u/WhereTheSunDontShin1

This is the original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/lRg5MPiskp

So after I made the post, I went to her house with my family. I was able to pull her to the side and tell her everything. She didn't even know about that, and she was so shocked. I told her not to feel pressured by her family and to stand her ground, and that my mom, my dad and I are by her side if her family decides to pressure her.

The day after that, her mother asked the girl about her opinion on marrying her cousin, and she said, 'Absolutely not.' Which disappointed her family. She told them that she lacked nothing, so why were they giving her away to a family lacking everything? We told her mother that she isn't thinking correctly right now and that she's throwing her daughter's future.

her dad on the other hand got nearly beaten up by my dad. my dad is very liberal compared to this family so he is very against this especially because he raised that girl like his daughter since she was a baby. So he's pretty protective over his nieces and he wasn't going to let this happen.

One the same day I made the post and went to her house I also asked her about a guy I introduced her to a while ago and she said she likes him very much. I know that guy he's a pharmacist, he graduated from the same college as her, he's 27 so not a old man, he's rich and most importantly she likes him and he likes her. so I got them in touch again. Today she told him he came to see her in her pharmacy and she told him about the stuff she expected from him and he agreed. So now he's going to ask for her hand in a month or so it's not exactly an engagement but it's like a small dating period till they decide on an official engagement.

Very eventful a few days but at least she's not going to marry from that wicked family a big win in my book.

thank you all for your support 🤍

I'm 17M and I feel like I have no personal belongings at all and it's all because of my 12yo sister. she always steal my thing and the worst part is that she always ruins them. let me tell you some of the stuff she stole;

. My favorite shoes. it was the only shoes I could wear because of my leg aids. she took them, broke the base in half, ripped it off and left them covered in dirt.

. stole my favorite shirt and used it too clean the the ground.

. stole my toothbrush and used it to clean her shoes and then the sink. I was going to use it if not my brother told me about it.

. took my drawings, art projects and my sculpted figures that I spent so long on it and just ruins them.

. she takes my gold jewelry without asking me.

. steals my special food that I need because of my health even though she doesn't like it.

. she stole my keys and the list goes on and on and on... and now my room.

One of the things she does now is trashing my room. I haven't been using my room for a while now because my parents made me move to the living room. I still need to use my room to change and stuff but everyday I find it trashed. she leaves her dirty clothes on the ground, she keeps her trash on the ground, she let food rot there, she ruined the rooms walla somehow, she takes stuff from my drawers and leaves them out so no matter how much I clean she keeps ruining it. like she even jumped on my TV and broke it.

we had a fight about it a few weeks ago and she said she will never enter it again but today I found out that she left a yogurt spilled on the ground and just let it rot there to the point of it staining my rug and bedside table. and I new it was her beacaus she left her dirty clothes on the ground.

I decided to bring it up while we were having tea time and it went like:

hey, sooo what does your jewelry and clothes do in my room again?

well I needed to change my clothes.

you have your room so just use it???

but then my dad yelled at me and said: can you grow up? how many times are you going to argue about this? you don't even need the room!

I told him but it's my room and I don't want her ruining it like the other stuff she uses. but he continued yelling at me about it and told me to shut up about and ''how many times do I have to talk to you about it? let your little sister live. do you want me to yell at her and make her cry to make you happy? is that what you want?'' I didn't reply because honestly I felt really sad and didn't want to argue because I would cry and he would yell at me about it. she was laughing at me.

My mom noticed that I was upset because I didn't utter a word after this. she also yelled at me for ''wearing my face upside down'' and followed me to my couch and I told her that I'm really upset because dad is always on my sister's side and yells at me even when I'm just trying to have my own things she basically told me that's because I'm an adult and show act like it.

this isn't the first time this happens and not to me only. she does that to our brother too but he has hus keys so he could lock up his stuff. when I complain about it I always gets told to grow up and that's all teens do that from every single person in my life. my dad is always on her side because she told him she feels jealous and somehow this makes it fair. everyone is telling me to stop overreacting but I feel like I have every right to be upset am I overreacting?

Now this is going to sound very very backwards okay? Think with centuries ago mindset to understand what's going on here.

My cousin (26f) she's the sweetest, most beautiful girl ever and she's a pharmacist so she's pretty good in this place we live in. Her parents want to literally "give her up" to her aunts son (her dad's sister). This man is 37M or older he probably have some sexual problems because of an illness he has which may has made him not infertil (which is very important because if she doesn't have a kid with him she will always be blamed.) and he's just stupid in my opinion.

But worse of all his mother is the worst person ever. She's such such a bad spirited woman! She has been making up problems to ruin eveyones life, trying to break up marriages in the family, making big problems and even cutting off the family because they didn't give her son the girl's older sister. I cannot explain how horrible she is and the girl would have to live with her forever.

