Like I can't read a book or doom scroll or listen to contradicting points without getting triggered. I hate it and sometimes I just wish I didn't care so I wouldn't be constantly feeling like this
Like, seriously. If I ever get married, I would want all my guests to wear whatever they look the best in. It could be a gown, an expensive tuxedo, anything. They could also wear a bikini if it's at the beach. I love seeing my loved ones looking their best and I don't understand the concept of "outshining the bride". To me, I strongly believe that this mentality stems from the patriarchy since it surrounds misogynistic viewpoints that a woman's happiest day is her wedding and because of that, she must look the most gorgeous because otherwise, she wouldn't have another chance to dress as fancy. Am I making sense? Let's say it's my wedding and a wedding guest is wearing the same color as me and just generally has more jewellery and glam, I would be over the moon!! I love fashion and I would be admiring the outfit and maybe after the wedding we'd make plans to go out and dress stylishly. Ok I know that this is kinda messy and unorganized but it's just a reddit post so yea
So I have a deformed body part but I keep it hidden under my clothes so it's not visible to the public. It isn't affecting my health or anything it's just that it's deformed. I have never been in a relationship but I legit stay up almost every night just thinking about how I'm going to tell my potential future partner.
Edit: Btw I'm female
I've had a few family members die and one of them was very close to me yet I felt nothing when they died. My sibling didn't feel anything either and we were both trying our best to cry at their funeral. My friends have also had close family members die and they told me they didn't feel anything either.
My parents think that I'm just an airhead who eats lipstick all day. They think I don't know anything about politics or what's happening in my country/town/area. Of course, I don't know every single detail nor can I remember them but I am very aware of it. In fact, I want to be a journalist one day so that I can shed more light on these issues. My parents don't know about my goal either because 1) it's generally not a high paying job, 2) the regret rate (for studying journalism, communication, sociology) is high, and 3) my country isn't exactly the ideal place for a journalist to work at. I just need advice on how to tell them about my goal in life and let them know that I'm not some useless dumb dumb.
My dad asked me to text them about something since there's something involving me with them. I told him that I'm not going to text them and then he told me that at the end of the day, they still raised me. So I have 2 relatives who I am very uncomfortable to be together with. Especially one of them. Just their mere presence is enough to make me hide and cry from them. When they go downstairs, I go up. When they are in the kitchen, I don't go down for food even though I'm hungry. Honestly idk why I'm so scared of them. Yea I had a few bad experiences with them but nothing significant or traumatic ever happened. I've forgotten a lot of my childhood memories with them so I really don't know what made me feel this way towards them. I'm just writing this in r/mentalhealth coz I feel it's the most appropriate subreddit to post this to.
There's no skill I have and I know damn well I need to learn them but yet I give up after a few days and I'm just like wtf. I am so pathetic like sometimes I just wanna crawl out of my own skin (iykyk). And I always think that I'm more important in someone's life than I actually am. I always think that ppl like me more than I think and I get so upset whenever I see the gifts I got and the gifts other ppl got. And like other stuff too. And I know that no one needs to like me well. There is no obligation and I'm such a bitch. Ugh there's so many other things and I also know that what I feel is like, not even close to serious issues and I'm just being so dramatic and ridiculous. UGH I AM SUCH A STUPID COCK SUCKING CLOWN!!! And it's even more pathetic coz I'm too scared to sh like wtf. Girl you don't have any issues please get yourself together.
I have never had a boyfriend and I really want to experience dating. Should I just make up a dude and pretend that he's real (not literally, ofc but like if anyone asks who my boyfriend is I'll just say his name). Like I'll buy stuff and make cards for myself and pretend that it's from my boyfriend.
No one has a crush on me. I'm truly happy for my friends that there are ppl crushing on them but i just can't help but feel my heart ache a little whenever they tell me about it. So yeah, how do I get someone to have a crush on me? That is, from behavior-wise , appearance-wise, just anything in general that can make me attractive.
No one has a crush on me. I'm truly happy for my friends that there are ppl crushing on them but i just can't help but feel my heart ache a little whenever they tell me about it. So yeah, how do I get someone to have a crush on me? That is, from behavior-wise , appearance-wise, just anything in general that can make me attractive.
I've never been in a relationship before. I've never had a crush like me back. I've never experienced a guy being interested in me . I've tried meeting ppl online and irl but it's all the same. It could be my personality since I laugh really loudly and my small social circle is like 99.99% girls so obviously yk. The thing is, I really believe it's because of the way I look. Even my mom insists that I need foundation and my close friends are also comfortable telling me that I look very average / typical for my ethnicity ( I don't think it's a bad thing, I rather them be completely honest with me than lying to my face ). Edit: To clarify, I do enjoy doing my makeup. It's a hobby of mine. It's just that I can't find a foundation shade that matches 😫
( English isn't my first language so I'm sorry if this comes of as a mess 😅 ) Hey! So I don't really like pink on my face since it doesn't suit my undertone. I've been trying to find blushes/ eyeshadows that don't have pink but are not completely brown. So like gold, silver, light brown yk (eyeshadow) or like purple/ red blushes that aren't too pigmented since I'm pale and I'm also more of a highlighter person. Any recommendations?
