u/YouveEatenMySausage

Just as the title says. I have worried about money my entire life, so it’s always been there.

Did you grow up with money? Or did you work your way up to the point of not worrying?

what, if anything, will be done about these in Sunderland?

police are absolutely useless.

they all seem to be young kids as well. why on earth are their scruffy chavs of “parents” buying these things for them? it’s just unthinkable. i’d be mortified if my son ever dreamed to ask me to buy him one.

i don’t want to do it anymore. it’s my only vice, and i don’t want it to hold any power of me anymore. i spend around £60 a month on vaping alone it’s a joke. i don’t even get any enjoyment out of it anymore, it’s just something i do like a habit.
i could spend that money on toys for my kids, new clothes for me, eating out.

any advice for me? i’ve tried in the past and the moment i feel an ounce of stress im back to it and feel so weak!

i started vaping around 5 years ago to quit smoking with the idea of vaping being a short time thing. boy was i wrong!

any one else seen any other positives after quitting other than saving money?

part of me is so proud we have made it so far, part of me is sad because it feels like last week they were newborns. and i can’t help but feel totally unready for them to start this new chapter of their lives, even though it’s inevitable. i’m not making these feelings known to them, i wouldn’t do that to them.
i think part of it stems from my own experience at school. from being young, i didn’t have any friends and most of my memories are in the school yard just sitting alone or walking around the play yard by myself. i was just sad and lonely. i wasn’t bullied but the other kids did pick on me for my weight and my looks, and actively left me out. i grew up from this and it wasn’t anything i thought about, i made friends in year 7 and from there i had a good school life.
but the thought of my kids going to school soon has brought it all up. obviously i hope they make so many friends and don’t experience the loneliness i did, but part of me wonders that if they do - would they come to me? i had a good relationship with my parents and i don’t know why i didn’t tell them, i made out everything was fine.
they fight like cat and dog but they both already love each other and have such loyalty to one another i hope they can both be someone they can each go too if they feel lonely.

im just so nervous and rambling!

i always remember my gran (she was 94 when she died in 2014 so maybe that has something to do with it) would always boil mine and my cousins socks if we stayed over. especially white ones. my mam says she did it with hers as a kid, and my nana’s when she was small.

i only remembered this the other day. but don’t do it myself, i don’t have a pot to dedicate to this cause.

hello! i have twins, 2.5yo. they have been potty training since they were 2 and i got tired of it, and did the method where they just have bare butts. they got the hang of it really quickly, pretty much after a couple hours around a month ago. but they will only use the potty if they aren’t wearing anything on their bottom half now. even in the house! so we basically have just 2 half naked toddlers running around all day.

so that’s problem one.

problem two, i’m not quite sure how to conquer outside. i have one of those portable potties and have been putting underwear on them underneath pull ups (with the idea that they’ll register that they’re wet if they have an accident) but again, it’s been a month and ill check in with them constantly “do you need to use the potty”, “do you need a wee wee” etc etc… but 99% of the time they’ll say no. and if they do say yes, they already have a wet nappy and underpants. i have to take around 10 pairs of underwear each whenever we go out anywhere because of this.

i’m not bothered about overnight as of yet. i want to nail daytime potty training before even thinking of night time (they still have a nap where they’ll wear a nappy, it’ll be dry when they wake up most of the time and they’ll urinate on the potty as soon as they wake up).

if anyone has any advice on how i can approach both of these issues i will be so thankful. i know it’s only been a month, and i don’t want to put any pressure on them. i’m already so proud of them. but i’d like to get to a point where they are able to be dressed and use the potty.

and i am embarrassed to the point that i haven’t been for two weeks.

i got talking to a nice woman at the playgroup i take my toddlers too a few weeks ago, and i thought she was one of the other kids grandmas.
we weren’t talking about anything in particular or of importance. nothing about my income, home life, anything was mentioned. i could’ve been a millionaire for all she knew. and i enjoyed her company. i asked her which one of the kiddos were hers, she said oh none im a volunteer here. i thought that was nice that they sit and talk to people (i usually sit alone as i am socially awkward lol).

it was coming towards the end and we were getting ready to leave when another woman came up to me and introduced herself as a volunteer. she said i could take any toy i wanted for the kids to take home because they get them for free anyway. i was confused, i said oh no thanks they have plenty of toys. i continued to get them ready to leave and noticed she didn’t ask anyone else.

strange yeah but didnt think anything of it. the week after, another volunteer (all old women) comes up to me and asks how i’m doing for food. i replied saying “oh we get groceries delivered every week” (i was confused by her question at the time because it came out of nowhere) and she walked off. towards the end of the playgroup, she came up to me and pulled me aside. she said she’d taken my pushchair and put some food for us underneath it. i said excuse me?… she said it’s just essentials, rice and beans etc. i asked her why she had done that, i said we don’t need it our cupboards and fridge are full of food at home.
she said “oh just take it anyway, i would if someone offered me free food”.

then for 3. consecutive. weeks. she has done the same. put my pushchair into a “private room” to load it with a food parcel. i have told her, i have told other volunteers that i do not need it. i am not in need. and they just will not listen.

now i havent been for 2 weeks and i feel guilty because my kids love it. we live in a rural area so there is only this one, and we have to travel 20 minutes to it anyway.

i have been taking the food to a local co op to put into their food bank thing. i dont want it or need it.

hello i’m new to DHGate, this is my first order. i made a purchase on 25th June and noticed it says “will be shipped before 28th August” and i inquired about this with the seller, saw they read my messages and didn’t reply.
i asked again, and they said “OK”. didn’t answer my messages.
last night i got scared that it is a scam and the only thing i could see was to request a refund so i did so.
it says the seller has to respond before 2nd July.

my question is, will DHGate step in on 2nd July and refund me automatically?

i am a carer for my partner and 2 infants, i can’t currently work so rely on universal credit. can i afford to save money for them? probably not. but i want to start them a “nest egg” of sorts no matter how small it is.
planning on working part time when they start nursery so my finances will hopefully look a little better then.

will it affect me at all? obviously the bank accounts will be in their names so im not worried about capital or savings over £6k because obviously it isnt my money once its transferred. i just want to give them the world and in the situation we are in right now i cant, and it makes me incredibly sad. i feel like a total utter failure and having universal credit sanction me or anything for transferring money over would be the cherry on the cake. thank you

been placed in the “01 Urgent DIRECT” band in March. haven’t heard anything yet. anyone have an idea of how long the wait could be?

their stock is in Plains Farm and South Hylton. anyone from them areas, what’s it like living round there? i’m from other side of water so never lived in them areas. had couple friends years ago in South Hylton and i remember it being decent.

another extra question if anyone can help, toddler due to start nursery in January, am i able to apply for nurseries in those areas without actually living in them? i’m actually miles away currently haha

ordered a delivery it’s due between 7-8pm. is it coming?
it still says preparing at 4:30pm. usually i get a text much earlier saying it’s due to be delivered and these are the substitutions or everything is in stock.

thanks!

posting on behalf of a friend as she doesn’t have reddit

basically, she is in private rent. signed last November for a 12 month tenancy, i do know that it has converted to a rolling tenancy now and told her so.
however, she is disabled and the council have told her they expect an accessible house to be ready in around 2 months.
she can’t work currently and is stressing over the 2 month notice. she won’t be able to afford rent for 2 houses during this notice period.
is there anything anyone can suggest? i’m at a loss at how to help her. i suggested using the deposit for one months rent but that doesn’t cover 2 months.
she is on UC and receives PIP.
thank you!