u/Soft__Cherrylipx

I knew this girl for two years and I definitely considered her to be my bestfriend, since im a year older than her I introduced her to my school when she was a first year student. She was a breath of fresh air and unique and very very pretty. I am a girl and so is she and I did have a crush on her for a while but it was a very like ‘kindergarten crush’ I liked her for a few days mostly because I found her pretty. I told her this (she sort of alr guessed it) and told her if she said shes cool with it but that she doesn’t want to be involved with me in any romantic way at all. I respected her especially when I didn’t like her thaat much to really imagine anything beyond friendship. Anyways I know it can be uncomfortable knowing someone has a crush on you so I never acted different around her and we didn’t hangout that much because I was in a class above her (we’re both 18 dw) but anyways after I graduated I moved out of the country and back to my country which is where I am now.

Me and her were still friends and we’d talk regularly. One day I realized she unadded me on IG so I asked her why and she said she felt uncomfortable because I liked her. I didn’t really get upset over that reason I got more so upset that it was just a lie because I was posting on my story (which she saw) that I was involved with another girl so I told her this and I said

‘i really wish you could have talked to me before just unnadding me but ok’. Later down the road she revealed the ACTUAL reason she unadded me. She was dating bundy (not his real name) and he didn’t want her to be my friend.

Me and bundy have a looot of history. We used to be friends but I cut him off when he tried to get sexual with me while in a relationship. He’s cheated on all of his girlfriends including my friend and he’s a diagnosed sociopath. He does not treat woman with any respect whatsoever and has so many SA allegations. He’s into gore (yes he’s that kind of cringy) and overall a horrible POS. Nobody in our class really fw with him, and worst of all he hurt me really REALLY bad, but thats a whole other story to get into, and I told my friend ALL of this a year ago and then now when she told me this It felt like a bullet through the heart. This girl had been my closest friend and vice versa and she cut me off because a man she’s been talking to for a week told her to. Not only that he logged into her account and blocked me.

And when I pointed it out to her how stupid and selfish she’s being she just says ‘yeah I have to figure this out I’m sorry’ which is absolutely CRAZZZY to me because why the fuck are you thinking about breaking up with a man who has literally cheated on ALL his girlfriends (this is public knowledge BTW it’s not a big secret) and she chose him over me?!? Her first friend in the school.

Yeah when she said that I just said ‘look whether you break up with him or not I don’t care because I don’t want to be friends with someone who chooses a man over this 2 year friend’ and blocked her. I cut of all contacts with her.

I’m genuinely still in shock that this happened because she’s the last one who I thought would do this to me. The situation is honestly just so disappointing and I never wish to speak to her again

Yeah thats all I have really, just needed to air this one out

Okay so i pretty much decided on doing political science for major and social work for minor. For my career I’d like to work for MUN in helping woman specifically(or anyone that really needs it) it’s sort of broad I know but I’m still thinking on what I want to do in the future but in summary I want to help people. I have a lot I want to do like abolishing laws that harm woman or harmful traditional practices (there are a lot of harmful practices in Africa specifically where I lived all my life), helping victims of human trafficking escape or just get rid of laws that harm woman/ people in general.

I’m not sure im choosing the right major and minor so I’d just like to hear other peoples opinions on it.

Okay so i pretty much decided on doing political science for major and social work for minor. For my career I’d like to work for MUN in helping woman specifically(or anyone that really needs it) it’s sort of broad I know but I’m still thinking on what I want to do in the future but in summary I want to help people. I have a lot I want to do like abolishing laws that harm woman or harmful traditional practices (there are a lot of harmful practices in Africa specifically where I lived all my life), helping victims of human trafficking escape or just get rid of laws that harm woman/ people in general.

I’m not sure im choosing the right major and minor so I’d just like to hear other peoples opinions on it.

This is for me, theres one person that really really hurt me and I just don’t want to remember them at all. Is there something I can do about this

I literally got pierced today and an hour after I got it I had this horrible headache and it doesn’t go away! I took medicine (ibuprofen) and nothing

I think I left my kindle on an airplane a day ago, I am just now realizing this.

Is it possible to contact the airline? Im not sure I need help!!

Not sure if this is the right subreddit, dont know where else to go to

So for the past fee months I’ve been having like really creamy discharge that literally leaks from me at times. It’s not a yeast infection because it doesn’t itch nor does it smell bad. It’s a white discharge and it’s just so weird. I take hormonal pills but I haven’t been taking them that regularly. I haven’t been sexually active in a month and I’m pretty sure I don’t have an STI

It’s just weird, sometimes I have to literally use a tampon because of how wet it makes me.

Anyone have any clue ab what this is?

He’s been working with us since we’re missionaries and he’s known us for years. He’s a very energetic guy, he’s big and loud and just in general very jolly. Recently some 3 years ago he just became very affectionate with me, not in a creepy way but like as if I was his daughter. Back when I was a Christian I prayed to god crying and asking him for very specific answers to very specific things. The next day he asks to talk to me and he says those very specific things that I asked god. I was amazed, and he’s apparently a prophet. No it’s impossible he heard me because my room is in the second floor and my parents don’t let any guests go upstairs. My parent wouldn’t have told him because they aren’t the type to do that. Anyways when he told me all that I got emotional and for sure thought god was amazing and was answering my prayers.

