▲ 3 r/karir

Pls help me to find my career path, what should i do

Hello aku 20f yg lgi bingung sm karir kedepan

for backround

Aku merupakan anak 'bermasalah' sejak dulu

Tk kerjaan cma berantem

Sd ranking terakhir jarang masuk, kena sp sekali

Smp bolos terus sampe didatengin guru

Sma cma masuk 3x seminggu

Well dan sayangnya bolos bukan karena mau seneng seneng sama temen atau gmn, tapi ntah kenapa gue emg ga tahan sama sekolah sejak dulu

Ga bisa fokus, ga pinter jga, males malesan, otak burn out parah walau kelasnya bagus, ada temen yg selalu bareng dan jga temen kelas baik baik tetep aja cape bgt sekolah

Jadi karena itu aku memutuskan buat ngambil gap year 'tdiny' karna aku tau aku ga bisa gini terus dan mau take a rest juga memahami kondisi

Tapi ya mama aku maksa buat utbk dulu 'jalanin aja dulu' 'coba aja dulu' ok lah dicoba dulu dan lolos ke salah satu top ptn fakultas kehutanan (karena keluarga besar kami emg pada suka alam dan ada salah satu keluarga yg kerja di bidang itu)

Setelah itu aku mau tetep gapyear, aku mau buat rencana aku sendiri

But yup mama ku tetep maksa buat masuk karna sayang udh lolos, mau ga mau aku ikutin aja kata dia dr pada diusir

Aku awal masuk dh niat bgt mau produktif skrg waktunya memperbaiki diri dan membuka lembaran baru.

Awalnya masi ok aku ikut kepanitiaan, volunteer sana sini rajin kerkom dan belajar bareng sm temen. Tapi di bulan ke 4 aku udh burn outt bgt aku udh jarang masuk, temen aku jauhin, panitia gituan udh g ikutan, belajar aja g pernah jadi cuma diem di kamar kos buat hindarin kuliah, alhasil nilai jeblok mana ga ada pengalaman ga ada relasi :' aku ga ada niat gitu awalnya, cma agak membaik setelah liburan sem 2 ipk naik dikit akhirnya nyentuh 3

Di sem 3 aku ikutan ukm dan panit dan aku harus pulang 3 jam bulak balik, harus pulang sebelum jam 8.30malem kalau nggak bakal ketinggalan transportasi

Udh burn out aku semakin burn out :) jadinya bener bener g masuk di rumah doang, kalaupun ortu suruh masuk aku malah ketempat lain yg lucunya malah perpus lol bukannya belajar di kelas

Akhirnya karna aku udh g masuk di beberapa matkul smpe 5 kali aku memutuskan buat cuti di tengah jalan karna udh g kuat

Skrng udh mulai masuk lagi semester 5, full kelas sama adting, lulus pun bakal telat.

Dan jujur aku susah ikutan apa apa karna selain malu udh sem atas sendiri, aku juga g terlalu banyak pengalaman dan skrng aku g yakin buat lanjut karir di bidang ini.

Adakah saran dari kaka kaka untuk pindah ke karir lain, boot camp atau apapun itu🙏 aku sekarang lg belajar mandarin baru hsk 2 jaga jga kalau emg ga ada karir lain, harus push untuk kerja di pabrik china (kertas,benang,pulpen,pensil,bulb dll) yg katanya lg banyak diindonesia

Tldr ; mengalami burnout kronis di jurusan sekarang hingga memutuskan cuti, berencana switch karir dengan mencari kemampuan dan skill lain yg di perlukan

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u/Shhrinvy — 2 days ago

Can i fast every week after my 20 days water fast?(Refeed for 1 month+)

So im in 7 days water fast rn and planned to do 20 days water fast, and refeed for 40 days.

After that can i do 30-50 hours water fast a week? What the disadvantage and benefit for that

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u/Shhrinvy — 8 days ago

Can i cute my day dreaming without any meds/therapist?

So i day dreaming from when i was like 10-11 y.o at first it didn't really bother me cause i just did that abt 20-60 minutes and damn it just get worse

Im 20 now and i can day dreaming whenever, wherever i do.