The girl's dad decided to give her away to his sister because "his sister broke his heart and he wants to make sure she's good" after grandma died. She did get very sad and sick after her mother died obv and so he decided to give her his daughter for her son. Her mother agreed too because of the family's bad reputation which is the boys having multiple girlfriends and the older sister getting divorced after a week of marriage (I did tell you to think like a cave man) (here they always say this type of divorce happens because the woman is not ""virgin"") so that would make her "chances in marriage lower and lower".

The only one who knows about this is me and my mom (and her parents obviously) they want my mom to tell my dad so they tell the guy to come and propose to her my mom said she doesn't want to get involved (in her words) crime against the girl. I don't want to do that either. So both of us are now stuck between the girl's family and getting the word out and in my opinion ruining the girls life.

If you ask about what she thinks they won't care but I know she doesn't want to but now especially her mom being okay with it wants to happen it won't make a difference if she says yes or no. It's very sad and disgusting to hear but this is how backwards we are.

My mom suggested I propose to the girl temporarily so that guy can't propose to her but I feel like this is treating the problem with a bigger problem. So any other advice please? Thank you I know this sounds stupid but I'm out of ideas

Well, yesterday my mom sent me to get some bread for dinner, and as any good son would do, I decided to wander around for a bit. I decided to visit the river where I feed the stray dogs and cats.

One of the dog moms was yelling and pulling me down near the river and when I got there I hear a puppy crying. I started searching for it near the river and he was pretty tangled in some fishing net. I was just using my small pocket knife so it was taking alot of time to cut. Then he started trying to get away from me and he seemed very afraid. I didn't think much of it so I just let him freak out while trying to free him... Then I feel some excruciating pain in my lower half and when I looked down I found this big ass black fucking snake (the animal not me ha) biting my balls.

Of course I handled it pretty well and calmly as in freaking the fucking out, dropping down and rolling that didn't work it seems that only works when you're on fire. I tried pulling it away, opening its mouth and begging it to stop biting me but nothing worked. I had to bite it back and it finally let go. I didn't want to use the knife on it it was just very scared and I didn't want to hurt or kill it.

I got the pup out and my dad took me to the hospital and I got a few shots. The snake that bit me was a "dolichophis jugularis" or a "black whip snake" (I think I don't know what it's called in English) now it's usually a very harmless snake it doesn't bite humans but I think it was just scared by me. The doctor said it's not the first time someone get bitten in the balls by it tho 😭 I think because farms and fisherman squat a lot there.

In my defense the grass and bushes were very highhhhh and it was dark so I couldn't see shit. And if you were wondering how exactly I got bit, I was squatting on the ground with my knees together and my feet out so I couldn't see what was going on under me and I was also in a very thin pajamas. everyone always warn me not to go there but I just don't listen. Especially for my mom because her uncle died from a snake bite there.

I'm better now but damn it still hurts. I think it hurt my soul more than my balls. I mean I never want kids but that doesn't make it a fair move Mrs snake. Moral of the story don't get bitten in the balls by a snake because it hurts and listen to the puppy when he's trying to warn you.

"TL;DR:" I got bitten by a snake in my balls while squatting in the bushes when it was dark after being warn 100 times not to go there.

So I my culture the funeral is extended to 40 days. There is a funeral everyday at noon and or night. My grandma died yesterday at 1am. I wasn't asleep the day before because I was very worried about her and when we got the news I of course couldn't sleep. We had her body at 5 am and then we continued the funeral til 1am the next morning. I stayed there helping around and never even got the chance to have a bite of food.

I couldn't sleep till 8 am today. My mom entered my room and asked "Are you still awake or did you just wake up?" and I told her "No, I haven't slept yet. Do you need any help in the morning or just at noon like you said yesterday?" she told me that there's nothing this morning so I should sleep and come back at 3pm.

2 hours at 10am later my cousin woke me up I don't even know how she got the keys to the house and she told me "wake up we need you quickly." when I told I just closed my eyes she said "well your mom said wake up quickly" and after she finally finished yelling I tried to go back to sleep. My mom blow my phone up she called 13 times when I answered I told her I'm not coming I'm very tired and we agreed that I only come at noon since yesterday. Then they sent my sister to wake me up she knocked so loudly on my house door my head started hurting. My mom called again and put it like "if you really love me and love your father you come now." mind you this all happened in the spam of 30 mins.

I gave up and went to them. So tell me why on God's green earth did I find them just sitting around doing nothing. They needed no help or anything. The funeral? Starts at 3 pm and it was 11 am when I got there. Not only that I got yelled at for being late and for "having my face upside down" (frowning) like late for what?? They haven't even started.

