u/coffeeinm

Hi I am a 51 year old Asian female and I just joined match last night after doing a little browsing the last few weeks. I don’t have much experience online dating so I need some tips from other ladies (gentlemen too!)

I’m hoping to find a serious relationship and hopefully marriage I’m not looking to casually date. What is the best way to protect myself from guys who are only looking for something casual and any dating tips in general. Do people start off with coffee or drinks before having s as more involved date? Ladies do you usually split or does the guy usually pay? At what point do you usually get off the app? Are guys that ask for your number right away usually bad news?

Any red flags I should watch out for? Do you think it usually helps to have a good idea what you’re looking for before you start online dating? And finally should I expect to have to try a lot of people before finding one that fits? Any tips really appreciated

I’m 51 year old single female, no children. I am really lonely. I only have one elderly friend a lot older than I am and a few acquaintances. I’ve recently decided to stop initiating with my acquaintances because I seem to be the one putting in most of the effort. I end up feeling bad about myself because of that.

I look forward to the weekend all week and it helps me get through the week but when the weekend comes I often don’t have any plans. I will go to the gym once which I enjoy but I don’t have any social contact. I would like to meet other people but I am isolated. Recently I’ve been really trying to keep an eye out for community events and stuff like that but there isn’t always stuff available and sometimes don’t have the energy to go.

I’m lonely tho and bored. What do you guys recommend that I can do on the weekends? Ideally I would like to find more social connection, but I am also interested in suggestions on what I can do to entertain my self and help pass the time.

I’d like to start online dating and have been seeing posts about how it’s better not to give your real number at first. What are some good, free alternatives to Google Voice? When I try get a Google Voice number it says it can’t verify my phone number through text and gives me an option to verify through phone but it won’t verify through phone either. I’m not sure but think might be because I had a Google voice number years ago I never used. Are there some good cheap preferably ad free alternatives to Google voice? I saw someone mention Discord. Is that an app? What do you guys recommend?

I’m about two months into my firm and have really low billables. I’m doing much better now but it was the first month and a half out so when I wasn’t getting much assigned to me. If you look at the recent past I’ve been ok but I can never catch up from my deficit.

Am I toast? How at risk am I? No one’s said anything to me about my numbers and the whole department is new so they may still be trying to figure things out but they do keep me toward taking new assignments so I think they think my productivity is lacking.

Do firms give you a ramp up period for you to start meeting your billables or no? Everything else seems ok. Should I expect to get fired soon and they just aren’t saying anything yet?

I washed my car. It was really dirty. There was a lot of dirt on the hood and the glass and it made me feel bad driving around in it. I felt dirty too and it affected my self esteem. But I finally washed it and it looks a lot better. The hood is really clean. I couldn’t reach the top so the top is still dirty but the hood looks a lot better and I feel better about it. One question I have is how you reach the hood because I’m short. But I feel better that it’s cleaner.

I want to join match.com as a paid member. How can I get the best discount to join? I have a profile/account but I do not check it very often. Should I delete my account and create a new one or how can I get a good discount? Thanks

I like classical music but am pretty new to it. I don’t know that many composers or genres. I’m looking for recommendations for composers or specific pieces. Also could you provide the YouTube link if you have it and are there any YouTube videos that don’t have as many commercials? I work during the day so want to avoid having to keep clicking skip. Thanks

Sometimes I’m given a sample pleading by the attorney in PDF and when I convert it to word to grab the text I have a lot of issues formatting it. It takes me forever to get it look like it does on the pdf like with the numbered paragraphs, indent on each paragraph but starting at the margin on the left hand side. Struggling with the formatting is a huge waste of time.

What’s the best way to copy and paste the text I’ve converted from a PDF while preserving the formatting and putting it into another document? Or is it faster to just copy and paste the text itself and then format it? Thanks for any help. This slows me down to a crawl so I want to find a solution.