Like i can still daydreaming while study, talking to someone

But it just made me lose my focus

I drop out from college bcs md make me lose my control in real life. I cant think abt anything except imagining something in my fake world.

I love fantasizing abt love life, but when i try that in real life TF IT JUST DOENT SATISFIED ME, then i will choose day dreaming abt him rather than actually hangout with him. Same with friendship, study, financial

Md just cracked my life

I would try tomorrow, i would just watch short sitcom movie (ttbt, modern family etc) that make my brain keep busy so i wouldnt md anymore

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u/Shhrinvy — 12 days ago

What do u think will happen if u only have 1 nd (adhd/autism only) do u think it will get worse or better?

Well for me i pretty sure i would be better if only have the adhd side and worse if i only have the autism side

Im pretty popular back then even tho i have a problem wth communication but im pretty good at sport, so no one really bullied me

My adhd help me a lot actually, i love to do a multitask like workout and watching film together etc etc so it really helpfull i can upgrade my skill while maintain my health, i join any sports competition and im quite good at it

But then my autism kick in i really didnt like the situation the noises the stutter the akward when i talk to someone, and baam im quit bcs i simply cannot handle that, and yeh as expected i become one of the losers kid

If i only have the adhd side im pretty sure i would be the popular, always hang out, so many friend since im an extrovert, and chill kid

If i have the autism side only hell no i wouldn't have any friend at all, i didnt really good at academics so a loser and dumbass, dork, pisses of everyone but maybe i wouldn't thinking abt it this much if i only have autism like my sister

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u/Shhrinvy — 12 days ago

So i made a previous post about my ~otw journey for lose weight, i dont want to gained it back how to refeed?

Yeah so i did fasting for a few times, my longest was 2 month intermittent fast (which is unfortunately i didnt realy lose weight at that time), 5 dry fasting (lose abt 8kgs and gained back in 1 week) i just normally eat 2-3 portion a day with a little bit amount of any sweet, so i dont think my refeed was unhealthy, and rolling water fast and yep its the same always gained weight after

I just want to be 52-55kgs/115-120lbs still in 20th august how do i achieve that?

(Current weight is 63kgs/139lbs)

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u/Shhrinvy — 16 days ago

Dry fasting until i meet my goal weight

So my current weight is 63.50 kg/140 lbs

Height 160-163cm/5'3-5'4ft (the last time i checked it was 2 years ago)

My goal weight is 52kgs/ 115 lbs

Update every 8 hours~~

Before : 63.50 kg/140 lbs

First 8 hours : 62.8 kg/138.5 lbs

16 hours : 62.09 kg/136.8 lbs

24 hours : 61.70 kg/136 lbs

32 hours : unfortunately i eat and drank for once so, rn is 62.6kg/138lbs

Well atleast i lose 1kg Lets continue ~

8 hours : 61.2 kgs/135lbs

16 hours : 60.7 kgs/134lbs

i cant continue bcs my family decided to go to a mountain n do hiking, well will skip df for 2-3 days since i have to stay in the hotel (6august-7/8 august?)

Currently weight : back to 63kgs (kinda eat a lot))

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u/Shhrinvy — 16 days ago

Rolling water fast

So my only goal for water fast is only losing weight with a very little amount of money since i go to college in 1st august

F21 5'4 lbs 140lbs

My target is 110 lbs for 1 month

Do 5 day wf and 2 day refeed every week is ok and is it possible to reach my goal at the end ofthe month?

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u/Shhrinvy — 22 days ago

Can i do 10 day wf after do 3 days df? Or how do i lose 24lbs for 20 days?

So heres the thing i just wanna to lose weight abt ±10 kgs or 24lbs for 20 days i really need that bcs i graduate college soon in 16 august and i dont think i can go dry fasting longer bcs i have to work and just wanna do dry fast for 3 days, after that can i continues with long water fast? Also if theres another option abt lose weight 24lbs in 20 days i would be open abt it

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u/Shhrinvy — 25 days ago

I don't know what im chasing

Do yall feel like this too?