We've only been talking for about 2 weeks yet I already have a crush on him. The thing is, he's turning 18 this year while I'm still 16 so obviously we can't date or anything. Keep in mind, he is the first crush I've had in 2 years. I used to have a very big crush on my classmate when I was 13 and ik that I'm not 13 anymore but I know myself well enough to know that eventually I'm going to be too obsessed with him. HELP.
( Yes ik this is messy but I genuinely don't know how to coherently write this 😭) So I'm a 16 year old girl and I recently ( about 2 weeks ) met a guy ( turning 18 this year ) online. Ngl I thought that he wouldn't want to talk to me because uhm damn he is hot. So I was very surprised when he texted me first and noticed whenever my texting became dry. He's also really understanding and open minded. I didn't have feelings for him at first but like I realized I kinda do because he's in a gc with a friend of mine who is also a girl my age and I just felt kinda jealous looking at them talking to each other even though I talk to him a lot more and they only interact in the gc. ( I don't hate her or anything it's just that I feel so jealous whenever I see them interacting. He actually even texted in the gc asking if I was annoyed by their convos but I ofc said no ). So he thought that I was 17 and yesterday he asked me if I wanted to live in this city within 6 months or a year and I truthfully told him that I don't. Anyway today I reminded him that I'm 16 and I somewhat mentioned meeting up in the future and he literally told me "no tf. I'm not a pedophile". Also like I don't even really know if I seriously like him or not. I just need advice on how to deal with all this. Edit: We have talked about having future intimate 🌶️ contacts and we've both made it clear that it'll just have to wait until I turn 18. (Ok I feel like this post is confusing af so I hope y'all don't overthink too much)
I've had this exact dream since I was 4 years old and I'm 16 now. The problem is, that dream is really expensive and I come from a working middle class family. The second thing is, my parents don't support me. They always say I can tell them my goals but when I do, they say it's ridiculous and push me to be interested in something else. Like any other dream, this requires a lot of effort but I'm the type of person who gets tired easily and even school work is too much for me to handle. Like I said, I'm 16 so I really have to do something now but there are no opportunities and there is nothing I can sign up for since my parents don't allow me to. I know I'll have to break my beliefs and find another dream but I can't. My worst fear in life is to not be able to do it. Idk. I just need advice on how to be okay with knowing that I'll never achieve it.
Edit: Okay, to explain my family situation further. I come from a conservative, misogynistic, and patriarchal family. Since I was little, my (younger) brother was encouraged to pursue his dreams because in their logic, he's a guy so that means he's more capable of doing things (they even signed him up for classes) . Meanwhile, I was discouraged from pursuing mine. I had many goals as a kid but they are completely unobtainable now so that's why this last one is so important to me. Like I've mentioned in a comment, I have practiced with tutorials online and showed my parents that I could do better if I took classes and they still said no. They even scolded me for practicing and at the time i slept in the same room as them and the bedroom was the only place for me to practice so eventually I stopped. I cry about not being able to achieve those goals and I know I'll be damned if I don't achieve this one. I think I need to further explain my situation so here's a story: When I was little I really loved to do this one thing but i was discouraged by my family and even scolded whenever I did it. Meanwhile, my brother was never discouraged from doing it. So one day, he asked my parents if he could sign up for classes and they agreed but before signing up, he went on a tour of that centre with me and my mom. I was never supposed to go but I really wanted to so that's why my mom took me. After the tour, I was certain that I wanted to sign up too and I told my parents. That night was one of the worst nights of my life and I cried so much afterwards. I don't even want to think about it. So fast forward to now, I've already dropped a lot of my other dreams and my brother has stopped going to those classes after only 3 years. Please keep in mind: I don't hate my parents nor my brother.
I don't have any hobbies. I don't have any special interests. I don't watch movies or series. I only like listening to mainstream music and I don't have a favourite band/artist. I don't like caffeine or boba and I'm not a big fan of matcha so I literally just drink soda, water, and juice. I don't have a dream vacation spot. I have a dream but I don't know how to get there and I know I won't be able to make it come true anyways. I just genuinely didn't realise how boring I was until my best friend told me that she doesn't know what I like.I can't believe that I don't have a personality holy shit.
So I do a specific action whenever I feel stressed out or panicked or sad ( you get the jig ). But I also sometimes do it when I feel horny. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember and as a result, my body parts involved in this action are distorted?? Like, it does NOT look like how it's supposed to look. Though no one notices since they're hidden under my clothes. I remember constantly getting scolded from my family for doing this all throughout my childhood. I remember getting confronted on the effects of my action by my kindergarten teachers and peers. Yes, kindergarten. Like I said, I've been doing this for as long as I can remember. It helps me cope with my emotions. Now, nobody knows that I still do it. I tried to stop many times but I couldn't. The longest I can stop doing it is 3 weeks. Usually I do it 1-2 times a day. Just like I mentioned before, I have physical alterations from doing this. Because of that, I stress out about others noticing and there are clothes which I cannot wear or everyday positions I can't do otherwise everyone can see. This bothers me a lot and I know I will need surgery to undo the physical effects. Though this action does not affect my physical health ( at least from what I know) \\\*sorry for my messy writing this is the first time I told anyone abt this