u/Trucker225

I’ve been dating my partner for a few months and I’ve been knowing him for about 3 years now . This was our first time having sex previous conversations I told him if he prefers raw sex then I will not be engaging with it . I was also already nervous about having sex anyways due to me having dyspareunia . If anyone is familiar with this condition , you know it’s freaking painful . Anywho . I saw him open and put the condom on with my own eyes . I even purchased the condoms .

After we did the deed I went to give him oral and I was trying to roll the condom off but nothing was coming off . I asked what happened to the condom and he said that he had taken it off. I instantly got upset . I told him how he was crossing a boundary that I had placed. Which made me feel as if I could not trust him sexually anymore . He was mad at me and made me leave . Which made me realize he isn’t as mature as I thought.

According to him he basically got pissed at me saying I was accusing him of having a STD and said how I am supposed to trust him. I honestly just feel like boundaries need to be respected. Never just said dude you have a std . I simply just do not have unprotected sex and I told him before hand that I do not engage in that . He then told me that I probably have a STD and that is why he’s not going to talk to me anymore . (Weird right ) I sent him my lab results with everything saying negative. He thumbs up the screenshots . After he text me expressing hisself and I expressed myself I stopped hearing from him…

A few weeks later after that I started feeling weird down there. I was experiencing some discomfort and discharge it was just weird , it wasn’t my normal discharge. Before hand as mentioned how I sent him my results I recently had just got testing done per my MyChart it was time for my HIV test etc . Usually my doctor just does full panel which every time she asks to do full panel I just say yes it’s fine . My test results all were negative for everything .

So back to me going to get tested after weird symptoms , I found out I had chlamydia . I sent him a text message and told him we needed to have a talk. No reply . I got onto social media where I seen he had blocked me on everything..

Yes it’s curable but this is so fucked up some people are truly just evil .. I believe in karma and he’s def going to get his karma . For some reasons my best friend feels as if I’m being dramatic . It’s not me being dramatic . That shit is actually so wrong.

I am not entitled to someone just giving me there full life health history but idk maybe I’m dramatic but a part of me feels like he knew he possibly had something

Edit: I’m sorry you guys I am trying to reply to everyone . This whole situation stressful

Second edit : I did my research and apparently it isn’t automatically illegal here from what I am reading it boils down to if I consented to have intercourse with him all around. Which is fucking insane because I told him with a condom and I discovered he had removed it . I never told him to remove the condom. This state sucks. I honestly never want to get involved with another person again. It’s getting late everyone please keep replying I will respond the best I can but I have to work in the morning . Thank you guys for all the supportive comments .

I was previously a truck driver switched back to healthcare and it’s been suspected I have sleep apnea ( physical was almost flagged) , after inconclusive at home studies and crap I finally did another test, still waiting on results. In the mean time I am always overly exhausted. I was diagnosed with insomnia years ago and put on medication which turns out the root of the issue is actually sleep apnea .

I also have started back experiencing sleep paralysis . I am sick of waking up and still being tired. I already work doubles and don’t get many off days . I am trying my best because I obviously need my job . I do not drink caffeine plus I know the root of the problem needs to be fixed.

I am just tired of waiting but what else can I do honestly . Today was another horrible day it took me super long to get out of the bed to the point where I almost called in to work . It is hard trying to explain things without full blown just disclosing all of my health issues. Which I know legally I am not required to do that anyways.

Is sleep apnea having a negative impact on anyone else right now? Like what do I do until I have a solution, I am getting super frustrated.

I have tickets to his concert and honestly I really want to see Chris lmao seeing Usher is a plus also but mainly Chris duhhh! I am hoping he still is able to attend the later concerts , I saw that the concert I’m attending is one he may potentially miss .

I don’t get on the internet much but I kept seeing it all over YouTube . I am hoping that he doesn’t have to go to jail honestly . What even is the true back story . Chris Brown concerts are always great! This is one that I actually don’t have to travel for he’s coming to my state literally a city not even 30 mins away from me. Hopefully everything works out

What’s up everyone hope you guys are staying safe ! My friend is interested in getting into trucking . He wants to do flatbed but honestly I’ve seen so many places have changed since I’ve gotten my license. I am unsure who even offers training anymore.

