To Malayalis From Kanyakumari: How Is Life For You?

To Malayalis From Kanyakumari: How Is Life For You?

(I'll also make another post specifically about Kanyakumari Tamils, but it will be a critical one due to some valid reasons.)

As someone with Kanyakumari Tamil ancestry who currently lives in Thiruvananthapuram, I'm genuinely interested in hearing from Malayalis living in Kanyakumari — and yes, of course, from those living in South Karnataka (Coorg, Mangaluru, etc.), Lakshadweep, and other parts of India as well.

Are you happy with your life there? How would you describe your social status and acceptance in the region? Do you feel that identity issues or an identity crisis affect you significantly?

What is your view of Kerala and Malayali society? Do you feel connected to Kerala, Kanyakumari, or both?

If you don't experience an identity crisis or major problems, why do you think that is? And if you do face difficulties, what are the main problems — social acceptance, language, culture, discrimination, political representation, or something else?

Please share your experiences, even if they're different from what I expect. I'm asking because hearing firsthand experiences could help others understand the situation better and perhaps think about ways to support the community.

And yes, please come forward — I'll defend you in the comments if anyone tries to dismiss or attack your experiences.

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 5 days ago

How I Explain What Comes After Abrahamic Religions: Bjp Will Come For Us — Non-upper-caste Hindus, Buddhists, Sikhs, Tribals, Etc.

These Hindutva guys will say, “Whatever it is, we are Indians. We accept good Shudras.”

Meanwhile, they spam slurs at Shudras who don't accept their POV. I'm talking about people who either haven't had the chance to bully others or don't have that mindset themselves, but still carry a superiority complex.

It's similar to how some women are treated well as long as they follow misogynistic ideas.

Even if we accept their POV, we're still going to be doomed. They will dismiss the accusations against the extreme bullies among them, openly support eugenics, etc. If that happens, society could slowly be pushed back toward the old order.

Can anyone give me some other valid points too? I know those incidents, references, points, etc., but I want them in short form so they’ll be useful in an argument. If I yap for 1–3 minutes, they’ll surely interrupt me.

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u/Used_Judgment1806 — 5 days ago

Wth is this?Any explanation?

Why did he say that? Historically, Indian bankers, gun technology, and traitors were the ones who helped the British conquer India, right?

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 11 days ago

Am I the only one who’s like this? Psychiatrists/psychologists, are you here? I’m gonna become a psychopath soon.

Thanks to my fellow Racists,Casteists and so called dark humour guys..

Why does extremism (of any kind) seem so cool? My mind sometimes wants to be rude, insult others, call them "subhumans," or even imagine bullying people. I've been bullied before, and I'm constantly exposed to toxic Instagram/twitter comments and edits. Could that be influencing me? Is this projection?

I don't want to become this kind of person. I've seen people online glorify bullying, hate, genocide, body-shaming, telling others to "go die," and even celebrating villains and violence. At first, it disturbed me, but over time it made me wonder, "What if I became like that? It seems so cool, right?"

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 12 days ago

I Got A Solution! How's My Idea?

Please read all four slides so you get the idea. Yes, of course, I want support and revolutions from our brothers and sisters who speak other languages too.

I MEAN,SIMPLY BE FREE FROM BRAHMINISM/VEDIC RELIGION AND PROMOTE DE-SANSKRITISED RELIGIONS (INCLUDING BUDDHISM) TO COUNTER THE INFLUENCE OF THE VEDIC RELIGION. THIS SHOULD BE FOLLOWED BY ALL OUTCASTE INDIAN CASTES AND ETHNICITIES, NOT JUST TAMILS OR MAHARASHTRIANS, JUST AS AMBEDKAR INTRODUCED NAVAYANA.

Context of the first picture: Those are farmers during a protest. Who would shame themselves by acting like this? Despite their pain(i do feel sorry for them) but I don't support or accept this behavior.

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 15 days ago

What are the different types of traditional Tamil headgear?

I've noticed that Tamils seem to have used many different types of traditional headgear throughout history. Some look like turbans, while others have different styles, shapes, and ways of tying them.

I'm wondering if, just like neckties have many different knots and styles, traditional Tamil headgear also had different types with specific names, purposes, or meanings.

