u/Wtf-Jason

I hope this is okay in this sub! Let me know if there’s a better place to post it.

I grew up skinny and sedentary so I’m under-muscled as a young adult. Then I got skinny-fat at uni by overeating/drinking and still being fairly sedentary (tho I started gym ish).

At the start of the month I moved to a city and my NEAT massively shot up, and as a result my weight has dropped pretty rapidly (3-5 kg in 2-4 weeks). I’ve mostly maintained strength and I’ve since increased my intake, but I’m still working it out and my weight is still dropping a little (though much slower). I now weigh 52kg at 170cm; underweight BMI is anything below 53.5 for my height.
I don’t think I am scarily/dangerously lean and my best estimate is ~12% body fat, and I feel good day to day. Should my BMI be a concern or is it not really a helpful measure in my case? Is there any point in gaining weight rapidly purely to recover my BMI, vs a small steady surplus to support muscle growth?

Hi team,

I’ve been getting into road cycling more and absolutely love it. Did my longest ride today, 103km which I am super proud of. It was also my first club ride which I enjoyed.

However, I’m pretty sure it bruises my clit lol. After a ride, even just 30/40km, it hurts to pee for the next day or so (not a UTI!).

Has anyone else dealt with this? Any answers? Maybe my bib shorts aren’t sitting right or I should look at getting a women’s set?

Serious question. I used to be really into fashion and care a lot about what clothes I wore, the fit of each item, making sure it all worked together, making sure I was getting the nichest brands, as well as making sure my hips weren’t showing or whether I needed to pack.

These days, I still pay attention if I'm going to an event, but usually I just throw on whatever tshirt and jeans/shorts are to hand. I feel like my physique does more of the work and I’m also more confident in general, so I’m not stressing about having the hardest fits. Anyone else?

I can’t believe macrofactor is the only app that tracks your intake and weight change and actively adjusts your goals. It seems to me like such an obviously correct weigh to go about nutrition, is Cronometer working on anything similar?

I can’t believe macrofactor is the only app that tracks your intake and weight change and actively adjusts your goals. It is such an obviously correct weigh to go about nutrition, surely someone else has done it?

Hi guys,

TW because I will talk about how my partner’s ED is negatively affecting our relationship in a selfish way, so if you are sensitive to this then you should probably avoid this post.

My boyfriend of 3 years has unfortunately relapsed with anorexia again. He has struggled with this since before we were together (6+ years) and his longest period of recovery lasted around 4 months. He started general therapy 6 months ago, says that he discusses his ED a bit and that it helps and that he wants to recover, but I am starting to get frustrated because it honestly doesn’t feel that way. I know these things take a really long time to unlearn but this relapse in particular he doesn’t seem to be making any effort to help himself, won’t let me help, and it is getting tiring. I know this is a selfish feeling but I think I’m somewhat valid in feeling this way, and I am looking for advice - how can I accept that he isn’t looking to recover right now, and how can I still be supportive?

It impacts our relationship a lot because he withdraws a lot from our relationship and won’t come on dates with me. One of our shared interests is food and dining out which is obviously impossible now. It’s further strained by the fact that I really enjoy going to the gym and running and it feels like this contributes to his ED but I don’t want to stop my hobbies - I discuss it minimally with him and don’t discuss nutrition except to highlight how important fuelling is.

I feel like at the start of our relationship and during other recovery periods he was making much more of an effort but it feels like we’ve gone so far backwards and he just isn’t interested any more. It often feels like the eating disorder is more important than the relationship. At what point do I say enough is enough? It feels really unfair but sometimes I think he doesn’t have the mental space for the relationship and the ED. I know this would ruin him though.

Ive just accidentally hit my lowest weight since starting gym as a skinny kid who became skinny fat - now 170cm and 53kg. I look pretty athletic but I’ve lost a lot of muscle mass in the last few months as well (I didnt mean to drop this much). So now just wondering whether to full send the bulk (10-15% over maintenance) or whether a more conservative approach does actually pay off for people - I’d love to keep my abs!