If you guys can share any starter companies that you’d think would be cool please comment them. I did explain to him how the companies usually require you to work for them for at least a year taking the route he wants to take. The few companies I told him about aren’t even hiring from his area . He’s in Louisiana in the Opelousas area .

Also told him everyone experience won’t be his experience . I know some things are glamorized , and some people expect everyday to be perfect . He seems sure about this though so just trying to give him some suggestions . Thank you guys

I get regular STD testing. I had my 6-month testing done last month (blood, urine, everything) and all my results were negative. I’ve only been sexually active with my fiancé, and we hadn’t had sex in about 2 months after losing our baby because I needed time before feeling comfortable again.

When we finally had intercourse, a few days later I started experiencing intense itching and things felt off down there. I told him and suggested we both get tested together, like we’ve always done in the past. Instead of going, he kept making excuses. When I questioned it, he turned it into me accusing him of sleeping around. That wasn’t the point I just wanted both of us to be responsible and get checked. We’re adults, and testing shouldn’t be an argument. EVER!

I went to the clinic myself. The rapid tests for BV and trich were negative.The rest of the STI testing was sent off and I’m waiting for results. I’m honestly hoping everything is negative, but if something comes back positive, I don’t know how I could move forward. I honestly WILL NOT ! I will be giving him his ring back and calling quits COMPLETELY.

We’ve been together a long time, I trusted him, and we’ve always tested together. I know I should have used protection, but it’s still upsetting to feel like my trust may have been broken. If he knowingly put my health at risk or was unfaithful, that would change everything… AIO for considering calling quits? Honestly I know some of you are going to say I may be overreacting but it hurts feeling this way. Knowing that he couldn’t just wait for me to be ready. Also my health is important .

I am scared because if BV and Trich was negative and I am experiencing whatever. That means it’s SOMETHING. At least that’s what I am thinking .

Final edit: thank you all for the suggestions but I will no longer be responding to anyone . I am currently staying the night at my bestfriend house. No I do not have my test results back but as mentioned below how he was on the phone with someone outside at 1AM things have been weird since that also . Tonight someone called his phone super late , I don’t check his phone because I mean we’re grown asf but it wouldn’t stop ringing . So what did I do open the phone. Am I wrong for this? Possibly . Anyways seen that he was on some type of escort website. Visited this website MULTIPLE times . Yes I know I didn’t give him sex for 2 months but I literally carried a child that I lost. I couldn’t bring myself to have sex it wasn’t anything personal. His excuse was that he tried to find a girl that his friend deals with on there. He said he saw her on the website and went back on the website to try to find her again to “show ” him. My whole thing was how did you end up on the website anyways …. Why were you on there ? Also saw a video of him getting oral from a woman . According to the gallery , this video was from May of this year . Also he sent photos of me to the woman bragging about how pretty he thought I was …. A woman that he slept with in our bed ….. In OUR BED . I’m done . The fucking embarrassment I feel will never leave me. He wasn’t texting one woman but multiple women. Not sure if he slept with all of them or not but I’m done. It’s not about trust issues , when your intuition tells you something believe it. There’s no sense in texting these people bc they do not owe me loyalty he does. What good will it do to text these women anyways? I didn’t even know we had escort websites here what the actual fuck.

Edit: I just cannot believe this. How did he have time to bring another woman to our place?? Like when the fuck did he do this. It seems it would take extra energy being sneaky than just being honest and doing what’s right. He didn’t give a fuck about me. He probably didn’t care that I lost our baby. He was getting head not caring. I know I said the last edit was final but wtf. Not to mention I have work in literally less than 3 hours. I’ve been up all night. Honestly if you’re not reading the edit just stop replying . There’s been tons of people who caught something from a partner . A trusted partner . Like what are yall talking about

I had a really long conversation with a guy I’ve been dealing with for a while, which he is now my ex. As of now . I finally realized I’ve been pushing away someone who has truly loved me.
Looking back, I know I wasn’t always fair to him. I said hurtful things, picked at him, and let my own personal struggles affect someone who didn’t deserve it.