I have the worst migraine and my heart is really hurting me too so my whole left side hurts so bad I could barely move it. I'm so fucking tired and I still have to stay here till 1am. I know should respect my elders but I don't even have respect to myself with only 3 hours of sleep in 3 days

So I my culture the funeral is extended to 40 days. There is a funeral everyday at noon and or night. My grandma died yesterday at 1am. I wasn't asleep the day before because I was very worried about her and when we got the news I of course couldn't sleep. We had her body at 5 am and then we continued the funeral til 1am the next morning. I stayed there helping around and never even got the chance to have a bite of food.

I couldn't sleep till 8 am today. My mom entered my room and asked "Are you still awake or did you just wake up?" and I told her "No, I haven't slept yet. Do you need any help in the morning or just at noon like you said yesterday?" she told me that there's nothing this morning so I should sleep and come back at 3pm.

2 hours at 10am later my cousin woke me up I don't even know how she got the keys to the house and she told me "wake up we need you quickly." when I told I just closed my eyes she said "well your mom said wake up quickly" and after she finally finished yelling I tried to go back to sleep. My mom blow my phone up she called 13 times when I answered I told her I'm not coming I'm very tired and we agreed that I only come at noon since yesterday. Then they sent my sister to wake me up she knocked so loudly on my house door my head started hurting. My mom called again and put it like "if you really love me and love your father you come now." mind you this all happened in the spam of 30 mins.

I gave up and went to them. So tell me why on God's green earth did I find them just sitting around doing nothing. They needed no help or anything. The funeral? Starts at 3 pm and it was 11 am when I got there. Not only that I got yelled at for being late and for "having my face upside down" (frowning) like late for what?? They haven't even started.

I have the worst migraine and my heart is really hurting me too so my whole left side hurts so bad I could barely move it. I'm so fucking tired and I still have to stay here till 1am. I know should respect my elders but I don't even have respect to myself with only 3 hours of sleep in 3 days

I don't know what got into my mind when I decided to confess that to my mom. It happened years ago, and I have never told anyone about it. My mom found my old notebook that I used to vent in, and she found out about it. I could have lied, but I just confessed about everything that happened.

She told my dad and now he's angry at me because the girl who did that to me is my older cousin who he loves. He told me "she would never do such a thing but you? I won't be shocked". She got in trouble too they told her you either confess or we get a doctor to see if you are a virgin or not. She confessed that she forced me into it. My dad is still on her side saying "a woman can not raped a man" or "you must have threatened her" or "it wasn't rape it was sex" and because of that now we have to get married. I begged my mom to talk with him but she doesn't even want to look at my face and the only thing she has told me is "just marry her it's not a big deal." We live in a very very VERY religious place so I their mind we have sinned and now we have to fix it by getting married.

I thought about running away but I'm only a 18 yo with no job or money. I'm really really afraid that if I do run away they would find me with the help of the police and it won't be good for me to say the least.. I feel like no one is on my side even my friends like when I told them they thought I was lucky. I just don't want to do it but I feel trapped. I don't know if it would be that bad to marry her she's only one year older than me and we used to be friends but I just can't everytime I hear her name or see her I feel like I want to throw up and I don't know what to do

(English is not my first language)

I (17M) used to monitor all of my siblings phone usage. the last a few months I started pulling away slowly because they have gotten older. I just want to give them a little more privacy while still making sure they are safe online.

I clearly wasn't doing a very good job. A few days ago one of my cousin sent me an Instagram video and it didn't load so I asked them what it was? And they sent me a screen recording of it and it was a video of me with some stupid text on it. It was filmed inside of the house so I knew it was one of my siblings. I searched their phones and I couldn't find Instagram. So I went to Google play on my sister's (14) phone and saw that Instagram was actually downloaded but hidden under a period app icon.

I honestly never knew that it was even possible to change the apps icons. So when I used to see it was just a peirod app I just leave it alone I'm in her business but not to that degree.

Let me tell you some of the content on this account:

. Videos of me half naked/sleeping.

. Videos of me under the influence of my medication.

. Videos of me just existing, eating, studying etc etc.

. Videos that I filmed with her like trends and what not that I didn't agree to it being posted anywhere.

. Videos or photo slides of my art and drawings.

. Memes about me.

. Some videos are just her ruining my stuff.

She has 70ish videos and 60ish of them are about me.

All the videos are basically making fun of me and how I look and how I act. Alot of them are calling me slurs. Even the videos I filmed with her had bad captions. Like the trend where you put the girl on your shoulder. I was so happy to do that with her since she's an asshole with me most of the time. The caption of the video was making fun of my physical disability. So videos are just calling me a nerd or an incel. She was even making fun of my mental problems and just putting it on blast. And that's just some of it.

