u/chinacheesecake

Finally got my first wisdom teeth removed today, local anesthesia done in dental clinic. 8/10 experience overall went pretty well.

I have not the best teeth genetics plus I had a bad accident as a child that further added onto my dental problems, mainly crowding.

I have always had very crowded teeth, will add a picture before my braces, as well as one when I got my braces removed and my current teeth.

The accident I had happened when I was about 5/6 years old. The playground at my school had one play structure which was shaped like a hexagon, on each side of the hexagon was either a way to get down or a way to climb up, all different, doesn’t matter. What matters is that in the center there was another way to get up. Two parallel metal ladders about 2 feet apart?

I was a dumb crazy climbing monkey of a child and decided to climb up one of the ladders backwards. My hands slipped and I fell forwards and bashed my teeth on the rung of the ladder, fell back, hit my head and fell forwards again further bashing my teeth on the rung. For a concussion and the fall had like pushed my baby teeth backwards. When they fell out and grew back in they still were pushed back, despite our attempts with the dentist to pry my mouth back into shape.

Anyway yap yap yap. Got braces when I was 15 or 16, they first wanted to pull some molars to bring more space as my mouth was very narrow they said. Narrow and crowded. They never pulled those teeth and they just straightened them. When I got them off at 18 I was meek and gave up on telling them my bottom retainer didn’t fit properly and was digging deep into my gums. I did tell them multiple times and they kept filing my retainer down but it didn’t work and I felt like I was being dramatic, so I gave up. And them my wisdom teeth started coming in and pushed all my bottom teeth back.

With my mouth being so narrow and my teeth already so crowded only a tiny bit of my wisdom teeth poked through my gums and the rest was in the hard wall of my mouth. That paired with a ridiculously strong gag reflex, brushing back there has been super mega stupidity hard as I gag every single time and have thrown up many times from brushing.

The chalky white part you see is the part that poked out, with the cavity.

EXPERIENCE:

Got to the dentist, was rather nervous but not really scared, just didn’t know what to expect as my boyfriend had them break up one of his with a drill due to his roots that went in different directions. I have been good at the dentist since I was a kid and ridiculously so, had some holistic dentist when I was a kid cuz my grandma was rather natural. I told them I was tough and I used to get my many cavities done with no anesthetic.

I was only nervous because I have very little control over my tongue and I am constantly terrified I am going to launch it into the drill and have a mangled tongue, I know this is unrealistic but I have very bad anxiety, diagnosed but I suspect it to be more OCD due to family history and my personal experience so idk.

Anyway they numbed my left side and then my right side, they made me drink some juice because I hadn’t eaten yet because I don’t like eating in the morning. I didn’t expect to feel so weak after the numbing but like they said, I did so the juice was nice.

My one left side immediately was numb from temple to chin, lips felt huge and the left side of my tongue was numb, right side was only numb at injection site. They started with my left side and all I felt was sorta scraping and then pressure and it felt so weird and chalky idk like i felt like they were scraping my teeth to shreds but it didn’t hurt. Then the tooth came out and they cleaned it, felt nothing and they stitched it and to that I only felt the tension of the thread being pulled. It was fine.

Right side hurt when they started and so I let them know, they stopped and re injected, it felt more numb but not the same as the other side did. They started and when they were pulling it did hurt a bit, I raised my hand but they just said “yes, pressure is normal.” I couldn’t really talk and I have a high pain tolerance so I just gave up and they finished pulling. It hurt quite a bit at some points but I just wanted to be done with it. The worst part was when they had pulled it and were cleaning the area and it felt like they had found a nerve and pulled it out?!? I doubt that is what they did but it felt like it. Yeoooooowwwwch it felt so nasty and painful but whatever it was almost done. Then they stitched and it was done. I bled quite a bit but couldn’t really taste it. Just felt it running down my throat and seen the blood on their tools and hands. My face was also covered in blood which they dealt with.

Gave me a prescription for 4 different meds. A blood clotting one time med, some amoxicillin because it seemed like there was some infection in my gums where the tooth was hidden, some pain meds they explained were just like stronger advil and some meds for swelling. Other than the blood clotting just 2 times per day for a few days.

