Helping a girlfriend plan her wardrobe for 2 weeks in Tuscany and Cinque Terre; 2 weeks early October

Hey y'all! I'm trying to help a friend get a jump on her wardrobe for her Italy trip. We are American: She has never been to Europe before nor travelled internationally. She booked a 2 week trip around Tuscany and Cinque Terre. I have travelled extensively internationally but never been to Italy. She said she wants to just bring a bunch of maxi dresses, but i think she's going to need a rain jacket, sweater, and other items for layering.

I frequent the one-bag travel subs and i absolutely love seeing pics of travel wardrobes flat-lay style, so if you have any examples like that I'd love to see them.

Otherwise, any advice you can offer so i can help make her a Pinterest inspo board would be great :)

PS... i do think they'll be checking bags. I'm nervous about them having to haul large suitcases up stairs and onto trains. She's in her mid 30s but her partner is in his 50s and has back issues. Will this be an issue? I never check a bag so i don't have to deal with this.

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u/Waywardgarden — 24 hours ago

What's with all the generative AI?

Just got back from 2 weeks in the Baltics. Absolutely loved almost everything about my experience, but the utter barrage of generative ai imaging was distracting and overwhelming. I wish I'd have had an opportunity to visit before the AI boom. I would have liked to seen what locals were producing from their own brains.

Menus, posters, logos, pictures of food, souvenirs- all generative AI. I wanted to get some souvenirs like handcrafts or locally designed shirts etc but everything was ai!

Edit: putting an edit here because i don't know why you guys are downvoting me for saying AI is not like this where i live. Yes, i am American. Yes, there is an American in the comments saying it's overwhelming in America too. That is simply not my experience, and their only example was a Mexican restaurant started using Ai imaging in the menu. What I'm describing goes FAR beyond this.

I haven't travelled Europe since 2023, which was before the big AI boom. Yes, i see the comments saying the ai is everywhere, not just the Baltics. I just didn't know because i haven't been in Europe since 2023.
Since 2023, i have travelled ALL over the US including Puerto Rico. I travel to LA a lot, and i live in a city similar to LA on the eastern side of the county. I go to work conferences in various cities as well as visit friends and as a tourist. I have NEVER seen AI use like i saw on this trip. My city is world-famous for being a hub for artists, musicians, and artisans. Yes, people are USING ai privately and at work, but it is not getting used in graphic design or photography. If someone DOES publish something using AI, they get fucking flamed and cancelled and immediately have to retract whatever it was. We have a large immigrant population in my city: even small immigrant run business like tiny shops or restaurants are not using Ai.
Both my traveling companion and i were totally shocked and overwhelmed by the barrage of Ai BECAUSE it's not like that where we live. This is the honest truth!!

Anyway, that all said. I absolutely loved my time in this region. The people were incredibly kind and hospitable. We made so many friends and just genuinely were charmed. It was such an honor to be able to spend so much time in beautiful unspoiled nature. We had a really nice time visiting. Thank you for being so kind and welcoming to weary travelers. Hope to return sometime

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u/Waywardgarden — 2 days ago

Millennials: what are your favorite cities and towns in Italy?

Just wondering where you are finding the best mix between arts and entertainment, restaurants, some nightlife, and ability to plug in socially and make real friends.

Job availability and employment is a plus, as well as strong LGBTQ communities.

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u/Waywardgarden — 3 days ago
▲ 5 r/expat

Has anyone used a service for jus sanguinis citizenship in Italy that they would recommend?

My long-time partner and i are considering a permanent move to Europe. His great grandparents were born in Italy and specifically were Sicilian. Unfortunately Italy changed the policies last year so we don't know if this is an option for us anymore, and we weren't ready when it was :( as I've been researching, services are coming up that advertise as helping with the bureaucratic nature of the process (accessing documents like birth certificates, submissions, etc). I was just wondering if anyone has ever used a service like this and if they have one they recommend?

Also, we've been together 12 years and neither of us wants to get married but are we correct in assuming it would make the process easier for us? We will definitely do what we need to do in that regard.

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u/Waywardgarden — 10 days ago

Does anyone recognize this pre-Covid bar?

In either 2017 or 2019 my partner and i visited a small bar in Amsterdam, but we can't remember the name or location. Does anyone recognize it from this picture (lol) we are stuck in Amsterdam overnight due to flight drama and would like to revisit it.

Also open to any other unique or cozy experiences or bars we can get into tonight. We don't wanna party hard since we still have to pack + catch a flight but we love anything vibey+coney or offbeat and strange. We didn't have time to prepare for a proper visit and i don't know where to start!!! We are staying at st Christopher's inn which was selected on a whim and unfortunately seems like it will be an extremely loud street in the evening lol.

u/Waywardgarden — 13 days ago
▲ 1 r/Eesti

I'm in Tallinn- where can i purchase comfortable shoes/arch support insoles?

