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Hello :)

So I'm trying to write about a character that is secretly using something to make a guy obsessed with her to the point he cannot be without her and it's working...

Something like a cigarette, an addition that you'd just need more and more of, but I can't think of a substance that does this powerfully in real life.

And it needs to be as close to reality as possible, or simply be true/factual.

And it also needs to be as secretive or hidden as possible so the guy cannot come to know but simply notices that he can't stay away from her for long periods of time.

Is there any ideas at all ? Thank you in advance :)

Hello,

I am really struggling at the moment, and every form of therapy I can see online is paid which I unfortunately can't afford. I have been through the NHS IAPT and it wasn't helping the way I needed, I told them and they psuhed me to finish so I did, now I have to wait another 6 months to access something again :(

So long story short... Yesterday my boyfriend said he was at home.

Now we have a shared YouTube account and Gmail that we specifically use for YouTube.

I was feeling suspicious and I never did this before but I used Find my Phone to see where he is and was out ... I could see him driving from the motorway to city centre and back in the span of an hour.

So it's not like the location glitched and wasn't accurate... I know he was out and he's denying now.

I confronted him and told him my brother saw him with another girl and thought of asking me...

My boyfriend is still saying no, so if someone can please help me, I will appreciate that.

I dont know to tell him how I actually found out, because it'll make me look bad ... I want to somehow be able to prove without telling him I stopped and caught him

I don't really know what's wrong with me. I have been an extremely sensitive person my whole life and I am 26 years old but still the same. I will cry at the tiniest raise of someone's voice and will become emotional and tearful to the point it embarrasses people. I have a partner of 3 years and he's a really nice person, understanding and caring, doing everything he can for me. But I cannot bear having a fight with him.. or with anyone for that matter. When things are going great I'm on top of the world and when things are even a tiny bit off ... I feel suicidal. Every tiny fight feels like the beginning of the end and I dive into deep depression, I become angry and want to throw or break something out of anger (I have only done this once by accident) will always punch a pillow... I cannot handle criticism or rejection. I want someone to constantly reassure me and love me and look after me ... I have always suppressed my feelings for others, looked after them, done my duty, done my job but still feel uncared for by people...

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My boyfriend tells me a fight is just a fight, not a breakup, but I cannot deal with things this way ... My nervous system is constantly on fire ... I keep breaking down until I crash into depression.

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Literally yesterday we were cuddling and loving each other and today we had a small fight, which became bigger because he said he doesn't want to talk about it, he doesn't care because he has his exam to stress out about - which is fair right ? But at that moment I couldn't keep it together... I hate that he said "he doesn't care" - it deeply deeply hurt me even though it's not true ...

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I feel like a selfish person, but I also know if he looked after me at that moment, I would have cared for him in return by helping him with his exam... I'm doing that anyway but it would have come from a nicer place...

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I'm a difficult person to be in a relationship with. I'm truly such a pain in the ass...

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Depression and Trauma has literally taken sooo many days off my life and today I feel like I ruined our relationship... And it's our 3 year anniversary tomorrow... So yeah fucking hell...

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I don't have anyone else to talk to and don't know where to go but I hate myself...

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I wish I could undo my trauma and loneliness

Hello

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It's our last day in Seville and would love to go dancing somewhere fun, safe and local, to experience a little bit of the club/night life culture here in Spain.

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Any recommendations please ? Thank you xxx

I have been searching on Google for ages but still struggling to find something that's free and offers DBT specifically.

I have already been in touch with NHS talking therapies and unfortunately need to wait 6 months before I can access therapy again despite the previous one not being too helpful.

I'm happy to look at some self help as well so open to idea or if anyone has other suggestions.

Thank you so much xx

Hi Everyone

we're visiting Seville from the 10th to 13th June. We are staying close to the city centre and would love to hear recommendations for any local restaurants that serve good authentic Spanish Food ! and also some good bars and clubs for a great night out !

Also we'd like to visit some hidden gems apart from the typical touristy places so if you've got any experience or ideas we'd really appreciate that.

thank you so much xx

I don't really have any hope... There's only guilt and lack of guts that's stopping me at the moment... Guilt about the fact that my mum and brother won't even understand that why I died by suicide, it would fuck with their heads ... But I'm tired of life, I feel alone and unloved ... What's the point really

Hi everyone

I'm fairly new here, I've seen quite a lot of posts talking about their success stories and I have a few questions that I'm struggling to understand. How does one go from a state of lack of neediness to a state of detachment ? To me it almost feels like I'm pretending while suppressing my actual feelings or emotions around let's say upset/needy/vulnerable etc ?

I logically understand the concept but really don't know how to shift especially when you're struggling or when you've had adverse circumstances in your childhood and simply don't have a baseline of what happy/fulfilled/content is supposed to feel like ?

Also I understand about self concept and again trying to work on this but I feel I keep coming back to that emotionally disregulated state 😭

I've been trying manifesting for a couple years and I've had small successes but nothing major yet and definitely not an immediate manifestation like many others suggest in their posts !

So I please request if someone could explain this to me. Thank you a lot in advance xx

Hi everyone,

This is just to seek advice on what to do because I still haven't heard from BLS spain and last I checked they said it's 15 working days. I'm very aware I still have some time, my flight dates are the 10th of June but I'm just wondering if there's anything else I should do or can do to make sure I get my visa in time... I can't seem to track my application on the their website at all. I know there has been a few bank holidays as well recently so that's probably added to the waiting times.

Has anyone else recently applied and got the application back in time ?

Thank you in advance xx

Edit: I applied in Manchester

Hi

I hope this is the right place to ask this question, if not please redirect me.

We are a small food truck business and are planning to do a Makers Market event this Sunday, but we don't have the correct cooker setup, and we don't have a gas safety certificate at the moment

Do Makers Market organisers usually check for gas safety certificates on the day? Has anyone here been asked to show a Gas Safe certificate or had their equipment inspected at one of their events?

Just trying to figure out how strict they are before we decide what to do.

Thanks in advance!

Hi I have my appointment for Spain tomorrow and I have a couple questions.

1. Firstly, does the employment letter need to mention dates of annual leave or is the following info okay, because this is what the HR sent me.

Job Title

Employment dates - 18th March 2024 to present

SOC code

Salary

Contracted Hours

2. Also the checklist only says 3 months bank statements, is that enough or should I take payslips too ?

3. The checklist doesn't mention the cover letter - do I need this ?? what do I wrote in this ?

4. Lastly this is my first time applying, and I want to apply for multiple entry. I only have bookings for one time. Is it worth having a cancelable hotel booking to strengthen the request for multiple visa or not so much.

Anything else I should keep in mind for tomorrow would be appreciated.

Thank you soo much 😊