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Hey all, I’m someone with bipolar and I’m trying to better myself for my SO. I thought here would be the best place to chat. I was wondering what differences you noticed in your SO after starting Lithium. Would you recommend it? Also, what are some other ways I can better myself? I just got out of the mental hospital and thought I was finally doing better but it turned out to just be hypomania. I had a depressive crash last night which made my SO cry and yell at me which was a wake up call. I’m still not okay. I need to medicate myself for his sake.

My boyfriend is very clean and thankfully I’d say household chores are pretty much 50/50, if not him doing more than me. He does dishes, laundry, tidying around the house, sweeps and mops, etc. My problem is I often have to go back over him when it comes to sweeping, mopping, dusting, and tidying because he doesn’t do a great job. Two times now I have seen him sweep and mop with my own eyes, but the floor still looked gross after, so I went back over it and swept up SO much dirt and mopped up a whole layer of grime off both the kitchen and entryway floors, it was as if he hadn’t even done it in the first place. He also doesn’t wipe down surfaces or dust at all, so I have to go back over the counters and tables whenever he says he “cleaned”. I’m grateful that he does a lot of chores because honestly most days he does more than me (and he complains about mess more than I do too), and I’m fine with a slight mess most of the time but the problem arises when we have people over, it feels like I’m scrambling trying to do everything and while I’m glad he does dishes and laundry on those days so I don’t have to worry, it stresses me out. I’m also chronically ill and it takes me much longer to do these tasks because my heart rate spikes and I get dizzy and I have a LOT of back pain and headaches and sciatica, so I have to take long breaks in between each chore or even take breaks in the middle of a chore. It just makes me upset that I’m getting all sweaty on my hands and knees putting the work in to scrub everything down while he gets the “easy” tasks. At the end of the day the house isn’t even as neat or tidy as I’d like it to look because after doing all the work, I don’t have time to arrange everything proper to how I’d like it to look before people come over. We recently had family over and he said he’d do the cleaning while I ran errands and cleaned up our pet’s cage (we have pet rats and they are my responsibility to keep clean and fed) but he barely swept and mopped (I had to go over), there were boxes of stuff everywhere (trash), random junk out on all the surfaces, etc. and when I confronted him about it he said he was cleaning our BEDROOM (which is on the second floor and closed off, nobody goes up there) which is NOT a priority in that situation at all!!! He eventually apologized but the pattern keeps repeating where he says he’ll clean while I go off and do things and other than dishes and laundry, I just have to go over everything he says he did even if I actually see him do it. I’m not sure if men just have a worse eye for cleaning or what but it really gets on my nerves. I’m not sure what the solution to this would be, I’m talking to him about it later, but I just wanted to vent as this is probably something I’ll just have to live with. Hopefully after we talk he might apologize or do better next time but it’s just really stressful.

TLDR; my boyfriend is great at doing some aspects of cleaning (dishes and laundry) and in general cleans more frequently than I do. But, he doesn’t do that great of a job and doesn’t have an eye for detail, especially when we have people coming over. It seems like for things other than dishes and laundry, he doesn’t actually put in that much effort. Not looking for a solution, just venting, but advice is appreciated.

I have a hard time getting rid of junk I don’t need. A lot of it is stuff from when I was a kid that I have some sort of emotional connection to but no need for now. Stuff that brings back memories of middle or high school that I’m not really into now, but I once was and don’t want to get rid of. Clothes, trinkets, books, random shit. Stuff I don’t have a ”spot” for. People typically keep this stuff with their parents in their family’s storage but I don’t have access to that. What are some tips on getting rid of this stuff/where should I put it? I’m also moving in with my boyfriend and I have a twin bed but we’re using a bigger bed at the house, no space for the twin bed to go, but I don’t want to get rid of it in case anything happens and I need to move out on my own again. I can’t afford a storage unit/don’t want one.

I used to have frequent out of body experiences, I used to feel a strong connection to the earth, and all things spiritual. Now I struggle with brain fog, memory problems, and feel genuinely stupid on top of being totally numb to everything metaphysical. I was put on antipsychotics for insomnia and making the mistake of telling my psychiatrist about these spiritual things (that I've experienced my whole life and never bothered me or altered my sense of reality, never had a psychotic episode bad enough to cause harm to myself or others or land me in the hospital) and they labelled me as Bipolar and prescribed me Seroquel. Since stopping it, I still haven't been able to feel like I used to. On top of not feeling spiritual at all, I also don't get passionate about things or feel connections with other people as deeply anymore. Is there any guidance on this matter? Any herbal remedies or specific meditation practices? (I know meditation will likely be mentioned but if it is, I would like instruction or guidance on what kind of meditation to do and how to do it properly)

Just lost my job and was told I’m getting evicted. Had to pawn off my deceased mother’s gold earrings to make rent. Don’t know if I’ll get another job soon. Feeling depressed and suicidal but trying my best to keep my head up. Is anybody else struggling with this sort of thing? I’m wondering if it has to do with Uranus in Gemini

Genuinely lost as I just was told I’m getting evicted. My current job is at a shitty chain restaurant, who keeps cutting my hours for new hires, I can’t get more than 12 hours a week at $13/hr. My rent is insanely cheap for my city at $364 and I can’t even make it. I feel like such a failure. I applied to nearly 100 jobs just to get this one, and this one doesn’t make rent, and now applying to multiple local places that had signage but not hearing anything back. A friend is helping me out so hopefully I don’t end up evicted and I’m donating plasma tomorrow (hopefully goes well since I have health problems) as well as pawning off some jewelry. Why is this shit so difficult? I couldn’t afford to go to college but I have years of retail customer service experience and can’t find a goddamn job anywhere. I can’t afford to live with these gas prices and I can’t find any fucking work. What do I do??? I’ve applied to every warehouse, walmart, Mcdonalds, you name it everything I have applied to. I’m lost. I’m fucked.

I’m broke as shit and my pet rats had an upper respiratory infection that has sadly resurfaced after their course of antibiotics. I took them to All Pets previously, but don’t think I can afford their prices rn (they are reasonable prices for the level of care and knowledge they possess I’m just insanely broke). All Pets was a little over $200 total for checkups and medications for two rats. Is there anywhere in Louisville that treats rats for a lower price that is still trustworthy?

I’ve been told by so many people that our style is boring but the only ppl I see who I admire their appearance turn out to be fellow Virgo risings/venuses OR Taurus venus. I love having a signature color scheme. I love having a fucking method to my fashion & it WORKING! I love getting compliments on outfits I calculated in my head & made reality. I love making/altering my own clothes because nothing you can buy at the store satisfies what I want. I love being unique to a fault while still not standing out too much! Just quietly being me. I think it’s the most beautiful thing anybody can be. Shout out Virgos :p