I'm visiting Tallinn and having a plantar fasciitis flare (for me it causes severe arch pain, not heel) and it's ruining my visit. I'm wearing hokas but it's not enough. Is there a shoe shop around that sells similar shoes? (Brooke, salomans, on cloud etc)
Also, is there a shop i can purchase arch support insoles at? I need extreme arch support when I'm in a flare and what i have isn't enough :( I'm staying in Kalamaja.

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u/Waywardgarden — 19 days ago

I'm on vacation and PF is ruining my trip

My PF is flaring up. For me, it manifests as arch pain. I'm wear hokas with padded dr. Schools insoles that are usually sufficient but now that I'm in a flare it's not enough. Is there anything i can do to keep mobile and exploring? I'm in Tallinn Estonia and I'm not sure how accessible new insoles are here. I'm just beginning my research. Really hopeful but suffering

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u/Waywardgarden — 19 days ago
▲ 17 r/Vilnius

Vilnius i am in you

after the most frustrating and long day of travel, i got in SUPER late like 4 am because of cancelled, delayed and missed, and rerouted flights. What's good? My partner and i are staying in uzupis. We enjoy coffee shops, bookshops, bars, and quirky/off beat entertainment and performance art. I've had a hard time finding indie performance art so I'm interested in learning about any interesting events taking place the next couple days. We're also both lgbt and would love to support any local lgbt stuff.

Gonna try to get some sleep now :)

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u/Waywardgarden — 24 days ago

Question: Simple truth dark red kidney beans

I drained a can of simple truth dark red kidney beans and then weighed them to track macros for a recipe i was building. The can said it was supposed to be 455 grams total, but it weighed out as 256 g. Is that a shortage, or is that weight supposed to include the liquid? If so, how do i track my macros for this if i want to drain the liquid? I use my fitness pal to track macros. I'm not sure if i search up "dark red kidney beans" if those macros are including the liquid weight or just bean weight.

Help im confused!

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u/Waywardgarden — 29 days ago
▲ 4 r/MealPlanYourMacros+1 crossposts

Question: Simple truth dark red kidney beans

I drained a can of simple truth dark red kidney beans and then weighed them to track macros for a recipe i was building. The can said it was supposed to be 455 grams total, but it weighed out as 256 g. Is that a shortage, or is that weight supposed to include the liquid? If so, how do i track my macros for this if i want to drain the liquid? I use my fitness pal to track macros. I'm not sure if i search up "dark red kidney beans" if those macros are including the liquid weight or just bean weight.

Help im confused!

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u/Waywardgarden — 29 days ago

Looking for off-beat/quirky/indie entertainment/events/performance art

Heading to the Baltics in a few days. Been looking at events websites but i'm really only seeing major events like orchestral performances etc. I'm looking for funky plays, indie performance art, anything weird and strange or alternative/counterculture vibes to the front.

Vilnius July 27 & 28
Rig July 29 & 30
Tallinn July 31-August 3
Jūrmala August 5&6

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u/Waywardgarden — 29 days ago

ISO breeches alternative for men that i can get from amazon? Leggings?

Hey y'all have a dude going on a long English ride on an international trip a little last minute. I was looking for men's breeches on Amazon and everything is SO expensive! You can find women's breeches for like $35 that are passable for a single ride on a trip but no men's.

What kind of material should i be looking for in a legging that won't be too slippy? Or do you have something else to suggest? I have to get something to my house BY SATURDAY and i don't have any tack shops nearby.

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u/Waywardgarden — 29 days ago

10 days in the Baltics end of July/early August: wardrobe review

Traveling to Lithuania, Latvia and Estonia end of July/early August. We are expecting a somewhat unpredictable range of weather ranging from chilly and overcast/rainy to hot and sunny. Activities include sauna, beach, hiking, horseback riding and some nice dinners. I'm a former overpacker who has found a lot of joy in creating region appropriate capsule wardrobes for my trips. I know i could take less, but I'm comfortable with this and it all fits in my hanging closet compression cube (which I'll be testing on an actual trip for the first time with this trip). I always bring boots if I'm expecting chilly weather. I have a lot of foot and back probs, these are all orthopedic and it helps me to switch it up.

There aren't a lot of posts for this region. Does anything stand out as inappropriate for where I'm going? Should i bring a ball cap or spf bucket hat?

