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Salaam , I know this sounds very deep especially considering I (F) am only 21 but I’ve been thinking a lot recently and I have this fear I will never find someone who actually understands me and how I like saying “how my brain works and is set up”. Alongside a bunch of medical conditions including ADHD , ASD & Anxiety i’m a massive overthinker and get attached very fast to people ( even if they are bad for me ). It’s something i’m trying to work on but it’s not easy. But I genuinely fear that because of this I won’t find anyone…. And it’s so disheartening and heartbreaking for someone who has just always wanted to feel / be loved and have a husband who understands and supports me.

(Don’t take this as an opportunity to DM me unless it’s giving advice)

I (21F) have extreme attachment issues ( anxious attachment ) . I also have AuDHD so I guess it’s sometimes limerence but I overthink every detail and interaction with a guy I like and as i’m getting older i’m starting to think no one will understand the way my brain works and is wired around these things.

Long story short I made a stupid mistake of getting involved with a guy “for fun”. We both agreed before we met up that it would be a one off no strings attached thing and after that we would go back to speaking as normal. This happened for a few days ( though I honestly felt like utter shit for the next 3-4 days ) and then randomly he flirted , I flirted back and it just went back and forth. We’ve both reiterated that we “shouldn’t be doing this” or that we agreed for it not to happen and i’m pretty certain it won’t progress but my self respect is so low that i’d rather have that connection with him than nothing and I told myself it’s “boring” if there’s nothing because it’s “entertainment” and as much as it is I know I’ll get attached. Worth noting we didn’t actually have sex.

I know the rational thing is to stop it at just “friends” and I say this lightly because I don’t even know if he classes me as a friend - but whenever the conversation switches to normal talk I start overthinking and feel so down ( probably due to the fact he’s a lot slower at responding then too ). I don’t want to ruin whatever it is we have by admitting i’m attached and not can I bring myself to leave … in so tired of this never ending cycle and I know I need to work on it but I don’t even know how to…

I (21F) have extreme attachment issues ( anxious attachment ) . I also have AuDHD so I guess it’s sometimes limerence but I overthink every detail and interaction with a guy I like and as i’m getting older i’m starting to think no one will understand the way my brain works and is wired around these things.

Long story short I made a stupid mistake of getting involved with a guy “for fun”. We both agreed before we met up that it would be a one off no strings attached thing and after that we would go back to speaking as normal. This happened for a few days ( though I honestly felt like utter shit for the next 3-4 days ) and then randomly he flirted , I flirted back and it just went back and forth. We’ve both reiterated that we “shouldn’t be doing this” or that we agreed for it not to happen and i’m pretty certain it won’t progress but my self respect is so low that i’d rather have that connection with him than nothing and I told myself it’s “boring” if there’s nothing because it’s “entertainment” and as much as it is I know I’ll get attached. Worth noting we didn’t actually have sex.

I know the rational thing is to stop it at just “friends” and I say this lightly because I don’t even know if he classes me as a friend - but whenever the conversation switches to normal talk I start overthinking and feel so down ( probably due to the fact he’s a lot slower at responding then too ). I don’t want to ruin whatever it is we have by admitting i’m attached and not can I bring myself to leave … in so tired of this never ending cycle and I know I need to work on it but I don’t even know how to…

Has anyone brought the FCS ACA Academy mocks ? Either marked or unmarked for June sitting or if anyone brought for March sitting how did you find it?

I’m in between if I should but idk if it’s worth it? I’m with Kaplan so I know they will have a mock too that we will sit during exam prep this Friday.

Is there anyone who works at the big 4 ( specifically Deloitte ) who knows the rulings behind re-sits for professional level exams? Is it that you only get a re-sit if you get a “soft fail” ?

Maybe it’s just me but do you guys seriously believe that you are finding your future husband / wife on Reddit? I get there’s pages like this to offer advice + guidance etc but to find a partner is insane thinking….

I’m sitting FCS + TCP in June as my first professional level sittings and tcp is just stressing me out. I started exam Q practice for individuals at least and thought it was meh but havnt got around to corporation tax / rules for companies yet. Part of it is me putting it off because I know it’s going to kill me and focusing on FCS instead (ik that sounds so contradictory but that’s the way my adhd brain works) - i’m scared for both tbh but tcp way more . I’m honestly fine with passing with a 55% on the dot i don’t even care atp just nothing lower!!!