Im in my twenties rn

Back then as an autism ofc most of us somehow get avoid by people and got bullied in 7th grade lmao( it's canon event i swear) and yeah at that time i just enjoy what i like (play game, read manga, got into healthy club ofc not socializing that much :( ) i didnt really think abt the future what i will become, same with highschol, but in hs finally i have a circle that i can be sharing my excitement with, and bcs of them i didnt really think i need anything i just enjoy the moment hangout with them, and then damn i got into college this is where the start began, EVERYONE IS IN FUCKING RUSH IN LIFE, one got married, one got internship, one got a job before college, one alr have business, one got into a lot of activities like organization volunteer, one always win a competition, and theres me still chill, but then when my friend in college started talk abt that and i dont know wat they r talking abt in that moment i just know im fucked up im falling behind, then i follow their life style im in my rush life situation. I join some organization, i did volunteer, i registered to a competition, i find a bf (im confessed to a random person....) I DONT WANT THIS FEELING, after a few weeks what i all build is just.....got destroyed. By my stupidness

I always absent in class, I don't follow my organization activities well, I threw a lot of my tasks at other people's volunteer, i didnt showed up in competition and getting blacklist, i broke up with him bcs i just cant.... I dont even know him everytime we hanging out my stomach just sick and I think I'm going to throw up.

Yeah after that im in the most loser situation ive ever been, i dropped out of college, stay at home daughter doesnt have a job for 2 years.

And now im scared im getting old, its because the only benefit i have is just my youth and kinda attractive face, since woman's age is very important to society esp dating scene im just scared even tho i never like/fell in love with someone???? I DONT EVEN THINK ABT MARRIED ONE DAY, but idk why im scared. And i have applied to any job that i can apply but i always got rejected idk what to do anymore, also idk if why i chasing this much? I dont even want them i just want to enjoy life, enjoy nature just hanging out with my friend and do something fun.

But yeah i realized i need money for that it suck

Tho rn i just hanging out by my self since my friend got busy, but i do enjoy this

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u/Shhrinvy — 1 month ago
▲ 47 r/Hobbies

Hobbies for people who cant go anywhere but bed

So yeah as the title say i cant go anywhere bcs my health isnt really well rn and its been a year but I have to rest for a few month again, and most of my hobbies come from my mother who once broke her leg and had to be treated for ±3 months. Ive tried many things such as :

- animal watching

- collecting parfume

- collecting aromatherapy

- crocheting

- reading

- play any game that available in phone such as sudoku, chess coop game

- watching movie

- digital art/painting

- learn new things and language

- writing journaling and editing

- virtual museum tours

- geography guess

- instrument that u can bring to the bed (ukelele, small guitar, Pianica, flute etc)

- podcast etc etc

- build toy or lego

- puzzle, origami

- collecting gundam

- Niche knowledge mapping

- necklace n bracelet self made

And im still bored til now Pls suggest me what should i do to fill my time

P.s no outside activities and pc/laptop

My fav hobby in the past : walking in the night, jog, boxing explor urban place, swimming, badminton w friend, board game, volunteer, trying new place esp food, hangout with friend. I love high dopamine activities so much

U can tell me to buy something cool tho :)

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u/Shhrinvy — 1 month ago

Seeking advice from financially successful AuDHDers: How did you find your path?

Hi everyone, I’ve recently taken an academic leave and I'm currently at a crossroads. I’m looking for real talk on achieving financial independence.

Managing an AuDHD brain makes the traditional 'corporate ladder' feel impossible. For those who have reached financial stability:

How do you reconcile your brain’s needs (stimulation/burnout) with the demands of earning?

What was your actual 'first step' when you felt like you had no roadmap?

Did you turn a special interest into a career, or find another way?

I’m currently feeling lost and would really appreciate any advice or personal experiences on how to start building a future that actually works for us

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u/Shhrinvy — 1 month ago

7 days dry fasting good or bad to skin?

