u/Ypoetry

I've working weekly with a personal trainer since March. Its been interesting and helpful experience. I can now ADHD body double with my homework plan instead of having to always put on YouTube video to motivate myself.

However, I've run into progression issues. Its time to progress some of compound moves, but its giving me insane anxiety. So instead Im now learning additional smaller moves. Hopefully once mastering smaller isolation moves, I can go back to try progress my push ups and squats in September​.

I am a woman in my 40s who was never fit. My 7 yo son is very athletic and is one of my motivation to be fit.

If anybody else struggled with anxiety around exercise, what helped.

I just saw a video that holds/holding a position strengthen joints. Besides planks, do you do holds regularly? Other tips on joint strengthening?

How to avoid oversharing when talking with a curious person? I like deep dive conversations but sometimes I overshare.

How to avoid oversharing when talking with a curious person? I like deep dive conversations bit sometimes I overshare.

When you go through a stressful season, what are your favorite words and gestures of comfort that you would like to receive from your family and close friends?

What have been your experience with empathy?

Giving empathy to others?

Giving empathy to yourself?

Receiving empathy from others?

Thanks

since I became a mom 7 years ago, I feel a lot of my identity became "mother" identity. My child had learning delayed and needed a lot if help. Now that he is older, my old self is emerging again, but its different to who I was pre child.

However my personal interests have changed from academia focused to psychology/relationships focused. I'm more interested in theory of relationships than in theory of math.

This new me is a hybrid of old me, and mom survival me. If you have kids, have you gone through something similar?

Are not the same.

However I'm trying to understand the difference on experiencing genuine affection and experiencing love bombing.

How it manifests in friendships, romantic experiences and in family

Looking for fun and cheap father-son activities for this summer. My son is 7, on the spectrum, does not swim, Verbal, curious active boy, with an active mind as well. My husband is academically minded, and is getting back into shape by exercising at home.

They have been watching movies together, and doing math homework together this year. We also did grocery shopping as a whole family. On Sundays we go to church ( it has a special needs program)

I feel neck strain after shooting hoops with a small foam basketball around my home with my 7 yo. The ball itself was very light. I was aiming high into a circle I drew on the wall for target practice for us.

1. Why did I feel strain?
2. What exercises can help me? strain was gone after 30 min, but it also indicates weakness where my neck meets my upper back.

p.s. getting ready for active indoor July.

what's your recent favorite nonfiction book?

3 Things i read recently:

Organizing solutions; 5 love languages; a book about speaking up​

When people do something good for me I have strong positive feelings about them.

When people ignore/exclude me or do something I perceive as taking advantage of me, I develop strong negative feelings about them.

People are complex, so I could also have both strong positive and negative feelings about them. That one is hard to handle.

Do you feel things strongly?

How do you respond to compliments from boss or coworkers or friends? Do these match your inner voice? Or is your inner voice self critical and compliments don't match?

how do you set boundaries with yourself in new friendships? When I meet and become friends with someone new and interesting, sometimes I think about them a lot.

surrounded by people at my sons school and at church

But connections are mostly surface level

Sometimes connection happened just for conflict or drift to end it

A few friends came through, maybe 5%

What do you you look for when making new friends? Do you keep making new friends?

I live in a big area where people move to for work or school, but then can move somewhere else later.

I also moved 2 times.

had a conversation today with my mentor about holding space for a friend I'm not in contact with right now. She recommended letting her go, and if she comes back in the future, we can start over then. I know its the right thing to do, but I often hold space for friends who moved on from me.

I'm a stay at home parent.

This year my 7 year old child will no longer be eligible for self contained special needs Sumner extended year class as he is going to inclusion class in September ( hooray on making all the good academic and social skills gains!) However I feel he isn't ready for traditional camp. He still struggles socially a bit.

What would be alternatives?

Also he is a bit afraid of large entities of water so pool membership is not the plan this summer.

We live in suburbs. I don't drive, but I can take bus or short Uber if nessesary.

It's difficult for me to follow directions from another person. I like to figure out things on my own. Even if I hire people to guide me, I still like process of self discovery. This is a problem. I would like to find ways to learn where I don't have to do the mental load of self direction and have more trust.

edit: in another group, pathological demand avoidance was mentioned. Labor makes sense, but I still need to discover how to negotiate without shutting down

It's difficult for me to follow directions from another person. I like to figure out things on my own. Even if I hire people to guide me, I still like process of self discovery. This is a problem. I would like to find ways to learn where I don't have to do the mental load of self direction and have more trust.

Outside of swimming and other water related sports,

What are your favorite summer sports?