Can anyone identify and explain the different types of Tamil headgear? If possible, could you also share pictures or references showing the various styles and when they were traditionally worn?

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 15 days ago
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What are the different types of traditional Tamil headgear?

I've noticed that Tamils seem to have used many different types of traditional headgear throughout history. Some look like turbans, while others have different styles, shapes, and ways of tying them.

I'm wondering if, just like neck ties have many different knots and styles, traditional Tamil headgear also had different types with specific names, purposes, or meanings.

Can anyone identify and explain the different types of Tamil headgear? If possible, could you also share pictures or references showing the various styles and when they were traditionally worn?

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 15 days ago

A QUESTION FOR NAVAYANA BUDDHISTS

I recently bought Buddha and His Dhamma by Dr. B.R. Ambedkar (and I plan to read Buddha and Karl Marx and Revolution and Counter-Revolution in Ancient India afterward).

My approach is a bit different. I admire Ambedkar, but I don't want to assume that every interpretation, historical claim, or explanation in the book is necessarily correct. Likewise, I don't think the Buddha has to be viewed as a perfect person to learn from him.

So my questions are:

Is it okay to read the book critically instead of accepting everything?

Can I mainly focus on the chapters about ethics, morality, Dhamma, and practical life lessons, rather than the biographical or historical sections?

The chapters I'm planning to prioritize are:

Book I: Part IV (Enlightenment and the Vision of a New Way),

Part V (The Buddha and His Predecessors),

Part VI (The Buddha and His Contemporaries),

Part VII (Comparison and Contrast)

Book III: What the Buddha Taught (all chapters)

Book IV: Religion and Dhamma (all chapters)

Book V: Parts II–V (especially Vinaya for the Laity)

Book VI: Part III (Critics of His Doctrines)

Book VIII: His Personality, His Humanity, and His Likes and Dislikes

I already made a detailed post about the new lifestyle I started (it's been 4 days now).Maybe it will be helpful to you guys.I even included some historical incidents and other points, but it didn't get much attention.can u pls read this too?

https://www.reddit.com/r/OutCasteRebels/s/g3Dcw8ICjd

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 17 days ago

Are we really obsessed with Savarnas?

Your opinion?

Please read this post fully first: https://www.reddit.com/r/OutCasteRebels/s/CrwZNbLq9V

We say, "I don't have a preference for caste, class, or any other human-made background when it comes to dating or marriage." But if we end up with a high-caste partner, some idiots start saying things like (the same applies to race, skin colour, ethnicity, etc.; even if we explain that it's not a double standard, they still repeat it): "Oh, you're against upper castes, but you wanted an upper-caste dandi"

I saw this many times...

At the same time, I can't say, "Marry only within our community whenever possible," as the post whose link I shared here suggests, because that also creates division. And Savarnas will use that as another excuse against us. So what are we supposed to do?

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u/Used_Judgment1806 — 18 days ago

IF YOU COULD START FREELANCING FROM SCRATCH IN 2026, WHICH ONE SKILL WOULD YOU LEARN?

I'm an absolute beginner with no freelancing experience, and I want to focus on learning just one skill instead of jumping between multiple things.

My main goal is to start earning as soon as possible and eventually build a high-income freelance career. I'm willing to put in the time to learn properly, but I don't want to waste months on the wrong skill.

If you were starting from zero in 2026, which single skill would you choose?

Some options I've been considering are:

- AI automation

- Video editing

- Web development

- Graphic design

- Copywriting

- Something else?

I'd really appreciate advice from people who are actually freelancing:

- Which skill got you your first client?

- Which has the best balance of demand, competition, and income?

- Would you recommend focusing on one skill first or learning multiple skills together?

Thanks in advance!🫰

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u/Used_Judgment1806 — 21 days ago

if you could start freelancing from scratch in 2026, which one skill would you learn?

i'm an absolute beginner with no freelancing experience, and i want to focus on learning just one skill instead of jumping between multiple things.

my main goal is to start earning as soon as possible and eventually build a high-income freelance career. i'm willing to put in the time to learn properly, but i don't want to waste months on the wrong skill.

if you were starting from zero in 2026, which single skill would you choose?

some options i've been considering are:

- ai automation

- video editing

- web development

- graphic design

- copywriting

- something else?

i'd really appreciate advice from people who are actually freelancing:

- which skill got you your first client?

