u/camonega

Im moving to a new city (Houston), I want is to make friends but I feel like meeting likeminded people isnt in the cards.

Im bisexual, pre-T, and getting out of a toxic relationship as well as moving back in with family and plan to start DIY HRT soon. My family isnt supportive so Im just hoping for the best and playing it by ear. Im struggling and Ive never felt so isolated in my life.

My only LGBT friend is a cis lesbian and is also a transmedicalist herself, we've met irl but mostly talk online. It has been very healing as she is literally the ONLY person that's never given me shit for my violent dysphoria or treated me as anything but a man who just happens to have a medical condition . Meanwhile, EVERY other "GNC" friend (transmascs, enbies) I have had to drop due to brushing off my dysphoria any time I had to vent and belittling my struggles with my transition being delayed.

I don't need a ton of friends . Just people I click with and who can sympathize with my struggle. It feels so futile. I already feel so emasculated for how I look and embarrassed to call myself a man. I feel like Im almost better off avoiding other trans people.

I wish I could hang out with cis queer men but with how I look now I'd be laughed out rightfully so. All I want is to have friends who see me as just a man without pushing their weird ideology onto me.

Im starting school in August, and Ill have to take precalc instead of calc i for the fall semester (yes i should have just done precalc over this summer. too late for that unless department head has some other idea.), which also means I cant take engi 1100 until the spring either, thus offsetting me by a semester.

I COULD take calc ii and engi 1331 next summer. both are offered over the course of 10 weeks which sounds to be better than a lot of other summer classes which are just 6 weeks. this would catch me up with everyone else. i just want to know whether this is an awful idea and the risk of screwing my GPA is worth it.

I'm 22 and moving back home in August to start university. My relationship to my mom improved drastically after I moved out at 18, and now I'm scared it'll regress back into being treated like a child, which she still very much does when I visit home.

It's clear she doesn't see me as a full adult and I need to protect my peace. However since I'm staying under her roof and she is taking care of me financially (I'll still work part time) while I'm in school I don't know how to go about this or how to talk to her and set boundaries without making it seem like Im ungrateful. She is also kind of homophobic and Im afraid that will be a point of tension but I dont really have much of a choice.

I realized I was trans a year ago. I was hoping to start HRT this year, but due to life circumstances, I now have to move back in with my parents while I go back to school. I expect it to take 5 years to get my degree and unless by some stroke of mercy I have a friend willing to let me room with them for free there is no way I can work enough to support myself while in school. I know my parents will not support my transition and I dont see how starting T while under their roof is a safe idea. I am suffering so much knowing I'll have to delay this for 5 more years. I will be 27 by the time I can be myself openly. I truly hate the circumstances I am in, even knowing that it is temporary. I hate that if I had made better choices I would be financially independent by now (or close to it) but now this is the situation Im in.

He is freshly 2 years old and was in a home daycare for two months before being expelled. The first three weeks were fine, then she took on two more kids and the pushing, hitting, tackling got out of hand. We were told he cannot come back. She put him in timeout every time he acted out and modeled "gentle hands", at least that is what we asked her to do.

He is on a waitlist for another daycare, and I'm so scared he'll be expelled again. He has been rough with one of our friend's kids in the past, but not to the level that he was doing at daycare and whenever he was aggressive, we would always remove him and show him to be gentle. He has also played great with other kids many times, so I'm not sure what snapped and why he was being aggressive at daycare so consistently.

What do I tell his next daycare? Do I tell them he has behavioral issues? What if none of the daycares want him? Do I refer him for ECI?

My son has been at an in home daycare for 6 weeks. The first three weeks were mostly fine, there was one other boy his age and a younger girl. Now there are a total of five kids and he has been grabbing, hitting, pushing, stepping on, tackling all of them, even the boy his age he used to be ok with. I'm really concerned about how to address this. The daycare teacher will do time out with him when he acts like that but I'm not sure if it's helping. We are trying to figure out if anything triggers it but we haven't identified anything. He's rough playing with us at home and with our friend's kids who are older than him, but the behavior happening at daycare is another level. In the past when he's been too rough with another kid we removed him immediately. What can we do?