I honestly was running from real love and letting my past issues and ptsd etc create problems that had nothing to do with him. This man has always been kind to me. He buys me flowers, takes me on dates, communicates with me, has never cheated on me, and has always accepted me for who I am without trying to change me.

It takes a lot to make him angry because of how patient he is. I said some really hurtful things, and I picked at him in ways I shouldn’t have. I think, deep down, I was trying to push buttons and make him angry because I was dealing with my own issues and didn’t know how to handle them. Which caused him to say some things back , nothing hurtful but he basically did tell me about myself which I needed to hear it. Yet I still made it seem like he was wrong . When he wasn’t all because I was stubborn. I did apologize to him.

I’m in therapy, working on myself, and learning how to be a better partner. I want to show him through my actions that I’m ready to stop running when things get hard and truly commit. Please don’t take good love for granted. Sometimes the person you’ve been looking for has been right in front of you the whole time. What are some first steps I should take to get him to know I am serious? Yes I am old enough to understand things but this has been a reality check for me I actually realized this man is who I love and want to be with .

He also gave me my key back to his house , I’ve always had an house key to his home. I gave it back one day and called quits on him. I just want to show him I appreciate him. I want to stop being such an asshole. What have you guys done when you realized you had your dream person but had some making up to do?

Hi everyone I am genuinely wondering this . My roommate is currently my friend but things aren’t aligning with us anymore. Due to boundaries being crossed just because we’re friends. So I am looking to find a new roommate . We both came to an agreement .

I am always overly anxious and it’s definitely bothering me . I am in my 20s a female and honestly I am concerned about having a stranger as a roommate . I am also a college student and I do not want to live above my means. Having a roommate works for me . Also due to me working a lot anyways . I’ve seen where people usually put cameras in their room, is this truly necessary? Or does it just boil down to what I want lol.

Edit: I forgot to mention my college isn’t in my home town I am an online student . Which a few complexes have given me the runaround and states it’s just for the nearby students .

I am the youngest of my siblings and have always tried to help my family when they needed it. In the past, I put a vehicle in my name for my brother, only to deal with debt collectors and missed payments because he failed to pay the note. Which I have fixed my credit and it is now back to how it originally was . I was younger during these things , please do not judge . Trust me I’ve learned my lesson. I was just a younger sibling doing what I thought was something good.

Later, I helped my sister by putting utilities in my name when she was struggling. She eventually left an unpaid balance of nearly $600. When she later gave me $200 during a difficult time, we both agreed it was not simply a loan and that it would be applied toward the outstanding utility balance she owed. She also promised to continue making payments on that balance but never did.

Later she has found out that I am in a better position than I was a few years again and I am making better money and everything now. Now that I am trying to move, the unpaid utility bill is creating problems for me. I also discovered that she was not truthful when she claimed the balance had been paid. Despite our agreement and the debt still being owed in my name, she is now demanding that I repay the $200.

I do not believe that is fair given the circumstances and the agreement we had in place. I expressed this to her and she is acting as if the things that I am saying are “made up”. She is stating that she never said that , and she claims I never helped her . Which I sent a screenshot of her exact old address and everything on the bill. Telling her that she knows I did not live there and it was in fact her. It’s just the nature of the situation , yes I know I will more than likely have to pay that balance myself . It’s just that I believe I got the short end of the stick here. Which I know life is unfair but I think it’s pretty fucked up that happened that way.

Edit : My credit isn’t horrible anymore this is actually something being brought up . I have always been on the road working and now I recently decided to move elsewhere . Since I am not working over the road anymore . This particular place doesn’t have utilities included . No I am not stupid , trying to help and genuinely caring for others. It is definitely a lesson learned , I agree . Which like I expressed I know better now. I do know now that I am responsible for my life only .

I am the youngest of my siblings and have always tried to help my family when they needed it. In the past, I put a vehicle in my name for my brother, only to deal with debt collectors and missed payments because he failed to pay the note. Which I have fixed my credit and it is now back to how it originally was . I was younger during these things , please do not judge . Trust me I’ve learned my lesson. I was just a younger sibling doing what I thought was something good.

Later, I helped my sister by putting utilities in my name when she was struggling. She eventually left an unpaid balance of nearly $600. When she later gave me $200 during a difficult time, we both agreed it was not simply a loan and that it would be applied toward the outstanding utility balance she owed. She also promised to continue making payments on that balance but never did.