Anyways after that he got really affectionate with me saying a lot of ‘fatherly’ things I guess? He said he loved me, that I was special and god has amazing plans for me in the future. Everytime over the span of 2 years he’d come he would always have a prophecy for me and would always say the same stuff.

Now that im older and agnostic IK it’s all BS, but I still don’t know how he gave me the first prophecy where it lined up perfectly to the stuff I prayed. Well anyways one time I came downstairs to get water and saw him reading my bible, or more specifically my notes on my bible. I found it weird but oh well. I tried to get water and leave but he started talking to me about how special I was and the plans god had for me. I just nodded and went upstairs.

I know it’s all BS which is why I’m getting weirded by his emphasis on how special I am and how much he loves me. And he touches me sometimes, friendly touches. A pat on the back or a hug nothing inappropriate.

To top it off, my friend has a dog that is veryy friendly and never EVER barks or growls. But when the dog saw him, it became aggressive and IDK maybe I’m reading too much into it but I found it weird, dogs can tell when a person is…off.

Well anyways he’s at my house right now and he told me god was going to give me an amazing husband that would take care of me. I’m bisexual and don’t want to mary and only plan to mary a woman. I told him ‘I don’t want to mary’ he laughed and said ‘I know, thats why I’m telling you this. God told me’ I laughed but omg that was so fucking WEIRDD.

Since then I’ve kinda been avoiding him, I feel uncomfortable and scared he’ll give me another prophetic reading or (something he does often) sing to me. I’m autistic so you can imagine how painfully uncomfortable the interactions with him are.

I just need to know If I’m overthinking this or being dramatic. And also how tf could he have made that prophecy?

I dont know which subreddit to post under so I’m posting it here. If theres a better subreddit lmk.

I can’t handle criticism like at all. One time I was at an airplane and I changed seats to another empty one, a flight attendant told me to change seats because you had to pay extra for that seat. They were nice.

I spent the rest of the flight extremely embarrassed upset and I kept replaying the event over and over again and I wanted to cry.

I can’t debate with people because whenever they don’t agree with me I feel like crying. It’s honest to god SO embarrassing because I appreciate different views from mine but idk why I get so sensitive.

Whenever people confront me (happens a lot bc I get bullied at school and I get misunderstood a lot) I freeze up, i can’t speak my brain is like thinking of soo many different responses and I end up crying.

I HATE THISS, how do I fix it??

First of all I am NOT transphobic in the slightest- I want to understand it better so I can be more open. My question is, if gender is a social construct race is also couldn’t someone change their race? In my mind the logic applies to both (pls don’t attack me Im genuinely just being curious I’m sorry if I sound dumb)

Another qn of mine is do trans ppl just cosplay the other sexes like stereotype? Like for example if a trans woman wants to be a woman through dresses and makeup it’s just like…theres more to being a woman than that.

Plsss dont attack me I am not trying to be transphobic I just have genuine qn and I want to understand it better!!

I’m sorry if what I said has come off as offensive thats not my goal at all;(

I just want to be educated

I have to rehome my dogs of 13 years because im moving and don’t have the money to bring them with me. I feel utterly hopeless, because I keep thinking about how much it will hurt to leave them behind. It’s at times like this where I pray. I don’t even believe but before when I was a Christian it felt so good and safe to rely your problems onto god and now I have to do it myself.

It hurts so much that I pray, I pray knowing I’m praying to nothing. I do wish god was real at times like this…

Seriously I’ve never seen any trucks transport a crane, it’s just somehow always there on the construction site

My family and friends think I need therapy and here’s why. I have AuAdhd, and from time to time I have these breakdowns where I hurt myself scream and yeah it’s just a mess but I always make it a point to not hurt people. As alarming as this may sound it rarely happens and I go back to ‘normal’.

I did SH for 6 years but I’ve made it a point to stop (been clean for 3 months) and I’ve stopped because I don’t like how my scars look it doesn’t match my aesthetic and I need to keep the streak going in my app Sober.

My sister thinks I’m an avoidant person which I do have to agree but every therapist I’ve been with have just made me extremely uncomfortable. Opening up to people is literally a nightmare, I prefer watching my little pony it soothes me.

I love my family and friends but I can’t stand the idea of doing therapy, and just to LYK I’m not against therapy at all I even study psychology but I just don’t think it’s for me

So I just need another set of opinions, do I need therapy?

Edit: Sorry for the confusion but I mean I’m studying psychology in highschool NOT as a major for uni

Edit again: okay I did not expect this post to get so much attention and so many replies but I will say that getting a lot of different opinions have made me realize that getting therapy can be good.

I may not reply to all the comments but I am reading them!! Thank you all

I don’t go nonverbal before anypony says that, It’s just really hard for me to speak. My throat gets hot and millions of thoughts run through my head and what happens is I shut down. I feel like crying but I hate crying and I hate feeling big emotions so I push it down. I go quiet and all I want to do is be alone and do something I like like watching my little pony or playing my video game.