I enjoy cleaning of all kinds and am pretty knowledgeable about the different kinds of products/tools and how to use them.

My plan at the moment is to get an EVS job at a hospital, then after a while strike out own my own to do cleanouts/moveouts or specialize in something else, maybe even biohazard, not sure. I have never done cleaning professionally, but I used to work construction on farms, which does involve a lot of cleanup too.

I am an upcoming engineering student, so studying is always going to be #1, for now my goal is to find a balance between 15-20 hours of work a week. Is having a rigid schedule going to be prohibitive when starting my own cleaning business?

I want to start the process of getting a bisalp, but as school is starting in a few months Im worried the recovery will mean I fall behind in my classes. How soon after surgery can I drive to school and attend? Will a surgeon be flexible enough that they can schedule my operation during break? If you were a full time student when you got sterilized how did you plan ahead?

thinking of doing industrial eng with a minor in SCM/logistics or BA. I know its not as specialized as meche or cheme, and I did seriously consider going that route, but I think Im just more interested in the system operations, analyst, optimization, continuous improvement, side of things . i have done hours and hours of research and still at a crossroads.

IE often leads into non engineering roles that pay more as you specialize. That is what attracts me about it. But even so , would I just be better off studying for business related degree or mathematics for that same outcome? Or even a degree in SCM/logistics?

If it helps, the industries that pique my interest most are defense, energy, petrochem, and shipping.

I'm from Texas and my plan has always been to move to a progressive state. Well now Im getting divorced with a kid and we're both stuck here. I'm transgender and its hard to find any positives to being forced to stick around .

I'm mad at myself for being in this situation. My stbx isnt from TX . His family is in a different state and Im sure he is aching to move too and I dont blame him one bit.

I can hang in there for a while. Still, when my kiddo is hitting preteen I'm probably evaluating my options because I seriously cant imagine being here for a whole 15 years as much as long distance will suck for everyone and will mean I'll see him for breaks plus whenever I fly into town. Unless he strongly wants to be with me most of the time, but that is of course up to him. I hope by then he'll be old enough that it will be easier on him. Still awful. Im almost certain my ex will leave the state too once I do. He doesnt like TX and his support system is in TN, but there is no chance I am risking moving there.

I wish I could have gotten us all to someplace else before this went down. I hate that this is an issue all and that I didnt do all this years ago then none of this would be a problem for anyone or a burden on my kid when everything about parenting post divorce and nurturing that bond is already so fragile.

I've always wanted to leave Texas for a blue state and now it looks like I'm stuck for a while. I grew up here and there are things I like about it, but I cant imagine staying here for another 15 years. I'm transgender and it's hard to find any trans person who wants to stick around.

I wish I'd been able to make it happen already. Truthfully, I think I'll hang in there until my kiddo is 10 and then evaluate my options. I hope that by that age traveling between states will be easier on him and we can maintain a strong relationship despite the distance. I hate that I have to think about this at all.

I know that means reduced time with me if Im the one initiating the move. I know my family will tear me a new asshole for "abandoning" him. I wish I could have gotten us to someplace better before all this went down. Honestly, my stbx will almost certainly move too once I do and I dont blame him. He has no ties here. But we're both stuck.

Im going back to college at 22 for engineering. One application asked if I am trans/nonbinary etc so I answered that Im FTM trans. Now Im a bit worried it was a trap. Or if it will be brought up etc since my legal gender markers aren't changed to male and I'm sort of worried since I am closeted.

I'll be going to school in TX and just wanna make sure I didnt screw myself over and that it wont be brought up in any way to family (who are helping pay for my school) , in any official communications, or accidentally documented somehow where people can see. thanks

Most engineer degree holders Ive talked to have a master's as well, and I know I would like to get one eventually too. I'm just curious if most graduates immediately proceed to an MS after their 4 year, or if its more common to work and explore what you want to specialize in before going back to school.

I will be working and studying in the Medical Center and my son's daycare will be near UoH. So being near all that is a must. I'm a Houston native and moving back after living out of town for a while. I know the east inner loop can be spotty, but I need to save money this first year or two being back in town, and I know some areas within neighborhoods are better than others. Anybody rent in the third ward or in nearby neighborhoods and have a good experience, and have any tips when choosing where to live?

