u/dseal78

You would think that since the vast majority of people fall within a large average, most people would be within each other's "league" and have a shot or even multiple shots a year

As a man in his mid 30s I can tell you that is just not true

It's been about 5 years since I even had a remotely romantic conversation with a woman and this is not for a lack of trying

It's basically impossible to find an average woman that's even remotely interested enough to actually want to get to know you as a person, you dont even get that chance

And it's not a "high standards" problem, I dont even bother looking at women I'm very attracted to because I know that's out of the question.

In 25+ years I've never even had a woman interested or attracted in person, all the "success"(mutual short term hookups) I had was through online dating and that was with women I was not even that attracted to I just did it to gain experience and atleast know what it's like if it never happens again

So, why is it so impossibly hard to attract an average woman as an average man?

I never understood this even as a guy who's struggled with dating in general

For reference I'm in my mid 30s and I've "been with" 5 women so far in my life, all from online dating.

In my 30+ years of life I've never had a woman attracted to or interested in me in person. If I were to rely solely on in-person dating I would still be a complete virgin right now with 0 experience

Dating apps suck now not sure why, the algos just changed or something, but at their peak they were much better than IRL (and probably still are).

I have no success online or offline now, but atleast in the past I had some success online. In person I never did not even once

In-person dating is infinitely harder than online and this again is as a guy who's not even stereotypically attractive, why do people say otherwise?

As a guy in his mid 30s it just makes so much more sense than actually trying to date or meet women

Its nearly impossible to even find a woman to have a conversation with, let alone more, so how is a guy supposed to lean more towards that than what is readily available and abundant?

Like that last time I had any sort of flirty or similar conversation with a woman was 5+ years ago and not for a lack of trying, its nearly impossible

Saw the game on gamepass and wanted to play it, I know it's still early in development and not finished but if I buy it later will that save carry over to steam?

I'm just on there trying to meet people and have conversations and I just get constantly age shamed. I'm not even that old I'm 34 and look my age maybe even slightly younger

But every chat its "LOLOLD" "WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE OLD MAN?" "YOU LOOK LIKE MY DAD"

So tiring

Im just gonna go mass report everyone that looks even slightly underage

For example I get basically no matches on any apps, and the last time I talked with a woman in person who wasn't a family member or a service worker was like 5 years ago

Is it safe to say I'm just too physically unattractive and that I shouldn't try or attempt at anything anymore

Its like the same way you see a guy who's 5'4 trying to be a basketball player and you just let him know it's never going to happen so he stops wasting his life

Story time

Today I was on a trail as I usually like to be, and I had my camera with me as I like taking photos of birds and wildlife etc

I was walking on the way back to my car and saw a cute lady in a cowboy hat with a camera on a tripod pointed at the field on the side

I wanted so bad to say hi and ask her if she's doing landscape photography, what kind of camera and lens she's using, how long she's been doing it, if she has an instagram so I can see her work etc etc

As I got closer I realized that is a terrible idea and it'll probably just annoy her or weird/creep her out. I walked right past her with my camera on my shoulder looking straight ahead, didn't say a word and didn't even look at her. Just kept walking as if she didn't exist.

When I got to my car and sat inside, I felt like kind of a failure but then reality hit me and I realized I probably did the right thing.

I dont know if other people have come to the same realization

But I've realized that the reason I want trading to work out so bad is because realistically it's the only way out of this dogshit life

In this economy and at this age (35), it's nearly impossible to change careers or move upward in your job, hell you're lucky to even have a job even if its barely above minimum wage

No wife or kids. It's kind of bittersweet because deep down I know that if trading never ends up working out, I can just go to permasleep and I wouldn't be losing out on anything in life. All or nothing at this point.

Long story short I know my dating life is basically over at this point (35M) for a variety of reasons, looks, personality (loner), etc, and I keep trying to come to terms with it and accept it but existence is such a lonely experience

I try to just numb myself to it with work and hobbies and ignore it and enjoy what I can from life, but every now and then there will be something that makes me think damn this would have been great to do with a SO.

Those of you who may have successfully done it, how did you do it?

Background info:

Male (obv), 35

Average deadend job with the highest aspiration being possibly middle management

Make just enough to survive and not fall backwards, not enough to spend and enjoy life

No romantic prospects, no future in dating, no possibility of having a wife or family of my own

I wake up, go to work, by the time I finish work I'm too tired to do anything and the times I do partake in a hobby its just for my own enjoyment and escape and no one gives any fucks. Go to sleep, wake up rinse repeat.

I find myself lately thinking what the point of my existence is, I find myself thinking if the rest of my life is this, why not enlist in some army or foreign legion or something just to get it over with and rest in a ditch somewhere

I used to have a really high drive and still do to be honest but I've come to realize that dating/women/having sex is just soo much work that its not really worth the amount of effort required

Like these days I just pull up my favorite videos or look up the latest ones, get my release 2-3 times a day, and go about my life

The idea of actually trying to date, trying to court someone, jumping through ALL those hoops, then all the physical effort required to actually have sex, its just not really worth it to me

Am I anomaly?

Relatively new trader, been trading for roughly 2 years, 1 year seriously

I've been having such a hard time this last few months since the Iran conflict started.

On days where it's choppy I get chopped out, and on the days where its not choppy I either manage to still somehow get chopped out in the only choppy part of the day, or I dont trade because Im afraid its going to chop out.

Has the market genuinely been harder to trade or am I just terrible at this? I can't tell

I see posts all the time people commenting like they've figured it out, they made this speshol indicator that prints money for them, or they have super intuition and just trade blindfolded

I just genuinely don't think even 1% of people here are actually profitable

I've been learning and trading and testing different systems over 3-4 years now, gone through basically almost every strategy and indicator you can think of, even did some time with 0 indicators.

There just is no edge that the system/MMs have not already patched out of the system

Just curious if anyone has actually experienced this

I've tried a few times but find it hard I feel naked without my indicators (even though they don't work consistently lol)

Been thinking of trying it because I usually seem to be right for atleast a 1R trade, but a lot of times when I'm at 2R or beyond price ends up retracing and taking me out break even, happened today with 2 trades on MES, 1 was up $400 another up $250, both came back to break even and both were more than 1R

Has anyone seen more success with a 1R system?

Been thinking of trying it because I usually seem to be right for atleast a 1R trade, but a lot of times when I'm at 2R or beyond price ends up retracing and taking me out break even, happened today with 2 trades on MES, 1 was up $400 another up $250, both came back to break even and both were more than 1R

Has anyone seen more success with a 1R system?

Been thinking of trying it because I usually seem to be right for atleast a 1R trade, but a lot of times when I'm at 2R or beyond price ends up retracing and taking me out break even, happened today with 2 trades on MES, 1 was up $400 another up $250, both came back to break even and both were more than 1R

Has anyone seen more success with a 1R system?