Salaam , I (F, 21) have recently spoken to my parents about wanting to get married and how to approach it in a halal way. I have always known that I wanted to get married InshaAllah when the time comes. We have had some discussions about moving in the right way but right now my fear is that I am not approaching this the right way. Most of my friends around my age are either married or in the early stages of it and I am happy with where I’m at in life in other aspects but truly it does get lonely . I know I am only in my early 20’s but as we all know, it is becoming increasingly more common for younger marriages and it is not a decision I took lightly to start the search. I do think I am mature enough etc but I want to make sure i’m not doing this thinking it will solve my loneliness etc especially as someone with ADHD + Autism as meeting new people & making friends is not something i’m good at not have any interest in- i’m happy with the few I do have.

I know it is all down to Allah SWT but I also feel I am entitled to understand myself better.

Jazakallah

I was diagnosed with Autism in November 2025 ( age 21) and ADHD in May 2024 (age 19) 2 things I’ve always struggled with and still grieve the life I would have had if I was diagnosed earlier.

I guess i’m still making peace with the autism diagnosis and navigating it / understanding it all especially the differences between my ADHD + Autism. But ever since I was diagnosed , as a girl who has craved the idea of having someone who loves me and in straight forward terms wanting to get married , I now always fear I won’t get that because of my Autism because
A) meeting new people / any people in that sense is so foreign and out of my comfort zone
B) I feel no one will understand my brain especially since I can’t on most days
C) as someone from a south Asian background , I feel Autism is a taboo subject amongst others ( not so much ADHD though strangely ) and tbh i’m kinda closed off on disclosing my autism as opposed to my ADHD but regardless

I get this gut wrenching though every now and then that i’m going to end up dying alone and for me that’s the scariest thing ever and I fear it so much…. Am I insane for this?

I was diagnosed with Autism in November 2025 ( age 21) and ADHD in May 2024 (age 19) 2 things I’ve always struggled with and still grieve the life I would have had if I was diagnosed earlier.

I guess i’m still making peace with the autism diagnosis and navigating it / understanding it all especially the differences between my ADHD + Autism. But ever since I was diagnosed , as a girl who has craved the idea of having someone who loves me and in straight forward terms wanting to get married , I now always fear I won’t get that because of my Autism because
A) meeting new people / any people in that sense is so foreign and out of my comfort zone
B) I feel no one will understand my brain especially since I can’t on most days
C) as someone from a south Asian background , I feel Autism is a taboo subject amongst others ( not so much ADHD though strangely ) and tbh i’m kinda closed off on disclosing my autism as opposed to my ADHD but regardless

I get this gut wrenching though every now and then that i’m going to end up dying alone and for me that’s the scariest thing ever and I fear it so much…. Am I insane for this?

I was diagnosed with Autism in November 2025 ( age 21) and ADHD in May 2024 (age 19) 2 things I’ve always struggled with and still grieve the life I would have had if I was diagnosed earlier.

I guess i’m still making peace with the autism diagnosis and navigating it / understanding it all especially the differences between my ADHD + Autism. But ever since I was diagnosed , as a girl who has craved the idea of having someone who loves me and in straight forward terms wanting to get married , I now always fear I won’t get that because of my Autism because
A) meeting new people / any people in that sense is so foreign and out of my comfort zone
B) I feel no one will understand my brain especially since I can’t on most days
C) as someone from a south Asian background , I feel Autism is a taboo subject amongst others ( not so much ADHD though strangely ) and tbh i’m kinda closed off on disclosing my autism as opposed to my ADHD but regardless

I get this gut wrenching though every now and then that i’m going to end up dying alone and for me that’s the scariest thing ever and I fear it so much…. Am I insane for this?

I was diagnosed with Autism in November 2025 ( age 21) and ADHD in May 2024 (age 19) 2 things I’ve always struggled with and still grieve the life I would have had if I was diagnosed earlier.

I guess i’m still making peace with the autism diagnosis and navigating it / understanding it all especially the differences between my ADHD + Autism. But ever since I was diagnosed , as a girl who has craved the idea of having someone who loves me and in straight forward terms wanting to get married , I now always fear I won’t get that because of my Autism because
A) meeting new people / any people in that sense is so foreign and out of my comfort zone
B) I feel no one will understand my brain especially since I can’t on most days
C) as someone from a south Asian background , I feel Autism is a taboo subject amongst others ( not so much ADHD though strangely ) and tbh i’m kinda closed off on disclosing my autism as opposed to my ADHD but regardless

I get this gut wrenching though every now and then that i’m going to end up dying alone and for me that’s the scariest thing ever and I fear it so much…. Am I insane for this?

