u/curious071

If you see older media and even the soaps in my own country, thoigh all actresses are pretty above average, the one who is good is styled as plain/girl next door fashion while her rival is styled glamorously.

Hypogamy - Act or practice of seeking a spouse of lower class or socioeconomic status.

Eg. You mother marries into lower financial or social status family, meaning your maternal grandparents, uncles and aunts are all living with notably greater comfort or status above you.

PS - Choose between loving family in hypergamy vs loving family in hypogamy

Hypogamy - Act or practice of seeking a spouse of lower class or socioeconomic status.

Eg. You mother marries into lower financial or social status family, meaning your maternal grandparents, uncles and aunts are all living with notably greater comfort or status above you.

PS- Choose between a loving family in hypergamy vs loving family in hypogamy.

Uncle talking about his son:

1. Got H1B approved in March.
2. Earns 125 K dollars per annum.
3. Is in a "good position"

First call with my mom, uncle says:

1. We can go to US only on F1 visa.

2. H4 is dependant visa and your daughter can only be a housewife, she can't work.

3. If she doesn't go on F1visa, she can't work.

My mom said:

1. I haven't asked my daughter yet about higher studies yet, if she's interested, she can do it. Reply from Uncle - "If she doesn't go on F1visa, she can't work".

2. Eventually after applying for greencard etc, she will be allowed to work - Uncle pushes back with "With the current politics, getting a greencard itself might take 25-30 years"

Uncle kept saying we only sent the interest and if I have to marry his son then I can only go on F1 visa (we didn't send the interest, the assisted folks did). A steal deal huh? 🥳

How do I process my negative emotions so that it doesn't affect my loved ones?

I have done somatic work for the past 2.5 years but I still struggle when someone is mean to me, or when I get an existential crisis due to going through an experience on that day (eg. Getting rejected at an interview, realising 4 years of my experience is considered useless to certain projects since I've worked in an xyz role instead if an abc role).

Today my driving instructor punitively changed my timings back to my old timing in reaction to an innocous comment I made, which were just an attempt to build a rapport with him. I felt punished for no reason, embarassed that it happened in front of another person and I feel bad for not standing up for myself and smoothening over the tension by requesting that we continue with the new timing. It was an unplesant experience and I didn't like how he handled the situation, when all I'm trying to do was make conversation. But I was upset, and it leaked onto my family. Is it possible to let go of this fast? and be normal and bouncy despite getting triggered? It takes me atleast 3 days to a week of feeling and analysing it to get over it.

"Don't resist the experience of limitation" but it's so hard!

I have done somatic work for the past 2.5 years but I still struggle when someone is mean to me, or when I get an existential crisis due to going through an experience on that day (eg. Getting rejected at an interview, realising 4 years of my experience is considered useless to certain projects since I've worked in an xyz role instead if an abc role).

Today my driving instructor punitively changed my timings back to my old timing in reaction to an innocous comment I made, which were just an attempt to build a rapport with him. I felt punished for no reason, embarassed that it happened in front of another person and I feel bad for not standing up for myself and smoothening over the tension by requesting that we continue with the new timing. It was an unplesant experience and I didn't like how he handled the situation, when all I'm trying to do was make conversation. But I was upset, and it leaked onto my family. Is it possible to let go of this fast and bounce back? It takes me atleast 3 days to a week of feeling and analysing it to get over it

I've done a consistent amount of somatic work these past 2.5 years - TRE, meditation, yoga, journalling. And this year, there is a marked difference in the way children interact with me.

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All my life I thpught I didn't know how to interact with children as I'm the youngest in my entire extended family, meaning I didn't have younger cousins to play with. So I didn't interact with children much and they also were not drawn to me. They would be busy in their own world.

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But due to family events I have to be at places with my relatives for extended periods of time and it's really suprising to see them be so comfortable with me. There were these high energy disobedient 4yo twins who kept happily interacting with me, and we became "friends", with the girl, who was the wilder one, saying she's only my friend and not the others.

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Its not even in the way I interact or how I'm responding to them in the present moment. Last month I had to go to a wedding. I was waiting in the parking lot with my mom while paying attention to the cars going in and my cousin's son 5yo ran towards me to give me a hug (He never did that before). Its a marked change and I have no idea what I did different other than recently quitting my high stress toxic job (since I've been doing somatic work for the past 2.5 years but children didn't seem that drawn(??)) It may be because after quitting my job my nervous system became more relaxed.

I think I should have kept the title as children keep wanting to interacting with me now. Its such a marked difference compared to before

Sometimes when I'm relaxed, I can feel that some part of my abdomen area relaxes, and after that on every inhale, I can feel my stomach area (stomach folds?) shifting on each other and stretching out (?). It gives that rumbling feeling, and I can feel the vibration when I put my hand on it. It only happens when my stomach feels light, when its been over 2 hrs since my last meal (I'm not talking about the sensations of being hungry.)

Anyone else experienced this? Did you figure out which part of the abdomen is relaxing so that this happens?

No limit on budget

For me it was etude no sebum powder (this was a good purchase. It wouldn't have crossed my mind if not for the sale) and Laneige lip sleeping mask (👎its meh in humid weather, I'd rather not have bought it but the hype and the discount turned me into a zombie)