u/accidentaloverdrive

I can’t believe his first birthday is at the end of the month! So happy to have breastfed for almost a year but really wanting to wean for a number of personal reasons (wanting to start meds, wanting to be able to “garden” for stress and pain management, wanting to be able to maybe get some sleep back, hoping to lose weight since I actually gained BFing). My son LOVES the boob and still nurses 4-5x a day on top of solids 4-5x a day (and he can eat quite a bit). He hasn’t had a bottle in a few months (I’m home most of the time so usually no need) but doesn’t usually take more than a little bit of liquid from a straw cup.

He goes to bed around 8 but wakes very early (between 3-5 am) to nurse regardless of how much he’s had the day before. I’ll try to comfort or distract him with toys, solids, straw cups, free crawl time and sometimes nothing but the boob works.

He’s teething rn and so he’s nursing even more! I was really hoping to start dropping feeds by this point or within the next month but it seems impossible right now. I’m not sure if there’s anything I can do to deter him from the boob. He’ll fuss and cry until the boob is pulled out.

Looking for any tips / advice for what worked for you and your boob fiends!

My son’s first birthday is later this month!!
l’m so excited to have made it this far breastfeeding but it feels like the end is nowhere in sight. We do solids 4-5x a day (and this boy can EAT) and he still nurses 4-5x on average, sometimes more if teething or going through a developmental leap.

At this point he’s too old for bottles and won’t drink a full serving of BM or formula out of a cup. He will pretty much fuss until the boob is out regardless of what else I try to do to comfort him. He goes to bed at 8 and then wakes up super early (~4am give or take) begging for the boob no matter how much he’s had the day before.

I’m really hoping to be able to lose wxxxxt, be able to “garden” occasionally to decompress and start a few medications soon but at this point it feels like he’s going to want to keep nursing after a year. I’m not sure if there’s anything I can put on my nipples to deter him or anything else I could try once he hits a year. If it was up to my husband I’d just keep nursing but I’m SPENT. I have long term sleep deprivation and am physically drained (and usually hungry) all the time despite having perfectly normal bloodwork.

I’d love any advice. I’m tempted to just start cow’s milk a few weeks early since my kid tolerates other dairy well (he LOVES shredded cheese).

My son’s first birthday is in a little less than a month. He loved swimming lessons so I discussed renting space at a local public pool under a pavilion; husband seemed in agreement. I’ve already told a few family and close friends about it.

I’ve been going back and forth with the appropriate staff member at the pool for a couple weeks and she finally got back to me with the price (which my husband was already aware of),$280 for 20 people plus kids. I sent the email to him and he told me we can’t afford it right now, we should just have it at the nearby park and then ask people to pay their own way into the pool if they want to swim with us. I think it’s incredibly tacky to ask people to do that and it’s too hot to sit at a park in late July.

For context he paid $400 to be in a bowling league this summer and purchased a $1400 computer monitor recently. We don’t live in a big place (it’s a duplex). We do have a large yard but our puppy has messed up the grass, dug some holes and tore up the screens on our patio. I also just don’t want to deal with the stress of doing a bunch of cleaning before and after to host at our place (which he initially suggested). We hosted our baby shower here and it was a lotttt of work and stress even before we had an infant and puppy.

I’m not working right now (I’m in online school though so I don’t have a lot of energy / time to put into hosting) and I’m considering just dipping into my savings and asking my mom to help. It’s just ridiculous because we’ve been talking about this for weeks and the price shouldnt be a surprise to him.

11 months postpartum

I didn’t have a ton of friends to begin with and none of my friends have kids. I’ve had people I thought were friends keep up with me on socials and express wanting to get together soon… only to post photos of large groups from birthday parties or general get togethers that never got mentioned to me. It sucks not being remembered or people just assuming I can’t come to something for a few hours because I had a kid.

I struggle with making new friends and didn’t really hit it off with a friend-of-a-friend I was introduced to with a baby the same age. I don’t drive so it’s difficult to go to meetups for moms and kids unless my husband is home and can drive me. Idk I guess I just wish I didn’t HAVE to try and make new friends to meet my social needs

My boy is 11 months old and I’m still nursing.
Before becoming a parent, I was a highly functioning pothead and raver. I never had hardcore substance issues but I definitely dabbled and occasionally had the full night of debauchery.

Met up with a couple of friends last night for an outdoor concert while my husband watched the baby, ended up getting a ride with some of their friends who were involved in the music industry and drinking/doing a bit of molly already. They were all going over to their house to play music and party and invited me along. I declined and ended up home by midnight with some taco bell in tow.

