u/achipots

After recent daycare fiasco funny how the whole of Instagram has reached 2 conclusions :

1st conclusion :

Blame working mothers
Don’t have kids if you don’t have time
Parents are finding easy way out to get rid of kids
Modern women don’t want to look after their baby
Work is more important than baby

2nd conclusion: (by men who want financial contribution by women)

Modern women don’t want to stay with in-laws
In-laws would happily take care of babies
Working women deserve this for choosing a nuclear setup
Some men bashing their own wives saying “my wife doesn’t get along with my mother and i don’t have any option”

There is clearly no winning here for women.

After seeing some disturbing visuals of CapGemini Daycare child abuse I couldn’t sleep last night

My company has day care facility at office too which I thought was a huge advantage. Turns out it’s not

I wanted to have a discussion with my husband on this topic but he was too tired after work and fell asleep without listening to me

I don’t think i would have guts to put my child in a daycare now after this . Don’t know what’s going to happen in the future

Also I’ve noticed that the financial gap between poor and rich is only widening and this is frustrating the poor people more and more and they take their frustration out on tax paying middle class people wherever possible , be it maids , nannies , delivery boys , cab drivers . Hiring these people have only increased our tensions more than getting relief, God bless all of us working mums .

My rental agreement is due for renewal next month.

The owner hasn’t mentioned anything yet about renewing or increasing the rent.

Would you recommend that I proactively ask the owner about the renewal, or is it better to stay quiet and wait until they contact me first?

I’m curious what others have experienced. Does bringing it up early usually help, or can it sometimes lead to an unnecessary rent increase discussion?

Thanks in advance for your advice!

So I’m going to take a maternity leave from August onwards for a year and very weird thing but I’ve observed that many men are now jealous of women taking maternity leave as well . Few instances in my office :

My manager who has 3 daughters made a remark like “how lucky you are to be able to take a break , men don’t have that option”

A colleague who is expecting his second baby mentioned “ you’ll get salary for a year without work , sooo lucky “ . I then realized that his wife doesn’t work and probably he wanted his wife also to get salary and insurance benefits during maternity leave

Another male colleague made a remark like - “it’s only in India and Europe that you get 6 months to 1 year break but in USA they hardly give 3 months paid leave” . He said he respects USA women cause they get back to work within no time

Like seriously men need to stop comparing each and everything. Maybe pray to god that you are born as a women in next life if you are feel our lives are much better

Hi all ,

In a tough spot here cause recently my tenant finished one year stay and wanted to renew contract but he’s asking for no hike in rent and promising that he will stay for a minimum of 4 years (he has a wife and 2 kids so he doesn’t want to keep moving)

While the idea to have a long term tenant is good for me as I don’t have a headache of finding new tenants , getting the home painted and cleaned .

The other part of me feels that I’ve already given him the apartment for a cheaper rate last year compared to ongoing rents in my building (ongoing is 32k and I’ve given my apartment for 29k) . I felt i should at-least increase the rent by 1000 bucks a month but he says to increase it from next year onwards and not this year

Also the location of the apartment is not very desirable as it’s in the outskirts so mostly we get bachelors and not families.

Any suggestions?

Mums, how long did your baby sleep in a cradle or bassinet before you transitioned them to a cot/crib?

Also, if you used an electric rocking cradle, was it worth the cost? Did it actually help your baby sleep better, or would you skip it if you had another baby?

Looking for real experiences before deciding whether to buy one.

PS: I’m going to live at my moms place for 2-3 months and she already has the old style cradle
Was thinking if that is enough and then directly transition into a crib?

Today our building’s security guard broke down because he was short ₹500.

For context, I live in a standalone residential building with 9 houses and the security guard is provided a 1RK in the basement, so he doesn’t pay rent for that accommodation.

He had his second child about 6 months ago (has a 5 year old kid already) .While talking about his situation, he mentioned that he had expected most of the households in the building to hire him and his wife for extra work sweeping, mopping, washing utensils, and cooking which would significantly increase their income.

