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Is this a thing for anyone else? Don’t get me wrong, international travel is fucking terrifying, but something about domestic flights has my stomach in knots.

My brain tries to convince me that because it’s a shorter flight maybe the pilots are paying less attention? Or maybe they don’t check the planes as much as they do for international flights? I don’t know.

I’m taking a 1:30 flight tomorrow (CGH to IOS, Brazil) and I’m just about shitting my pants.

I’ve had it just about enough and it’s been like a week since he got here. For context, we’ve been together for almost three years, we met during uni but we’re both back at our home countries. This is his second time visiting me here in my country and this time he’s staying for three months.

He comes from an english speaking country and that is the only language he speaks. I speak my native language and english fluently and also two others. Throughout our entire relationship he has made absolutely zero effort towards learning my language, which is fine, we communicate in english perfectly and when we were living abroad it didn’t really matter.

Last time he came here, I was fine translating everything to him, really, from on going conversations to random street signs. This time, I’m losing my fucking mind. My family & friends speak very little, very broken english, so i have no option but translate everything. He keeps getting annoyed when I don’t translate every single thing said or if I don’t do it quickly enough and that’s what’s bothering me.

Today he had the audacity to YELL at me to “Speak english!” And to ask my family to do so as well. I just about lost my fucking mind. You’re in a foreign country and you’re demanding we speak english, what kind of colonizer mentality is that?!

He won’t use google translate (“It’s so annoying!”), won’t try to order anything even if write it down for him (“Can’t you just do it?!”), won’t use the little guide I made him with common phrases and words (“Everyone’s gonna know I’m a gringo!”) and has shown no interest whatsoever in learning new phrases or literally ANYTHING (“I know how to say Hi, isn’t that enough?”)

This, combined with his inability to decide anything ever (“Well what do YOU want? What do YOU think? What do YOU want to do? Do YOU like this? What do YOU want to eat? Can YOU just pick?”), is making me feel like I’m his mother.

I’m just so fucking tired and frustrated. I have to decide everything we do, everywhere we go and translate everything and every conversation that happens in between.

I’m not expecting him to suddenly be fluent in my language but we’re at a point where if he was dying of thirst and I wasn’t around, he would die because he wouldn’t know how to ask for water. It’s that bad.

I don’t know what to do anymore, I genuinely can’t take three months of this. Imagine having to translate everything someone says to you, say it in another language, translate the answer and then say it back for EVERY SINGLE INTERACTION.

I thought I was used to it, I already have to translate everything I feel or want to say in my head before I say it to him, but I’m about to leave this man in the middle of the street to fend for himself.

What can I do?????

I know how to do the like double text effect but I'm struggling to understand how to have the text come in from all different places (idk if this makes sense sorry), thx in advance!

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I usually take my Zoloft (150mg) at 1pm every day but today I stupidly fell asleep and only woke up now at 6pm. I took the dosage as soon as I realized but now I'm scared I'll have side effects or overdose when I take my dosage at the right time tomorrow.

I have an Ipad and am debating getting CPS, does anyone know if the auto shading feature would work on the ipad?

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For context: 21F, struggle with GAD really badly.

I used to spend most of the day in my room, playing games on my pc or just doing random stuff. Now, I spend as little time there as I can, I go in there in the morning to change and then only if i need something from in there.

I don’t know why this is happening. My best guest is that my mom had to have emergency surgery last month (shes fine) and I had a really bad anxiety/derealization episode that i’m still recovering from , but none of this happened IN my room. Nothing happened there, no traumatic moment or anything I can recall.

Still, for the past two months ish I simply don’t like being in there anymore. I spend all day in my living room with my grandma or out with family/friends, and when it’s night (I know this is bad and I promise I’m embarrassed enough as is, I really don’t need to be judged) I sleep in bed with my mom.

I want to spend my time in my room again, to play games, to sleep in my own bed for gods sake, but I keep getting anxious or just feeling weird when I’m there. This is so stupid, I feel like such a wimp.

I really need advice, I’ll take your most unhinged tips or whatever you got. I’m desperate.

TLDR: I used to spend all day in my room and now I can’t even sleep there anymore. Nothing happened tho, so WHY is this happening and HOW can I stop it?!

I’ve recently upped my zoloft to 150mg and have started CBT. It’s only been two weeks and I do feel better, but I’m scared it’s not going to “fix me”.

I’ve started a new routine, new hobbies and in general I do feel better, but sometimes anxiety does flare up a little and now it’s even worse because I’m scared that this is not going to make me better. I’m scared there’s no fixing me anymore, I don’t want to fall back into how I was (anxiety attacks daily, heavy dissociation, wouldn’t leave the house). I try to push the thoughts down but it’s getting louder and I’m really scared. What can I do? Is there really no fixing it?

Basically I have a bf who I love very much, by any means do I want to break up with him at all. He lives in a different country so our relationship is long distance but we visit each other often. He’s honestly amazing, so caring and understanding and I genuinely want to spend the rest of my life with him.

Issue is that ever since my most recent anxiety flare up, medication change and new therapist, I’ve been feeling pretty disconnected from him. Im doing better with the anxiety and all that but I still feel like we’re very disconnected. It’s been like a month since we had a meaningful conversation or a long call like we used to. We used to stay up all night chatting and playing games together, but we haven’t in a while. The game part is on me as I haven’t even gotten on my PlayStation in ages. I still love him so much but It feels like I over analyze every one of our interactions to see if it’s like it used to again. Sometimes I avoid calling him (still text him ofc) and sometimes even the thought of calling him makes me a little anxious. With my new schedule I wake up early and go to sleep early which also makes things worse because of our timezones. I still love him and im still so in love but I don’t know why this is happening. He’s my safe space usually but now i dont know what’s going on. I feel like a horrible person and an even worse girlfriend.

He’s coming to visit me in two months and will be staying for three months, I’m terrified I’ll still be feeling like this when he’s here. How do I fix it?

For context I’m 21F and I do not have autism (have been tested for it). Kinda seems like all my friends have grown up and I haven’t. They are all so locked in working, studying, doing general adult life things. I have already graduated from uni and I work as a freelancer.

As for my friends, everything they like is casual interest, they like music but they don’t have a favorite singer, that type of thing. It makes me feel kinda silly compared to how I am. I make fan edits, fan art, write fanfics. I’m absolutely obsessed with Dinosaurs, pokemon and video games. Also, some of my favorite shows are animated ones which seems childish even though I know it shouldn’t. Am I weird?

add me, I play every day and absolutely LOVE sending gifts!!!

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I’m hoping to get a switch 2 soon, I want it mostly to play pokopia and the new yoshi game that’s coming. On my switch 1, I mostly play Minecraft, pokemon arceus and tomodachi life. Would it be a waste to upgrade to a switch 2? What are some other games I can play there?

I’ve been on zoloft since 2019. Last time my dosage was upped was a little over a year ago so I don’t remember how I felt then. I’ve been dealing with a lot of anxiety and derealization lately so my psychiatrist said to up to 150mg. I started the new dosage yesterday and I’m really scared of what it might do to me and of possible side effects. This is the highest my dosage has been.

I’ve had a headache all day today and now I feel a little off, idk how to explain. It’s like not full anxiety or derealization but i just feel off, like my brain is too calm in a bad way.

Is this normal? What else can I expect? I’m really scared rn.