I have a document where the text doesn’t like up with the leading numbers on the first page. It is ok on subsequent pages it’s only the first page. I think the caption may be throwing it off. I tried shift enter to end a line but that doesn’t work it’s still off. It’s driving me crazy and spinning my wheels on how to fix it, help.

Some people are assholes. I’m new at a job and ask a simple question. The woman was like I don’t have time to help you, ask someone else. Have you been a paralegal before? How rude. Some people can be assholes. Warm welcome to the firm

I want to send my ten year old niece a small gift to let her know I’m thinking of her. Any suggestions? One thing I thought about was maybe buying her some snacks but is there anywhere you can get a variety of snacks shipped like a mix of chips and candy and not get like twenty of the same thing. Any other suggestions for gifts

I’ve been doing low carb and staying more or less within my calories for a month but haven’t lost any weight. I eat pretty clean. I’m not sure what else I can do to further cut calories but I’m about even or slight over my calorie allotment. Is that why I’m not losing any weight? I actually eat pretty clean most of the time. I’m not sure where the calories go. Yes I track religiously. Do I need to cut calories further and make sure I eat at a deficit every day? How much of a deficit do I need to be at to start losing some weight? I’m five feet 166

I have a liver specialist who I used to see as a health coach until he moved to Oregon. He’s continued to help me by letting me send him my calorie tracker app reports and commenting on them. It’s really nice of him because he’s not getting paid for this and takes his time. I got him a card but this does not feel enough I want to get him a gift as well.

Is cash king so a gift card would be best or should I try and get him something more meaningful. I have a budget of a hundred dollars and want to spend about that much because of how much he has helped me. One thing I’ve considered is a gift card to a restaurant. Another thing I thought about is something personalized from Etsy (would love some suggestions on what). Normally for someone I would give a gift card because I feel like what people most appreciate is cash but in case this doesn’t seem like the best gift because he probably makes a lot of money. Any ideas

Is it as good as everyone says it is? Is it worth watching? Is it a comedy or a drama? Is it really heavy?

Almost 51, single and lonely. My only friend is an elderly man who is almost ninety. I guess he’s more like a father figure since he’s not a peer but I only have one casual friend my age group and the relationship is pretty superficial.

I have no one to talk to or share things with. It’s hard because I want companionship. I do so many things alone. Eat out alone, go to movies and plays alone, I think the hardest thing is vacationing alone.

My co workers were in their 20s and 30s at my last job and so part of me is used to relating to younger people. But I’m not young anymore. I’m 51.

I would love to feel that feeling of connection with a man. I wish I were thinner and more attractive so I could date. I know I should put myself out there but it’s hard to know where to meet people. It seems like most people my age are already married or have their own friend group

I am hard on myself. I see myself through a critical, negative lens. I am too fat, can’t keep a job, unattractive, etc. I interpret everything in the worst possible way and usually blame myself and doubt my self worth. This is especially true on the job because I’ve struggled with work. I assume I can’t do it. I am really negative toward myself.

I’m used to seeing myself this way and I think a big part of why is this is because of how my parents whom I live with see me. They are always criticizing every little thing and it chips away at my self esteem. I seem defined by my struggles at work and don’t see my self worth. I never feel like I’m good enough.

I’ve struggled with work so I feel rejected by employers and I don’t have many friends so I don’t have much social support either. I just started working at home so most of the time it just me with my own thoughts. I would love to be less harsh on myself. Any ideas

A month or two ago I got a really bad lab test result with A1C of 6.3 and high cholesterol. That was a real wake up call because I am so close to diabetes. I’ve significantly improved my diet to be lower carb and low refined sugar and fewer processed foods. I am pretty sedentary and will maybe once or twice a week, I seldomly walk.

With my doctor I have rough diet guidelines (one carb a day, low sugar) which I am following but what else can I do to lose weight and get healthier? The weight hasn’t really been coming off

I took my dog on a stroller yesterday and she really seems to enjoy it, she’s looking around and paying attention. It was good to see her happy. I want to take her again