u/Savings_Evidence_325

I do want to start off by saying, I do believe I’m on the aromantic spectrum. However I’m not sure where. I’ll put my reasoning in bullet points.

• When I liked someone it was nebulous and fleeting. Mostly aesthetic focused.

• I’ve always been quite romance-indifferent compared to everyone else.

• Recently when I like someone it’s more of a fixation than a long term attraction or desire. And I usually get over it quickly.

I was wondering if that’s greyromantic or if I’m just aromantic and experiencing attraction compulsively.

I’ve never dated cause I’m a little bit introverted and I’m not super romance oriented if that makes sense. I’ve been reflecting and realized that I’m probably greyromantic or aroflux. I’m already pansexual and probably demisexual or just greysexual in general so this feels like a lot. I’m quite romance-favorable so I’m having a hard time fully accepting myself. Any tips?

Edit: I realized I’m probably aroaceflux

I don’t experience romantic attraction very often and the few times I do it’s quite muted. Muted to the point where idk if I’m experiencing romantic attraction or alterous attraction. I’ve never really dated before. What do I tell people. For context I’m pansexual and greyromantic.

How do you know if you’re experiencing alterous attraction or muted romantic attraction.

Real life example about a friend irl:

I’ll get excited to see them however when I do see them it feels like a desire for closeness than a desire that’s exclusively romantic.

I’m not upset at just being their friend. However when they’re in the room they pull focus.

I’m very sure I’m somewhere on aromantic spectrum but I just wanted advice.

This is a pretty random post tbh. However I just record and share a moment of peace and clarity. As an agender pansexual, I feel really aligned right now 😃. I still have moments of imposter syndrome but they’ve been much shorter and less common. I hope this gives hope to anyone reading this.

To those questioning their gender and are still unsure, don’t beat yourself up for asking a question and having an immediate answer. Everyone starts somewhere. If you’re reading this have a nice day 😊 👋.

For example, if someone asks you a question starting with “as a man…?” or “as a woman…?” How do you respond?