I have a wedding band, no engravings, 18k 5.9g. Jeweler offered 240 for it. That sounded low so I declined. What I do not know when selling jewelry is how much I should be expecting at all or where to go. I wish I could sound more knowledgeable but I've never done this before and I have no clue what I'm doing. I have tried searching on ebay for comparable pieces to see what I should expect but didn't have much luck.

I'm in a delicate situation. I want to get the Nexplanon implant. With insurance, it is free; however, I am on my spouse's plan and am unemployed and financially dependent on him as long as we are together. I will be leaving him soon, but in the meanwhile I absolutely need to ensure I don't get pregnant. He cannot know about this. So I am stuck between deciding if I should use our insurance at Planned Parenthood and risk him seeing the claim on the EOB or portal. Or should I scrape up the approx 2k it costs out of pocket, which I can do, but it would take some time. As I have private insurance and a high income on paper, I doubt I qualify for any aid programs. I know you can request confidential communications, but from other posts I have read, sometimes the policyholder finds out anyway. So I am extremely hesitant. Any advice is appreciated, or who I should talk to.

I cannot leave Texas due to custody arrangements. Do not suggest I do so.

I am a trans man in the Houston area. I am starting technical school soon. I will speak to a counselor about which certifications/degrees lead to employment with large employers, who are much more likely to offer comprehensive health plans and benefits than small firms.

Basically, I want to begin the process of pursuing phalloplasty (bottom surgery) the instant things line up for me financially and logistically. However, I know that Texas does not require insurers to cover gender affirming care.

Realistically, how common is it for large national employers (think petrochem, manufacturer giants) in states without these protections to still offer health plans that include sexual reassignment surgery? Should I prepare to hop around a lot until I find an employer that does so, or should I be ok?

I know this is a very specific question and I'm not sure how to find the answer. I am starting vocational school soon to get certified and get an AAS.

I would like to start the process of phallo asap once I am financially stable and have my ducks in a row, so to speak. It's crucial that I'm able to find an employer that offers health plans that cover gender affirming care.

I have been researching technical schools near me and have access to a lot of options from nuclear power technology, advanced manufacturing, process technology, energy operations, drafting, machining, and other programs that feed into local industries.

Basically, how can I maximize my chances at finding an employer that allows me to get phallo and top surgery covered by health insurance and not get fucked over once I finish tech school? Should I ask a counselor which career paths lead to large national manufacturers that will have more comprehensive insurance?

Though I would like to eventually get a bachelors, that would be further down the line and I am not banking on it happening soon.

I've been a SAHM for my son's entire life. He's now turning 2, and he's the light of my world. I am leaving his dad later this year and have high hopes that things stay amicable. I had to have some very difficult conversations with my family regarding what custody arrangement is best for my son. I have no job. My husband works from home, has a stable career, and earns good money; meanwhile, I will need to study full-time, work part-time, and live in an RV or with roommates and rely on my family to get by until I graduate, as well as work hard to overcome my mental health issues that prevent me from being as good a parent as I can be. I already struggle so much, and I need to help myself.

Assuming it takes me four years to complete my degree (I may be able to cut down one semester if I'm lucky), my son could be six before I'd be in a position to ask for equal custody. I'm so sad. But I know that I can't juggle everything and show up for my son like he deserves if I receive primary custody. I think this is the right decision. But it's so hard. I know that it's in his best interest for me to go to school so I can be financially independent and provide for him too. But I won't ever get this time back. He won't remember all the sacrifices I made for him. Just that I wasn't there.

I'm moving back to my home state with basically nothing. One of my parents suggested getting me an RV for my son and me to live in (stationary, on their property, so I'm not paying rent) until I'm done with school. I think it's a good idea, but I've also had other relatives say that being in an RV will be horrible for a toddler, or that it's not safe. Look, I don't know much about RVs, but my only other option is living in my parents' house, which sounds much worse, even if the AC is better and I have nicer amenities. I will say this is south Texas hill country, so it will get very hot. What should I keep in mind if I decide to go through with this, or is it better to live in a house at the cost of privacy and the sense of having my own space?