- which has the best balance of demand, competition, and income?

- would you recommend focusing on one skill first or learning multiple skills together?

thanks in advance!🫰

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u/Used_Judgment1806 — 21 days ago

IF YOU COULD START FREELANCING FROM SCRATCH IN 2026, WHICH ONE SKILL WOULD YOU LEARN?

I'm an absolute beginner with no freelancing experience, and I want to focus on learning just one skill instead of jumping between multiple things.

My main goal is to start earning as soon as possible and eventually build a high-income freelance career. I'm willing to put in the time to learn properly, but I don't want to waste months on the wrong skill.

If you were starting from zero in 2026, which single skill would you choose?

Some options I've been considering are:

- AI automation

- Video editing

- Web development

- Graphic design

- Copywriting

- Something else?

I'd really appreciate advice from people who are actually freelancing:

- Which skill got you your first client?

- Which has the best balance of demand, competition, and income?

- Would you recommend focusing on one skill first or learning multiple skills together?

Thanks in advance!🫰

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u/Used_Judgment1806 — 21 days ago
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Is it possible to learn classical Tamil(That too, I'm looking for de-Sanskritised Tamil—the kind found in the traditional speech of Kanyakumari, the Western Ghats tribal communities,and Sri Lankan Tamil dialects),well enough to write a major literary work in under a year?

I've become fascinated by works like Thembavani,Thiruvasagam,Thirumurai,Manimekalai and Seerapuranam.I want to write an epic or devotional work in a similar literary style.

I know this is an ambitious goal, but I'm wondering if it's realistically possible to reach a decent level of classical Tamil(That too, I'm looking for de-Sanskritised Tamil—the kind found in the traditional speech of Kanyakumari, the Western Ghats tribal communities, and Sri Lankan Tamil dialects. I'm not looking for the modernised "Senthamizh" often used in today's historical Tamil dramas),within one-two year through disciplined self-study.

If so:

- What should I study first?

- Which grammar books are essential (e.g., Nannool, Tolkappiyam)?

- Which classical texts should I read, and in what order?

- Are there any university lectures, online courses, or YouTube channels you'd recommend?

- How many hours per day would I need to dedicate?

- Has anyone here successfully learned to read and write Senthamizh (Classical Tamil) as an adult?

I'm not expecting to become the next Kambar in a year, but I'd love to know whether it's possible to build a strong enough foundation to begin writing serious literary poetry.

I'd really appreciate any advice, book lists, or study plans. Thanks!

ஒரு ஆண்டுக்குள் செந்தமிழைக் கற்று, இலக்கியம் இயற்றும் அளவிற்கு தேர்ச்சி பெற முடியுமா?

மணிமேகலை, தேம்பாவணி, திருவாசகம், திருமுறை, சீராப்புராணம் போன்ற மகத்தான இலக்கியங்கள் என்னை மிகவும் ஈர்த்துள்ளன. எதிர்காலத்தில், அவற்றைப் போன்ற இலக்கிய நடையில் ஒரு காப்பியமோ அல்லது பக்தி இலக்கியமோ இயற்ற வேண்டும் என்பது என் நீண்டகால இலட்சியம்.

இந்த இலட்சியம் மிகவும் உயர்ந்தது என்பதை நான் அறிவேன். இருப்பினும், ஒரு ஆண்டுக்குள் தீவிரமான சுயபயிற்சியின் மூலம் செந்தமிழில் வலுவான அடித்தளத்தை அமைத்து, இலக்கியம் எழுதத் தொடங்கும் அளவிற்கு தேர்ச்சி பெற முடியுமா என்று அறிய விரும்புகிறேன்.

அப்படியானால்,

- முதலில் எந்த நூல்களைப் படிக்க வேண்டும்?

- நன்னூல், தொல்காப்பியம் போன்ற இலக்கண நூல்களில் எதிலிருந்து தொடங்குவது சிறந்தது?

- செந்தமிழ் இலக்கியங்களை எந்த வரிசையில் வாசிப்பது நல்லது?