It was funny because afterwards they were acting like I was under the influence of like surgery anesthesia. Talking to me a bit like a baby but it was all local and I felt normal other than feeling numb.

The worst pain I felt was when my throat was a but swollen a bit after and it just felt like the horrible sore throats I get when sick cuz my throat swells very bad when I am sick. Went away fast. I am aware swelling comes and goes so it might come back.

Anyway I know I yap a lot, overall 8/10.

Would be worse if it weren’t for the fact that I have had local anaesthetic fail before.

I one had two cavities on my front top teeth, super sensitive. They numbed them like 4 times because every time they started drilling I was in crazy body chilling pain, I just gave up and told them it isn’t working and I would just deal with it and that is what I did. It was awful and insane but whatever I lived.

After talking to my roommate about the situation and my concerns, obviously I expected defensiveness and reluctance to considering my feelings about him moving 4 hours away and breaking up our cats bond, only to have his cat be lonely and depressed, VERY CLINGY CAT, he ripped the wood off my door the other day because I had to keep him alone in my room for a few minutes.

Anyway he obviously doesn’t want to part with his cat which I understand and respect a whole lot more than if he was just like “yeah, take him.” I let him know how fast cats can deteriorate from depression like how fast not peeing or not eating can cause very serious damage and to look out for things like that, also let him know that his cat is my cat too, in the sense that if something ever happened like sickness or poverty to the point where he couldn’t care for his cat, I will take his cat no problem and care for him until he could take him back or for the rest of time. He agreed that I am his first choice and the same extends for my cat.

Obviously I showed him my post and I did explain when I posted it it was very emotional and took into consideration the whole 3 years of us being roommates and I had definitely at first neglected to recognize his improved involvement in the cats lives since our move to a bigger house which helped tremendously with his mental health and also just having more space and energy to play.
He was hurt by my post and I understand that. Regardless of how much I told him that the brunt of my post and comments were very emotional, i totally get that that doesn’t absolve the hurt of my words.

I do think there is a lot of room for improvement but he knows that and agrees.

Anyway this is the update: my post wasn’t to say my roommate sucks and doesn’t care for and take care of his cat and I deserve him. It was to see what other people suggested from either knowledge of cats or personal experience and alternate routes we can take to make whatever transition more comfortable for the cats. I also told him I believe that if his plan is to get another kitten like he has mentioned before, the sooner the better so that he won’t be taking his cat away from his best friend and me, to a new scary empty house and then just suddenly thrust a new cat into that situation. His cat very much relies on observing how my cat reacts to new people or new situations before becoming brave enough to face the new situation.

So, he got a kitten. Super cute boy, I have been so focused on the transition and introductions to our cats and just getting kitty out of his comfort zone that I haven’t taken many pics or videos. He has made leaps and bounds and only a few days in they have many hours of supervised time to meet each other and everything is going very well! I am not ignoring his kitty, but I am letting him know that everything is his choice and just helping out where needed. I have overseen 7 cat introductions in my life as an orchestrator and not just an observer and they have gone very well, and I let my roommate know I am not trying to take control with my advice and he told me he doesn’t feel like I am and that he finds it really helpful. I am just very glad everything is going well and hope that his cat and the kitty will be fast friends (already playful with each other and they only met yesterday). Hopefully this will make the transition very smooth and I will get a new cat closer to him moving out, my cat can be rather maternal to kittens so I am just excited about the future.

I will miss Seven with all my heart but I am so much more hopeful for the future now after we talked.

Okay so I talked to my roommate last night and he is pretty steadfast in his decision to split them up.

I expected as such and I do understand as I am unwilling to give up my Lee.

Obviously my heart breaks for them and I really do hope they will both adjust well with new companions.

I let him know that the option is always there and I suggested getting a kitten asap because if they can form a bond before the stressful long move I think that would be best. I would get a kitten closer to when he moves to give him some time as he feels like if we both got kittens that would be too much for him.