Later she has found out that I am in a better position than I was a few years again and I am making better money and everything now. Now that I am trying to move, the unpaid utility bill is creating problems for me. I also discovered that she was not truthful when she claimed the balance had been paid. Despite our agreement and the debt still being owed in my name, she is now demanding that I repay the $200. I do not believe that is fair given the circumstances and the agreement we had in place. I expressed this to her and she is acting as if the things that I am saying are “made up”. She is stating that she never said that , and she claims I never helped her . Which I sent a screenshot of her exact old address and everything on the bill. Telling her that she knows I did not live there and it was in fact her. It’s just the nature of the situation , yes I know I will more than likely have to pay that balance myself . It’s just that I believe I got the short end of the stick here. Which I know life is unfair but I think it’s pretty fucked up that happened that way.

Edit: I’ve had rough times before but I’ve never asked my siblings for anything I would always just figure it out . My brother owes my sister almost $5,000. Which she only brings up when she’s mad at him. Then there goes me tried to help her and her family and she screws me over. I know for a fact she isn’t hounding him down about 5k. Like I said it’s just the simple fact there was an agreement. Now that she’s in need she’s making it seem like I am a liar . Also I am older now . Problem being far as the apartment move I have stayed somewhere where utilities were included and I also would be working on the road . Now that I have changed careers , I am looking to move elsewhere . Where utilities included aren’t offered.

Long story short, my friend has been messing around with her ex. They have years of history together.

The problem is that while he was still in a relationship with his baby mama, he was also sleeping with my friend. Eventually, his baby mama found out he was cheating, and they broke up.

After that, he suddenly stopped talking to my friend for a few days. She told me she knows how he is and that he always has to be attached to a woman and basically lives off them. Sure enough, during that time he moved in with another woman. So, from what I can tell, he was involved with my friend, his baby mama, and the woman he moved in with—all at the same time. To make it worse, he would come see my friend in the other woman’s car.

Apparently, one day he came over late and tried to sleep with her. She got upset because he was late, which honestly made me think he was probably dropping off the woman he lives with at work or something. My friend ended up crying because she was so hurt by the situation.

What confuses me is why she thought she was somehow off-limits to this behavior. He was literally cheating on his partner with her. If he’ll cheat with you, he can absolutely cheat on you too.

What really frustrated me was that she started taking her anger out on me when I had nothing to do with any of this. I genuinely think it’s disgusting that he’s juggling multiple women and using them however he wants.

I tried to tell her as nicely as possible that this situation is toxic and that she needs to leave him alone. Sex isn’t everything. His actions clearly show that he doesn’t care about her the way she wants him to. He even tried telling her that he would’ve “married” her one day, which sounds like manipulation to me.

The whole thing bothers me because she deserves better, but she’s allowing him to use her and keep her emotionally attached. What also gets under my skin is that she constantly tells me she wants what I had in my previous relationship. I was in a long-term relationship, received gifts, was loved, and was even proposed to—but I still walked away for my own reasons. Just because something looks perfect from the outside doesn’t mean it is.

I wasn’t cheated on, but I left because the relationship wasn’t right for me. I’ve tried explaining to her that things aren’t always what they seem. Still, she constantly says she wishes she had a man like the one I had.

At this point, the whole situation feels messy and exhausting. This guy is trifling. I care about my friend and want her to be okay, but she’s fully aware of what’s going on and continues to entertain it. I just don’t understand why she keeps directing her frustration at me instead of the man who’s causing the problem.

AITAH?

Edit : I am not just giving her my unwanted opinion. I only tell her things when she ASKS. I am not just judging her and giving her this harsh advice of some sort.

Back story : My friend and I have been friends for over 10 years. Our lives are just slightly different. She has two kids and I have no kids , which was the peak of weirdness in our friendship a few years back. She used to think I didn’t want to hang with her bc she had kids but I would always suggest kid friendly and she wouldn’t want to do that. This was never an issue though bc I love her for her but things have been going downhill since I moved in with her.