- இணையவழி பாடநெறிகள், YouTube சேனல்கள் அல்லது பல்கலைக்கழக விரிவுரைகள் ஏதேனும் பரிந்துரைக்க முடியுமா?

- தினமும் எத்தனை மணி நேரம் பயிற்சி செய்தால் நல்ல முன்னேற்றம் காண முடியும்?

- பெரியவராக இருந்தபின் செந்தமிழைக் கற்று இலக்கியம் எழுதும் அளவிற்கு முன்னேறியவர்கள் யாரேனும் இருக்கிறார்களா?

ஒரு ஆண்டில் கம்பர் போன்ற புலவராக மாறிவிடுவேன் என்ற எதிர்பார்ப்பு எனக்கு இல்லை. ஆனால், தீவிர முயற்சியால் ஒரு வலுவான அடித்தளத்தை அமைத்து, செந்தமிழ் இலக்கியப் படைப்பை எழுதத் தொடங்க முடியுமா என்பதே என் கேள்வி.

உங்களுடைய ஆலோசனைகள், நூல் பரிந்துரைகள், அல்லது ஒரு ஆண்டு படிப்புத் திட்டம் இருந்தால் மிகவும் உதவியாக இருக்கும். நன்றி!

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 25 days ago

How to learn pacha-malayalam and also one request..

Looking for pacha Malayalam names! Names like Vallon, Chekon, Maniyan, etc. Can anyone suggest 10–12 authentic pure Malayalam names? Also, where can I find more names like these?

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u/Used_Judgment1806 — 25 days ago
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My personal approach to Navayana buddhism-thoughts?

https://www.reddit.com/r/OutCasteRebels/s/NQKUiGzj6h

I recently started exploring Navayāna Buddhism and bought Dr. B.R. Ambedkar's \*The Buddha and His Dhamma\*.

My approach is probably different from many others. I don't think I should accept every historical claim or interpretation in any religious or philosophical text without question. That includes Ambedkar's interpretations, and even the historical accounts of the Buddha. I also don't assume that any historical figure was perfect.

Because of that, I'm planning to focus mainly on the chapters dealing with ethics, morality, wisdom, values, and practical philosophy, rather than reading the book primarily as a historical biography. I plan to take a similar approach with \*Buddha and Karl Marx\* and \*Revolution and Counter-Revolution in Ancient India\*—learning from the ideas while critically examining the historical claims.

Outside of Navayāna, I also want to build my life around:

• Meditation and mindfulness.

• Good physical and mental health.

• A science- and psychology-based lifestyle while incorporating my local ethnic philosophy.

• Self-improvement (communication skills, education, emotional intelligence, discipline, etc.).

• Studying psychology, sociology, and human behaviour.

• Practices like manifestation and the law of attraction, mainly as tools for positive thinking, motivation, and goal-setting, so that my life still has a sense of spirituality and a structured practice similar to what many theistic religions provide.

I'm also planning to read the \*Thirukkural\* as one of my main ethical texts.One of the oldest ethical works from Tamil/Indian civilisation, older than the Bible, the Qur'an, and many later religious texts, including several Hindu works (yeah, that statement might upset some people). Over time, it has been interpreted in many different ways.Many Hindu extremists have tried to assimilate it into mainstream Hinduism by adding interpretations that make it appear more aligned with Vedic traditions.

Because of this,some social activists and historians that the interpretations of "Bharathidasan" and "Chidambaram" are among the most convincing.Because they were also aware of attempts to assimilate the \*Thirukkural\* into mainstream Hinduism and they successfully find the an older copy of thirukural written in 10th century to avoid this problem,which is too hard to find and thats how they written their interpretations.

Culturally, I still want to celebrate local ethnic festivals, seasonal and harvest celebrations, family occasions, and traditional customs grandly. I want to preserve ethnic culture and heritage while avoiding religious rituals that I personally don't wish to follow. I admire how Chinese people(majority are atheists) preserve their ethnic related customs, arts, and traditions while avoiding religious ones.

I'm also interested in learning more about indigenous Tamil traditions, Tamil Buddhism, and non-Vedic, non-caste-based forms of Saivism and Vaishnavism. If I ever have the opportunity, I'd like to contribute in some way to preserving or reviving these traditions, just as Dr. Ambedkar revived Navayāna Buddhism.