I had a drink at the show but otherwise stayed sober but if I’m honest, I really, REALLY miss having the freedom to stay out as late as possible and responsibly-ish do *party favors* recreationally. I know I can still drink but tbh I’ve never enjoyed or have been able to handle more than a couple of drinks. It’s not like that used to be my lifestyle every weekend but I do miss the occasional wild weekend I used to be able to have.

i feel like we’re not supposed to admit feeling this way, or even feel that way because motherhood is ultimately a more fulfilling experience than indulging in hedonism. But DAMN did I have a little FOMO. This isn’t the first time I’ve felt this either…My husband’s friend and his wife who have two small kids recently went to EDC while their parents watched their kids for a few days, and I’m admittedly jealous that we don’t really have that level of childcare support with our family (only 1 grandparent in town and she’s in her mid 70s already). Some of our other friends are on the way to Electric Forest which I’ve always wanted to attend but likely won’t get the chance. I’ve definitely seen other parents let themselves have some adult fun occasionally but it’s rough feeling like I’m not really going to get that chance for another 18 years (when I’m 50 lol).

My husband is a bit older than me and is less inclined towards partying so he doesn’t really feel like he’s missing out on anything… if anything all of that seems more trivial and like waste of time to him now, which just makes me feel guilty for not sharing the sentiment.

I have a mischievous 7.5 month old labrador as well as a 10.5 month old human! We are a bit behind on childproofing and baby has a giant playpen but prefers to freecrawl on the floor instead.

Puppy has been in a portion of the kitchen sectioned off with a baby gate since we got her. She has her crate inside, as well as a large bed, her food/water bowls and several toys. She gets all of her meals from a slow feeder and I give her frozen Kongs/Carrots throughout the week. She gets walks most days as well as fetch/flirt pole sessions in the yard (though not as much this past week as me and my husband are sick).

I’m home all day every day basically but she still spends a fair amount of the day in what I’ve dubbed her “studio apartment”. She is generally pretty good around my son but occasionally gets too excited when trying to play and swings a toy around him or bulldozes him. The bigger problem is that she loves to go in our bedroom and grab socks or bras from our laundry hamper. I’d love for her to free roam more but it feels like most times I let her, she ends up back in the playpen bc she acts up one way or another. I’m also planning to reenter the work force next year so want to have her in a setup where she can go in and out at will.

We have a large yard with a screened patio (though she tore up the screen) and she has toys outside. She’s not great at entertaining herself for very long and will often find something on the patio to chew on (such as patio furniture or something on the patio counter) or start digging. If anything, she’s actually calmest in the playpen, I just feel bad she spends so much time in there the bigger she gets.

We hoped to eventually move her to our laundry room and allow her free access to the patio/yard via the dog door, but she doesn’t seem to be ready for much unsupervised yard time yet. We also have shelves in the laundry room we’ll need to protect with some baby gates / need to do some general reorganizing.

How can I start to phase out the pen? I don’t want her to be unhappy.

My guy will be 11 months in a little over a week!
He’s been mostly breastfed. I briefly went back to work and he then took bottles of pumped milk, but since quitting my job half a year ago he’s only had a bottle a handful of times. We actually don’t have fast flow nipples for our bottles ATM and I feel like he’s getting too old for bottles / should be doing straw cups instead. He does sometimes get BM or formula in a straw cup with meals but I don’t think he can or will take a full milk feed out of one.He kind of knows how to drink from one bht half the time sucks in too much liquid then spits it out.

I’m really hoping to start the nursing process (want to start on some certain medications that I can’t take nursing and just ready to be done) once he turns 1 but idk where to start, and this past week he even seems MORE boob obsessed. He was winding down on day feeds until dad and I came down with a cold and since then it’s almost like he’s cluster-feeding for part of the day. He’s also been waking up for night / early morning feeds again.

He gets 3 solid meals a day and then 1 or 2 snacks. Occasionally he’ll refuse solids.

Looking for any insights or helpful advice for when the time comes.

We did Ferber a month or a month-and-a-half ago; took about 2 weeks to *mostly* work. However, little guy still wakes up early morning (4:45-5:30ish) to nurse. Husband and I agreed if it was before 4:30 or so, we’d do the graduated check-ins, but after that time we’d feed him. Husband needs to wake up around 5:45-6am, so is against letting him cry at all around this time because he (husband) won’t be able to go back to sleep.

He used to go back to sleep after nursing and sleep until 7-8. Lately though he decides he wants to get up around this time, which is very frustrating for me (who usually wanting another hour of sleep). We put him to bed at 8, so this seems entirely too early. He naps 1.5-2.5 hours during the day on average, usually split into one longer and one shorter nap.

Any tips? I’d really like him to sleep until at least 6:30am.

