter options. Lost 4 pounds which normally takes me two months to lose since I have no energy to exercise on Wegovy.

Anyone with similar experience?

I’m on Lamictal, Geodon, Citalopram and Vyvanse for ADHD. It keeps me pretty stable, I don’t get very depressed and I haven’t been manic for a long time.

But my emotions seem to be all over the place, I get triggered and I have NO self control. I definitely overreact to things, I’m very easily hurt and can lash out. I so, so, so want to be able to control myself and detach for a moment, and not using weed to numb myself which makes everything worse probably.

I know medication isn’t the answer to all our problems, but what has helped you in this regard? I’m tired of blowing up like a firecracker.

I’ve quit so many times, and since I mainly smoke in the night before bed it has never been that big a deal. What’s hardest is not starting again… I didn’t really connect the dots but there was a dispute in my family a few weeks back, and I definitely used weed to cope. Someone started talking about it again today and I’ve been so incredibly pissed off.

What’s the first thing that comes to mind? I want to go smoke to mellow out. And then I’d be stuck again.

Those with similar pattern, what has helped?

Am I horrible for secretly throwing away stuff she’ll never use? The other day I was folding laundry and there was this super shitty towel from 1999. I asked if I could throw it and she was like no no no! Maybe when I paint one day I’ll need it! So I waited until she was asleep and threw it. She never noticed.

Her apartment is cluttered with drawers full of clothes she hasn’t worn in 25 years and never will again. Yet she keeps complaining about not having any closet space.

She has tons of books but they are crammed just wherever, she doesn’t have a single bookshelf like a normal person would. Then she complains she has too many books but she has a problem throwing them away.

I ask her if she wants me to help her organising the place, sorting out of the drawers and wardrobes; keep, give away, sell. To put up bookshelves. “Yes, yes sure but not now. Now is not the right time.”

At least I know where I got ADHD from, except I got diagnosed and medicated, but she says there’s no point in getting diagnosed. She functions just fine. She switches jobs every few months. Gaaaah.

Thanks for reading.
My grandma who is in her mid 80’s is even worse, she has an apartment full of stuff and a summer house where she has hoarded every single piece of furniture anyone in the family has meant to get rid of. I’m already dreading going through it all.

When I got pregnant my partner suddenly wanted nothing to do with me sexually. We used to have sex every day, then all out of sudden their libido vanished and they “didn’t know why”. I thought it might just be pregnancy hormones affecting him this way. He then had to remove all non-sexual intimacy so he wouldn’t give me any “false hope”.

Every few weeks I’d break down and cry since I was so starved of affection. He’d normally dismiss me, I could cry myself to sleep without him responding, just started snoring in minutes. After I’d broken down he’d usually sleep with me the night after, but never until I broke down. He’d wear me down and then “reward” me. If I tried to initiate he would get hostile. So, my only chance at sex was when he felt like it, and it was the shittiest sex ever. Like coming in 2 minutes and barely taking care of me. I left when our baby was one years old and I could start working full time again.

When narcissists decide to starve us of sex, do you think they’re just masturbating in secret? Cheating? We even got his testosterone checked and it was sky high…

I’ve been on Stelara for over a year, and most of the time I end up sick for 2-3 after I inject myself at home. I’ve had to call in sick every month, which of course isn’t popular. Have you experienced the same? Did it go away?

I just can’t believe it took me all that time to see him for what he is. All that suffering, putting my feelings and needs aside but still feeling I’m doing everything wrong, the crying myself to sleep next to someone who doesn’t react or care weekly.

Constantly undermining my confidence as a mother, placing himself as a primary caregiver left me feeling numb. And for a while I believed him. But when it was the second time we were having yet another argument, that like always started out me wanting to talk some things through. I had been crying for hours and he kept criticizing me, invalidating me and tearing me down and I was sitting on the floor trying to smile and laugh through the tears to our 10 month old who was on the floor with me.

That’s when I finally had enough, but I was mostly seeing the situation through our son’s eyes, and how I could never forgive myself if his firt memory was something like this. How he deserves a mom who isn’t depressed and crying regularly, he deserves to see healthy dynamics and I refuse to bring him up in this dysfunction.

Things really escalated when I got pregnant, all out of sudden he wanted nothing to do with me sexually and got angry if I suggested sex. We used to have sex almost everyday, and he knows regular sex is very important for me in a long term relationship. Then “he had to” remove all non-sexual affection as well, so he wouldn’t “give me false hope at sex”.

No cuddling, no random hugs, I don’t ever think he held my belly. But it was me that was the problem. Sometimes I would break down and cry because I felt so rejected, he would get defensive and mean and turn everything on me. But then he would “reward me” by having pity sex with me the night after. Then he would ice me out again for weeks until I broke down again. He said he just wasn’t horny in general and he wasn’t even masturbating. He did accuse me of cheating on him when I was 10 weeks along because I went to a festival with my friend who bought me a ticket as surprise. He of course hated my best friend.

I asked him to get his testosterone checked out, hoping it was just his age (he’s 14 years older than me) and it all had a biological reason. His testosterone is at max.

I’m getting counselling at a DV shelter, that’s helping me make sense of what I went through. I didn’t even spot the financial abuse until my counselor pointed it out. And of course he is trying everything to not pay child support. He even tried to get me to sign a form that would eliminate my children benefits from the state.

I guess I just needed to went. Thanks for reading.

I’m definitely on the upswing, I’m having a LOT of ideas, staying up way too late. Tossing and turning for hours. Then you know it’s Olanzapine time. It’s just like a warm blanket, soothed and calms. Keeps you on the ground.

And turns you into a hippo.

My GI was concerned that I have developed Lupus on top of my UC, at first I thought it wasn’t possible but recently I’ve been thinking she might be right.
I went to the pool and was in direct sunlight maybe for 10 minutes, my whole upper back and chest and throat were bright red, with red spots down my belly and lower back. It’s starting to be sunnier and I’ve been getting increasingly fatigued. In the last few years I’ve been getting these intense fatigue spells, that don’t follow a UC flare or symptoms.
I also have a low grade fever all the time.

Does anyone have Lupus and UC? Do you need a seperate med for Lupus?

I live in the EU and we are strongly discouraged by the goverment of health to buy things on Temu. The toxins listen though all seem to be in plastic. Would cotton be safe or likely to have some lingering chemicals?