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- 4 shirts, all cotton and linen
- black tech pants for rainy or chilly days
- linen blend trousers
- linen shorts
- skirt
- hemp fabric dress
- madewell washed leather jacket (this is a European travel holy grail- it's very thin and lightweight but adds a lot of warmth when you need it and packs nicely plus it looks great with your outfits. Get it secondhand)
- packable rain shell
- merino blend sweater for chilly nights
- merino cami for layering
- merino boxer shorts for layering
- 30 d tights for layering
- 2 swimsuits bc we are saunaing so much
- thin pj pants i always bring because i have sensitive skin and can't sleep without them
- my cozy travel hoodie that really makes long haul flights more tolerable

I don't have a beach coverup but i thought i could use the button down and shorts for that. I travel carryon only and there is plenty of room in my Amazon basics hard shell for other items. I will wear the boots and tech pants on the plane but even if i pack the boots i have a lot of room.

u/Waywardgarden — 1 month ago

After getting logged out of my mobile Lightroom app, then logging back in, all of my everything is gone. How do i get it back?

Hey y'all. Had to reset my phone (it was backed up). Of course that automatically logs you out of all your apps.

I travel a lot and do a lot of editing on the fly from my mobile app. I've spent a long time building presets, and i had a library built up too. Not everything in my library was downloaded to a hard drive. I didn't think i needed to.

I haven't been able to find a solution for this. I'm going to keep researching, but i thought i would post here and see if anyone could help.

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u/Waywardgarden — 2 months ago
▲ 5 r/MattressMod+1 crossposts

I DIYed my mattress years ago and it's time to replace my comfort layer, but i need help refreshing my memory

Hey all. I need a shortcut straight to helping me remember what to look for in a comfort layer. When i first made my mattress (latex slab method), i used 2" serene foam for my comfort layer and i loved it. After a dog peed on it and i had to throw it out, i stole the memory foam from the twin guest bed and have been on that for a long time now. I just decided to upgrade so i bought 2" serene foam again and i hate it. It doesn't feel like i remember at all. It's kinda firm. I don't really sink into it at all, especially on my side.

I'm thinking i need to go back to memory foam, but i don't want to end up with something that i hate. On my husbands side he has the white 3LB ViscoSAVER from foambymail.com. I personally do not like this because it's very temp sensitive. When you first lay on it it feels firm, but you quickly sink in when feels great, but then if you change positions it's very uncomfortable because you're going from super sunk-in to flat, if that makes sense.

I am a light-weight. I dunno what to get. I just want to sink in more at my pressure points than what serene foam is offering. But i also don't want to feel like I'm laying in a bowl of porridge and stuck in hot memory foam. Not sure if that means i need something super soft, or if i actually need a more firm high density foam.

Thank you in advance for the helpful advice. This subreddit was very *supportive* when i decided to make my own mattress but a lot of what i learned has left my brain to make room for other hyper fixations.

u/Waywardgarden — 2 months ago
▲ 1 r/Makeup

Cool undertone skin that tans in summer, still looking for my summer shade

Hey all! I'm 37 maturing dry skin with redness in the apples of my cheeks and along my jawline. My current shade is and product is Bare Minerals luminous hydrating skin tint stick in "opal" which is their lightest shade and has cool undertones. This product looks SO GOOD and completely natural on my skin. I can make the color work, it's still a fairly good match for my face/neck/chest, but i feel like it is too light for my summer skin. BM next cool tone shade just seems too deep for me and the shade range is limited, so I'm looking for a new product.

I've posted before and if you want me to i can link those posts because my history is private, but suffice to say i have tried SO many foundations. I've tried just about all the top recommendations for foundations for dry and maturing skin and they all either split or start looking crusty later in the day. The only thing i haven't tried yet is Laura mercier or hourglass beauty. I will say i try to avoid silicone based products because it really just works best for my skin and prep. I have never been able to make a silicone based foundation work.

It's just tough because if i look at my veins, they're definitely blue and purple. Looking at my skin id think i was a neutral, but im definitely not- even the lightest neutrals are too yellow on me. For what it's worth im also a natural dirty blonde with green eyes. Yes I'm a white girl with cool undertones but i TAN! And fast. Even when i apply full body sunscreen, my skin quickly picks up tone in the summer. I can burn, but i usually don't. Is that because im good with sunscreen? Because i moderate exposure? I dont know but ive always been able to turn toasty marshmallow pretty easily, and makeup companies make it seem like anyone who can wear the fairest shades turn into a lobster the second they get exposed to sun. I feel like makeup brands are really not catering to my type of skin tone and the ones that are don't have formulas that work for me.