SAHM and online grad student to a lively breastfed 10.5 month old, as well as a 7 month old puppy. Baby is learning a lot right now and teething constantly. He has a large playpen in the living room, but much prefers to free crawl around our not-childproofed floor. I told my husband we need to find a babysitter and spend a few days reorganizing and childproofing but it’s going to be a time-consuming endeavor.

The playpen is in front of our TV; we’re short on space so it’s really the best/only option atm. Sometimes I put Ms. Rachel on to get chores done because my baby is very often grumpy in the playpen (he has plenty of toys in there too, but he’d rather be crawling around without barriers).

Every time I see someone online post about their kids watching TV, the comments are filled with people calling the mom “lazy” and talking about how bad it is for babies. I’m aware of the recommendation to wait until they are 2 but I really don’t know how I’m supposed to get anything done- I try to work out or do schoolwork when he’s sleeping, in addition to chores. It’s not like it’s on for hours every day, but maybe 20-30 minutes a couple times a week. Of course, he also sees when my husband is playing video games on his computer (which is also in the living room) so maybe he’s already been “ruined”.

Not sure if I’m looking for advice, commiseration or just consolation.

Husband drove to Taste of Philly in Lakewood (Colfax) around 8:30 but it was closed- that was on us for not confirming the hours first. Googled nearby places, drove to Good Times, which Google said was open-place is completely dark, drive through blocked off. Husband then drives to Wendy’s which should have been a safe bet- it’s also dark inside with no one manning the drive through.

Ended up getting Fat Shack closer to Arvada which WAS open but took 30+ minutes despite no one really being in there. It’s like there’s something in the air tonight.

It’s not a holiday or the dead of night on a Tuesday- this was all Friday night before 9pm. Is there something we’re missing (a major local sporting event, strike, etc???)

I have an old prescription I was hesitant to take because “dopamax” but my migraines have been coming back with a vengeance 10 months PP. I’m nursing and apparently topomax is safe for me to take (used to use MMJ for migraines but couldn’t pregnant/breastfeeding). I’m nervous to start taking it because I’m at the tail end of finishing my Master’s degree but, then again, migraines themselves are debilitating for schoolwork (and more school stress = more migraines).

Looking for experiences positive and negative with the medication!

went 10 days ago after a 3 day migraine, on day 3 of a migraine today and have a 20 page paper due Sunday night 😭 I really need to feel better tomorrow and Sunday and am on the fence about going in again.

Our kid is 9 months old and I haven’t slept uninterrupted in 4-5 months at least.I’ve been nursing to sleep this whole time. If I’m lucky my kid wakes up around 2-3am but he’ll fall asleep nursing and then wake up if I move him back to the crib. He ends up in bed with us a lot because of this, and I have a difficult time getting comfortable enough to fall back asleep when this is the case.

for context my husband is up early for work. I don’t work but am in online grad school on top of being a SAHM. I’m struggling a lot with the physical ramifications of long term sleep deprivation and nursing, such as migraines and weight issues. I went to the urgent care for a 3 day migraine the other day. I used to smoke MMJ to help with my migraines and pain issues but OFC husband doesn’t support me switching to formula until at least a year. I’ve reached my breaking point and want to either stop breastfeeding completely or sleep train (CIO).

My husband will not get on the same page with me about sleep training. He won’t let the baby cry more than 5 mins before saying one of us needs to intervene. Of course I’m the only one who can nurse him and since he has to be up early 9 out of 10 times this is me. He looks at me like I’m horrible if I just let the baby cry for more than a few minutes but I’m at my wits end. Idk what to do. I never wanted to try CIO but I’m so tired of physically and mentally feeling like this.

Had to go to the urgent care for the Migraine cocktail Tuesday night. It’s Saturday, and the migraine is back.

I have a huge research paper as well as a small paper due 8 days from now and a small paper due tomorrow.

I don’t work, but I’m a SAHM to a 9 month old. I’m also nursing which puts a lot of potential remedies (mainly mmj, which helps me a lot) off limits. Husband not supportive of me weaning at this point or taking CBD oil.

Just wanted to vent/cry.

Dealing with a 2 day migraine ATM and the headache itself isn’t even the worst part. I get pain down my arms as part of my aura phase sometimes but today arm/leg achiness was part of the main event. I also just felt generally off, almost akin to a negative psychedelic experience where my control of and experience within my body just didn’t feel exact. One example-grabbing things, not grasping them well, dropping them as a result. Visual changes again akin to an almost psychedelic shift- things moving in ways that looks unnatural or altered from how they’d appear otherwise. Feel shaky without actually trembling.

I’ve looked into hemiplagic migraines but my migraines are often equally on both sides (I do occasionally get the classic one-sided headache but I find my migraines are generally full body experiences).

Anyone else? Can’t find a lot about these sorts of symptoms online. other more typical non-headache symptoms I get are mood swings during prodrome, nausea and sometimes diarrhea