I was diagnosed with Autism in November 2025 ( age 21) and ADHD in May 2024 (age 19) 2 things I’ve always struggled with and still grieve the life I would have had if I was diagnosed earlier.

I guess i’m still making peace with the autism diagnosis and navigating it / understanding it all especially the differences between my ADHD + Autism. But ever since I was diagnosed , as a girl who has craved the idea of having someone who loves me and in straight forward terms wanting to get married , I now always fear I won’t get that because of my Autism because
A) meeting new people / any people in that sense is so foreign and out of my comfort zone
B) I feel no one will understand my brain especially since I can’t on most days
C) as someone from a south Asian background , I feel Autism is a taboo subject amongst others ( not so much ADHD though strangely ) and tbh i’m kinda closed off on disclosing my autism as opposed to my ADHD but regardless

I get this gut wrenching though every now and then that i’m going to end up dying alone and for me that’s the scariest thing ever and I fear it so much…. Am I insane for this?

Kinda (seriously) very scared about the BIP aspect of FCS . I have an exemption from university as I did Accounting and finance at uni and don’t get me wrong it’s not necessarily new content but others with exemptions will know the way uni teach these modules compared to ICAEW exam requirements is very different - not to mention I did the equivalent like 2 years ago now.

I’ve been given a pdf copy of the Kaplan BIP booklet but in all honestly who is taking all of that into the exam ( I’ve just added the summary notes into my exam file ) . Is there anyone who sat FCS in march and had an exemption , how did you find it? Or anyone sitting in June - how are you revising for BIP?

Hi all- I started Concerta around 6 months ago from Elvanse ( Elvanse was great to start with and then stopped working ). For reference I was on the max dose of Elvanse , for Concerta I’ve been on 36mg alongside medikinet 10mg once a day as a top up ( 10mg 2x a day during my luteal phase ). We tried 54mg for a few days a couple months ago and I felt it was too much as I was just getting severe headaches , cotton mouth x1000 and feeling nauseous to the point I wasn’t eating at all aside from breakfast.

At the moment I’ve noticed within the past week or so that my Concerta isn’t working as well. I’ve been on annual leave this week but still needed to revise for professional exams and barely got anything done ( task paralysis - and the last time I had that was when my Elvanse was reaching the end point ), feeling tired all day as opposed to my meds keeping me alert and overeating ( I know this sounds silly but considering for me personally meds surprise my appetite , I’ve not felt that for the past 1-2 weeks so to me that’s when I know somethings not right) . Again these are all symptoms of when Elvanse stopped working.

I have really important exams coming up and I just wanted to know if anyone has had the same experience or not? I can’t afford to stop meds all in all and as I’ve tried Elvanse , mefylnate and now Concerta I was told last time that the next option would be non stimulants and a) I don’t have the time to be playing with those and waiting for them to work with exams in a month and b) not really convinced they’ll do much. Will a dose increase help/ is it worth trying 54mg again now? Is it possible my body has just got used to 36 and it needs an increase?

Thanks in advance !

How is everyone getting on with the AI and revision? I had my tution around 3 weeks ago and exam prep is in 2 weeks ish but ngl I havnt looked at it much since.

For reference I sat the new cert exams between Feb and April ( excluding BIP and BL as I have Exemptions )

BIP is one that’s really stressing me out…

I’m sitting the above 2 exams in June with it being my first PL sittings. I’ve had college for both ( excluding Exam prep - i’m with Kaplan ) , with TCP tuition ending today and honestly it was ROUGH: I feel like I remember nothing. I genuinely am so worried especially for TCP but also FCS.

What way is best to revise for these? Or specifically with TCP just retaining knowledge and it all making sense. I’m not too familiar with how the marks work with PL apart from knowing you get carry on / follow through marks in your working which is obviously better than at CL. ATP I just want 55% no more and (definitely) no less 💀.

I’m genuinely so burnt out right now and this is all seriously making me think about my future in this career. Am I stressing too much?