I was very very angry about it and about the comments. When I tried to confront her (and beat the shit out of her), my mother got between us and tried to logic it by saying "it is just a private account. It's fine. She's going to delete it". I don't know in what world a private account has 300 followers and get like 30-100 views and likes. What got me even more was the fact that my brother (15M) helped her with that. My parents threatened me to not do anything to my sister and just made her apologize for it. My dad just took my sister's phone because she's still his little princess so that's the worst punishment she could get. My mom slapped her tho.

I'm so fucking hurt. Like I do my best to be the best older brother possible for both of those shit heads. I treat them very well, I never yell at them, I always defend them, I let them be shitty to me and I spend all my money on them. They came to me crying and apologizing (my brother also throw her under the bus and said he only knew about it and didn't help with it and she told him she deleted it but he was just blocked ) but I don't think I could ever look at them the same. I spent my whole life taking care of them and this is how they repay me? My parents told me they are just teens and they are growing and making mistakes.

Today she also tried to apologize telling me she was just feeling resentful and a bit jealous. I turned her down and didn't even let her continue because I'm still very hurt to even look at her. I don't know what to do I just don't want to see her face ever again.

Edit: sorry sorry I didn't know "beat the shit out of her" means hitting her. I thought it meant making someone confess everything. I would never ever hit my siblings. English is not my first language and I didn't really look at what that actually meant.

This is going to sound very stupid but here it goes.

When I was around 11 it was the covid 19 quarantine and my parents used to go to my uncle's house from 6pm to 2am. They would always leave me alone at home. I have schizophrenia and autism so I get scared really fucking easily. Like everyone around me has this running joke of yelling they are here before entering any room I'm in so they don't scare me.

One day they went to my uncle's house and they left me alone as usual. Unfortunately the power cut off in the whole neighborhood around 11 or 12pm and I started hearing voice but I just ignored it. I went down to lock doors because I was freaking out. I was locking the kitchen door and I kept hearing this low whispering voices and when I left the kitchen I was met with all of them screaming in my face. I was so fucking scared I literally couldn't hold it in and I accidentally went in front the whole fucking family, my parents, siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles. They came to our house because we have a second battery to power the house and thought it would be funny to scare me

I have a really weak heart and I guess I couldn't handle that so I passed out. When I woke up they were still laughing and making jokes about that. I literally had to recover alone for few days after that because my heart kept hurting a lot and I was still scared for some reason.

After all of this they started joking about it non stop like it been 6 years already and yet they aren't letting it go. My last birthday they decided that was going to be the theme. Not only that but every gift was piss related and then they posted it online with stuff like "from a baby diaper to an adult size" (I got bullied so hard for that like it was already bad but after that I honestly just stopped going to school because the kids kept bullying me).

Yesterday my mom showed me an Ai piss cake (it was one of this video of "oh would you rather a lava cake or whatever" just Ai slop) I told her harshly but I was still being respectful to stop this ass joke and that I don't find it funny and if they tried to pull something like that again I would walk out and never come back. They got upset with me and told me that they never meant to hurt me and that it is all fun and games and I should man up and take a joke. Now my mom feels upset and she messaged me how she feels really bad about what not.

I feel so guilty for upsetting her I told her I just had along day. But if I'm being honest I still feel upset myself I know I'm kinda stupid and I don't understand jokes and sarcasm and I take very thing seriously but I feel anyone would get upset by this, no? Like if that happens to you are you going feel sad or laugh about it?

Let's start with: I know I'm stupid and should have asked a doctor first.. 🙌

I've been losing a lot of hair because I have psoriasis and eczema on my scalp. It's really bothering me, and I feel really insecure about it to the point that I cover it all the time. Not only am I losing hair, but the balding areas are very red, almost like burned skin, which makes it even more noticeable.

I've tried everything and nothing really worked. A while ago, I saw one of my favorite influencers (who's a "licensed professional") on Ig talking about derma stamping and how it helped with their psoriasis and hair loss. They said they weren't sponsored and they swore by it. They do these online consultations, and I did one with them. They said to go for it, so I got excited and started using a derma stamp (tiny needles you use to poke your scalp) with Manoxdale. I used it for a few days, then I stopped and decided to wait until I ask my doctor (I felt like influencer was not being 100% transparent).

TToday I went to the doctor and in the end I asked him, "Does derma stamping actually work on psoriasis?" He just stared at me and asked if I have been using it, and I said yes..... II'm going to spare everyone the half an hour of scolding I got 😓 Apparently, you should never even scratch it, let alone use 3mm needles to stamp it every week. It got way, way worse than it was before. My stupid ass also helped spread the warts (hpv) from my forehead to my scalp by transferring the virus because well the blood on the needles. I also have a bleeding and immune problems so the small cuts I was creating weren't healing well. So yeah I fucked myself over and I feel so stupid ✌️

So if you don't already know don't listen to "doctors" online and buy their bullshite :'D

"TL;DR:" I used a derma stamp without consulting a real doctor to treat hair loss and it did the opposite.