Skin prep:
Cleanse > Geek and gorgeous vitamin c serum > if im not going to be sweaty, a very thin layer of The Ordinary rice lipids + ectoin moisturizer > Purito daily soft touch sunscreen

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u/Waywardgarden — 2 months ago

Cool undertone skin that tans in summer, still looking for my summer shade

Hey all! I'm 37 maturing dry skin with redness in the apples of my cheeks and along my jawline. My current shade is and product is Bare Minerals luminous hydrating skin tint stick in "opal" which is their lightest shade and has cool undertones. This product looks SO GOOD and completely natural on my skin. I can make the color work, it's still a fairly good match for my face/neck/chest, but i feel like it is too light for my summer skin. BM next cool tone shade just seems too deep for me and the shade range is limited, so I'm looking for a new product.

I've posted before and if you want me to i can link those posts because my history is private, but suffice to say i have tried SO many foundations. I've tried just about all the top recommendations for foundations for dry and maturing skin and they all either split or start looking crusty later in the day. The only thing i haven't tried yet is Laura mercier or hourglass beauty. I will say i try to avoid silicone based products because it really just works best for my skin and prep. I have never been able to make a silicone based foundation work.

It's just tough because if i look at my veins, they're definitely blue and purple. Looking at my skin id think i was a neutral, but im definitely not- even the lightest neutrals are too yellow on me. For what it's worth im also a natural dirty blonde with green eyes. Yes I'm a white girl with cool undertones but i TAN! And fast. Even when i apply full body sunscreen, my skin quickly picks up tone in the summer. I can burn, but i usually don't. Is that because im good with sunscreen? Because i moderate exposure? I dont know but ive always been able to turn toasty marshmallow pretty easily, and makeup companies make it seem like anyone who can wear the fairest shades turn into a lobster the second they get exposed to sun. I feel like makeup brands are really not catering to my type of skin tone and the ones that are don't have formulas that work for me.

Skin prep:
Cleanse > Geek and gorgeous vitamin c serum > if im not going to be sweaty, a very thin layer of The Ordinary rice lipids + ectoin moisturizer > Purito daily soft touch sunscreen

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u/Waywardgarden — 2 months ago

Looking for steps to use INSIDE a vinyl mini-pool for my dogs

Got me a driveway pool! I come from a pool family and know how to maintain a pool, so no questions about chemicals and maintenance today.
I set this up for a kitschy way to beat the heat of course but primarily to use for physical therapy for my senior dogs because i can't afford the hydrotherapy they were doing. The smaller one can't fully touch the bottom and would like a platform to put her front feet on to rest and take breaks.

Looking for steps to use inside this particular kind of pool. It is 26" tall. I have looked at water aerobics steps (expensive) and diy options (a headache). The puzzle to solve is something that will stay submerged and isn't going to take up a huge footprint. I do plan on getting a protective mat to use under whatever we go with.

Any suggestions? I'm VERY interested in the possibility of getting a regular aerobics step (much less expensive) that i can drill holes in and fill with water, but I'm apprehensive about ordering something and realizing it won't work. So bonus points if you have any insight there.

Edit: i just wanted to add that i have SCOURED the internet and haven't found anything "perfect", so i am hoping my fellow reddit nerds might know something i don't.

u/Waywardgarden — 2 months ago
▲ 5 r/ants

I need help! Are these fire ants?

Hopefully Reddit doesn't compress the quality too much for ID. I am getting bitten or stung by ants. I am located in middle Tennessee, and it is happening on my concrete patio which was covered in old sticks and logs and leaf litter that i was clearing. I think it's Asian needle ants but i haven't seen them to be certain. My partner thinks these are imported fire ants and what is biting me.
I haven't seen any ant mounds but i read on google they can be under concrete or nesting in soil. These red ants are all over and when i was digging next to my driveway to plant something, i definitely ran into some portion of a colony of them and they were very disturbed and frantic but they did not swarm me. They have crawled on me but not bitten me that i have seen. I saw one carrying a dead fly.

My bites or stings are not pustules like fire ants bites are described. They are more like welts, and the sensation is similar to a wasp sting but less intense. The first sting i had was on the top of my foot while i was wearing slide sandals. Felt like it got trapped between my sandal and foot. The rest were on various parts of my body because it was inside my clothes. I never saw what it was thought.

This winter i was for a walk on a sunny day, and my dog stepped in tiny little black ants that were crawling on his legs. I wiped them off and got stung and had welts on my hand. Could those have also possibly been Asian needle ants? They were just so much smaller than what I'm seeing on Google for Asian needle ants.

I got Amdro Granules fire ant bait which has some success at treating both I've read. Is it too late in the year? Do i risk harming native species? I'm worried about my dogs. I have 4, and 2 of them are disabled seniors who don't need to be getting stung by venomous ants.

u/Waywardgarden — 2 months ago