I had my own place my job lost their contract out of nowhere . Which I ended up having to move out of my place upon my lease ended. She offered me to live with her. When originally my grandparents offered their place to me . It’s just 3-4 hours away .
I ended up moving in with her. Things were great until things got weird.

She doesn’t charge me but I still give her money and I still buy things for the place. I also am also 100% her transportation. She doesn’t drive and doesn’t have a license. Things just started getting a bit weird when I started mentioning how when I am able I will be moving out . It’s like she didn’t like the idea. I spend time taking her kids around everywhere and also her. Sometimes I am just really tired from work though.

My car has started having issues which cost me almost 2k so far. She isn’t being mindful of my car. Her kids always trash my car . Not only that she made a comment “at least the car runs ” true but I do not like going far places If I don’t have to . I also feel like she doesn’t respect my priorities. I am trying to get my life back on track & she’s just expecting me to take trips with her and her kids . Then when I tell her no idk about that I’m trying to do x y z. She gets upset.

She was upset with me that I tried a new restaurant without her , but I ordered the food on DoorDash bc it was the closest also cheapest (I was at work) . My therapist said it seems like she’s becoming codependent on me and that may cause us our friendship .

Idk what to do.. I love her and care about her she’s like family but sometimes things get pretty weird and it doesn’t even have to be weird it just happens. She doesn’t have any friends but me. All of the friends she had stopped talking to her . Or she would just stop talking to them… idk you guys .

For the first week I was having a decrease in appetite. Never wanted any sweets or anything. This changed fast . I am on 500MG not the ER . I take it once a day which is dinner time.

I am now starting to be hungrier than ever. Only happens at night. I will not be hungry the whole day and night comes I am starving like crazy. I am pass the pooping phase. I have just started taking myo & d inositol yesterday along with my usual vitamins . I do not have any cravings for sweets but more so just wanting to eat everything . Which only happens at night.

Has anyone else experienced being hungrier than usual ? I I am def considering a GLP atp.

Heaviest I’ve ever been in my life. Nothing helps ! Sick of all this facial hair . I literally hate my stomach. It ruins everything I wear. People make it see like I’m just lazy when I’m really not! I literally try everything to lose weight . It’s not THAT easy . actually it’s not easy!! I just want to be healthy and in good shape. That’s all I want . This PCOS is ruining everything .

So exhausting with people reminding me of my weight gain and asking why am I “so big now” so rude. I’m sick of it . I actually cried the other day. I want to take my power back . Smh

I was prescribed metformin today and I know my doctor said some people lose weight with it and some don’t . I’m hoping I lose weight while on it . I’m so tired. Mentally this is alot on me .

I always wear a jacket no matter how hot it is. I always want to wear oversized clothes. I hate having my arms out. I’m tired . Sending love to anyone that’s feeling a bit defeated , things will get better for us all💗

Sorry didn’t know which flair to use but I was SA for years of my childhood by my uncle . I instantly was terrified of men and did not like them . Although along the lines , in middle school I started to have these unexplainable feelings . Didn’t know why I would gear towards girls and not boys. I was just young though right and confused maybe? Yeah no that was not the case.

As I slowly got older still didn’t have a thing for guys . I didn’t get the support needed from family I was told I was going to go to hell and I better not like same sex. Fast forward I’m dating my first ever gf. We ended up dating for over 3 years. My parents knew atp still didn’t support. I used to be turning her every which wayyyyyy🤣 sorry sub omg. Don’t ban me lol .

Years later I’m still into my beautiful queens . I love women so much . I definitely know it was never a phase. Im so glad it wasn’t a phase . My love life still suck but yk lol. I need the next woman I deal with to be my lastttt. Seriously.

It’s just hurtful years later when trying to get to know someone and we share our coming out stories or the whole how did yk .. it’s like I get judged. When I 100% know I am into women. Some people look at it as if I was forced to like women. Honestly however you put it I do love women. I can’t wait until I find a wife one day 🥹

Do I just not share my story with anyone? Maybe I should just leave the SA part out .. when getting to know someone. I’m just an open book honestly and I didn’t let that take over me. It’s just getting very frustrating . I just want to meet the loml someone that’ll understand me and yk not judge me bc of what happened to me.

I get lonely at nighttttt lmao gosh.