My cat is also way more interested in other cats and one time this neighborhood cat was at my door during a wind storm and I had the owners number so I asked if I could let him in and she would come get him. He waltzed right in and my cat just went to greet him right away no fear whereas his ran away and hid. So I don’t really care if I wait to get a kitten.

About a lot of cat stuff falling on me, I do genuinely love to spoil and enrich them because they are always on my mind. My roommate told me that basically he doesn’t take initiative to get them things or expand his diet because he knows I will just do it anyway. That peeved me a bit just cuz I do make less money than he does and he also just has savings from when he didn’t need to pay rent and inheritance and such. Meanwhile every tax return I have gotten has gone primarily to the cats. I get people are just different and in a way everyone who cohabitates with others will do less of one thing because they know the other does it more. Also just ever since my first cat I have been a spoiler. I actually only got him because my dad kept saying no so I just bought cat supplies and a cat tree and said “Well who is going to use this?” LOL I was also like 16 tho and my dad fell in love with the cat right away and currently has him because they are bonded. I wish he let me take him with me lol.

Also obviously I would love to have a kitten again but my love for their bond is so strong that I would prefer him to take my new kitten with his new one and i keep the void.

Regardless though, the talk has been had and it was a long one and it did go well.

And yes I respect his decision and I believe he has made the decision that is right for him and only time will tell what is best for the cats.

I also informed him of behaviours to keep a close eye on incase his cat is not coping with the move. We will stay in touch as we are very close but it just sucks he is moving so far, doesn’t make sense to split custody!

Anyway I ramble a lot I currently have a low grade fever and a nasty and nobody will cover my shift. :-( wanna go home and cuddle with the boys.

People were being a bit rude in my post assuming a lot about me and my roommate and very much missing the point if the post, so, idk just don’t be so argumentative it is lame.

Lee (Tuxedo, 4 next month) and Seven (Black, 3 next month)
Bonded the second Lee saw Seven when he was just 8 weeks old and Lee was 1.

I love them so much they are so cute 😪

Hi everyone, I am going to post on r/catadvice too but they don’t allow photos? Maybe they do but it wasn’t letting me.

I have lived with my roommate for 3 years and when I moved in I brought my 1 year old cat. He very shortly got a kitten and immediately they became super close. We have moved 2 times together with the cats and their bond has never faltered.

He has informed me as of yesterday that he plans to move back to his hometown which is a bit of a ways away (no easy cat playdates) around September or October.

My concern is that splitting the cats up is going to cause them immense stress, especially the one who is moving to a new place.

Also I am not looking for someone to tell me that I deserve his cat because I know ultimately the decision is his and all I can do is plead my case on why I think it is a bad idea.

Also me and my roommate are close, like he is one of my best friends, not just a person I share a place with.

Has anyone faced a similar situation? Even break ups and what did you end up doing?

A side note, I would say that I have taken on a majority of cat duties such as his diet and playing with him, while my roommate occasionally plays with the cats he doesn’t really have much motivation to and they are very very needy for playtime and attention which he has admitted to being very bad at.

I also work at a pet store so it makes sense for me to play this role in things.

Hi everyone, I am going to post on r/catadvice too but they don’t allow photos? Maybe they do but it wasn’t letting me.

I have lived with my roommate for 3 years and when I moved in I brought my 1 year old cat. He very shortly got a kitten and immediately they became super close. We have moved 2 times together with the cats and their bond has never faltered.

He has informed me as of yesterday that he plans to move back to his hometown which is a bit of a ways away (no easy cat playdates) around September or October.

My concern is that splitting the cats up is going to cause them immense stress, especially the one who is moving to a new place.

Also I am not looking for someone to tell me that I deserve his cat because I know ultimately the decision is his and all I can do is plead my case on why I think it is a bad idea.

Also me and my roommate are close, like he is one of my best friends, not just a person I share a place with.

Has anyone faced a similar situation? Even break ups and what did you end up doing?

A side note, I would say that I have taken on a majority of cat duties such as his diet and playing with him, while my roommate occasionally plays with the cats he doesn’t really have much motivation to and they are very very needy for playtime and attention which he has admitted to being very bad at.

I also work at a pet store so it makes sense for me to play this role in things.