The problem is that things didn’t work out the way he expected. Quite a few residents use robot vacuums, dishwashers, or prefer to cook themselves. On top of that, some residents weren’t willing to pay the rates he quoted for domestic help.

Listening to him, it sounded like a major financial decision was made based on optimistic assumptions about future income that never fully materialized.

I know I don’t know every detail of his finances, and anyone can fall on hard times. But seeing someone with a 6-month-old baby and another child become overwhelmed over ₹500 made me think about how little emphasis society places on financial planning before having children.

Hi mums ,

Can we please maintain a post with all details so that expecting mums would have an idea about costs and other things regarding delivery of baby

I’m currently in my 5th month pregnancy and planning to get delivery done in Kangaroo care hospital Bangalore (as it’s 5 mins from my mums house)

Price quoted : 2 nights 3 days private room 90k-1.2L depending on procedure done . Sharing room is 20k lesser , if private room is taken then perks like free photoshoot , free yoga sessions , 1 free scan and stuff is included

Hi all ,

So my husband has Care insurance for maternity upto 1L and even on his company website the hospital shows as network hospital but just today when i asked for package details and other things hospital said you have to go for reimbursement as care is not considered for cashless

Total package for 2 nights and 3 days would come upto 90k-1.2L depending on the type of procedure

Is it safe to go for reimbursement considering it’s corporate insurance and they might not deny giving ?

I don’t want to use my corporate insurance as for me coverage is only upto 60k (Bajaj Alliance)

Hi all ,

So my husband has Care insurance for maternity upto 1L and even on his company website the hospital shows as network hospital but just today when i asked for package details and other things hospital said you have to go for reimbursement as care is not considered for cashless

Total package for 2 nights and 3 days would come upto 90k-1.2L depending on the type of procedure

Is it safe to go for reimbursement considering it’s corporate insurance and they might not deny giving ?

I don’t want to use my corporate insurance as for me coverage is only upto 60k

We were a gang of 4 girls since engineering days. Typical college best-friend group shared everything, survived exams together, late-night talks, career stress, family drama, all of it.

One of the girls was always the topper, super ambitious, rank 1 type. Never really dated anyone because she was very focused on studies and career. She later moved abroad, did her masters, built an amazing career, and honestly is probably the most accomplished among all of us professionally.

But now our lives have started moving in very different directions. Out of the 4 girls, I’m pregnant, the second is married, and the third recently got engaged. She’s the only one left unmarried.
I also know that this deeply affects her. She has mentioned before that she worries she’s not finding the right person and feels left behind in that aspect of life.

Ever since the engagement news of 3rd girl came out around 2 months ago, this girl has completely disappeared from our WhatsApp group. She doesn’t read messages anymore, doesn’t reply, doesn’t react nothing.

What hurts me most is that among the 4 of us, I was personally closest to her. We used to talk separately all the time too, not just in the group. But she stopped messaging me personally as well.

I genuinely don’t think this comes from jealousy in a malicious way. I think maybe she’s hurting, comparing herself, or distancing herself because being around constant marriage/pregnancy conversations became emotionally difficult for her.

At the same time, it hurts to suddenly lose someone you considered one of your closest friends without any conversation or explanation.

So for context we live in a standalone building in Singasandra paying 33k rent (with car parking and private terrace)

This July will be rental agreement renewal and we feel 33 is already high for a standalone building without power backup (mind you even lift doesn’t work when power is gone)

Planning to negotiate with the owner but he already called us and reminded that July will be renewal so he’s expecting a hike

This area has really bad power cuts so without power backup it doesn’t seem worth , also building security is there for namesake (he and his wife are outside working at all houses as maid / cook and only available at night to gatekeep)

Not sure what to be done!

Hi girlies ,

So my company has this policy where they give extended 6 months leave after the mandated 6 months and they give you salary equivalent to basic pay in your CTC

So it’s like first 6 months (full pay) + next 6 months (basic pay) which is optional to take

Just wondering whether to opt for this or not ?

Is a 1 year break from work a good idea? Is it really needed?