For my home, I'm thinking of having a simple altar. Can you guys share your ideas?

Does this sound like a coherent approach to Navayāna Buddhism? Am I missing anything? I'd especially appreciate hearing from Navayāna Buddhists or people familiar with Ambedkar's writings.

# Mainly! What about?(see my reply to that guy...the first image i shared here)....like to help research, preserve, and reform indigenous non-vedic paganism/tribalism into a modern world while remaining faithful to their historical roots, much like how Dr. B.R. Ambedkar developed Navayāna Buddhism.

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 26 days ago
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Is it possible to box competitively without hurting your opponent?

I've seen even more dangerous and gory ones

I've recently become interested in boxing, but I genuinely don't want to cause pain or injuries to anyone.

I know boxing is a combat sport, so I'm wondering if it's possible to compete in amateur or professional matches while keeping the risk of hurting your opponent as low as possible.

Are there boxing styles or strategies that focus more on technique, defence, movement, and scoring points rather than power? Or is causing at least some pain basically unavoidable in a real match?

I'd love to hear from experienced boxers and coaches. Thanks!

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u/Used_Judgment1806 — 26 days ago

My paternal great-grandfather was a freedom fighter who fought alongside Netaji. But still...?

Fun fact : Not all christians are Anglo-indians or westernised.. The same applies to muslims.. Not all are urdu speakers

As an atheist, I have criticisms of Christianity and all religions.

But it still hurts when someone uses the slur "rice bag."

My paternal ancestors once led nearly half of the village, as my great-grandfather's family belonged to a tribal chieftain/local leadership lineage. However, because of caste discrimination and social oppression, my ancestors lost their status, fell into poverty, and were even forced to beg.

Later, some genuinely kind Christians helped my great-grandfather receive an education. Just as Netaji had a European wife, European friends, and a Christian mentor, receiving help from Christians does not diminish anyone's patriotism or identity.

Many of us still follow our local ethnic culture, speak our native language, and are deeply patriotic toward India.

A historical fact that is often overlooked is that some Indian communities had already converted to Christianity and Islam long before the arrival of European colonial powers.

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 28 days ago

My paternal great-grandfather was a freedom fighter who fought alongside Netaji. But still...?

Fun fact : Not all christians are Anglo-indians or westernised.. The same applies to muslims.. Not all are urdu speakers

As an atheist, I have criticisms of Christianity and all religions.

But it still hurts when someone uses the slur "rice bag."

My paternal ancestors once led nearly half of the village, as my great-grandfather's family belonged to a tribal chieftain/local leadership lineage. However, because of caste discrimination and social oppression, my ancestors lost their status, fell into poverty, and were even forced to beg.

Later, some genuinely kind Christians helped my great-grandfather receive an education. Just as Netaji had a European wife, European friends, and a Christian mentor, receiving help from Christians does not diminish anyone's patriotism or identity.

Many of us still follow our local ethnic culture, speak our native language, and are deeply patriotic toward India.

A historical fact that is often overlooked is that some Indian communities had already converted to Christianity and Islam long before the arrival of European colonial powers.

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 28 days ago

So called "dark humour" ahh comment

ACTUALLY, THIS ISN'T THE ONLY COMMENT. I'VE BEEN SEEING COMMENTS LIKE THIS CONTINUOUSLY FOR A LONG TIME NOW

I think many people are just engaging in whataboutery (including by bringing up corruption in India) or justifying casteism by saying that racial theories, classism, or even a caste-like system also exist in China and other countries. I don't think all of them are doing it only because they're angry that India has bad PR or because they want to attack the CCP in retaliation. I have my own thoughts about it, but I can't confidently confirm them.

(Dexter–Doakes meme appears)

Also i don't know what happened there, but I hope she's doing okay...Dont think like i have no feelings for her..

I Don't Even Know What To Say Anymore. I Think I've Become Desensitized After Seeing Things Like This So Many Times. It's Not That I Don't Care About People Suffering, Or That I'm Too Lazy To Respond—i Just Feel Emotionally Exhausted And Fed Up. Is This A Common Feeling?

u/Used_Judgment1806 — 2 months ago