Why does this happen?

Why does this happen

I’m so lazy, and IDK if it’s bc of my disabilities or because I just am. But I just can’t stand up right now and study for my exam and pack my things up, I feel like it’s impossible to move even when it’s not. I feel so guilty because I had so much time today to do everything but I just stayed on my bed. I feel horrible, how do I fix this

To start off I just want to add that my parents are the best parents I could ever ask for, and I love them.

I’ve been lying to my parents about everything, I’m quite literally the child they wished they never had. I’m a agnostic pansexual left leaning feminist and cherry ontop: autistic. Everything my parents would never want and I feel horrible. They aren’t conservative but they aren’t exactly liberal but they do lean more to the right. They’re missionaries which means we are known by many people and are respected by a lot of christians world wide so I always have an act I need to keep up. I recently became agnostic and it’s just really hard for me to pretend to be a christian, it’s weighing me down having to be someone I’m not every day and present this false version to my parents and everyone we work with.

It hurts me to hear how my parents talk about queer people and liberals/leftists because thats me. They’re indirectly insulting me and sometimes I slip and show who I really am then shut myself up before they can question me any further.

My parents aren’t upset because im autsitic but I can tell at times they wish I was normal (or least thats how I interpret it) I suck at socialization and every church or house we go to I dread it because of the process. I come off as rude on accident and embarrass my parents, I just wish I could be normal.

Theres so much I want to say but I wont. I just imagine the dread of coming out to them one day and telling them who I really am, I cant even imagine how disappointed they will be that all their time spent on me was in vain. I can’t imagine how all the people who my parents work with will look down on them when they see their daughter is a agnostic freak who likes woman. I’m going to disapoint so many people beyond my parents, my grandparents my cousins my aunts my uncles my christian friends…I have a cousin who is exactly like me and our family hates her. I don’t want to end up like that and I’m so scared

I don’t know how much longer I’m gonna have to keep this act up, I’m being forced to go to a Bible school for 6 months then go to a Christian university. I can’t escape the pressure I feel everyday and my mask is falling off. At some point I won’t be able to pretend anymore.

I know my parents seem bad but they really are lovely they just have their moments.

To start off I just want to add that my parents are the best parents I could ever ask for, and I love them.

I’ve been lying to my parents about everything, I’m quite literally the child they wished they never had. I’m a agnostic pansexual left leaning feminist and cherry ontop: autistic. Everything my parents would never want and I feel horrible. They aren’t conservative but they aren’t exactly liberal but they do lean more to the right. They’re missionaries which means we are known by many people and are respected by a lot of christians world wide so I always have an act I need to keep up. I recently became agnostic and it’s just really hard for me to pretend to be a christian, it’s weighing me down having to be someone I’m not every day and present this false version to my parents and everyone we work with.

It hurts me to hear how my parents talk about queer people and liberals/leftists because thats me. They’re indirectly insulting me and sometimes I slip and show who I really am then shut myself up before they can question me any further.

My parents aren’t upset because im autsitic but I can tell at times they wish I was normal (or least thats how I interpret it) I suck at socialization and every church or house we go to I dread it because of the process. I come off as rude on accident and embarrass my parents, I just wish I could be normal.

Theres so much I want to say but I wont. I just imagine the dread of coming out to them one day and telling them who I really am, I cant even imagine how disappointed they will be that all their time spent on me was in vain. I can’t imagine how all the people who my parents work with will look down on them when they see their daughter is a agnostic freak who likes woman. I’m going to disapoint so many people beyond my parents, my grandparents my cousins my aunts my uncles my christian friends…I have a cousin who is exactly like me and our family hates her. I don’t want to end up like that and I’m so scared

I don’t know how much longer I’m gonna have to keep this act up, I’m being forced to go to a Bible school for 6 months then go to a Christian university. I can’t escape the pressure I feel everyday and my mask is falling off. At some point I won’t be able to pretend anymore.

I know my parents seem bad but they really are lovely they just have their moments.

Im asking this bc I’m agnostic but my parents don’t know that and they’re forcing me to go to a Christian uni but I’m also bisexual and where I live it’s illegal to be queer so I have no experiences w woman and I really want some in university but of course that would be hard to find in a Christian university.

The university doesn’t necessarily have to be liberal just very loose with its rule and if anyone knows anything ab a secret queer or lesbian club or some shit idfk.

I’m sort of desperate here lol but any help is appreciated

I can’t help it, I’ve always been this way and there are just some foods that I can’t eat and I don’t know why it bothers them so much, I don’t complain about it or ask them to make specific meals for me and when we go out to eat I always pick the simple options. But my family are so incredibly bothered by it and I don’t see how this can affect them- if anything it’s hard for me way more then them. They’re not the ones who have trouble eating certain foods or gets triggered by a specific texture. I’m just tired of having to hear them constantly complain about it

Anyways if anyone else is going thru this lmk,