So as u can see i have an active acne, and really bad acne scars hyperpigmentation, i also have several skin face problem, i wonder if im doing 7 days dry fasting straight (5 days df is my longest, and when i did that i have no skin problem) for this 7 day can my skin got better? Or it will just make it worse?? Also should i still use my skincare for this or nah

(I also want to lose some weight i still have fat cheeks)

u/Shhrinvy — 1 month ago

Sad bcs getting called too old for doing something stupid and fun

Im 22f rn, im in my depresion phase when i was teenager only go outside for school and thats it, i dont even have a friend i often to absent a lot, like 2 day not go to school a week. Since i was a child i love stupid n fun thing ngl like outdoor activities, going out alone all by my self, just dancing around, etc etc. i would love to do something crazy like all teenager do sadly i didnt have a good money management n i didnt have a friend outside school even in online so i just shut in at my house. I also would love to go to a competition!!! Esp in sport!!! Im ur stupid n slow student n i didnt really get excited with academics thing. Well i aint do shit in school, i have no gut for to do that i also alr got overwhelmed with my environment so i didnt really join any sport :(

And rn i tried to go outside and play skateboard with other people but i keep getting called too old for that, i got surrounded with teenager that around 13-17 y.o i feel ashamed so bad and stop did that, i want to do basketball n volleyball too, but no one at my age that doing this, i keep regreting not doing all pf that in my teen year. I cant keep with adult things like really deep down in politics, relationship, work, sex life etc somethin like that

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u/Shhrinvy — 2 months ago

Can we forced our hyperfixation

So i want to learn lamguage for work but i felt a damn bored in the first hour, i want my hyperfixation goes onto this, is that possible?

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u/Shhrinvy — 2 months ago

Drop out of college

Anyone here who has quit college or taken a long break?

I was supposed to be in my 5th semester by now, but I took a break from college for about two semesters. I'll be going back this August and continuing from my 3rd semester.

Back when I made that decision, I didn't know I had AuDHD. I just knew I was going through a really severe depressive phase. I rarely attended classes and was absent for almost half a semester.

Eventually, I decided to take a break from college halfway through my studies.

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In 2 month ill be back in my college, but i didnt really think it getting any better than last year so im just scared i would just be wasting my time too this time, I consider a drop out and just working on my way, i cannot stand with school system anymore, i just scared it will get worse when i continues my study

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u/Shhrinvy — 2 months ago

Politics

Idk if its has correlation with audhd, but im just tired when anyone talk abt politics for a long time, anywhere anytime. Sometimes i cant keep the convo and just ran away to another topic

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u/Shhrinvy — 3 months ago

Is this schedule okay?

D1&2 (weekend) jog for abt 20k, badminton and do sport with a friend

D2-D5= walk 10k steps

D6&7 = just rest

I have 5 day df before and only do 10k at that time

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u/Shhrinvy — 3 months ago
▲ 98 r/Noses

Always insecure because i got asian wide bulbous nose instead a mini cute one

i saved my money for rhinoplasty, do u have someone nose in mind that would suit me the best

u/Shhrinvy — 3 months ago

How do u cope rn when u doesnt have teen experience

I always think abt it all the time, i dont remember had a good time in my teen year, even tho i love to play around and wanting to have teen experience like anyone else.

My undiagnosed audhd was a hell back then, i got bullied and manage to mask, but bcs of it i feel alone. I never really have a close friend. What i did everyday was so depressed cycle its just class-eat-home-gaming-often to absent in class. I never go to party or hangout with my friend (also its covid at that time) i isolating my self, my neighbors doesnt even recognize me. Now im not in my teen year, but i really want to fill up my lost childhood year. But rn i feel cringe n old everytime i do that esp when i see other group of teenager and i cannot enjoy that at all

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u/Shhrinvy — 3 months ago

Help me to find out my sexuality

So since i was a child i never really love or like anyone, but i craving all love language or attention from them, i never mind with kiss on the lips, hugs, holding hand or etc i found that just close platonic activities also i dont wanna lie i like that.

Ive been in relationships and dating for a few time, but i never really love them, i love when we're in getting know each other phase but when they confess to me i dont have a choice i dont want to lose them so i accept it.

But after a 1-2 week i get sick w them and choose to broke up, on the first day i feel sad and feel lone, but after a few day im not longer mind abt it. I never had a crush celeb, or wtv u called it. everynight i imagined i have a gf or bf to cuddle bcs i love that but in reality idk its just feels weird, idk if this bcs of my mental health or im a aromantic

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u/Shhrinvy — 3 months ago